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"Dear Anne Hirst: For over 16
years I've been married to a man
I practically worshipped, un-
til his ridiculous jealousy almost
destroyed my love. We have
teen-age twins and everything
else to make our lives worth -
While, except this one obsession
of his. The past year he has
-own worse; I cannot chat with
any man 1 know, in any circum-
stances, without hearing his
snide remarks and seeing his
real anger. It ' disgusting.
"I am a decent woman, an un-
derstanding mother, and his sus-
picions are so insulting that I
actually burn with resentment.
.1 cannot respect him any more
because his mind is so occupied
with this doubt of me that I feel
es if I am living with a stranger,
I even have thought of leaving
laim, but I've not had the heart
to take the girls away. He wor-
ships them.
"A few months ago I met a
roan who seems the exact oppo-
site — high-minded, respectful,
with dignity and integrity that
make everybody honor him. He's
been to dinner with us fre-
quently, but I've been alone with
him only once. I have felt a
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ISSUE 12 — 1957
growing sympathy between us
that / have fought but cannot.
overcome, ... Last week we met
accidentally and stopped for tea,
It was then he told me he had
loved me since we met — and
Anne Hirst, I could not help res-
nding.
"He will do anything I say,
and leaves the decisions to me.
Whatever shal I de? I feel ter-
ribly sorry for my husband, but
after all, it is his own fault.
MARGARET."
BE HONEST
* To break up a home is a
* solemn undertaking. It might
* prove disastrous for yet.: eta-
* dren, and that would destroy
* any happiness you hope for.
e You would be more distraught
* and alone than you ever have
* been.
"" I think you owe your hus-
* band the truth about why you
* think of leaving. Once he
• izes thaat his years of con-
* tinuous suspicions have driven
* you from him, he may be
* shocked into a fighting effort
* to overcome this jealousy
and he might win. Discovering
* that you think of leaving, he
* may beg for another chance;
* if he succeeds in driving away
* his jealousy instead of you,
* you will be happier at home
* with him, keeping your fam-
• ily together. He has not been
contented, either, you know;
* a man torn by jealousy is a
* pitable object and suffers more
* than anyone else can imagine.
* The other man will respect
* your decision, seeing its just-
* ice, and you will have the con-
" solation of giving your hus-
* band the chance to win you
* all over again. I urge you to
* think this over before you
* dash into court with the in-
* tent to join your life with that
* of, a man you hardly know.
* * *
"DOES HE LOVE?"
"Dear Anne Hirst: I am 16
and in love with a soldier a year
older. He wants me to marry
him in April, when he comes
home for three months. But he
has never told me that he loves
me, though he has told his
friends. Also, he's always talk-
ing about other girls!
"What do you advise me to
do?
V.A.W."
" I advise you -to wait for a
* year or two before you con-
sent to marry anybody.
* A boy of 17 is not mature
* enough to get married, and
this lad is especially adoles-
* cent when he has the poor
* taste to mention other girls
* to the one he has asked to be
* his wife. He is showing off,
* of course, but that does not
4. excuse him. As he is today, I
" doubt whether you could stay
* married to him for a single
* year.
* Don't censure him, though,
he has not said in so many
* words, "I love you." A pro-
* posal assumes that he is in
* love; of course, you miss hear-
* ing him say so, but don't rills-
" judge him for his thoughtless-
* ness. It is just that he doetn.'t
* understand girls; he is think-
* ing far more of his own emo-
* tions than of yours.
* What does your family say?
* You should discuss the situ a-
* tion with your parents, who
* know the lad. and can advise
* you better than anyone else.
*
Whatever your problem, writ-
ing Anne Hirst about it will
clear it in your mind and bring
her comforting sympathy and
kind counsel. Address her at
Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New
Toronto, Ont.
HOPE HE PUT FILM 1N—Shooting the same picture in both
color and bled( and white is possible with this unusual setup.
Two 35 -Millimeter cameras were mounted en top a one an-
other by this enterprising photographer for snapping pictures
at the National Photographic Show.
DOGHOUSE DE LUXE — "Mitzie''.. the spaniel makes you think
of the old Jody who lived in a shoe as she contemplates her
"doghouse" of open -toed design, with insulated walls and an
attached welcome mat. Actually, Mitzie's modernistic abode is
an insulating blanket, made at.General Electric's plant, for an
Air Force instrument used hi tracking gunnery. targets.
