Zurich Herald, 1953-07-02, Page 2".Dear Anne Hirst: Seven years
age I had a brief affair with a
girl from my office. At the time,
I thought I had good reason .. .
I soon realized, however, I loved
my wife, and wanted only her.
We were reconciled, promising to
forget the past. Though the affair
was definitely ended, my wife
has never ceased to nag me about
it, She made such scenes that
the girl quit her job.
"Since then, my wife has ac-
cused me of having an affair
with every new girl that joins
the staff. She will not believe
my denials. If I'm a few minuteg
late getting home, she is furious; .
I never know what mood I'll find
her in. When we discuss any fam-
ily problems, she eventually
blames all our troubles on my
running around! I only leave the
house at night without my family
to escape her scenes.
CHILDREN INVOLVED
"We've been married 16 years,
and have two lovely children,
Now my wife makes it a point
to start arguments before them,
tells them I'm a no-good father
and husband, and she screams
her accusations loud enough for
-the neighbours to hear. Heaven
knows I've been faithful to her,
and a good parent, in spite of her
tantrums. When I have threat-
ened to leave (which she has
asked me to do) she says she
will take the children to another
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city and 1'11 never sue theta again.
"That thought I cannot stand.
I love them, and in spite of her
belittling me, they do love nae,
"I've thought of quitting my
job; but I have a long service
record, and anyhow, I don't be-
lieve it would help ... I am tired
of living this sort of life. The
children and I are upset nearly
all the time. I am at my wits'
end. Can you suggest any solu-
tion?
C. H. J."
It you want to stay with
* your children, I'm afraid you
will have to put up with your
" wife's unjustified accusations.
" It will require all the restraint
* and endurance you can muster
but it will be worth it.
She is cruel and unfair. to
* carry these accusations from
" year to year. She knows why
' the affair began (and she was
* not blameless) and she must
• know it has ended, This was
* your one offence. She must re-
* member you are not a prom-
* iscuous man, and particularly
" because of your children, you
would never repeat it. Evident-
* ly you are living an upright
* life, and receive no credit .tor
* it, She keeps you on the de-
* fensive, and shamefully rats-
* uses her power. Her suspicions
* have become an obsession. 1
" agree that a psychiatrist might
* be helpful, but she refuse; the
* idea indignantly.
* Whatever the provocation,
* you were, of course, wrong to
'' break your marriage vows.
" Now you are paying, and pay-
" ing high., for it. But your chit-
* dren. are paying, too, suffering,
* their mother's continual tirades.
* This is another reason you muse
* stay with them, using your in-
* fluence to counteract hers
* I do suggest tnat you employ
* all possible tact to avoid these
* scenes. Get home every day
* when you are expected, It you
* are delayed, telephone, and
* name the hour you will arrive.
* Give her no possible excuse to
* question your fidelity. When
* she does raise her voice in re-
* criminations, leave the house
* and, if you possibly can, take
" the children with you. Make
* this a habit; it is a gesture
* that
(who lcn:)a•s:') In,t1" di;;•
• courage her.
* .When the youngsters are
* grown and on their own, you
* can, if you desire, be :free of
* this miserable existence.
Many a hoarse is held together
only for the children's sake.
One's personal Happiness is sur-
rendered for their welfare . , .
Anne Hirst weighs eaeh situa-
tion thoughtfully, and will ad-
vise you accordingly. Write her
at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St„ New
Toronto,
MOUNTAIN 17iOATYAkf3;r,
The Dutch island of Saba, in
the Caribbean, presents some-
thing of a problem to boatbuildeis
as the island rises steeply from
the sea, and possessee no har-
bours.
Nothing daunted, the ship-
wrights build their boats on the
top of a mountain and then tow-
er them skilfully into the we ter.
NATURALLY LONG
Two workmen sat. down to yet
their lunch, and one began un-
wrapping a narrow parcel about
half a yard long,
"What's that:'" ass;.»d h i
friend.
"Well, my wife's aw" y, .,,o 1
made a pie for myself,"
"A bit long, isn't it?"
"Of course it's long; ---it'. rhu-
bard pie."
Bashing In a Basket—Two claims are made for this device. It
can be used as a chair, as the young lady is doing, or it can
be used as a basket, handy for carrying garden produce. The
chair was exhibited at the International Garden Show in Ham-
burg, Germany.
IEarery gray is Ladies' Day—"Just a boy and a girl," was all the
family Angela and James Willson wanted when they were
married in 1934. But Mother Nature had other ideas and now
they have six girls, two of them twins, and no boys. At top
are the Willsons with Judy, 13. Next below are Marcia and
9vlarl•er e, twins, 9, left and right, with Nancy, 10, in between.
Bottom are Susan Jane„4, and Cindy, 2'2.
