Zurich Herald, 1956-06-21, Page 6.401,1
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"Dear Anne Hirst: Our little
family could have a perfect life
if my husband's people would
only let us alone ! They hated
me from the start and were de-
termined to cause trouble, which
they certainly have.
"When we married, he was
the only support of his mother
and sister, and we took care of
them for a long while until a
small inheritance came their
way. Even now we contribute
generously and send frequent
gifts. Of course, I take our little
boys to see them regularly, but
,our visits are so marred by their
insolence and apparent jeolousy
that I come home ill every itme.
It is getting me down.
"My husband 'hopes they will
behave themselves' but that is
as far as he goes. I have even
talked of leaving him, but he
just laughs,. or takes a few
drinks and says to forget it.
"Anne Hirst, it isn't that easy.
I've got to have peace among
us or I can't promise what will
happen. I never reply to my
in-laws' insults; I love my hus-
band too much to cause trouble.
Is there any way I can control
their nasty tongues ?
MARILYN"
CONTROL YOURSELF
* At this stage there is no
* way I can suggest to stop
these two females in their
* malicious course. To this day,
* they resent your harrying
* their "meal ticket" and take
* a spiteful pleasure in upset-
* ting you. They are not genes-
* ous enough to rejoice in your
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* husband's happiness; instead
* they keep the upper hand by
* tormenting you.
* Since you are at their
* mercy, try to exercise control
• over yourself and see them as
they are, two small-minded
women who chastise you from
force of habit. Can't you con-
sider the source?
Instead of allowing them to
hurt you, build . an armor
about yourself which their
stupid taunts cannot pene-
trate. Think of them as un-
happy people who don't know
* any better — and turn to your
* lovely life, be grateful for a
* devoted husband and two
* sweet young sons, This is the
* Christian way to handle the
* situation; it is also the most
* practical.
* If you can adopt it, you will
,r. dismiss all their ugly ways
* from your mind until you see
* them next time. Then you will
* brace yourself for what you
* know is coming — and forget
* it afterward.
* Of course, your husband
* should have put a stop to this
* long ago, but few men will
* take a stand against their own
* people.
* To leave him should be the
* last thing in your mind, If
* you did, you would miss him
* so that you would reproach
* yourself all your life for not
* being willing to bear anything
* rather than live without him.
* For his sake, too, I am sure
* you eri11 readjust yourself to
• a sorry situation and relegate
* its discomforts to their proper
* place.
*
DIARY COULD BE
MISINTERPRETED
"Dear Anne Hirst: My mother
has found my diary l She read
many thing that I did not feel
I could tell her, knowing she
would not understand.
"Since the day she found it,
I am not allowed to have night
dates, or even get into my boy
friend's car,
"We have gone steady for
nearly four months. I am 14
and a high-school freshman. He
is a trustworthy boy and, Anne
Hirst, we have not done any-
thing indecent.
"But my mother thinks dif-
ferently! How can I get her
and Dad to trust us again?
Disgusted and Distressed"
* You must have been badly
* shocked when you found your
* parents did not believe you
* when you told them your
* friendship with the boy has
* been entirely innocent. 1 un-
• derstand how you feel, and
* with all my heart I wish your
* mother would accept your
* word of honor. If you are be-
* ing punished for things you
* did not do, it is not fair.
* The only way you can con-
* vince your parents is to ac-
* cept their restrictions without
* protest. The evidence your
* diary revealed seemed to be
* equivocal; you p r o b a b 1 y_
* wrote of your emotions in
* your own childish way, but
* their interpretation frightens
* your family.
* Many parents would react
* a's yours have, feeling they
* had not been strict enough to
* protect their girl from the
* dangers they feel she was ex-
* posed to. You will have to
* accept it, and by your discreet
* behaviour try to dispel their
* fears. As you do, • they will
* realize, I hope, that you are
* not the girl who would lie to
* her own family.
If your in-laws are causing
trouble, call on your common
sense and defeat their purpose.
It is a matter of perspective,
after all,. and any practical wife
can win out. In any crisis, write
Anne Hirst, at Box 1, 123 Eigh-
teenth St,,, New Toronto, Ont,
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!8)G LETTER DAY—The giant symbol, shown above, was formed
by most of the 1,300 4 -ii club boys and girls at the 3lnd
annual 4-H Roundup. Photographer Floyd J. Hanna, who made
the picture, only found out exactly how many were in the picture
when he made a print for each of the participants.
NOT EVEN MULES—When St. Louis policemen put up "No Park-
ing" signs, they really mean it. "Al," pet burro of the American
Legion in town receives a traffic ticket, above from Patrolman
Harry. Freeman for violating the police order. Bonnie Brennan
consoles the sad animule.
