Zurich Herald, 1954-12-23, Page 6ONE SPOILED MAN
"Dear Anne Hirst: I don't
want pity, but I do need some
advice to make my life more
bearable, I am completely nib.-
erable, . . . For five years I've
been married to a man I love
dearly—and he knows it, I wait
on him like a baby (even lay
out his clothes) and he never
turns a hand to help me do
anything, and I could count the
words of affection he has spoken
since we married.
"We have two children, and
live in a three-room house; you
can picture hbw crowded we
are. I do the best I can, but
with the children to manage
and all the work to do alone, I
get discouraged. I am in a had
nervous state — and when I'm
sick my husband calls it imag-
ination. That hurts. I haven't
been to a doctor in nearly two
years,
"He seldom takes nie, any-
where, except to a movie about
twice a year. He does pay the
bills; he doesn't let me have
any money, though, and I've
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needed clothes so desperately
I've been ashamed to go to the
store, Even then I have had to
ask for them, which I hate to do.
"He is good in some ways; he
has an easy going disposition
and we never quarrel. But his
lack of appreciation, or even in-
terest, has me at my rope's end.
STARVED FOR KINDNESS"
* Some wise person wrote
• that the greatest human need
* is appreciation. Without it the
* most loving wife droops and
* withers, If only. her husband
* spoke a kind word occasion.-
* ally, and treated her like a
* person instead of an automa-
* ton made to serve him! You
* will have to assert yourself,
* not resentfully, but firmly. A
* man like your husband is not
* going' to respect a woman as
* an individual unless she re-
* spects herself enough to de-
mand it, I suggest you omit
• some of these little personal
• services you've been giving
* him; if he complains, say
* you're so discouraged that
* you cannot accomplish now
* all you once did,
* If. only for the actual work
* you perform in managing the
* household, raising the child-
* ren, cooking, cleaning, etc.,
* you deserve an allowance and
* without having to beg for it.
* Crowded as your daily living
4' is in such small space, you
* need regular diversion more
* than most housewives. You
* need help with the children,
* and when you are unwell.
* there should be help provided
* to keep the house in order.
* How your spirits would lift if
* only your husband would do
" his share, and now and then
* tell you how nice things look
and how proud he is of the
way you're bringing up the
* children!
* I suggest, first, that you go
* to your doctor for a check-up,
* Tell him just what you've told
me, and then have him talk
* with your husband. I think
* that will make him realize
* how miserable you are and
* how much he can brigten your
* daily routine. If he will, his
* own life, too, will be far hap-
* pier.
* The ideal marriage is one in
* which husband and wife try
* to outdo each other in help-
* fulness and appreciation. Your
* life could be like that, if your
* husband would only co-op-
* prate,
* Know that you have the
* applause of another woman
* who understands, and her best
* wishes that this man of yours
* will open his eyes to the lov-
* ing service and attention he
* gets every day from his over-
• worked wife.
MOTHER LETS HER DOWN
"Dear Anne Hirst; Most wives
who write you have trouble
with their mothers-in-law. In
my case, it*ha turned out the
other way. My mother does not
like my husband. Once she sep-
arated us,. but I have sworn that
will never happen again.
"Lately I have seen her for
what she is. When my brothers
and sisters refused to have her
live with them and she had
nowhere to go, we took her in.
Now when we need her, she
refuses to help me out. I have
three small children and am ex-
pecting another. I haven't been
able to find anyone to care for
them while I'm in the hospital.
My mother 'says she will not.
"My husband's mother is not
living, or I'd have nothing to
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The plum pudding, made from a famous, century -old recipe.
Was to be served In all CNIZ dining cars to top oft turkey
dinners dressed With cranberry sauce and all the trimmings.
Chef Chars t spent, more than a week lust preparing the Ire-
inenclous quantities of plum pudding needed for the Yuletide,.
Ner Fabrics
BY lilDNA MILES
Having the beds in her house
look pretty, ruffly and immacu-
late at all times with very little
effort on her part is one dream
of every homemaker.
Until now it was possible to
have beds that looked like plc -
tures only by the dint of hard
work, That's all been changed
with the recent development of
complete bedding sets in nylon,
dacron and orlon, These are
completely washable, need no
ironing. They're soft, and in the
case of comforters and blankets
are light but possess warmth,
Ruffled sheets and pillow cases
are in angel crepe, a soft nylon
fabric that resembles crepe de
chine. Top sheet is, ruined on
three sides and used with a fit-
ted bottom sheet. A flower -
sprigged comforter is completely
machine washable. Its outer shell
is sculptured nylon; it's filled
with dacron, the filling also used
for the pillow.
