Zurich Herald, 1957-06-27, Page 6,RE'S 11 YEARS OLDER
IIOULle THEY MARRY?
"Dear Anne Hirst: The plan
I've loved for five years is 29,
aid I am 40. Almost from the
Arse he has begged me to marry
im, but I have hesitated be-
ause of our ages. He declares that
oesn't matter, and if I didn't
now his age I would think it
Was my own because we are so
t Fitthome together. But I have to
e fair, and perhaps he should
d someone younger.
"You should know that I am
e widow with two teen-age
hxldren; he loves them, and
they think he's wonderful, (He
Was married at 19 and lost his
wife.) I have stopped seeing
him several times, but we found
Ourselves completely miserable
Apart. Now he is pleading once
:more that he needs a wife and
that it is me he wants. But if
1 don't make up my mind soon,
he will leave town for good;
he suspense is telling on him.
"I have read your column for
ivears, and now he is reading it,
oo, and thinks it makes sense.
e are putting it up to you.
Slim a,° d Smart!
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From your long experience, is
11 years too great a span to con-
quer when we are both so much
in love? I'm not getting young-
er, and I neverr thought of mar-
rying again until I met him, We
ask your most thoughtful coun-
sel.
IN DOUBT"
.HOUR OF DECISION
• Isn't five years long enough
e to test this man's devotion and
* faithfulness? He is respon-
e Bible, single -hearted, impa-
* tient to marry. If you waited
* another year woul you know
* him any better?
* You both have been mar-
* ried before. You are rich in
* experience, familiar with the
* complications of family life.
* He is eager to share your res-
* ponsibilty for the children. If
* you had the faintest doubt
* that he would make his own
* place with you all, I would
* not suggest marriage. But you
* say he and the children get
* along as though he were al-
* ready their father.
* The man is obviously older
* than his years. Your heart is
* young; and you two enjoy the
* same things, have similar
* ideals of marriage. The trust
* you have in each other has
* been unswerving almost since
* the beginning.
* I agree that the man you
* love has waited long enough.
* For once I can enjoy the
* pleasure of recommending the
* marriage a reader desires, Go
* ahead.
* * *
YOUNG LOVE
"Dear Anne Hirst: I am 17
and all mixed up. I am in love
with a boy a year older, but
there is another one who thinks
he is in love with me, although
he knows I don't return it.
"My sweetheart thinks 1
should stop seeing this young
man because if he gets to care
more for me he would be hurt
worse when I must send him
away.
"What do you think? Isn't it
all right to date him so long
as I don't lead him on?
WONDERING"
* If you are engaged to the
* boy you love it is not consi-
* derate to date anyone else. If
* you and he are not pledged
* to marry, however, you are
* free to see anyone you wish.
* At your age it is smart to
* accept the fact that the boy
* you are in love with may not
* become your hsuband; either
* one of you can change your
* mind in the next year or so.
* If this happens and you have
* given up other friends, you'll
* have to start finding new
* beaux all over again. Mean-
* time you'll have no dates at
* all. That isn't practical, is it?
* If this other boy wants to
* date you, knowing you are in
* love with someone else, that is
* up to him.
* * *
When doubts assail you, turn
to Anne Hirst. Her opinions are
sound as well as honest, and she
will disagree with you if she
must. Write her at Box 1, 123
Eighteenth St., New Toronto,
Ont.
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a good portrait of my wife?"
said a prospective client to an
artist.
"My dear sir, I can make it
so life -like that you'll jump
every time you see it," was the
reply.
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FOUR FET ABOVE SEA LEVEL•-• 'oot-loase and fancy-free here's
a vacation scene from a vacationer's eye -view. The cool drinks
end lower extremeties belong to a pair of contented visitors
in Daytona Beach.
BARBECUE—Bandleader Spike Jones demonstrates that he's
serious about reforming his band — and his wardrobe. Spike
and his wife, Helen, "barbecue" his loud plaids in the backyard
of his Beverly Hills home. It's navy blue cashmere from now
on for Spike, who's determined to get rid of his "musical. clown"
title. He says his television audience "likes the old favorites."
11NGE,ri
even dolir.e P. ClAxice
Here is an item of news that
should be of interest to anyone
Iiving in an area where a new
hospital is under construction.
Last Saturday I went to the
cornerstone ceremony of the
South -Peel Hospital just two
miles from our new home. I
went because up to that times
I hadn't been able to get any
factual information about the
hospital at all. Now I at least
know a few of the details. For
instance I discovered it is to be
a 125 -bed hospital with possible
expansion to 250 beds if and
when that becomes necessary.
The first meeting called to con-
sider the building of a hospital
was held as far back as March,
1953. Committees were set up
and the work of planning and
development begun. As a re-
sult structural progress is now
underway and completion of the
hospital is expected in January
1958. In addition to the Board
of Directors there is also a
Women's Auxiliary with a paid-
up membership of 1900! The
membership fee is $1 per year
per person.
