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Zurich Herald, 1957-12-12, Page 6-E HIRST weisi4 Catti44ttelErt FATHER OF THREE •Dear Anne Hirst: I am 20, and for three year have been a lonely widower. My three' children are aged four to nine. Recently I met a girl u.f 16, and we have fallen in love. Her parents are objecting strong- ly, and I am not surprised they think her too young to under- stand what love means, and too inexperienced to take on the responsibilities of my house atel the children. But aren't there exceptions to rules? This girl is as mature as others I've known who were 21; she is exceptional- ly well-balanced, and I tell you honestly that this conclusion is not wishful thinking. "I have explained to them ail that my housekeeper. (a friend of my former wife) has taken entire charge of the children and housekeeping for two years. Tiro girl I love would have no re- sponsibilities unless she wants them, and as her husband I would cherish and protect her. My reputation is solid, and I am well off. "What can I do to convince these nice people that their daughter would be happy with me? ONE LONELY MAN" BE FAIR * A 16 -year-old in love is Takes Lithe Time try Trim the tree with sparkling "jewels"—children will love this gay Christmas slipper! Jiffy knit thrifty, ideal gift. e.. Pattern 843: chart, directions for child's sizes 4 through 12 included in pattern. Just rib- bing added to one flat piece! Send THIRTY - FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern to Laura Wheeler, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New To- ronto, Ont. Print plainly PAT- TERN NUMBER, your NAME and ADDRESS. Two FREE Patterns as a gift to our readers—printed right in. our 1957 Laura Wheeler Needle- craft Book. Dozens of other' de- signs you'll want to order—easy fascinating handwork for your- self, your home, gifts, bazaar items. Send 25 cents for your copy of this book today! * usually most concerned. with " the joyous prospect of wife- ,' hood, and apt to regard other * attending responsibilities light- s ly. Yet if this girl you love is * as mature as you believe, it is * not likely she would be con- * tent to leave the entire care * of your children to your house- * keeper; she would feel it part * of her duty as their stepmother * to assume some responsibili- * ties. You say she already * knows the children, and they * all seem to feel a mutual af- * fection, (I wish I could have * printed all your letter.) * One way to prove to her * parents that you are sincere is * to promise to wait until they * can give their full consent: (In * your state, she cannot marry * without it for two years.) * While you hope they will allow * you to pursue the courtship, * if they prefer you will not see * her for at least another year. * During that time she would be * free to mingle again with * friends her age, and learn the * quality of her affection for * you. The waiting would prove, * too, whether what you feel is * really enduring or merely the * infatuation that a man your * age could readily feel for a * young girl. (After all, you met * her "recently.") * I believe such a proposal * would be unexpected by her * parents, and impress them with * your integrity. It cannot help * but recommend you as a just 4' man, anxious above all for * t h e i r daughter's happiness. * Why not suggest it, and see * how they react? * * * AWKWARD SITUATION "Dear Anne Hirst: I am nearly 17, and, in love with a young man four years older. Lately he has been dat- ing another girl more often, though, and recently he gave her a diamond. But he tells me he isn't going to marry her! "I've known him for two years and we have had so much fun together. I hear he is always fussing with her ... yet he tells my friends he loves me, but all he has told me is that he is 'fond of roe'. I am very confuses!. "Since she is wearing his ring, I guess I'm crazy to ask your opinion—but what is it? WONDERING" * When a girl wears a diamond * it is taken for granted she is * engaged to the boy •who gave * it. If he dates anyone else. * everyone feels he is double- * crossing his fiancee and it re- * fleets no credit on him nor on * the girl he dates; she appears * to be so anxious for a beau * that she will go out with any- * one who asks her. * This girl evidently expects * to marry the boy, so why don't * you realize what unpleasant * gossip you are inviting? I do * not think you would be flat- * tered to know what his friends * (perhaps yours, too) are say- * ing. He wants to eat his cake * and have it; but so long as his * engagement is accepted, he * owes his complete loyalty to * the girl he proposed to. * Better not see him at all. Readers of this column are in- vited to bring their problems to Anne Hirst. Her common sense, her years of experience and her warn sympathy have helped thousands of troubled people to better lives. Write her freely, addressing her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth Street, New Toronto, Ontario. 9'HE SLA OF MATRIMONY—Allowing neither time nor tide to interfere with their marriage plans, iJlisse Milan and Teresa Greguoldo (centre, holding hands) were wed in a. floating ceremony by .Father Don Bellini at Robigo, Italy, 'Thousands acres in the area were inundated by a disastrous floodof Vatic Sea and Po 'River. TOGETHER AGAIN—Ethel Merman, left, and Ginger Rogers, who . started in show business together about 28 years ago, team up here to help the v!ttims of hemophilia. The stars give it their all in a duet at a fund-raising party of the Hemophilia Foundation. wilt -doll.. r.e P. C l „rlke Don't ever under -estimate the power of a baby! You thought I was going to say "woman" didn't you? Well, a woman is something to be reckoned with too — but the power of a woman ie as nothing compared with the power of a baby. One small infant can throw a monkey- wrench as effectively as a plum- ber. I am finding that out more and more. Frow now on when I make any plans I shall quali- fy them by saying — "Unless a baby, either male or female, shall interfere with my plans". Events, past, present and future, bear me out. I have already told you about having grandson Eddie here for just over a month; how we postponed so many things "un- til after Eddie had gone home". After Eddie, bless his mischiev- ous little soul, finally went home, we felt free to come and go es we pleased. We could say yes or no to any invitation — and as you know, I went to the W.I. Convention. The follow- ing Wednesday i had promised to be at our local branch meet- ing to hear the delegate give her report. But that's where the first baby interruption came in. A neighbour received a sudden emergency call to a Toronto hos- pital ... would I look after her baby until she returned. Well, her mission was greater than mine so I baoy sat until four o'clock. I took a quick run down to the Hall afterwards and heard the last five minutes of the dele- gate's report and also presented my apologies. That same right Joy phoned — would I look after Ross while she was at the hairdresser's. 