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BY RON.WA$S111dK
Pope John Paul 11 didn' come to Seaforth,
but many Seaforth, Dub in, St. Columban
and Brussels Catholicsand Protestants
alike, made a pilgrimage to Toronto 'and
Midland on Saturday. They went to see and
hear the leader of the Roman Cathlolic
church. And must were totally impressed.
As the rain beat down on them and the
cold set in, Jim and Joanne Ryan of RR 5,
Seaforth and Ken and Mary Coyne of RR 2,
Staffa, waited patiently at the altar site in
Midland. They sat through the rain from
1:30 Friday morning until Pope John Paul
circled above in a helicopter almost eight
hours later. And both couples say it's a,sight
they will never forget.
"It was raining and cold, but it was worth
it. When he was flying around in the
helicopter, waving to the crowd and dressed
in white, was the most memorable part,"
says Mr. Ryan. ,
Mr. Ryan says he nevelt planned to see the
Pope. It wasn't until he. started watching
television coverage of the cross -Canada
papal.t., that he decided he wanted to see
the 'Pope,
"As I watched more on television,
something came over me. The Pope is a very
respectable man -he's something special.
And I'll probably never see him again for
many years to come."
IT WAS WORTH IT
"It cost $50 million to bring the Pope to
Canada and it was worth it. He's quite a
fabulous man who inspired Catholics and
non-Catholics alike. That's what we need,
The visit can only do good for the world, It
strengthened my faith and 1 hope It does the
same for others," says Mr. Ryan.
Expecting a large crowd in Midland, Mr,
and Mrs. Coyne travelled to Midland with
the Ryans. "It rained from 1;30 to 6:30, but,
we had raincoats, lawnchairs, cpffee and,
sandwiches," says Mr. Coyne.
"But we never had problems with traffic.
Never once did it get heavy. We fully
expected it to be a problem. In fact, Highway
118 is busier on any given day that] jsighways
near Midland on Saturday, ' he ays.
PEACEFUL MAN
"The main reason I went to se the Pope
was that we may not get the cha ce to see
him again. When he passed in thej
Pbpemobile, we were only abo six feats
looked a ve .e ce I
away. And he I dlike e 4 a fu
man." ..
"I was str" lctly seeing the Pope as e ea
d the Catholic church, The wait was worth
111
etime
POPE JOHN PAUL waves to crowds as he
tours the Shrine Church in• Midland In the
popemoblle. Shown with the Pope Is Cardlhal
Carter. (Wassink photo) •
it And if I had to do it over again, I woulcdo
it again tomorrow," says Mr. Coyne.
Ray ,Contois, principal at St. James
Separate School in Seaforth went to Midland
to sec the Pope because he was interested
and so he could relate his experiences to his
students.
Prior to the visit, I was listening to
Cardinal Carter on television and he said it's
one thing to see the Pope on television and
totally different to see him in real life. And it
was," says Mr. Contois.
x;BUTTERFLY FEELING
"The'1Midland visit was interesting, 1
ally enj ed it. 1 was thrilled. It's a feeling
at's di putt to describe -•I got kind of a
ttterfly% feeling to see the head of the
pedally when 1 newer hack
kind of personal contact before.
"Seeing the Pope up close made 'me
realize just how busy he must be. 1 thought
. he looked tired. But at the same time he still
received the people so well."
The Contois family arrived at the altar site
at 6:30 Saturday morning. They stood
throughout the whole papal visit until 1:00.
"But e' a bit of it Was worth it. Even
thr-"►ip t T didn't meet the Pope personally, 1
POPE/ PAGE THREE
Paul Dodds wins teenage plowing match
BY WILMA OKE
A Seaforth arca teenager, Paul Dodds of
RR 1, Seaforth, won the teenage class of the
57th Huron County Plowing Match on
Saturday. The win brought with it the chance
to compete in the scholarship class at the
International Plowing Match near Teviotdale
in Wellington County next week.
Jeff McGavin of Walton, has also been
selected by the Huron Plowmen's Associa-
tion to compete in the scholarship class
based on his performance last year but the
international association cut the scholarship
entries to one from each county this year.
George Townsend, president of the Huron
Plowmen's Association, told those attending
Saturday that reducing the scholarship is a
"big mistake".
"This is where we get the encouragement
al the county level for young people to get
involved. We have had up to as many as
tight in this scholarship class. We have had
our team picked from last year's competition
to go to this year's match and now we have
to tell them only one may go."
The teen class competition at this year's
match was used as the deciding competition.
Paul Dodds won out over Steven Adams of
Brussels who came second and .teff McGavin
who placed third. Both Paul and Steven will
compete at the International hut not in the
scholarship class.
Mr, Townsend said the number of
entrants and spectators w up this year
over last year despite thc%hilling rain and
wind and mud. He saidt tre will be 11 of 12
from Huron competingat the International
this year.
The Saturday plos ing competition win-
ners are: Huron residdents drawing as many
plows as wished, the winner was Brian
McGavin of Walton, Bevan Shapton of
Exeter, second and Jim Pentland of
Dungannon, third.
