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Zurich Herald, 1957-05-23, Page 61 • • e 1 0 e‘k*N sia "Why all this to-do among arried children as to where their aged parents should live?" Olene wife, whose privacy has een sacrifced since her hus- 'and's mother carne to live with Vieth, is shocked by what she *ails the modern attitude of so Many young couples who close their doors against intruding alder folk. "The arrangement is not entirely satisfactory," she Confesses, "but if you haven't the Money t� pay fora lonely moth- er to live somewhere else, what can you do 'but take her in and. Snake her declining years as pleasant as you can? "My mother-in-law doesn't like to be alone at night so my husband and I have few chances to go out together. She has a few contemporary friends left; and X take them for drives, bring them here to dinner, and other- wise keep them in touch with each other, I don't mind doing this; they are nice old people, and as the years creep upon me, 1 find myself more in sympathy with their ideas and habits. "My own training makes this easier for me than for some others, I expect. For years my grandmother lived with us, and her domineering tendencies irk- ed rked us youngsters no end; but we were brought up to accept it without complaining, and it Certainly did us no harm. "There is just one problem: my husband has many friends, and loves to be with theme, I • Color Beauty; WttELGA Queen of color—the peacock displays all its vivid beauty in this embroidery design! Many different poses, each a lovely de- coration for towel s, scarfs, cloths. Pattern 622: Transfer of 8 pea- cocks 5x6 to 6x111/4 inches. Embroidery you'll be proud to chow! Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern to LAURA WHEELER, fox 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. Print plainly PAT- TERN NUMBER, your NAME and ADDRESS. Our gift to you—two wonder- ful patterns for yourself, your home—printed in our Laura Wheeler Needlecraft Book . Plus dozen of other new designs to order—crochet, knitting, em- broidery, iron -ons novelties. Send 25 cents for your copy of this book NOW—with gift patterns printed in it! know he gets bored sitting home night after night, and he won't go out unless I go along. Have you any ideas that would help give us more freedom?" * How times have changed! * When this wife was growing * up, few couples would have * permitted their parents to live * anywhere but with them. * Their compelling sense of * duty, their pride and their * compassion made such an idea * offensive, and they took it in * their stride with no thought of * resentment. * It is true that the presence * of any older person, day after * day and year after year, de- * stroys the hope of personal * privacy; not o n 1 y is the * couple's social life restricted * but their habits are revised to * suit the scene. Many aged * people grow querulous, self- * pitying, careless of their per- * sonal daintiness, and otherwise * difficult. To maintain harmony * in the household, understand- * ing and patience must be * practised, daily; yet how re- * warding is such discipline, * especially for the children * growing up! * * * COLLEGE OR JOB? "Dear Anne Hirst: Some of the fellows in my class at college fell a distinct urge to get ahead faster than we can here. I do, too. We wonder whether you could give us some suggestions as to what fields to enter. We are sick of school and none of us . likes to study. "I am not afraid of hard work, and I'm only staying here be- cause my parents want me to. I want to make money now. My father's finances are not in very good shape, and there's a younger brother too. "What sort of jobs should I and my buddies try for?" "WE WANT OUT" * If I could tell you which * field would insure your flnan- * cial success and that of your * friends, I'd never have to * work again. * One thing I am sure of, * however; your parents do not * want you to leave college •in * your first year and flounder * about from one job to another, * getting nowhere. They are * making sacrifices to provide * the cultural background that * will prepare you to be Some- * body in whatever career you * choose, and they. are happy * and proud to contribute ex- * penses. When you have gained * that background, you will * know what you want to do, * as will your friends. * You all can best show your * appreciation by applying your- * selves to your studies (no mat- * ter how you hate them) and * graduating with honors. that * will reflect on your families. * as well as on you. I know you * won't let them down. * * "Honor thy father and thy mother, etc.," is a commandment too often shrugged aside. The later remorse is