HRONICLES
11,19P;.e P. Cla,rke
For a few days last week the
air had a really springish feel-
ing. The birds thought so too.
Bluejays left the shelter of the
woods and took to the highways.
What they hoped to find on the
roads I don't know but they
were certainly exploring. Spar-
rows swarmed around the bush-
es, happily chirping in bird
language, defying the juncos and
chickadees. Squirrels were in a
playful mood; cottontails out
looking for food. This morning
Rusty was terribly noisy. I said
to Partner, "What in the world
is Rusty barking at?" -Partner ,.
laughed — "Probably a rabbit.
He saw one yesterday and didn't e
know what to make of it. Fin-
ally took after it but kept, his '
distance in case the rabbit might
bite!"
Yes, that's our Rusty — the
best watch -dog, and the best dog
with children we have ever -had,
but hasn't the slightest idea
about hunting. Mitchie-White has
forgotten the art too, probably
too well fed to bother. He
watched a mouse run across the
kitchen floor today and wasn't
even interested. The other day
when a little mouse practically
crossed his path he did manage
to catch it. Then he let it go
again and looked surprised when
the mouse disappeared down a
hole. And yet when I catch a
mouse in a trap he is quite
ready to eat it. Would anyone
like a good mouser?
until gravel roads have had a
chance to imperove. After all the
Prost government has given us
• every encouragement to 'give
the car a rest by boosting gas-
oline two cents a gallon. The
:trouble is what we would like
to do isn't always possible. You
may cut out pleasure jaunts but
you can't cut out business trips.
Anyway; this is the beginning
of March so we can expect un-
pletsant weather. But while it
is admittedly bad underfoot,
ethat springish feeling in the air
should be encouraging. And the
:ays are getting longer — that
ways helps. Farmers have
lire daylight to get extra jobs
one and the women -folk turn
their thoughts to housecleaning.
`You can't resist the urge ne
•matter how hard you try. It
could be you don't accomplish
too much by starting early and
you may be glad to settle down
to knitting again.
Speaking of knitting . . . there
was a little item in a newspaper
last week that intrigued me. A
minister ina church in England
is encouraging women to bring
their knitting! He says it helps
them to concentrate. Well now,
isn't that something? Maybe the
cleric preaches extra long ser-
nons. Even so . . .
I was interested because I like
o knit at meetings — but I have
never tried taking it to church.
The question arises — is it or is
it not bad manners to knit while
istening to a speaker? I would
ay it depends on the knitter.
he English cleric claims it
elps concentration. That again
epends on the knitting andthe
itaiitter. A fancy pattern calls
or practically undivided atten-
on. And you can't concentrate
n both the knitting and what
he speaker is saying. On the
ther hand easy ' knitting really
elps.
If the you
Maybe our Mitchie gets as
confused over mice as we do
over weather forecasts. A
monthly farm magazine came
out with a long-range weather
forecast which said "below nor-
mal temperatures are expected
for all Ontario." A few days
later a thirty -day forecast ap-
peared in the daily press which
said "average to above normal
temperatures may be expected.'"
But the road reports are what
gets me down. "All highways
bare and driving conditions
good." So what happens? You
start out on a good highway en
route to visit a friend in a near-
by city. Except for places
where melting snowbanks make
the road slushy you get along
fine. You forget your friend
lives in a sub -division on a
gravelled road. But you are not
likely to forget after you've
been there! The clean car you
started out with is covered in
slush. Gravelly • deposits hit
your mudguards and under -cars
riage. Salt riddles a hole in
your muffler. And then after
you reach home, miraculously
safe and sound, you hear again
that repetitious road report —
"highways bare, driving condi
tions good — at least on roads
you are likely to travel," adds
the news reporter. Now I ask
you, bow does any reporter
know what roads you are likely
to travel? What of the thou-
sands of commuters in and out
of surburban distriots? What of
the friends wee) set out to visit
them? What of the farin lane
before you hit the highway?
What .of the county and town-
ship reads? Sc, doe't be misled
by radio road reverts. All roads
are not highways. Better be
smart and stay home if you can
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speaker is good
probably forget to knit anyway.
