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Zurich Herald, 1956-03-29, Page 2141 anzisti . "Dear Anne Hirst: When I remarried I did not know what a child my husband was. His fa- mily had spoiled him thoroughly; they supplied all his needs, in- cluding spending Money. They have not helped us out since, nor did I want them to ... How ih the world am I ever to help him accept his responsibilities? "During the first year I held on to my job while he went to school. Even that he did not take it seriously, didn't attend classes regularly and refused to study. He flunked. I was so dis- tressed I would have left him, but I thought my baby was soon due. I lost her. "Our life became a series of arguments — not bitter ones, for I loved him dearly and tried to keep the home atmosphere plea- sant; honestly, I never nagged him, just tried to encourage him. We were cramped, living in two rooms on barest necessities. I was away nine hours, six days a week, and somehow managed to keep up our payments on the furniture and his car. "My husband is not without talents, and can adapt himself to almost anything he likes. The Tailored Step - 'n Always ready, always right when you want a style that's comfortable and flattering. You need at least one of these neat, simple step-in dresses! Crisp collar, square patch -pockets, contrast piping give a smart tailored look. Pattern 4519: Misses' Sizes 12, 14, 16, 18, 20; 30, 32, 34, 36, 38, 40, 42. Size 16 takes 41/8 yards 35 -inch fabric; 3s yard contrast. This pat t ern easy to use, simple to sew, is tested for fit. Has complete illustrated in- structions. Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS (350) in coins (stamps cannot be accepted) for this pattern. Print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. office work he's doing right now pays little and he is dissatisfied because he wants an easier job! I make more than he does, and I'd never have to worry about losing any position I took. "We aren't youngsters is 31 and I'm 25. I still care so much for him, and once we are established in a home I want more children . , . With this pic- ture before you, what prospects do you think lies ahead for us? A WORRIED WIFE" I wish I could justify your confidence in your husband, but actually I fear you have a discouraging task ahead. He has never grown up. He has never known the dignity of hard work, the satisfaction of independence. With such a background, it is not his fault that he expects you to shoul- * ,der all the problems of mar- * riage. I am sorry for him, but * I am more sorry for you; * this is not your idea of mar- * ied life. What you want is * what most girls want, a pian * you can rely on, a real home, " and a family. * Can you have these with hiin ? * - Miracles have been wrought * by marriage, I agree. When * they are, they are the result * of man and wife pulling to- * gether toward a common goal. * Does your husband love you * enough to do his share? * It all depends on how much * marriage means to him. Ask * him, and judge from his re- * sponse whether • the future * promises a better.life for you * both, At that, he may surprise * us. * * A DESERTER "Dear Anne Hirst: I am in love with a man who told me he was getting a divorce be- cause his wife is unfaithful, and when he is free he will marry me. Now he has moved. He doesn't answer my letters, they are returned to me. I have no way of knowing what is hap- pening, and I am lost without "He's 29, I'm 10 years younger . . . Please don't use my full name, as my family are nasty about these -things, but tell me what you think. LOLA" * The man you live is playing * safe. If his infidelity is discov- * ered, the chances of his get- * ting a divorce are practically * nil. He has no intention of * writing or receiving any word * from you that might incrimin- * ate him. Can't you realize his * promises were worthless? * I hope you will come to your * sense before you waste any * more time on such a cad, or * you will let yourself in for a * painful awakening. You are * badly confused, my young * friend, and I urge you to see * this character as the worthless * sort he is, not worth a single * regret. * Be grateful that he has left * and next time play straight. '•' However dull that sounds, it * is the only course to follow * that is not fraught with bitter * heartbreak. * Don't hate your family for * being "nasty:" They would be * shocked beyond words if they * knew the truth. * * * When a girl marries a. spoiled child, her problems are many and complicated and the out - Come questionable. Anne Hirst can be useful in this situation if you write her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. . MODEL'S MODEL -- That's the phrase which describes Pat Patterson. She is one of several models who fashioned grown-up versions of doll clothing at The opening of the annual Toy Fair, Polly and her model are both wearing old-fashioned gowns a pale pink chiffon, READY FOR THE BIG DAY — Manufacturers in Monaco have been working overtime to turn out souvenirs for the Grace Kelly - Prince Rainier III wedding, April 8. This silk scarf is one of them. It bears a likeness of Monaco's sovereign and his bride- to-be. United States and Monacan emblems are also featured. Modern Etiquette Q. I know that the salad plate is placed at the left of the plate. If, however, a wom- an is wearing long, loose sleeves which are apt to get in- to the food in her dinner plate while she is reaching across it to the salad, may she move the salad plate to the right? A. If there's space to the right, this is quite all right. The reason the salad plate is put at the left is that there is more room on that side. Q. I've heard that it is im- proper to comment on another person's clothes. Does this, meafl one should not admire or compli- ment another on his clothes?' A. If you know another per- son well enough, there is no, reason •why • she shouldn't tell,' him how well he is looking. Q.