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Zurich Herald, 1957-03-07, Page 6AN N 14T1 "I don't hate my mother-in- law, Anne Hirst, though I could find reasons to, I just want to understand why she is as she is, and if you can explain her, I shall always bless you." So begins an intelligent letter from a mixed-up wife whose private life is being invaded by her husband's mother, who came to the couple's home over a year ago for Christmas and is sitll with them. "When she hears his key in the front door," the letter con- tinues, "she rushes out and they retire to her room till I call them for dinner. Then she mono- polizes him till bedtime, while I sit with a book or go to our room. When we do go out to- gether, I don't mind saying where, but she always sits up and it makes me feel like a teen-ager. She snoops about the house and reports any lapse of mine, and then my husband nags me about it, "She is cold to our friends, and her opinion of them is only sar- castic belittling. She won't go to church, so we seldom do any more — and that I miss. (Thank heaven she doesn't try to help around the house !) I feel I have lost the wonderful man I mar- ried, we have so little time to- gether, and I can't help won- dering whether I'll ever get hien back. I ask again, why is she like this?" * * * • It is discouraging to predict * that this wife will not fully x comprehend the reasons why * her mother-in-law behaves a as she does until she has chit- * dren of her own. Her husband is, to his mother, still a little * boy who needs her and will * continue to as long as he lives. * He is her responsibility, one • she will not shirk. His wife, * his friends, his church are not important except in their con- * tributions to his well-being. * It is hopeless for a wife to * expect any change in the e older woman's attitude; Mom e will continue to be part of ' her son's life as long as she e stays in his h 0 u s e, so her • daughter-in-law may as well e face it. A few practical " changes in her routine will o help, however. "' TO "LONELY WIFE": Liv- "' in this strained atmosphere, e you need your friends more `" than ever. Encourage other * wives to drop in, whether your "r mother-in-law is gracious or Quicker To Do .ane, W14444 Filet crochet and regular cro- chet — combined to make this elegant centerpiece. The swirling tulip design is beautifully set off by simple picot mesh. Pattern 620: Crochet directions :for centerpiece 20 -inches in No. 30 cotton, larger in string. Send TWENTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern to Laura Wheeler; Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. Print plainly PATTERN NUMBER, your NAME and ADDRESS. Our gift to you—two wonder- ful patterns for yourself, your home -- printed in our Laura Wheeler Needlecraft Book , . . 'plus dozens of other new designs 'to order --• crochet, knitting, em- broidery, iron - ons, novelties. Send 25 cents for your copy of this book NOW --.- with gift pat- terns printed in it! a ISSUE 10 -- 1957 * not; you and your husband * should spend occasional eve- * pings with them, too, in their *.homes or yours, if only to find * changes of scene and minds. * I hope you will go back to * church. Ask a few older mem-: * bers to call on his mother; * their visits may dissipate her * concentrated interest in your * private lives and g i v e you * more freedom. These contacts * will revive your spirits and * also relax the tension. * As you accept, within your * understanding, your mother- * in-law's projection into her * son's way of living, you will • * find it easier to be more tot- * erant and charitable. I com- * mend your approach to the * problem. ' * * * STRANGER'S PROBLEM "Dear Anne Hirst: A few months ago, I married the friend of a relative whom I had visited. My family are in Europe, and I brought along my little girl from a previous marriage. I had known about the man before I arrived, and thought I was for- tunate that we fell in love. But things are so different from what I expected ! "My new husband professed to love my little girl, but after we moved to his new place of business, he changed completely. Now he actually shuns her, and treats me almost with scorn. I do not understand this, and I am very unhappy. I know no- body here, and this makes me hesitate to try to make friends. "Unless my husband is wor- ried about business, I cannot ac- count for this grave change. I am really frightened — for I find I am going to have his baby, and I don't know how he will take the news. My relative lives in another state, and I do not wish to confide such a thing to anyone anyhow. Can you ad- vise me? REGINA" * I hope you will tell your * husband about th,e baby im- * mediately. Knowing he is to * be a father himself should * make him kinder to you and * your little girl. Canadian men * often spoil their wives, feel- * ing (mistakenly) that they * should be shielded from wor-. * ry; this I do not agree with, * but if anything is bothering * your husband, that is prob- * ably why he has not discussed * it. At any rate, remind him * that what ever affects him is * y our problem, too, and ask * him to have confidence in * you. * If you have not joined a * branch of your church here; * I hope you will do so at * once; your husband will see . * that you meet the minister" * and other members. Cultivate * your neighbors; I think you'll *" find them warmly welcoming * and anxious to be of use. They * cannot know how you need * friends, though, unless you * make the gesture. * * * Often it is more helpful to• get an objective opinion on a difficult situation from one who is com- petent, sympathetic and practi- caI. Anne Hirst is glad to be of what service she can. Address her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. PROVIDENCE PIOUS NAME Providence, Rhode Island, got its name in 1636 from its foun- der, Roger Williams, because he believed that divine guidance had led him to the spot. Pro- vidence was a major port dur- ing the clipper ship period and is now a manufacturing centre. PRI NCESS -- Beaming with fatherly pride, King Hussein of Jordan, guides the halting steps of the Royal Princess Alia, one year old This photograph, one of the first