The Seaforth News, 1959-11-26, Page 6ANNE HIRST
"Dear" Anne Hirst: I could be
the happiest wife in the world
if my husband would stop drink-
ing. In every other way, he is
ideal, and through our five years
of marriage our love has :only
deepened, .He has lost two fine
positiotts because of this weak-
ness, yet, he argues that he gets
so depressed without alcohol
that he cannot bear it another
hour. So he takes the first drink,
admitting . the usual consequ-
ences are inevitable.
"I lett him three yeers ago,
hoping he would straighten out.
Neither of us could stand
being apart, and since then we
have tried to conquer it together.
I suffer with him when these
moods come on, and I would
make any sacrifice that could
dispel them. ... Now I have
tried everything I know, with
almost no success. I can honest-
ly say I have never reproached
him afterward, I love him too
much.
"Perhaps in your long experi-
ence you can find some hope for
us both? I pray you to try.
DESPERATE"
COMMON SENSE
o The next time your husband
* complains of depression, go
with him to his doctor and in-
* sist on a check-up. Nerves can
• cause all sorts of miserable re-'
* actions, as can some lack in
" one's physcial make-up. A
* physician that knows the fam-
* ily history can usually diag-
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nose a condition and, with the
patient's co-operation, relieve
* it.
Like -so many other afflicted,
• persons, perphaps your has-
* band thinks he needs the re-
laxation that alcohol temper-
* arily supplies. I suggest that
• he get in touch with Alcoholics
* Anonymous, who have helped
* so many thousands of men and
• women overcome their seem-
* ing need for liquor.
* A love such as you and your
* husband are blest with is too
* rare to risk. With everything',
* to live for, including a' wife
• whose contentment is built
* around him, surely your hus
* band will not allow such a
* marriage to be wrecked when,
* there is help to be had! A man
* who cannot control his appe-
* tite for drink should never
o take the first sip. Those who
• have learned to resist it are
* living testimony that his can
* too, if he will co-operate. If
* he contends that he is the ex;
° ception, ask him to try for
• your sake. Faith in himself
* and his own moral strength is
* what he needs, and others who
" have found it know how to
*:help him.
* . Alcoholics Anonymous is
* non-sectarian, there are no fees
* involved; its only purpose is
* to aid anyone who needs aid
* and will do his part. Many
* who have sought help and
* found it, are now rescuing
* others trapped by the habit.
* The group has grown from its
* inception in 1935 to a member-
* ship of over 200,00Q, in 7,000
• groups in 70 countries. It has
* been accepted by churches,
* prisons, hospitals and many of
* the medical profession. Ask
* your doctor's opinion of the
* organization's work. I think I
* know what' he will say.
• • •
"DOES HE OWN ME?"
"Dear' Anne Hirst: For over
three months I've been engaged
to a young mane I've known for
a year. I though he was the most
courteous and thoughtful person
in the world, and he was—until_
we got engaged.
"Now he thinks he owns me!
He tells me what to say and how,•
(and I'm not ignorant) and he`.
has taen a dislike to my' best
girl friend. He almost forbids
my seeing her. He isn't always
as polite to me as he used to be.
"What has happened? I- love
him dearly, but I don't like him
as he is. You understand what
I mean? CLARICE"
* How much do you know
* about your fiance's home life?
° Does his father try to dominate
o his mother? If . he does, you
• can understand why this lad
° follows his example; now that
* you are to be his wife, he is
* showing that is what marriage
* means to him.
* You do not intend marriage
* to be like that, and you had
• better tell him so. You are the
* same girl he .admired before
* he proposed. You will be the
* same loyal friend to others,
* too,and you will expect him
• to treat them (and you) with
* his former courtesy.. , Other-
• wise, the engagement should
* be ended.
* I expect you two have been
* seeing each other too often.
* Take off a couple of nights a
• week for your friends and
* your family. If ,he does not
* get the idea explain it, and
o put it up to 'him.
° • •,
Unburdening one's. heart to
an understanding 'friend often
brings the relief of confession.
Anne Hirst's sympathy and
experience can comfort you.