• I thanked each donor per- sonally for gifts received at a supposed to write thank -you surprise birthday party. Am I notes also to these donors? A. No.. Q. I see more and more peo- ple cutting their bread or rolls at the table with a knife. Is this now considered proper? A. No. Good behavior still requires that bread, rolls and the like be broken into small pieces with the fingers, and each. one•buttered as it is eaten. Q. How should one address a wedding gift? A. Gifts sent before the wed- ding are addressed to the bride in • her maiden name. Gifts sent after the wedding, of course, are addrEssed to the couple. Q. Is it correct for a man to use double - sheet type of stationery for his personal cor- respondence? A. This is all right, but the single -sheet variety is consider- ed more masculine. Q. If the national anthem is played in a moving picture theatre, should the audience• rise? A. If it ia played as part of the picture, you do not rise, But if it is played separately, , you most certainly do rise. Q. When a hostess has wait- ed 15 or 20 minutes for a guest, and the other guests are all present, should she telephone to see why he is delayed? A. No; she is privileged to go ahead and serve her dinner. NDAY SCllOOI LESSON The Meaning of the Resurrec- tion. Luke 24:28-34, 44-53 Memory Selection: Thanks be to God, which giveth us the vic- tory through our Lord Jesus Christ. 1 Corinthians 15:51. Christianity is the only reli • gion which claims that its founder has arisen from the dead in a resurrected body. All Mohammedans hope to make a • pilgrimage during their life to Mecca, the place where Moham- med is buried. Many Christian tourists and students visit the tomb where Jesus was buried at Jerusalem. But it is an empty tomb. The words of the angel echo in our ears: "He is not here. He is risen." Only a liv- ing leader can help us today. The two disciples in today's lesson were sad as they walked to Emmaus. Then .Jesus, with out revealing his identity, walk- ed with them and -explained the Scriptures. It was in God's order that Jesus should die for the sins of man. T1 -'m as he ate with them their eyes were open- ed and they beheld the resur- rected Jesus. Their sadness gave way to joy and they hurried to tell the other disciples that they had seeii the Lord. As they were all together Jesus appear- ed in their midst. After open- ing their understanding con- cerning the Scriptures he gave them a mission. They were to be his witnesses. They were to preach repentance and remis- sion of sins in His name among all nations beginning at Jetu- salem, But first they were to tarry in Jerusalem for the Holy Spirit, the promise of the Fath- er. Then Jesus led then out to Bethany and blessed them and was caught up into heaven. The challenge is still with us. Many millions have not yet heard how God sent His Son to , save us. We need to be wholly given up to God so that em- powered by His Spirit our wit- ness ' shall be effective. The message is the same. In the naive of Jesus Christ we must urge people to repent of their sins. When they do He will for- give them. Jesus Christ is liv-. ing today in the hearts cif mul- titudes` around the world. But everyone needs Him. We must . tell them by our lives and our words. 11RONICLFS NINGER.FAR14 evesmiourAt P. Clarks Well, I might as well make a confession --and get it off my chest. We finally gave in — shall I say to mass hysteria — and had a television set in- stalled? So, for the last few weeks, it has been a time of discovery, picking and choos- ing programmes we like and finding our way around among the different channels. So far we have enjoyed it very much and find it a good form of 1"'e -- laxation. That, of course, was our primary objective in putting it in. We can have entertain- ment now and still enjoy the comforts of home — and it is fun seeing people we know flashed on the screen. There have beenquite a few. But as most of you very well know — TV is more than entertainment. There are' excellent educational programmes well worth watch- ing. Partner, of course, gets a great kick out of telecast sports. I, too, enjoy watching the hoc- key games. Like everyone else -- except where there are chil- dren—we do not turn out set on during the day. And we shut it off when we have callers . -- un- less there is something they especially want to see. One thing kept us from put- ting in television for so long — we couldn't see how we would ever find time to watch. it. So what happened? It doesn't make much difference to Partner at all, except that he does a little less reading. His work, of course, is done before there is very much that he wants to see. But had to re -arrange my work con- siderably. Thus, I left my iron- ing until evening and then watched television while I did it. I got my backlog of mending done the sane way. In fact, for the first time in weeks, my workbasket is actually empty: Arranging time for typing and writing was a little more diffi- cult but that, too, I finally man - •aged and have accomplished more than 1 did before. So it looks as if we denied ourselves the pleasure of television for an unnecessary length of time. One thing