If the speaker is boring having
something to do with your
hands keeps you from getting
fidgetty and noticing how hard
the seats are. So whether you
can listen and knit is quite a
questin. Some can, some can't.
Personally I am happier in lily
mind if my hands are occupied.
But at one convention I received
quite a jolt when a W.I. execu-
tive said "it was an affront to
a speaker for women to knit
during an address". And there
was I caught in the act! But
with no intention of being dis-
courteous.
It might be a good debate for
your local W.I.
• Modern
Etiquette .
By Anne Ashley
0 •
Q. When an invitation writ-
ten on an informal card is re-
ceived, and a reply is requested,
is it all right to make this re-
ply over the telephone?
A. It is quite all right to reply
to an informal invitation by
phone.
Q. If a man is accompanying
a girl who is driving her own
ear, should he make an offer
to do the driving?
A. It would be better not.
Some women are sensitive
about their driving and might
think such an offer reflects on
their ability at the wheel. Of
course, if the woman suggests
that he drive, then it is all right.
Q. Should asparagus be eaten
with the fingers?
A. No. It is ill-bred to take
up this dripping vegetable with
the fingers. It is properly eaten
with the fork.
Q. Should Bridge prizes be
wrapped or left open?
A. It is much better to wrap
them attractively.
Q. If someone tells a joke that
you have already heard, should
you stop him?
A. Only if you are his sole
listener.
Q. At a party recently, some
of the guests brought presents.
Wasn't it polite to put these
gifts aside and open them later,
rather than to open them and
embarrass those who brought
none?
A. This would show a com-
plete lack of appreciation of the
thoughtfulness of the givers,
just to coddle the chagrin of
the empty-handed. Always open
any gifts you receive imme-
diately.
Q. If lettuce, parsley or water-
cress is placed around an item
of food to garnish it, may this
properly be eaten?
A. Yes, if you wish to eat it
and it is a part of your individ-
ual serving. But you should not
mar the appearance of a eserv-
ing dish by plucking out 'some
of its garnish.
Q. Does a woman introduce
her husband to another woman
as "Mr. Robinson"?
A. No. The proper form would
be: 'Mrs. Tanner, may I intro-
duce my husband?" A woman
does not use "Mr." when refer-
ring to or introducing her hus-
band.
Q. Is one obligated to send a
wedding gift to a friend who is
marrying for the second time,
if one sent gift for the first mar-
riage?
A. If the friend is a widow
who is marrying again, I think
it would be nice to send her an-
other gift. If, however, she is
a divorcee, it's up to you. There
is no obligation. •
Q. Should the first page of a
social letter be numbered?
A. No; this is neither neces-
sary nor proper. You may num-
ber the succeeding pages, if you
wish.
•Odds and Ends
The =amble for galoshes Isaa
harassed many a hostess. But
here is one who solved the probe
lem, As a guest arrives he or
she is hand a polythene bag. The
galoshes are put in the bag which
keeps them intact and avoids the
search through a pile of dirty
rubbers when the party is over.
The polythene bags can be
washed and used again and there
are no dirty floors to be polished.
*
Most people are familiar with
ammonia as a cleaner — not
something to be taken internal-
ly. But here is a cookie recipe
from L'Ecole des Sciences Men-
geontreal that contain
ammonia s
toarsesizeofnot
dissolve lVithe in tes tines:
and is guarantee
2 or 3 eggs (depending on
d
Ye cup of butter and
14 cup of -shortening
1 cup of milk
2 tablespoons of ammonium
carbonate (available in drug
stores or in country grocery
stores)
Pinch of salt •
Flour
Beat the eggs with the sugar,
add melted butter and shorten-
ing. Dissolve ammonia in the
milk. Alternate milk and flour
until it is a good consistency.
Roll on floured board until
dough is firm. Roll thin, cut he
desired shape and cook in a 400
degree oven. Cookies should be
almost white and if stored in a
tin box, will keep for months.
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the five -week-old daughter of Princess Grace and Prince Rainier of Moneta, in Mom:gait
cathedral. The baby is being held by her Swiss huree, Margaret Stahl. The ceremony was
Offended by a thousand pests. .
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