Write her frankly, and address
your letter to her' at Box 1,
123 Eighteenth St., New Tor-
onto, Ont.
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xIERNEY AS SALEGIRL — Actress Gene Tierney, under treat-
ment at Menninger Clinic 1n Topeka, Kan., models a necklace
In a dress shop nearby where she works oe a salesgirl,
END OF H
6R 'RUN AWAY' -- Nine-year-old. Evelyn Rudie, who won TV stardom as the pre-
cocious "Eloise," primps at Friendship airport near Baltimore, Md., after a jet flight. Evelyn,
whose proclaimed goal' was an .interview. with Mrs. Eisenhower, admitted ;he sole purpose
of her "run away" from •her'Hellywobd home was for publicity and to bolster her personal
popularity. She was taken to the 'home of a fpmily friend at nearby Chevy Chase.:
RONICLES
CMinr'dcttz<sClanks
A dull, dreary day—and back •
to standard: time. That's fine
except that animals have no way;
of knowing the clocks 'have' beefy •
set `back. So what happens
early Sunday ' morning Ditto
was pawing at my' face and
Taffy was wandering all, around
the house wanting 'to go put.
Partner still' being dead.. to the
world there, was nothing for it
but to leave; my warm bed. and
attend:�to 'them. Once awake that
extra 'hour seemed tool long to
take so I split the difference and.
got ,breakfast halfway between
fast' and -slow time. I expeet, in
a day or two we shall be quite
well, • adjusted.
Last week I was in the Milton
district andmade a number of•
calls, 'mostly on 'dam 'families,
fairly c 1 o s.e to Ginger -'Farm.
Partner didn't come as.he want-
ed to get.en with some garden•
.work at home. Plenty•to do end
not too much time to'do 'it in.
You never know how soon win-
ter will stretch forth its icy,
hand.
' I found a number of changes•
in and around our old neigh-
bourhood. On one farm the man
of the family had put in a swim-
ming ' pool. I ,mean, a properly
constructed swiming pool which
I imagine cost plenty. It was the -
real McCoy. Shallow at, one end.
for children and six feet deep
in the middle. Cement paving
stones all around the outside
and enclosed by .a chain-link
fence. His wife said they really
enjoyed last summer; never felt
the heat 'at all and always slept
well, at night. Perhaps I should
add this young fellow does not
depend on farming for a liv-
ing, for the reason that he sold
about half his acreage some
time, ago.
Another place I visited farm-
ing activities are still very much
the • orderof the day. Here I
found the lady of 'the house had
had the entire back ofthe house
remodelled. Spacious, stream-
lined kitchen with an adjoining
utility room- and enough cup-
boards -and gadgets to please the
most' fastidious housewife. Re-
membering the old kitchen as it
used to be I thought she had
done a marvelous remodelling
At still another farm 1 found
no outstanding improvements
other than' painting and paper-
ing but 'the 'old farm kitchen
had a'nicely "homey", look with
its black -topped kitchen .range.
And of course there was a big
old-fashioned tea=kettle on the
side of the stove ready to pull
forward so visitors could be
welcomed with' a cup of tea It
awoke nostalgic memoriesof
our .own •ldtchen in days gone
with mitts and oversocks dry-
ing on. the high top shelf and a
kitchen. where everyone came to
get warm ,quickly, ' A few sticks
'of dry wood and the stove -top
would be red-hot in a few min-
utes. Yes,' there are attrabtions
peculiar to each type of kitchen
— the old and the new.
One other place I visited—
• a poultry farm with an ultra-
modern house, not quite_ finish-
ed but liveable. It had every-
thing, Matching the best of any
suburban homes I have seen --
but with more; space in all the
rooms. All this and a gorgeous
view from every window' The
back looked out to a wooded
section of the Hamilton )!,scarp -
m e n t; the front to limestone
cliffs of the same. .With tine
autumn colouring at its best
the scene was one of breath-
taking beauty, marred partially
by a barn under construction
between the house and "The
Mountain." It was a shame it
had to be there however I sup-
pose it was unavoidable since
raising chickens is the owner's
business, Right now he is not
very happy about the price of
chickens. How could he be when
chickens, ready for the oven,
were selling in the stores last
week at 29l a ib: What the far,:
mers were paid for those sam'e
chickens I can't imagine—cer-
itainly it wouldn't pay for the
cost of raising them.