I cannot, and will not do, That is, sit hour after hour and • do nothing but watch television.. And it isn't necessary. A per- son can knit, sew, mend and watch a program without any trouble. That is, for those who have bi-focal glasses or can work without glasses at all. I don't imagine it would be pos- sible for people who need glas- ses for close work only. There has been a little extra activity down at the barn this week. It just looks as if we are meant to keep cows,' no matter what. One day Partner sent a cow to the stock market. The next day one of our heifers pro- duced a calf — and the calf 'was a heifer. So we still have as many head of cattle as we had before. You know, that is one thing I notice about farming — when one door shuts another one opens. For instance, a few weeks ago we were still shipping cream but our egg supply was down. Last week Partner bought another calf. That meant we stopped shipping cream. But our egg supply increased so the scales were still just about even. But the drop in egg prices may soon change the picture. Well, I suppose most farm people have been following proceedings at the Convention of the Federation of Agriculture in Hamilton. The reports and suggestions given by those at the - top are thought-provoking •to say the least. Obviously, it isn't enough these days to consider one branch of activity. Farming, industry, immigration, high- ways and zoning regulations are all tied in together. AND na- tional health insurance. Directly or indirectly it all affects the farmer and he must find the best way to adapt himself to changing conditions, which may be quite the opposite to that of his neighbour. For instance we had a middle-aged couple in here yesterday, still very active with cattle and crops. Recently the farmer found it impossible to obtain reliable hired help. The barnyard had to be kept clean and he could not keep pace with it alone. So off be went and bought a manure loader and a second tractor. Now he has enough equipment to keep him independent of hired help - a small thrshtng ma- chine, baler, loader, horses and two tractors, and as many beef cattle as the farm will accom- modate. But think of the capital tied up in all that equipment. Another thing — this man be- lieves in early to bed and early to rise. I mention that because there is some criticism about late -rising farmers. That is the result of labour-saving equip- ment. At one time farmers had to be up early to have the milk out ready for the 'truck to pick up. Now with milk coolers in general use, milk cans are left in the vat ready for the trucker when he comes. The morning's milk doesn't go until the next day. It is better that . way as it gives the .milk time to get pro- perly chilled an important factor in the production of pure Ink So, if the farmer gets up later than he used to it is because there isn't the same necessity for him to beat the dawn every day. Which is just as well, otherwise how could farm folk take in so many late nights — farm forums, card parties and so on? Time was when it was lights out for farm folk any time after eight -thirty. Nowa- days that is the time when acti- vity begins! 10 Commandments Cut In Mountain Ten Commandments Moun- tain, in western North Carolina, is one of the most appropriate of the many places where Easter sunrise services are held an- nually, with the scenic beauty of lakes, mountains, and forests providing an inspiring back- ground. In huge letters of cut stone, four feet wide and six feet high, the Commandments are spelled out upon a gently sloping moun- tainside. The concrete Roman numerals are seven feet wide and 14 feet high. The lettering is outlined in white to simulate the pages of an open book, di- vided by a long flight of shallow steps, from which the visitor may view the letters sif close range, or even stroll about on the grass between them. Two smaller pages, standing upright at the top of these steps, show quotations from the Grope of St. Matthew. This New Testament reproduction is 24 feet high and 34 feet wide, ris- ing from a base 60 feet long by 13 feet wide, Contributions from t h e churches of 15 southern states made possible this work, which was completed late in 1951, at which time what had been Bur- ger Mountain was dedicated as Ten Commandments Mountain. It faces Fields of the Wood, religious assembly ground upon which the services are held. For Boys and Girls Nothing prettier for play than these adorable little baby setst Sewing a cinch — embroidery tool Flower embroidery for girls; teddy bears for bOys! Pattern 760; To fit 6 -month, 1 -year, 18 - month babies. Tissue pattern, transfers, directions included. State size. Send TWENTY-FIVE CENT in coins (stamps cannot be ac- cepted) for this pattern to Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Tor- onto, Ont. Print plainly PAT- TERN NUMBER and SIZE, your NAME and ADDRESS. Our gift to you — two won- derful patterns for yourself„ your home — printed in our Laura Wheeler Needlecraft book for 1956! Dozens of other new designs to order — croch- et, knitting, embroidery, iron - ons, novelties. Send . 25 center for your copy of this book NOV ' — with. gift patterns printed in it DREAM TRAIN'S A REAL "SOUVENIR" — At eight, all she wanted to playwas the song of the rails, but daddy gave her a grand piano. So reveals Margaret Truman, in her autobiography, "Souvenir." An alert publicity agent made her dream come true at a press conference announcing her story and gave the daughter of the former president this toy die.,ol switching loco- motive,