Loading...
Zurich Herald, 1957-04-18, Page 6AN NE 141 STowt, ragtag anuotetyt, `Dear Arinisei Hirst: Please help me! A "eo44le of lady rela- tives were good to me as a child, when they livet1 in another city and took me for school vaca- tions, etc. I appreciate it, and d'on't want to hurt them, but now they live in my town and have taken over my life com- pletely! My husband and I can- not move without them; they expect us to be visiting them or bringing them to our house con- tinually. We don't have a Sun- day to call our own — and they go along with us on our vaca- tions, practically demanding this. "Now my husband has re- belled, He says he is tired of all this, and that we're too young to be chumming with them, They're in their 60's, we're in our 30's. How can I tell them? It seems so mean! If only they'd be satisfied with every other Sunday, it would help; I've sug- gested that, but I felt guilty. This is the 'only argument be- tween my husband and me. 'Our vacation is not too far off, and my husband insists he is not going to take them with us. How can I get out of it and keep peace all around? Some- times I feel they have a rope around my neck and just keep pulling! "We also have my parents to watch over and try to keep happy; they have no car, either, but they don't demand and cling to us the way these two relatives do. If you can help even a little, I'd be more than grateful, A WORRIED WIFE.' ABNORMAL, UNFAIR * This situation is all wrong; * it is neither normal nor fair. * It should not have continued * after your marriage, for week- * ends, holidays and vacations * belong to you and your * spouse. By including others * in your leisure, you have * cheated yourselves of price - 4' less privacy which all married * couples, need. Also, you * should have been mingling * with your own friends. The * two elderly ladies should * have cultivated contemporary * friends' of their own, and * found outlets for their time * and energy. * I am amazed that your hus- !" band did not rebel long ago. Tho time to make a break is f long past due. * The reasons you will give " these relatives are you own o choice: * Perhaps you can tell them ? that this year you two plan a • vacation which would prove '+ too strenuous for their par- '+ ticipation, or you are spend- * ing it with friends, or your * husband's complete relaxation " demands a different schedule. ' You • will have to open the " way to living by yourselves. * After your return, you can make similar excuses for not " seeing them regularly: you " have met new friends who are congenial, your social life has R grown more active, etc. Of course, you will not neglect " them entirely, but as time " passes, you will find it easier " to evade this constant visitimg back and forth. It isn't going to be easy, but CAPITAL GAIN --Cologne, West Germany, lent shapely Hilde- garde Kuehn to the capital city of Bonn for the competition to ;select entries for the "Miss Ger- many" beauty contest. The 20 - year -old "lend - lease" beauty won the "Miss Bonn" title, A music student, she was disquali- fied in lost year's contest. * can be done. Overcome your * feeling of guilt. It is proper * that you be grateful for your * friends' past 'hospitality, but * that does not imply that yon * must spendthe rest of your * life proving your gratitude. * Be thankful that your hus- * band wants a life of his own * and with his wife, whose chief * interest is keeping her hus- * band happy in his own way. * *. MOM WOULD REMARRY "Dear Anne Hirst: I am un- decided about marrying an old friend of my deceased husband. My two son live with me; one will soon have a home of his own, and the other one is so pop- ular that I expect he'll be snatched up in a year or two. They are grand boys, and I. would not do anything to dis- turb their happiness. "Do you think my boys. will understand how much I want a Life of my own? My husband and I had a wonderful marriage, and I do miss the companionship of a man my own age. But .if the boys object, I wouldn't go ahead. If I remarry, the man will move in with me and my sons. LONELY." * I wish I could have printed * your whole letter. You have * been a wonderful friend to * your sons, more like a con- * temporary than an elder, and * you have made a fine life for * all of you. You say they ad- * mire the man who wants to * marry you, and he is con- * genial and understanding. * When you tell the boys, be * sure to add that if they do not * like the idea, you will not * marry anybody. But I expect * they will tell you to go ahead, * and welcome the man warmly. * * * When two people marry, it should be the aim of each to keep the other happy. Any