I finished my round of visits -
=by passing Ginger Farm, and
what I saw made me glad` to
come back to where 'we are
living now. It won't be long•
before the cloverleaf at High -
Way 401 and 23 will be fini§hed
and then the traffic. going past
Ginger Farm will be terrific—
and the house only 125 feet,
from the road. We loved the old
farm but it has nothing 'to at-
tract us now — .only a host of
happy memories — and that
nothingteen destroy.
And now for quite a different
subject. I attended a meeting at.
Clarkson at which the speaker
was that well-known television
personality, Charles Templeton.
His subject was "What; •is Wrong
With Our Schools?" He ' laid
most of the blame to the -number
of poorly qualified teachers pre-
sently employed _ — a situation,
he claimed, that is liable to be-
come progressively worse and
should have been' foreseen ten
years ago.' Mr. Templeton is a
fluent speaker and kept rigid
control of his audience during
the question period, allowing
them exactly ten minutes to ask
questions. That, I thought, was
somewhat dictatorial. But per-
haps he was afraid there might
be a George Rowllands in the
audience!
Q. Some a my friends have
told me that It :is improper for
a person, even when ,dining alone
in a public place, to read at the
table. Is this true?
-A. Your friends have .misin-
formed you. There is nothing
at all wrong with a person, who
is dining alone, reading at the
.table,
Now You Can
Smell The Movies
Trying to follow in the foot-
steps .of his late, tlamboyant
father, showman Michael Todd
Jr. has found himself blazing Jr
new and typically flamboyant
trail: He has • become entrepren-
eur of Smell -O -Vision, a process
for pumping odors into a movie
theater to heighten the impact of
the movie. Developed by Swiss -
inventor Hans Laube, Smell -Q -
'Vision! caught the elder Todd's
fancy as •early as 1954, but it was
left to Todd Jr. to carry it
through. In the last year and a
half, he has spent ;$2 million to
produce•"a movie ("Scent of Mys-
tery") especially written for
aromatic effects (examples: a
mystery woman identified only
by her perfume, a villain who
•smokes'an odoriferous pipe.' He
has also built up the 'Dec. 22
premiere at Chicago's'.Cinestage
theater as a pioneering venture
into the third dimension of sense.
A few'•weeks ego, however, it
appeared that pioneer 'Todd
might .be beaten by a nose. New
York theater, owner Walter
-Reade Jr., himself the son of a,
big name, showman (who for-
merly operated New York's
Astor and Mayfair theaters), an-
nounced at a scented press con-
ference that he would premiere
a smellodrama of his own at the
Mayfair on 'Dec. 2. Obviously
rushing to beat Todd's premiere
date. Reade's .A-romaBama, Inc., ,
laid out some $300,000 for the
U.S. and Canadian rights to an.
Italian' -made travelogue ..mi
China ("Behind the Great Wair)
plus the rights to a U.S.-develop-
ed
.S.devel'op-
ed process that .could be used to
dub smells into the scenes;
Among Reade's best smells: The
scent of tea /eaves (during a
scene in a tea -house), of a tiger,
an explosion, and a clean, spark-
ling riYer.
The decision to tltis contest
may well hang en who has the
best set of smells. Both will get
their smells front "varying islx-
tures of aroanatic chemicals can -
meted by perfume chemists to
stimulate natural odors, Reade
will "inject" his odors into the.
theater through the air distribu-
tion system, counting on quick
evaporation and a special elec-
tronic filter to kill each one off
before the next -scheduled smell.
Todd will pipe his odors -to each
Seat, which is more expensive
but also quicker and easier to
control. Some Todd beak-
busters: The scents of peaches,
fresh-baked bread, salty ocean
breezes, and an "overpowering
• smell`. of port wine (to go with
a scene in which a man is crush-
ed to death by falling wine
casks).
Both producers agree on one
thing. As Reade put it: "You can
be sure that none of our smells
will be objectionable."
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