not easy to live with, as many confess, but then it is too late ... This problem and others that confront married couples can be handled tactfully when Anne Hirst's comments are followed. Write her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New To- ronto, Ont. The telephone rang and kept on ringing, but the new typist made no move to answer it. "Why don't you answer the 'phone?" asked the boss irritably. The girl stopped typing and considered the matter. "I will if you like," she replied, shrugging her shoulders, "but it seems a ' bit silly to me. It's bound to be for you; none of my friends know I'm here yet. WONDER, WORRY, WOE — It's curiosity on the left, apprehen- sion in the middle and outright panic on the right. What's troubling triplets Harbert, Emily Anne and June Ann Wooley, 10 months old? Polio injections. June Ann is getting hers now %and her sister and brother don't -seem anxious to follow suit. CAMPUS ROYALTY — Pretty Kittiet, 19, makes an attractive picture frame by college pennants and ivy. She's been named "Hunter College Queen." HRONICLES IINGERFARM Gwendolin¢ D. Ctachz We are here—in our new home —at least we think we are. As to that I am not quite sure be- cause for the last few days we have been living in two places at once and moving by degrees. We sold some of our oversize furniture and traded in the elec- tric stove and refrigerator so that eliminated moving a lot of heavy stuff. What was left Johnny was able to bring .over in his truck, making two trips. "What was left"—that sounds as if there wasn't very much, doesn't it? Ye gods—you should see our basement! Half the con- tents of the old farm home seem to be there. Somehow, some time, we shall get things straightened away but at the moment what we want is never where we expect it to be. Sounds like bad organization, doesn't it? Well, it is and it isn't. We start- ed out labeling everything that was packed and thought there would be no confusion at all. And then it rained. A very heavy rain that temporarily put an end to work on the land. ' Johnny, naturally, wanted to move our stuff during the wet spell. So over he came and to make a long story short everything in sight was loaded into the truck—sorted and unsorted. And the end is not yet in sight—at least not for me. Over at the farm there are still most of my books, pa- pers and historical reference ma- terial. It was useless to bring the stuff over until we had some place ready to receive it. Other things 'too — dishes, ornaments, pictures and house linen—any- thing that could be brought over in a car. So we have been driving back and forth—the first part of last week sleeping at.the farm, the latter part at "Halfway House." By the end of the week we were too tired to organize anything properly and forgot to bring the very things we needed most. One day there was no bread and at breakfast coffee but nothing to make it in. Instant coffee would have been all right but that had been left at the farm. However, Friday afternoon. I went shopping . and what a treat that was! Down in the vil- lage there is a very nice general store—all the usual staples plus 2rozen foods and excellent fresh meat. AND NO PARKING PROBLEMS! I was back home in fifteen minutes and all my shopping done. Prices were com parable with most of the gro- ceterias and there was fio line up at the cash register. And' what is it like around here? Believe it or not it is quieter than it was on the farm. Except for the birds. Such lots of birds, mainly, I suppose, be- cause there are plenty of trees. It is wonderful to step outside, see them hopping around on the lawn or singing from the tree- tops. It may be because•,there is no fast traffic on our road. The only people who use the road are residents, their visitors and delivery men. And yet if one should hanker for traffic five minutes' walk takes you to the busy Dundas highway—we can see the cars through gaps be- t vecn the trees, On the .whole we think we are going to like it here very well. The new house seemed strange at first but now that we have some of our old furniture in it, it seems to feel more like home —especially as from my den I can look outside and there is Rusty! Yes, we brought him along last Saturday, more or less as an experiment. If he settles down we shall keep him. If he doesn't there is a good home waiting for him elsewhere. None of the family wants us to part with him so I guess the rest is .up to Rusty. So far he has be- haved very well .in spite of the fact that a German Shepherd lives on the next lot. Of course he will have to be tied up more than he has been used to but when he is taken out for a walk Partner will get exercise too