When News Didn't
Travel So Fast
Cheering Australians, watch-
ing the graceful Comet III touch.
down at Sydney some • twenty-
four hours after leaving London
recently, shared the pride of the
British people in the jet -liner's
record-breaking come -back. Its
world flight brought the Com-
monwealth closer together than
ever before in its history; the
other side of the earth is now
only hours 'away.
Not much more than a cen-
tury ago it took twelve months
to get a reply to a letter sent
to London, however urgent and
official. That was by sailing boat.
The clippers of the 1850s did bet-
ter, completing the London to
Sydney run in from sixty to
eighty days, and there was great
excitement when the steamers
reduced the journey to two
months in 1860.
"There. was keen competition
between rival newspapers, both
in Melbourne and Sydney, to be
the first to publish news from
overseas, especially from Bri-
tain, which could arrive in Aus-
tralia only by shipborne mail,"
writes Frank Clune in his ab -
—
sorbing book, "Overland Tele-
graph"—a mammoth work which
has taken the author eighteen
years to complete.
At Adelaide on ship arrival
days, we are told, there was a
wild scramble by newspapermen
to transmit news to Melbourne
and Sydney over the telegraph
line. One • hnterprising news -
hawk tore out several chapters
of his pocket Bible and handed
them in for transmission to Syd-
ney, so that he could monopolize
the line for half an hour while
he hastily compiled a news bul-
letin to tag on the end of his
message.
Telegraph lines had a tremen-
dous impact upon the towns they
linked, bringing civilization and.
prosperity. "0 v e r land Tele--
graph" is the story of a great
achievement, the erection within
two years of a gleaming strand
of wire, on 40,000 poles stretch-
ing across deserts, mountain
ranges and tropical jungles from
Adelaide on the south coast of
Australia, to Port Darwin in the.
largely unexplored north.
Men sweated and died to find
routes for telegraph lines in wild
country populated only by "stone
age" aborigines, some. of whom
dealt mercilessly with "invad-
ing" white .men,
An explorer who more than
once braved the unknown was
Ludwig Leichhardt, But, at-
tempting to blaze a trail west-
wards across Australia, he mys-
teriously vanished along with
his entire party, which included
six white men and two abori-
gines: What happened, no one
knows to this day. Nor has there
been any trace of the fifty bul-
locks, 270 goats, thirteen mules.
twelve horses, drays, tents and
equipment which vanished.
Modern
Etiquette...
Q. When one is being intro- ,
deiced to a roomful of strangers,
is one supposed to acknowledge
each introduction with a "How
do you do"?
A. 0 n e sincerely - spoken
"How do you do" should be
enough, and after that, just
smile and bow slightly to each
person as you are introduced —
with perhaps one or two added
"How do you do's" in a low
voice.
Q. What is the amount of the
fee a bridegroom gives the cler-
gyman?
A. There is no stipulated am-
ount, although the fee should not
be less than ten dollars. The
size should depend upon the
bridegroom's means.
Q. Should a person ever
place his napkin on the table
while the meal is in progress?
A. No; not until leaving the
table.
Q. What is the correct thing
for a man to say to a woman
who is blocking hist way when
leaving a bus or other public
conveyance?
A. "May I get through,
please?" And as .she moves aside
to allow him to pass, he should
lift hi. hat and thank her.
Q. Don't you consider it
very bad manners for a dinner
guest to be late?
A. This is considered one of
the most serious breaches of eti-
quette. A guest who is late for
a meal in one's home must have
a very good excuse to justify
any pardon.
Q. Is it proper to 'write a few
lines of good wishes on the card
that is enclosed with a wedding
gift?
A. It is quite all right to do
so, although .not necessary.
Q. What is a good rule for
women to follow about dressing
for various social functions?
A. Whet in doubt, wear the
simpler dress, If you don't know
whether to wear a ball dress or
a dinner dress, wear the dinner
dress. Or whether wool or vel-
vet, wear the wool:
Q. When a friend is being
graduated from high school or .
college, and you cannot afford to
send a gift, what should you do?
A. Write a nice, sincere note
Of congratulation,
Q. For what, besides butter-
ing breads, can the small butter
knives be used?
A. These should be used only
for butter, jelly and cheese.
Q. Is it all right for a bride
to carry a bouquet if she is be-.
ing married in a traveling
dress?
A. It would be better if she
wore a corsage.
RONIC1LES
er6L„ INGERFAIIM
All is quiet on the home front
— at least for the moment.
Dave is in bed but not asleep.