In the open class for all contestants and
any kind of plow. Rod McGillivray of RR 4,
Paisley won first place; Clare Paton, Lucan,
second and Ron Scotchmer of Mitchell,
third.
In the Green class for Huron boys and
girls, 15 years and under, Dennis Hallahan.
Biyth, was the winner with William
Fotheringham of RR 3, Seaforth, second and
Dennis Dietrich, Dashwood, third.
Class for girls was won by Vicki Gordon of
RR 1. Seaforth.
in the class for Huron Teenagers. the
winner was Paul Dodds of Seaforth, Jeff
McGavin of Walton and Murray Townsend.
In the class for Huron, open to contestants
using non -competition {Mows, the winners
PLOWING/ PAGE THREE
On
cloud nine
Ste Marie -among -the -Hurons As a Mis-
sion that was rebuilt on its original site
near Midland in 1967. The Jesuit Mission
was built by French missionaries in the
- early 1600k and burned to the ground in the
1640s bythe game priests who built it when
tension between the Huron and Algonquin
Indians grew.
On Saturday, the, Mission Was the first
stop made -by Pope John Paul II when he
visited Midland. While at Ste. Marie, he
was given a tour of the Mission church,
homes of the Jesuit priests, and rested in a
.reconstructed Indian long house.
Huron Expositor reporter Ron Wassink
spoke with Anne McCue, an Ojibway
Indian following the historic papal visit,
Mrs. McCue and her daughter were in the
long house with Pope John Paul.
"I was on cloud nine all day. I was quite
nervous before he came, but when we met
him, he hugged my daughter Mary and her
friend Jennifer:
• "it seemed natural for the Pope to rest in
the long house. We talked about the Huron
Indians and he asked me • if we were
Hurons. I explained to him L was Ojibway.
"But before he came inside, the girls
asked him to come in. He asked if we lived
here and 1 said no and explained to him a
long house was used by Indians hundreds
of years apo.
"We invited him to sit down,.. -he sat on a
log covered with a bearskin. It was all so
NINE/ PAGE THREE
PUC wants stone -tar roof
The Public Utilities Commission (PUC) has
decided to undertake further negotiations
with a contractor before deciding whether or
not to proceed' with replacing a roof on the
PUC building.
The project. was to be done in conjunction
with the town, whose police station shares a
portion of the same roof. But in earlier
discussion the town opted for a strictly tar
roof and the PUC decided a gravel -type roof
would be better suited for their half of the
building. •
At a meeting'held Wednesday, the»PUC
voiced their concerns over problems of
insulation and security that might come about
if they were to go with the tar roof.
"There's no insulation to speak of up there
now," said Jim Sills. PUC chairman. "And if
you take what's on there now and don't
replace it with something we'll be making our
electric heaters work all that much harder."/
Gord Pullman, commissioner, said the
PUC Should consider further insulating the
building itself before putting on a new. roof.
"it may cost us a little more in the long run.
but 1 think we'd ma4e it up in hydro," he said.
Another concern is that falling snow and
ice from the slate roof above the PUC building
could easily puncture a tar roof.
"I think that a stone roof would give us
further protection against the snow and ice
during the win r months." ' said Tom
a Phillips, PUC•mahager.
"Sometimes fr tit the way„ jt. ponds onto
the roof you'd sw lir it was coming through.
A stone roof w uld give us a lot more
protection." t ,, ,
Ka reasonable( price can be gained from the
contractor, the PVC will add ,the stone -type
roofing to their/portion' of the building and
-pay the extra c sts themselves.
I
Watermdi instdllation
wanted done e4dier
The possibility of completing watermain
installations -earlier in the year was discussed
at the Sept. meeting of the Public Utilities
Commission CPUC).
"If we did them earlier in the year, we
would avoid getting caught in the rainy
weather," said Jim Sills. PUC chairman.
Mr. Sills expressed concern that the
current fall installation took more time than
necessary because of ram delays. He was also
worried about the possibility of washouts
some day in the future.
"11 would be easier to water down the dust
caused by digging up roads earlier in the
year. than i1 would be to dig out a washout."
said commissioner Gord Pullman.
Tom Phillips. PUC manager said the mayor
problem with starting installation of the
watermains any earlier was monetary.
"We don't have the moncs to do it earlier
in he year. We've got to let it build up over
the year so we can buy the materials we need.
We also need the time Io let approvals go
Through," he said.
Mayor Alf Ross, suggested that the PUC
co idcr borrowing the money for the
urch cs. and try to work around the
Group helps single parents
(Editor's note — Names have been
changed to protect the privacy of the single
parents interviewed)
After her marriage broke up. Karen fell
apart for awhile. She withdrew into her
house. overwhelmed by feelings of grief
and loss. She cried constantly and worried
how her grief would affect her children
Her house was a mess since she had no
energy left to accomplish the most basic
task. But, most of alt, she felt the weight of
bearing her troubles alone.