other responsibilities should come second to that supreme desire. In ;,-title of embarrassment or confusion of duties, ask Anne Hirst's'. advice. Address her at Box l 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. "I just cannot see," said a newly-wed wife to her husband, as they gazed in a furniture shop window; "how they make all that furniture out of those crinkly little walnuts." Newest Crochet d• eiwte4 1f Y R.1GQ1I. A handsome set for modern and traditional homes! Simple filet crochet, .with K stitch sets off the deer design so effectiv- ely. Make chair or buffet set, scarf ends! Pattern 598: Chart, direc- tions for chairback 12 x 16 inch- es, armrest 61/2 x 12 in No. 50 cotton. Send THIRTY-1?IVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted; use postal note for safety) to Laura Wheeler,'Box 1, 123 •Eighteenth• St., New Toronto, Ont. Print plainly PATTERN NUMBER, your NAME and ADDRESS. Our gift to you -- two won- derful patterns for yourself, your home -- printed in our Laura Wheeler Needlecraft Book ... Plus dozens of other new designs to order — cro- chet, knitting, embroidery, iron- ons, novelties. Send 25 cents far your cepy of this book NOW --with gift patterns printed in it. • iSSiilE la w.- *a BROKEN BUBBLES—Someone's. always taking the joy out of life and actress Tao Strong, above', is no exception. In a New York` rehearsal she demonstrates w a girl takes a bubble bath on television. To see how the "babble bath" will look on the screen, , just cover up the bottom hatF of the picture. Sunshine . . . bright, warm,' beautiful sunshine, Is there any- thing that contributes more to a person's outlook and well- - being •— especially if you are out in it? But that's the trouble, there is so much to do indoors, and because the ground is still very wet we don't have any real excuse for getting outside to work, No excuse at all, so there is only one thing to do, just get outside if we want to anwl,. enjoy it, no matter what. Right now, before the weeds start to grow, is a good time for making discoveries — and :I think ' made a discovery yesterday.,` am not sure but I appear to have four geraniums that have survived the winter. The stalks are rotted but coming up from the roots there are small' healthy branches with clusters of little leaves. They are on the south side of the house Weil protected from north - weet winds. If they are geraniums it is on account of good luck and mis-management. Last fall. I did not clean up this particular bed so the plants got left there. Other discoveries I made were not so pleasing. The rabbits really went to town on my shrubs. They even nibbled branches from the cedars. We never have done anything in the way of prevention but :I suppose we shall have to if we are going to have so many un- wanted livestock around. It ;is disheartening to leave godd:; healthy shrubs in the fall arid .find them about half thelea proper size in the spring. Bt', then, the poor little rabbi s, have to live too — but I wil'i, they would take to the woo ` or feed on wild shrubs. The nice weather last week brought us a full quota of visit- ors. In fact we had a very busy week. One day I took a visitor on an exploring trip about twenty miles from here. I won- der how many of us miss the lovely walks and drives that lie close to populated areas. How many do you know? If you want a nice drive where do you go? We are only now beginning to find our way around to the beauty spots that lie just be- yond the highways. The village we visited is less than eighteen miles from Toronto, • We drove down a concession road about' a couple of miles and found a lovely country district with a SALLY'S SALLIES 'Oh dear; if you'd told me you were bringing a friend, 1'd have cooked dinner.* number of beautiful homes set among trees on landscaped lots. `•When the flowers are out and the trees in leaf we shall cer- tainly be making a return visit. We thought it was quite a find. Then we roamed around a church -yard belonging to a nice old church.high on a hill over- looking a river. There we found plenty of history inscribed on the old grey tombstones sacred (we hope) to the memory of the early pioneers of that dis- trict. We spent the whole af- ternoon just browsing around amid beautiful and historic sur- ` roandings ' yet often within sound of the trafficon a very busy highway. We really had a wonderful time and we were glad to realize that in spite of the number of super -highways that are being built it is still possible to find beauty spots such a short way off the beaten track. At home, if we want to get back to the grim problems of the day we have only to turn on the radio or