Blanket is in a downy 'orlon
fleece. All pieces in the set are
color -fast, long -wearing, easily
washed and quick to dry
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Everything's
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by the new, lightweight bedding,
worry about; she was wonder-
ful, so good to all her children
and their families. What this
world needs is more mothers-
in-law like her. (I hope that
"Mrs. L.", that daughter-in-law
who wrote you, comes to her
senses; she doesn't know how
lucky she is! I'd give anything
to be in her place).
WORRIED SICK"
* To be disillusioned in one's
0 own mother must be a sicken-
" ing experience. It is unfor-
• tunately true that the more
* considerate one is of some
* people, the more they take
" advantage of it.
* 1 hope that by now you
have found some responsible '
* woman to care for your chi).-
dren. If you haven't, 'won't
* your sisters or your brothers'
* wives help you out?
* * *
A spoiled husieseld is like a'
spoiled child; he demands more
and more, and gives less and
less. Anne Hirst understands,
and her sympathy and counsel
will comfort you, Write her at
Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New
Toronto, Ont,
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ES
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There was a time when shop-
keepers in small towns looked
favourably upon the increasing
number of cars owned by farm,
people. Cars brought the coun-
try folk to town—away from
the village 'Corner Store' where
they had previously done most
of their week -end shopping.
Now it is cars, not the lack .of
them, that keep people away
from shopping at small town
stores. Too many cars and not
enough parking space. And it
is certainly lack of places to .
park that keeps visitors froin
stopping to shop at these same
small town stores. But if there
is a shopping centre . . ah,
.
that solves the problem, for vis-
itors and country folk alike.
No parking problems there and
practically everything you want
within easy walking distance
from your car.
Now, this isn't a brief fox'
community shopping centres—
far from it. I am all for the
small town stores who served
the public long before shopping
centres were even thought of,
amemerely making a few ob-
servations on things as I see
them—particularly because of
what .happened last week. I
visited a. 'nearby town with a
friend a few days ago. We drove
through the Main street just
about one o'clock—a good time
for finding a place to park, 1
thought—and I looked forward.
to visiting some of the stores
where 1 might possibly do a
little Christmas shopping. But
oh dear, the street was so nar-
row, straight parking on either
side, and every parking space
' taken up. I had to double-park
while Mrs. S . . went into the.
post -office. 1 couldn't leave her
because she isn't too good at
walking. The stores looked
quite attractive and there were
several where I would like to
have looked around,
Mrs. 8 . , wanted groceries
and meat, I specially wanted to
pick up a few things at the Five
and Ten Cent Store. So we had
no choice but to go back to the
outskirts ot town to the shop-
ping centre that was opened
about six months ago. Here we
found plenty of parking space,
lots of room in the stoma, and
a splendid lunch counter where
we' were able to get a good eup
of tea to reinforce US for oar
journey home,
Now it must be admitted
there is a certain amount of
glamour in a shopping centre.
Goods are set up by expert dis-
play clerks, everything is clean
and attractive, and somehow
manages to convey the impres-
sion that bargains galore are
being offered to the public. That
is often merely a delusion, It
is my own opinion the average
person can buy more economi-
cally in his Own home town—
once he has found a place to
park! Take meat for instance:
At the chain stores it, looks very
attractive neatly rolled and
packaged in cellophane. But
your local butcher will throw in
a bit of suet and a few bones—
bones that make all the differ-
ence to the flavour and richness
of your gravy. Or perhaps it is
oranges you are wanting. Big
stores put them 'up in packages
of half -a -dozen. They.look nice
but you can't tell much about
the quality until you get them
home. At your local store or-
anges are loose and you take
your choice. And the price? At ,
the shopping centre where I
went the other day grapefruit
were 5 for 290. The day before
I had bought better ones in our
own town 5 for 250. There is
also a sort of mass hysteria that
seems to get hold of people at
a shopping centre . more
shoppers, everyone buying—
won't be back for another week,
better take advantage of this
week's special. You don't real-
ly peed it yet but the price
might be up next time you
come.
And so it goes. You load up
the car and start for home,
away through the main street,
past the smaller sstores where
you used to shop. You remem-
ber the friendliness of 'Mrs.