He has had a very active day —
and so has Grandma! Grandpa
also shares in the activity as
he has Dave outside with him
for about a couple of hours
every afternoon. We occasional-
ly have a tussle of wills. Like
all other children Dave has to
see how far he can go and get
away with it. For that reason
we have to make sure that he
does as he is told. He can travel
so fast and has so much
strength for a wee fellow that
neither Partner nor I could han-
dle him if we allowed him to
get out of hand. Of course he
has a lingo all_his own which
we don't always understand.
However, by following 'his line
of reasoning — and don't ever
think he hasn't got one — we
can generally figure out what
he is talking about and in that
way we make out all right.
Surprisingly, he gets into very
little real mischief, I expected
we would have to put things �.
out of reach and keep a few
doors and cupboards shut up
but he hasn't been that 4ray at
all. Nor does he interfers with
the television, Of course he
wants his own programs morn-
ing and evening. After that he
pays no attention to the set at
all. But a funny thing happen-
ed yesterday. Dave was by him-
self in the living -room. I
thought 1 heard him whimper-
ing and. want to see what was
the matter. He was sitting in a
big chair and half crying as he
looked into the black face of the
television. I had forgotten to
turn it on! That was soon
remedied and he was happy
again.
The weather hasn't helped us
at all with our baby-sitting. We
can't leave the young man out-
side to play by himself — there
are too many wet places. Prac-
tically the only dry spot is in
the lane — and that hardly
makes a safe playground. The
weather also complicates the
business of getting him dressed
— lightweight snowsuit, mitts,
helmet and rubber boots — not
quite the sort of outfit you ex-
pect
a child to wear the fourth
week in May.
And how disappointing the
garden is this spring. Very few.
daffodils and we usually have
such a lot. I hope the bulbs
haven't rotted. One of our
neighbors, who generally has
the side of a hill looking just
like "a host of golden daffodils,"
this year has very little bloom
at all, However, in our garden
we at least have lots of narcissi
to look forward to. Apparently
they don't -mind the cold, back-
ward spring. There is still no
spring seeding done around
here, except on a few isolated
farms where a stretch of sandy
soil runs through the district.
On some farms cattle have been
turned out to pasture. They
should at least have plenty of
grass and water for awhile. Cat-
kins are out on the poplars and
the orioles have returned to
the elms. Occasionally we see
canaries and sap -sucker. And
that is about the extent of na-
ture' tory at the moment. No
frogs, even yet.
Government surveyors have
done a little more decorating
in our fields. They already had
yellow stakes tipped with black.
and orange stakes tipped with
red, some of them to mark the
spot where iron stakes are em-
bedded in the ground, But just
recently another work gang
came along and put in ordinary
steel fence posts right along-
side the yellow stakes. The De-
partment of Highways evident-
ly doesn't intend anyone to for-
get where the survey goes
through. It isn't so communi-
cative in other matters. For in-
stance, the Department has al-
ready registered a plan for ex-
propriation of the land needed
for the road but Yet we have
not been notified, Nor have
there been any men out from
the property office to appraise
the value of the land. Strange
the things that can be done on
a person's own property when
the governinent takes over, Not
that we mind, We are only too
anxious to see the work started.
That's the trouble with these
big highway jobs — the plan-
ning stage takes so long the
road is out of date before it gets
finished.
This column has been writ-
ten by flts and starts in be-
tween attending to David's de-
mands and answering the tele-
phone. We did not expect any
company this week -end and
then came a call from my sister
and nephew in Oshawa —
would it be all right to come
for the day on Monday? The
answer was definitely yes. We
have not seen them for over
three years so we shall be very
glad to have them come. Latex
I suddenly remembered one of
them is a vegetarian and the'
other on a fat-free diet. Thal
rather complicates things with
the stores closed. Fortunately
we have plenty of milk, eggs,
rhubarb and 'a little asparagus.
All that added to whatever the
refrigerator may produce will
no doubt see us through. We
also got a phone call from
Daughter who said she was
feeling very much better so we
feel well repaid for having tak-
en young Dave off her hands for
awhile. It looks as if grandpar-
ents still count inthe scheme
of things. 'Bye for now —
hear the young man calling ..
from the bathroom!
When cut flowers begin to wilt
give them the hot water treatment,
They will revive quickly if the ends
of the stems are cut and Immersed
In hot water. Have the water about
as hot as your hands can stand.
Party P.-?ia#ore
Int Craw, Malt.
Two pretty ways she can wear
this style! A cool, cute pinafore
— a party dress with the addi-
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So versatile — sew - very - easy
RI' you!
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4, 6, 8 included. Pattern, embroi-
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ISSUE 25 -- 1956
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