'Without a second thought '1 agreed. Aftcrwards 1 remember- ed I had promised to take some ladies to a church meeting -- W.A. — next day. It was a luncheon meeting and I expected to be back by three so Partner thought he could fill in for al hour. He did! Luckily I wasn't late In fast 1 came in a litt e; ahead of time. ?artnet was wai:.- ing the floor with Ross and h ld been for fifteen minutes. If he sat down or stopped walkine Roes raised his voice. I took of 3*r and for an hour the little rascal was a perfect lainb, played ou the floor as contented as could be. When he seemed tired I rot. him in his cot and oft he vrer,t • to sleep. I think the real trouble was that Ross doesn't see ton much of his father and so isn't used to being handled•by a roan. However Partner survived encs I'm glad 1 went to that meeti.ix; because the timing was a little unusual. Instead of meeting at two o'clock the members agreed to meet at noon, each taking her own lunch, the hostess providing tea and coffee By this means the meeting closed at two.thirt,r and the members were able to get home before there was :muelI heavy traffic and while it ,was still: light. 1 thought it was an excellent idea to pass along — one that might appeal to the 'VV.L as farmers' wives are always anxious to get home before chore time. Too often women stay away from meetings because they are afraid of getting home late. And now back to more baby entanglements. Partner has lead a suitcase packed for two weeks ready for a visit to Horning's Mills. The situation is this: Our friends up north are prospective grandparents. An soon as the ex- pected baby arrives the proud father is taking Partner up north to stay with grandfather and on the return trip bringing grandma back to look after his other' two children until after the mother and new baby have returned from the hospital. I hope I've made that clear! However, the baby was two weeks late in arriving so three families were definitely on edge, none being able to make any definite plans to do anything or go anywhere. So I repeat — never under-esti• maize the power of a baby — born or unborn. Tonight Bob and Joy have gone to the Royal Winter Fair. They would have taken us along too but . . , well, somebody had to stay home and baby-sit. Our turn will cone later. If the w e at h e r remains favourable Partner and I hope to have a day at the Fair before he goes north. Incidentally that little trip has been ,postponed for •a few clays so grandma can stay longer after the baby gets home. I Speaking of farms last Friday Partner and i paid a visit' to Ginger Farm. At least we went passed it and noticed great earth- moving machines were at work. It was too muddy to drive in but from what we could see it won't be too long before Ginger Farm as we know it will cease to exist The buildings are still there but after awhile they will be completely dwarfed by a 27 - foot grade that is creeping closer clay by day However, next year M.,, leen Etiquette by Roberta Lee • s • Q. If for some reason — social or business — a family has had its name legally changed, how should friends and acquaintances be informed of this? A. The quickest and simplest way is to mail out formal an- nouncements: "IV.r. and Mrs. John Stoningham announce that by permission of the court they and their children have taken the family name of Stone." Q. Is it proper to name the sec- ond son "junior" for his father, or is this title always supposed to be conferred on the Wiest son? A. The "junior" in a family need not be the first son. Q. Is it necessary that all the !nen stand at a dinner table until all the women have been seated? A. Yes. Q. When signing her name to a business letter, must an un- married woman use "Miss" in front of her name? A. Yes; but the "Miss" should -be enclosed in parentheses, as, (Miss) Patricia S. Moore. A mar- ried woman should abide by this rule, too. . Q. Should a girl discard her engagement ring when her fiance dies? A. She may wear it for so long as she likes. This may be for all her life, or it may be that in time she will fall in love with some- one else and replace it with an- other ring. Q. When a roan brings a guest to his home and presents him to his wife, does she make use of the customary acknowledgement, "How do you do"? A. In this instance, it is "better if the wife shows a little more cordiality and adds, "I am very glad to see you," or some such similar expression. we shall have a little bit of Ginger Farm at Halfway House — from the spring -flowering bulbs that we brought along with us. But oh dear, there's a big gap between now and spring, isn't there? ISSUE 50 — 1957 == Week's Sew -Thrifty PRINTED PATTERN 4846 SIZES 10--20 Jumper with companion blouse — or figure - flattering dress„ You'll love the versatility of this new Printed Pattern. Note itrt smart double - breasted bodice; easy 6 -gore skirt. Printed Pattern 4846: Misses' Sizes 10, 12, 14, 16, 18, 20. Sizes 16 jumper 4% yards 35 -inch nap; blouse 21 yards 35 -inch fabric,. Printed directions on each pat- tern part. Easier, accurate. Send FORTY CENTS (400 (stamps cannot be accepted, ups postal note for safety) for this pattern. Please print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. HER WEDDING DAY — Cecile Dionne, 23, and her husband, Phillipe Langlois, 26, are shown leaving the church after their marriage ceremony in Corbeil, Ontario. The town is not far from where the happy bride and her four sisters were born. WORLD'S SAFEST AUTOMOBILE -The Rev. Alfred Juliano, Roman Catholic priest and student of fine arts at Yale University, sits at the wheel of his "Aurora", a car he designed himself. Father Juliano cols it the "world's safest automobile"; it features a front-end air scoop instead of a grill, a laminated glass body and floor and a tinted transparent roof. The dream -car created a great stir in New York, after taking almost 10 hours to make the run from Bran- ford, ramford, Conn„ normally a two-hour frip. A clogged 'fuel line contributed to 15 breakdowns on the way, w.a