The chairman for the official
ceremony on Saturday was Gor-
don Jackson, Q.C., chairman of
the Board of Directors. Thomas
L. Kennedy introduced Lieuten.
ant -Governor Louis O. Breith-
aupt, who was presented with a
silver trowel by the architect,
Chester C. Wood, with which the
cornerstone was formally laid.
A copper box inset in the corner-
stone contained a number of
items — a set of 1957 Canadian
coins; copies of the Toronto Star,
the Port Credit Weekly and the
Streetsville Review, all contain-
ing news reports relating to the
hospital -- names of directors,
and minutes of the first meeting.
I mention this as it may be an
idea • for other districts under
similar circumstances. And do
you know, according to the chair-
man the Board had no financial
worries! However he admitted
there might be some at a later
date "when the time came to
equip the hospital." "But that,"
said Mr. Jackson, "is a worry
that we shall pass on to you,
the people"'
It was a very nice little cere-
t rnony, although held under
threatening skies, The Lieuten-
ant -Governor and Mrs. Breith-
aupt were attended by Lieut -Col-
onel J. G. McInnes and drove up
in a beautiful black Cadillac..
Mrs. Breithaupt and Mrs. Jack-
son were presented with gorgeous
bouquets of red roses. There
were quite a number of platform
guests but I noticed there was
only a mere sprinkling of peo-
ple among the general public„
Perhaps the weather had some..
thing to do with it -- but I
doubt it. If people really want to
go anywhere they just go, re-
gardless. It is hard to under-
stand the apathetic attitude so
many people take in regard to
the building of a hospital in their
own district. You would think
it didn't affect them at all. And
yet there is hardly a person who
hasn't been, or probably will be,
a patient in a local hospital.
Small towns and districts are
rapidly becoming bigger towns
and bigger districts and the
faster they grow the more ur-
gently hospital facilities are
likely to be needed.
South -Peel, for instance, serves
a populated area of 65,000 peo-
ple. On the basis of population
one wonders how a 125 -bed hos-
pital could possibly be large
enough to accommodate those in
need of nursing and surgical
care — especially when the av-
erage life expectancy is being
prolonged.
In that regard last week I
heard . quite a lot about older
people and their care as I sat in
on some of the sessions at the
"First Ontario Conference on
Aging" held at the University of
Toronto. The conference was
well attended. Most people are
becoming conscious of the fact.
that problems connected with
aging citizens have to be faced.
One of the speakers I heard was
Dr. E. L. Bortz from Philadel-
phia who got most of his points
over in a humorous but convinc-
ing manner. He said we .need to
change our •way of thinking;
that too many people allow their
minds to dwell too much on the
subjectof sickness; that people
eat twice as much as they should,
do not get enough exercise, .be-
come over -weight, and over-
weight causes blood vessels to
break down. By adequate exer-
cise, correct 'diet, proper elimin-
ation, nerves, muscles and circu-
lation are kept in a healthy con-
dition. If more of us lived as
diabetics live — that is, in re-
gard to diet — avoiding over-
weight, then we might dodge
many of the illnesses that" so
often beset people in their later
years. With proper living life
might be extended to 120 years.
"However," said Dr. Bortz, "life
isn't a matter of quantity but
of quality."
Dr, Barbara Shenfield, Lon-
don, England, stressed the im-
portance of making older peo-
ple feel wanted -: a part of the
community, with • confidence and
an interest in life. It was all
very interesting — to the young
with aging parents; to the old,
comforted by the fact that aging
is getting some attention; and
to the middle-aged, because fore,
warned is forearmed. How to
meet old age is more practical
than trying toforestall it -- and
not nearly so pathetic.
ISSUE 26 — 1957
Canadian Wo/;
Saves Babies From
Living `Iteath
Heroism is a diamond with
many facets, And I have known
many "diamonds" — people who,
at one time or another in their
lives, have performed heroic
acts.
In the Bolivian Andes I saw a
white man face up to a drug-
crazed crowd of Aymara Indians
with nothing more than a riding
crop in his hand. In the Gulf of
Mexico I watched a chap dive
overboard to rescue his pet pup
that was being circled by a tiger
shark, The dog was saved, the
man lived but lost a leg.
And during a South American
revolution, from an upstairs
window I once watched a cour-
ageous young army lieutenant
hold the presidential palace for
three hours, his machine-gun
burning his hands, while the
president and his family escaped
through a back- door.
These are just a few of the
acts of heroism that I have wit-
nessed. But there is, I am con-
vinced, a truer type of bravery;
the kind that makes a man or a
woman face up to danger and
horror, not once in a while, but
every day for years on end.
That particular kind of cour-
age is personified in a frail
Canadian woman called Helen
Mackenzie.