and that will be good for both of them. Last Saturday we were all down at the farm, each one gath- ering up whatever he or she wanted from the things that were left. Dave wanted to go to the barn. When he got there he wondered where all the chickies. had gone. Eddie had a great time crawling around the floors through the almost empty rooms. A, couple of visitors blew in and we managed to find enough old cups to have a cup of tea. Dee had brought along cookies and tarts. The day before when Part- ner and I were there alone the surveyors were very busy and were working nearer to the house .than they had done on any previous occasion. The tables seemed to be turned—we began to feel that we were the'intrud- ers, not the surveyors. However, we have not yet given up posseg- sion of the farm so 'we have every right to come and go as we please for .a few days yet. I hate to think what the place will look like in a few weeks time after the grass and weeds have taken over. Maybe it will look so awful we shall be glad to keep away from it. On the other hand it might be rented until the road machinery moves in. We don't know'and apparently no one else does either, In some respects the Department of Highways stays very close to Biblical pre- cepts—its left hand never know% What its right hand is doing! .'Very erudite and so conceited about it that he does crossword puzzles with a fountain pen.' SALLY'S SALLIES a,a 'This Is Doctor's new screen for his special TV eye tests." ISSUE; 21 --- 1957 Modern Etiquette Shapely by Roberta Lee Q. Isn't it all right to send a typewritten letter of condolence, signing it of course by hand? A. While it is acceptable now to type most social letters, it still is considered more proper to write the letter of condolence by hand — this seeming to in- dicate more personal and more sincere warmth. Q. When a house guest wishes to give his hostess a little gift of appreciation, when should he present it? A, He may bring it along and present it soon after his arrival, at some timeduring his visit, or send it to her soon after his return home. This, of course, does not relieve him of his ob- ligation to write that all-impor- tant "bread and butter" letter to his hostess promptly after his return home. Q. What is the proper way to eat Italian spaghetti? A. It is probably better to avoid embarrassment or mishap by breaking it with the fork, un- less you are very dexterous and thoroughly experienced in the Italian manner of eating it. Q. Isn't it all right, when in- troducing a man to a woman, merely to say, "Miss Collins, Mr. Philips?" A. Yes, with a slight pause between the names. Q. When the guests begin lighting cigarettes after a meal in someone's home, and you find there is no ashtray near you, is it all right to use one of the used dishes in front of you? 'A. Never. Don't light your ci- garette until you have asked your hostess if you may have an ashtray. Q. At a church wedding, on which side of the main aisle should pews be reserved for the bride's family and for the bride- groom's family? A. The left side (facing the altar) for the bride's family, the right side for the bridegroom's family. Q. Is there any rule of eti- quette governing the length of marriage engagements? A. No; but long engagements are not so common as they were years ago. The usually accepted length of an engagement today is about six months: .• Sheath NEW PRINTED PA'1TF,RN 4670 SIZES 12-20 410.44 Our new PRINTED PATTERN takes a shapely sheath and makes it even prettier by clever use of trim! Notice how sleek; smart double-breasted line i* accented by pockets, large col- lar -effect in bright • contrast color! Printed Pattern 4670: Misses' Sizes 12, 14, 16, 18, 20. Size 11 requires 33/a yards 39 -inch fab- ric. Printed directions on each pattern part. Easier, faster, an- notate. Send FIFTY CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern. Please print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYL! NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., Nei, Toronto, Ont. WILLING WORKER—Named the national "Goodwill Worker of 1957," Mrs. Genevieve. Farris, 26, flips the pages of a telephone book with a knobbed stick while on a visit to Washington. Stricktn by polio at 22, she partially supports herself andan eight-year-old 4aughter by working as a telephone solicitor for Goodwill Industries. Using a knobbed shoe, Mrs. Farris dials a telephone placed on the floor. TERRIBLE BLOW — Tommy Krueger, 18, rigged up this musical melting pot "just for fun." But the laughs ended when he found It was in the wrong key for his high school band. Tommy "blended'" parts of a trombone, mellophone and trumpet for this e"WhatsiI."