Baker' and her staff. You re-
call the many occasions on
which the hardware store sent
away a special order if what
you needed was not in stock.
And there was never any trou-
ble in returning goods that
were found unsuitable. But look
at the cars . . : where would
you ever park if you wanted to
shop at the hardware today? Of
course, the owners of those cars
may all be shopping on the
street. But are they? That's
the question. Time was when
the only competition small
town merchants were up eigainst
was in city stores and mail or-
der houses. Now there are com-
munity shopping centres and
parking. problems.
Obviously there is little that
small town business can do—
unless parking space were made
available at the rear of the
stores, where there is often a
considerable amount, of waste
space. Parking areas at either
end of the Main street would
help—if land were available.
But that would be up to the
town council.
And don't think this is a•
matter that does not concern
eountry people. It concerns us
very much indeed. Parking
problems are common to us all
--to those who buy and to those
who sell. Unfortunately we are
all inclined to take the line of
least resistance, which, in this
case, is the Community Shop-
ping Centre.
Mystery Of
Serv.:nts
Dublin. — This is vouched for
as a true ghost story. A Mr and
Mrs. Eden, from Salzburg, Aus-
tria, recently. came to stay at
a beautiful old castle on the
outskirts of Dublin, The castle
stands in the middle of a great
cedar forest, and was built
about the year 1200 by King
John. It was recently used as a
setting for a film 'about King
Arthur and the Knights of the
:Round Table. "It is crammed
full of ghosts," 'people warned
the newcomers.
When Mr, and Mrs. Eden re-
tired to their room, which had
been King John's apartment,
the husband almost immediate-
ly fell asleep, but his wife lay
reading for a while.
All of a sudden, she noticed
that the door handle was slowly
being turned, and that the door
was opening. Nothing happened,
except .that a cold feeling ran
down her spine, and she says
she felt the hair stand straight
up on her head.
A few minutes later, the door
slowly closed. She was so scared
that her teeth were chattering.
Suddenly, she heard a terrific"
commotion in the room upstairs.
That noise reassured her, and
she went peacefully to sleep,
thinking the noise was made by
the servants, and -that she would
be perfectly safe.
At breakfast next morning,
Mrs. Eden told her hostess what
a fright "King John" had given
her. She said she was glad that
the servants' quarters were right
above theirs, and how reassured
she felt as soon as she heard
them.“What do you mean, servants'
quarters?” the hostess asked in
dismay.
"Why, .the rooms right above
ours," was the answer.
"There are no servants' quar-
ters up there," the hostess said.
"There's nothing."
The mystery remains unex-
plained.
M dem Etiquette
4, What is the rule on the in-
troduction of young and old
persons?
A. The younger person is al-
ways introduced to the older or
more distinguished, but a gen-
tleman is always presented to a
lady, even though he is an old
gentleman of great distinction
and the lady a mere slip of a
girl, Of course, a woman is
presented to the President of
the United States, a royal per-
sonage, or a dignitary of the
church,
Q. When attending °hutch
services that are not familiar,
should one copy the movement
of members of the congregation,
or just remain seated?
A. It is better to try to do
what the others are doing. You
will be less conspicuous.
Q. When Addressing an envel-
ope to an unmarried girl or
woman, is it all right to ad-
dress it merely "Mary Wil -
A. No; always use the prefix
"Miss", no matter how ,young
she is.
Q, How can an unmarried
woman, living in a hotel or
boarding house, return hospi-
tality shown her by married
friends?
A. One good way is to take
them to dinner at a hotel or res-
taurant.
Q. Is there any way that one
can possibly rinse one's fingers
at the table if no finger bowl
has been provided?
A. It is permissable to tip the
water glass against the corner
of the napkin, and then wipe
the fingers on this damp corner.
Q. How far in advance should
the invitation to a wedding be
mailed?
A. No earlier than t h r e e
weeks or later than two weeks
before the wedding.
Q. I know that women are
supposed to lead the way down
the aisle of a theater, but if a
man is host to a group of per -
what does he do?
A. In this case, he hands the
checks to the usher and loll sws
after him so that he may direct
the sealing arrangement of his
guests when they arrive at
the proper row of seats.
Q. When is the proper time
for the guests at a church wed-
ding to leave their seats after
the ceremony?
A. Not until the very end of
the recessional. It is very bad
form to break into the march to
offer congratulations.
Q. If olives and celery are to
be served, when is the proper
time to pass them around the
table?
A. During the soup course.
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