When she was a young girl in
Western Canada, Helen dreamed
of the day when she would marry
and raise a family. The neigh-
bours knew they could always
count on her for a' stint of baby-
sitting. The girl's love for little
ones, her natural ability to pacify
and handle them, was well
known, and if Helen had fewer
dates than most • of her girl
friends, it was only because must .
evenings found her busily en-
gaged in child care.
In the passing of years Helen's
urge to befriend babies and chil-
dren did not lessen, and after
she graduated as a nurse she
joined a world wide 'evangelical
organization 'and asked to be sent
where she could apply her talent
to child welfare.
"Would you consider," she was
asked, "West Africa, Portuguese
Guinea, where fifteen per cent.
et the Negro population suffers
from leprosy and where the
summers are long, horribly hot
and humid?"
Her answer was: "Where is
my ticket and when do 1 leave?"
' On arrival at Bissau, Helen was
informed that the Colonial
Portuguese Government had just
given its consent for the mission
to care for the babies of leprous
parents. Would she take over?
Helen did so.
Children of leprous parents
are born healthy and do not
catch the disease unless they
live in close proximity to the
sufferers. But the Negro lepers,
both through the influence of
their witch -doctors and because
of their reluctance to believe in
white men, were loath to part
with their babies, and couldn't
understand that mothers who
kept their little ones at their
sides were passing the "living
death" on to them.
Helen had the dual task of '
visiting remote jungle villages
and trying to convince sullen,
antagonistic parents that they
should give up their new-born
children, and caring for those
babies that were handed over to
her.
Often she was threatened, fre-
quently she was refused admis-
sion to a village, and the price
she paid for success was poor
food, sleeping on ,}ice - infested
straw mats or tl,e bare, damp
ground, writes J. Mortimer Shep.
pard in "Tit-13its."
Usually she travelled alone in
a small car, but this transporta•
tion was only goad for limited
distances; the dirt roads, deep iu
summer dust or winter mud, did
not extend far; although the vil-
lage or isolated shack that she
was seeking might be scores of
miles away in the interior brush
country.
Sometimes Helen rode a bi-
cycle; at others she walked, and
the babies that she brought baelt
to the mission with her were us-
ually delivered by the valiant
nurse as well.. She had to use the
skill of a diplomat together with
the knowledge of an obstetrician
and the courage of an explorer.
Babies born of lepers,. whale
free from leprosy if taken al
on c e, . are almost invariably
weaklings and require expert
feeding and medical attention.
Some of these babies ,tied, des-
pite every effort to save them,
and village headmen and witch -
doctors were quick to blame
Nurse Mackenzie, and claim that
the white woman had murdered
the child.
Cannibalism is still practised
in parts of the West African
Guineas, although the Portu-
guese have done all possible to
eliminate this horrible custom.
And some of the natives were
quick to claim that Nurse Mac-
kenzie and her mission associates
stole -newly-born Negro babies
in order to eat them.
It is almost impossible to be-
lieve, much less understand, how
this great - hearted Canadian
woman could carry on against
such odds. Yet she did, and still
does. When 1 visited the mis-
sion, there were fourteen little
ones, some of them well info
their third year, and mole sche-
duled to make their appearance
in the coming weeks and months,
Helen had to obtain, through
her own private "grapevine,"
advance notice of a baby's com-
ing, so that she could endea-
vour to persuade the expectant
mother to give up her child, ar-
range to be on hand for the ar-
rival, deliver it and remove it
from' the family danger zone
within a matter of hours at the
most.
Some of the more intelligent
Negroes could be convinced with-
out too much difficulty of the
need to part from their chil-
dren. Others would refuse flat-
ly, and no amount of sound ar-
gument could influence them,
Portuguese district officers would
give Helen a hand when they
could, and tried to make it clear
to the natives that this woman
was not to be harmed. But the
fearless nurse has often entered
jungle regions where even the
police hesitated to probe, or rare-
ly did so.
While Helen Mackenzie's first
concern is the saving of babies,
she has also become very knowl-
edgeable in the treatment of
leprosy. When making the
rounds of Negro villages, she
carries with her the latest drugs
used to combat the disease and
gives regular injections and
treatment to a large number of
sufferers.
Many of her patients have
shown marked improvement and
these people have helped Helen
in her ceaseless efforts to make
other lepers believe in her prim-
ary mission to save little ones.
This woman's life is given over
to self sacrifice; to a hardship
.that few would or could endure.
Hers is a vocation that needs the
utmost in steadfast courage.
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MINIATURE MILLINERY Jane Blank, a freshman at Our Lady
of Cincinnati College, has a unique hobby, She makes miniature
hats for hard-boiled eggs. It all began several Easters age
when Jane decided she had had enough of bareheaded hard-
boiled eggs. As the hobby expanded so did the models -her
eggs are now the large plastic ones used to trick unsuspecting
hens. Each egg stands on a paper collars kr4mmed with a nedi
bow or net to match the touches on the hat, It takes Jane abet/
three hours to whip up one of her Dacus -tike creations.
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