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'II't )47r.-1.o1S.n.rz 0 C: tea rf;.a
Glory he, the sun is shininet
May it so continue, then perhaps
it will not' be necessary for nia
to light the furnace today—as
I did yestetday. After all; it
the middle of June so that is
not exactly an Unreasonable - hos e
Quite apart from tier necessity o:t
fine, warm weather for haying
—which has not yet started at
Ginger Farm—we shall welcome
sunny days so that one m par-
ticular, al our present visitors
can,sit out in the garden. You see
we hat'. niece Betty heee, re-
cuperating' after a shoulder ceeee-
eition, which means she has a
cast from her neck to heir waist,
in mobilisii g one shoulder and
arm completely. Fresh air and
sunshine during the day will
naturally Melfi her to sleep better
at nirin. Joy is also here so the
one hetes to look after the ottite
—,chick a fortunate as 1 may be
away for a day or Iwo next week
—if we are not too invnl'.'cd v.'ith
haying.
Last Settie,la r g,oL,d torture?
came -)t'. we:Y. l''u: the first time.
in tnoitil,:s I•,vre t to an auct:')-•t
safe 'here .1 knew moat of t!;c
sttr:f to be offered was r.`::ly
good tvd in excelleet coed:.on.
I looked ''t over the night tense
and carne away wishing I c.,e:d
afford to buy two oil paintings
that were included in the sale.
Saturday came—and a big crowd,
and a good buying (Treed --- as
there were. many collector':: items
among the china and glass. I shut
my en es and ears to most of the
bargains that were going under
the ha.nnx)r btu I wished the
auctioneer would get around to
:el1in'4 th.e pictures bemuse f felt
I couldn't deal niysalt away un-
til I keine what happened to
them, But the pictures leer-, in
the living -roods along with the
piano and walnut furniture, and
the content: of that room r -
the let to I.r sold. At last tee
table was sold, the cheetertield
suite, the piano and a beautiful
what -not, But the pictures were
on the floor, leaning up against
a wall. People stood in front of
them and the auctioneer wa
moving away, the pictures being
out of his sight, Someone said,
"the pictures—you haven't sold
the pictures!” So the pictures
were brought forward , . bid-
ding started unbelievably low,
The auctioneer caught my eye
and I nodded. Another' bid, and
then another. I nodded again. The
bidding stopped. I waited breath-
lessly , . was no one going to
raise my last bid? As I waited :C
suddenly realized that, however
much they were adn'ired--and
they were admired ---not every-
one would want those pictures,
they were entirely too big and
unsuitable for the average mod-
ern home. That, also, was the
reason the eaeecutors were kit-
ting the pictures be sold ---no room
for then anywhere, even as
family heirlooms. They are 18"
be- 40" and were painted, by an
artist in the family years ago.
Once mere the auctioneer look-
ed around ... "ladies and gentle-
man:, this is a crime . . . these
beauii'tul oil paintings . . . but
they've got to 'be sold," and fin-
ally those unbelievable words—
"Sold here. to Mrs. Clarke!" The
Pictures were mine, Actually! •
I brought them home and
Partner liked them as much as I
did. ;Then came the job of hang -
W them e,a very ticklish matter
x,id .ed. -Even a good picture can
be iuiued by being unsuitably
hums• especially one ie oils. We
trieet them here and we tried
tneri there; separately and in
pairs. Finally we decided they
looked their best either side of
the door facing the west windows.
There they catch the light and
change every hour as the sun
moves from east to west. But I
ani forgetting — I haven't des-
_cril:'ed the pictures to you, One is
11 sunset scene in early winter,
the ground lightly covered with
snow. A young buck -deer stands
in the foreground, head to wind,
seeking, questioning, with a new
awareness of life. The other pic-
ture, probably late fall. A moun-
tain veiled in mist against a
sombre dull -yellow sky. The
rocky" foreground, dark with
bracken, rind on the lonely trail,
stands one stalwart stag—a shag-
gy old warrior, obviously alert to
every danger that threatens
creatures of the wild.
I don't pretend to any knowl-
edge of art but I know what I
like and the sort of pictures I
want: to live with. I only hope
they are not offensive to any
critics of art who happen to visit
Ginger Farm,
Last Saturday 1 saw yet an-
other picture—but of a very dif-
ferent ,kind—a picture of real
life, It was the picture of an el-
derly lady, going home from hos-
pital, her faded- eyes bright with
excitement. She sat on the back
seat of the family car; a nurse
was tucking her in with pillows
and blankets for greater comfort.
The hospital is often the best
place to be when illness strikes
but oh, that wonderful day when
the doctor smiles and says —
"Weli, I think tomorrow we can
send you home!" Horne .. , castle
or cottage—it has one universal
meaning. It is th.e place where
we belong.
BOY GROWS "HORNS"
Doctors in the Protectorate of
Somaliland had a strange patient
a short time ago—a bey who grew
"horns" on his fingers.
Aged fourteen, he was taken to
hospital with horns nearly as long
as the fingers on which they had
grown. On the end of each horn
was what looked like a fingernail,
The boy's fingers were mas-
saged regularly, and one morning
the horns were seen to fall off.