televsion and listen to news of guided mis- siles, misguided foreign policy, earthquakes, floods, fires, bliz- zard and traffic mishap. A far cry from the peaceful pursuit of farming. In fact we sometimes wonder if peaceful farming is possible any more. And then yesterday along came two young brothers who were anx- ious to buy our tractor and power implements. They were such nice boys and so anxious to start farming on their own. There was something about them that restored our faith in the future for farm boys who really want to work and make good. They were not the type to go around looking for some- thing for nothing. They expect- ed to pay for what they got and were quite reluctant to accept as a gift a few extras that Part-. mer was throwing in on the deal. We had a feeling those boys have what it takes and we are confident that, barring ac- cidents or disaster seasons, these young fellows will come out on Modern g butt • w • by Roberta Lee Q. am mailing out about 200 wedding invitations. Is it all right for me to use a metered stamp on the envelopes? A; Never! The stamps must be put on by hand. Q. What is the proper order of recession at the conclusion of a church wedding ceremony? Just the reverse of how the party entered. The bride and bridegroom should lead, followed by the bridesmaids and the ushers. Q. Just why is the wedding ring placed. on the finger first, the engagement ring over it? A. The reason is a practical one. The wedding ring, being a plain band, does not require much cleaning and in many in- stances 'is never taken off. Whereas the engagement ring is taken off constantly. Q. Our daughter has just hi - formed us of her secret mar- riage two months ago. Would it be proper for us to announce the marriage at this time? A. It would be quite proper for you to mail out announce- ments of the marriage. Q. Should a dinner guest who has finished eating immediate- ly place his napkin on the table? A. Not until his hostess has placed her napkin on the table. Q. When a husband and wife are calling on friends, which one should suggest leaving? A. It is quite proper for either one to make the first move, merely by asking the other, "Don't you think we had better be leaving?" top. They deserve to anyway. Just to know them gave us a nice, happy feeling. Well, the birds around here are becoming more numerous every day. A while ago I was almost sure I heard an oriole. And yesterday a little screech owl came to rest on a bare branch of the chestnut tree near the house. Is there anything, I wonder, quite so .motionless as a sitting owl. Once he had found a perch there wasn't a sound or movement from the funny little creature. In colour and shape he looked just like a natural hump belonging to the branch of the tree. Now I. must get this column typed and ready for the printer . before any of the family ar- rive. Yesterday our trio from Oakville' was here and no doubt the quartette from Toronto will be here soon. At present with only Dave being able to navi gate on his own the children are easily handled. A year from now . . . well, I guess a year from now will tell the story! FINED FOR BEING TOO DANDY Could anyone be arrested for holding hands? The answer iso; "yes," as Charles Dale Pike and Barbara Maxine Newman dist* covered when they were ar- rested and fined in Hutchinson,, Kansas, recently --- for holding hands while driving On a public thoroughfare. The difference was that they were driving dif- ferent cars. Wardrobe Wonderi PRINTED PATTERN 4654 141-24'1 IVA M. 4444 Sew -easy undress that doubles as a juniper with its smart blouse — fashions that double your wardrobe! It's our new PRINTED Pattern — especially designed to flatter the shorter, fuller figure! Printed Pattern 4654: Half Sizes 141/2, 161/2, 181/2, 201/2, 2214 and 241/2. Size 161/2 sundress, 3 yards 39 -inch; blouse 13/4 yards 35 -inch. Printed directions on each pat- tern attern part. Easier, faster, accur- ate. ccurate. Send FORTY CENTS (400 (stamps cannot be accepted; use postal note for safety) for this pattern. Please print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS and •STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth Street, New Toronto, Ont. SAD YOUNG POOCHES—You'd never guess it,13ut these morose dogs were prize winners at the Paris Agricultural Show recently,' Caged up after the show, the dogs obviously think it's ,a heck of a way to be treated after a fine performance. AT LAST -A GIRL-Whdf a childhood awaits Mary Pat Ryan. She's already the pet of the Harm Ryan household., and she has just arrived home from the hospital with her mother. Her•seven brothers range in age from three le thirteen.