made of the little girl, was taken in the Bosman Royal Palace at Amman. BEGINNER'S LUCK? — Well, it might not -be a very big fish, as two-year-old Steven Tatro will admit. But it isn't bad for d first try di ice fishing. Steven made .his successful debut on Lake Worth. ewe .clot-tn.e, PO Cte„v%,e We often hear of plane crashes and we think "How dreadful" and then I am afraid we forget about them. But when some of the dead and injured are known to us then the tragedy really strikes home. In the re- cent crash of the American Maxni-bound plane there were seSfli:a1 Canadians aboard. One of'the critically injured and one of''the dead were well known in this district — Mr. and Mrs. • Hartley Anderson. In fact Hart- ley and our son Bob went. through ,schoo'1 . together and, competed in the sameclass in a NEW PRINTED PATTERN EASIER—FASTER MORE ACCURATE PP. ti 4523 1 A1/2-241/2 PRINTED PATTERN A PRINTED Pattern! Half - Sizers — look so smart in this bright and breezy style. Sew - easy — no side opening! Just un- button shoulders, slip it on 1-2-3 quick. Cut to fit the shorter, fuller figure perfectly—no alter- ations Printed Pattern 4523: Half Sizes 141/2, 161/2, 181/2, 20%, 221, 241/2. Sizes 161/2 takes 4% yards 35 -inch. Directions • printed on each tissue pattern • part. Easy-to-use, accurate, assures perfect fit.' . Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal mote for safety) for this pattern. Print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St, New Toronto, Ont. 1 most of the County music fes- tivals. His wife Joy was a very lovely and accomplished girl and came from a farm just a few miles from here. Naturally everyone around here is stun- ned by the tragedy knowing that five little children have been left motherless. We sin. . cerely hope that Hartley will'" make a speedy recovery from his injuries and be spared to his children. Just to think that so much suffering grief and heart- ache can be caused in sucha few minutes. But: it could hap - Den' just as "easily in a car, that is something we need to remem- ber. In fact. I would guess the percentage of fatalities in` the air is considerably less than those on the road. What a puzzling world this is. For the life of me I can't under- stand •what is really happening. -t' The rising cost of living is usu- ally laid at the door of organ- ized labour — high wages, short working hours. And yet I have spoken to many working people who just can't make ends meet —behind in their payments on this, that and the other; hus- bands sometimes laid off for a few weeks; unemployment pay not enough to keep them going. And the we come to the farm- ing population ... cattle prices dropping; eggs at almost a give- away price and the cost of pro- duction higher than a year ago. Pigs seem to be the only pay- ing proposition. All along the line credit is getting tighter. But still it isn't as tight as it was in the '30's. Anything bought by in- stallment then carried seven per cent interest --on promissory notes payable to the bank. To get a loan from the bank itself farmers had to give a complete list of .their stock and imple- ments as collateral, and then almost had to go down on their knees to get it. Times changed. For, a few years loans were easy to get while interest on savings accounts went down to as low as one and a half per cent. So, if you had any money you were almost encouraged to spend it. Now the situation is reversed. We are encouraged to save. That is fine — for those who are able to save, but won - de -r what the future holds in store for the farmer, in either a big or a small way. Some agri- cultural economists say the hundred -acre farmer is on the way out but one speaker at a recent convention• prophesied there would be more hundred - acre farmers in the future but that they would be better far- mers, with a greater production from a lesser acreage. We li'ear too that the amount of good farm land being taken over for road construction, industrial de- velopment and housing is little short of a tragedy. On the other hand we hear of vast areas of undeveloped land that could be farmed quite profitably. All these contradictory reports are very confusing — but at least it will be interesting to watch developments. Developments are always in- teresting — b u t sometimes a little complicated for . those caught in the middle. For in. stance for years I used to react a state of near -panic every timt we got a few inches of snow in our lane. We have been stuck so often trying to get out. Some- times we would get halfway and then have to be dug out or towed -in or out as the case may be. Or I would sometimes go to town all right and then find the ruts would be filled in, again. That meant more digging for Partner — especially when we had the little Morris. Thiswin- ter we equipped our Canadian- built car with` snowtires. "No need to get stuck now," said Partner. He is right but now it is my confidence that is at fault. I guess I need some kind of morale tires. The trouble is I see a few inches of the fluff* stuff ahead of me and I just think I'm going to get stuck. Actually I haven't had any trouble at all, the car seems to go through anything. But I still find it hard to believe and put it down to luck more than the snowtires. Speaking of snow, yesterday I thought I had heard the very latest. A young people's organi- zation thought it would be great fun to have a sleigh -riding party but the sleigh was to be pulled by a tractor ! Shades of our grand -parents . . . w ha t would they have said could they has% looked into the future and seen the young folk of 1957 go- ing for a sleigh ride behind a tractor? No sturdy, sure-footed farm team — no sleigh bells, no plunging through heavy drifts worse still, no romance. Ah well, I suppose what the young folk don't have they don't miss. Only we who are older ' know of the thrills and spills that used to belong to the winter wonderland. REMEMBER! Order your tickets NOW for the • vxi,o AT THE CANADIAN NATIONAL • SPORTSMEN'S SHOW MARCH 15 to MARCH 23, 1957 0. Performances twice Daily (Except Sunday) 2.15 p.m.; 8.15 p.m. Evenings & Sat. Afternoons—All seats Reserved Res. 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