Thein it was found that his fingers -
were normal, except that the itp
were unusual* pointed.
The horsy win go to a isaedkal
museum.
Found A Live Lion
In Her Dressing Room
Hollywood marriages ca(t be
chancy.. ,ffairs; ate Markey first
married Joan Bennett, They had
a beautiful daughter, then di-
vorced, Next, he married Hedy
Lantern They adopted a child,
then divorced, A third try was
the Perfect Wife, Myrna Loy, but
after a while they divorced, too.
One day Hedda Ilopper, famous
Hollywood columnist and screen
actress, said: "Gene, when what
you really want is a wife, why
do you keep on marrying picture
stars?"
"I just keep on trying," he
replied, smiling faintly, "some-
where in this world there must
be a woman in whom are com-
bined all the qualities I'.m looking
,.for,"
"Beauty, wife, mistress, mother,
star rating—Gene, you're looking
for something not yet born on
this planet."
"Maybe • so," he said with a
twinkle," but I have a lot of fun
looking."
"It Is So Silty!"
In her sparkling memoirs,
"From Under My Hat," one of
the most candid, amusing books
ever written about Hollywood,
Hedda Hopper says that John Gil-
bert, who acted with Garbo, beg-
ged her in vain to marry him.
He even had a suite of rooms
arranged in his house for the
great Swedish star, and the black
marble bathroom cost him15,000
dollars. When he showed it to
her she put her slender hands
over her eyes and murmured:
"The marble—it is too shiny--."
so he got workmen to flute it and
take the shine off,
Hurt by her refusal, he next
wooed stage star Ina Claire, then
eloped with her to Las Vegas. In
the wedding pictures Ina carried
a bouquet ',. of wilted flowers.
"Weren't they. awful?" she re-
marked to Miss Hopper later.
"Just as we were about to start
the ceremony a little man came
up front behind and pushed thein
into my hand. When it was over,
I learned he was the town under -
And That's That—Shirley Such-
anan, queen of the 8th Annual
Los Angeles Home Show, takes
hold of the dress material on one
of the 201foot-high displays to
show that it's the recd McCoy.
The gigantic can -can girl is one
of several on display in the Mar-
di Gras area of the show.
Toothless Tyke — Admiring his
perfect teeth from a distance,
three-year-old Billy Siglasky is
one baby w.thout baby teeth.
They were replaced at North-
western university Dental School
because of decay. He'll wear the
false teeth until his permanent
set grows in.
taker and didn't think it proper
for a bride to be married with-
out flowers."
When Garbo got news of the*
wedding she merely burst out
laughing and said: "It is so sil-ly!"
Cat Feed
At one time there was a feud
between Gloria Swanson, who
loved cats, and Pola Negri, who
hated then so much that she
ordered every one to be banished
from the studio. Her cohorts ran
around snatching them up and
dispatching them in bags, while
Gloria's scoured back alleys,
rounding up strays to let loose,
putting out cans of milk and liver
tit -bits to woo then. In the night,
Gloria's cats would be seized and
cast out. In the morning two more
would appear for every one'
ejected.
Then Gloria scored off Negri
by riding from her dressing -room
to the set in a wheel chair, fring-
ed on top, pushed by a Negro
boy. Everybody said: "She's just
showing cff." But Miss Hopper
says she swears to this day that
her costumes were so cumber-
some she couldn't walk that dis-
tance to the stage.
Frances Marion, the screen
writer, owned a beautiful Scottie
which was killed by the vicious
police dog of her neighbors, the
Fred Niblo's, The blow was felt
by everyone, but Frances and her
husband did nothing .about it.
Their twelve gardeners, however,
taking things into their own
hands, were busy for days -on a
mysterious activity. Then, in the
night, they dropped twelve bag-
fuls of snails on the Niblo's lawn,
and in no time the garden didn't
have a living flower!
Nliss Hopper got a scare once
when she was working till mid-
night with Norma Shearer in the
studio Louis Mayer took over at
the Selig Zoo, where wild animals
are trained for pictures. Return-
ing to her dressing -room, she
found a lion sitting in the door-
way! She let out a screech, ran
back towards the set with Norma
at her heels, found a night watch-
man and tried to tell hint about
it, but her teeth were chattering
so, she could hardly get out the
words. He just gave her a big
laugh.
"He wouldn't bite you, missy.
He ain't got no teeth to bite
with. . , ."
".He's got claws, though."
"They're clipped. Don't go bele)."
afraid, ladies. At night when all
the picture people are gone and
there's nothing for the animals
to be scared of, we give them the
run of the place—they'd have
the run of it all the time if you
folks wasn't clutterin' it up."
THIS WITCH
BEWITCHES
A LOBSTER
Working her
wizardry on an
unsuspecting
lobster, pretty
Trudy Golden
made him
stand on his
head, She did it
by placing him
in position and
gently stroking
his: back.