"You have no one to share it with. There
are so many humps you can't get over by
yourself," she says..' While neighbors just
come swarming when there's a death, that
doesn't happen for a separation. My hest
friend didn t call me until eight months
later."
Karen found the support she needed at a
self-help group whicR`meets in Seaforth at
the Optimist Hall twice a month. There,
she and other single people who have lost a
spouse through divorce or death share
their stories and give each other encour.
agement.
')tis a place for people to come and vent
their feelings instead of sitting alone every
night and thinking until they go crazy,'
says Jane, another participant. "People
get support just being there and knowing
other people are in the same situation:'
And, with 40 per cent of all marriages in
Canada ending in divorce, there are a lot of
people who need support. 'says Nancy
McLeod, a counsellor at the Huron Centre
for Children and Youth. Though she's not
involved with the self-help group in
Seaforth, Ms. McLeod says the group is
something to he excited about.
"Divorce happens to the nicest people
and it helps everyone to see that they re
not alone. Adults often feel like failures
after' a break-up and doubt their capacity to
be loved and loving. One of the best ways
to feel good about oneself is to talk to other
people who are in a similar situation," she
Says.
During the group meetings, some
participants talk about what is bothering
them while others just,sit back and listen.
"Sometimes you hear yourself talking and
you answer your own questions," says
Jane
CONCERN FOR CHILDREN
Though parv.ipants talk about their
feelings ahnut their separation, legal
business or their difficulties getting used to
dating again, their main concern is usually
for their children and how they are coping
with separation and divorce
"The main aim of the group is to
straighten the parents'out so they can go
hack and show a positive side to the
group," says Bob, a single parent.
Once children discover their parents'
marriage is breaking up. many go to school
and identify wish others in the same
situation.
" My son started picking out the
separated kids in school because he needed
to identify with someone desperately. He
didn't want to think he came from a weird
family," says Bob.
Often. the children feel just as hurt,
angry• guilty and rejected as their parents.
Parents can lessen the hurt somewhat if
they tell their children they're not to blame
and allow them to see and love both
parents. says Ms. McLeod.
KIDS NEED LOVE
"I'm an advocate of the kids and kids
need as many people as they can have in
their lives who arc willing and able to love
them. It's horrible for,jltds to lose a parent:
it's devastating." she' says.
"It's horrible for
kids to lose
a parent "
Typical reactions from children after a
divorce include fearing rejection from both
parents, assuming responsibility for the
needs of their parents, playing their
parents off each other, withdrawing or
feeling trapped in the middle.
"The best chance to have children
4
accept the separation is to have children
not lose anything. i think the best situation
is joint custody where they spend a lot of
time with both parents," she says.
Although it's fine for parents to show
their emotions in front of their children,
Ms, McLeod says it's best to talk about
fe.iings of anger and hurt to other adults at
the self-help group.
Showing too much emotion to her
children was a particular concern of Karen.
"I had a hard time hiding pain from my
kids. One time I was sifting at the kitchen
table with dinner and 1 simply started to
a -y and I couldn't stop. Professionals have
told me it's okay, but 1 think they've seen
enough pain," she says.
Dating new people can also cause
problems for children,
"My son would get more attached to my
date than i would, says Bob. "i think he
Was looking for another mother but 1 don't
Eike him to do that because he could get
hurt again. i don't like to let him meet
anybody i go out with unless 1 think she's
going to be 'around for awhile."
Adjusting to the children of their
parents' new girlfriend or boyfriend can be
tough on kids too. While they used to go
tobogganing or to the movies with their
father, Karen's children watched their
father take his girlfriend's kids out to the
same activities. "My daughter would
sometimes come home from visiting her
father feeling rejected, especially when he
was building a doll house. for his
girlfriend's daughter," says Karen.
"1 don't let my kids meet .her (a
girlfriend's) kids anymore. My kids ,said
everything was great but it wasn't. They
felt like they had to please me and make
everything good," says Bob.
PARENTS SHOULD CO-OPERATE
One of the worst things parents can do is
make the children choose between them
and take sides. Though they may 'find it
difficult. parents should try to co-operate
for the sake of the children.
"1 don't care if two people break up but
don't break up the kids. When children are
involved, parents still have a bond between
PARENTS/ PAGE THREE
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problem of nfi"royal from the appropriate
sources. .
"So you) have to- borrow $10,000 or
tiuhatevei foe ccaupleot'mofiths. if in the long
run you're gong to be more efficient and get
cleaned up quicker then its worth it." he
said.
The commtsSion is going to look into the
possibility.
fIID E -�
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Valerie Johnston chosen
Queen of the Furrow
/ A6, 7
Mcllwain in Ranger
lineup/ 413
Golfers have swinging
time/ 412, 13
Belgrave school fair
) 414, 15
Pope John Paul
visits Midland/ 410
-INDEX
Births /A7
Brussels /A14
Classified /A18, 17, 18
Dublin news /A4, 5
Entertainment /A18, 19
Family /A6, 7
' Farm /All
Hensali news 1A9
Kids /A8
Obituaries /A7
Sports /A 12, 13
Welton /A15