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The Seaforth News, 1959-10-15, Page 6ANN€ Hfl?ST aloun ram* rLun..Poc "Dear Anne Hirst; When we bought our home five years ago, offered, to go to work to help pay for it if my husband would take over the housework and care for our two youngsters. (He is 0 Writer,and does it at home). He promised. I could count the • tunes he's 'washed the windows or the kitchen floor, and the whole house is so neglected I am ashamed of it, "My schedule is trying. I sel- dom finish at home before 11 o'clock, what with getting dinner, putting the children to bed, cleaning and ironing, etc. I wouldn't mind it at all if he'd only suggest a night out now and then, when my mother would mind the children. But he just reads the paper and falls asleep! (He is a moody person while I'm lively and love people. Our friends don't drop in any more, he is too unsociable.) "He is suspicious, too; he says I'm the kind that attracts men, but even if I wanted to I haven't the time, I am very fond of him, but I am overwork- ed with little hope of relief and his lack of appreciation makes me feel like a housekeeper, What can you clo with a man like this? WORN OUT" * I think you should tell your * husband that unless he keeps his part of the bargain you * will give up your job and * manage on his income. That * would be a pity, for the chit- * dren's expenses will increase * with the years, and with less Teacher's Pet PRINTED PATTERN SIZES 4747 2-10 eonrS The shirtdress — fall's top fashion for big and little girls. Daughter will love the convert- ible collar, roll -up sleeves and wide, wide skirt. Easy -to -sew and smart for school, Printed Pattern 4747: Chil- dren's Sizes 2, 4, 6, 8, 10. Size 6 takes 21, yards 39 -inch. Printed directions on each pat- tern part. Easier, accurate. Send FORTY CENTS (40d — stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern. Please print SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. * Money coming;..Jn; the brunt of * the burden would still fall on * you. * You cannot continue burning * the candle as you've been do- * ing, you know; you say you * are losing weight, and your * spirits sink as the months go by, You have no business do- * ing heavy household tasks, for * instance, and you need recrea- * tion to balance your heavy * schedule. Something will give * way, and then what will hap- * pen? * At his age, your husband * cannot change his tempera- * ment, but he can surely toss * you a kind \VOid now and then * and see that you take time out * for fun; it would cost him * small effort, but it would re- * vive your spirits and help keep * you young. You would be a * better wife and mother for it, * too. (How little some men * know about women)! * I hope you will not have to * give up your position, but if * nothing else will move the man, * make the threat and act upon ▪ it, * * * "Dear Anne Hirst: I am 22, and I went steady for- over a year with the most wonderful boy 'Mend a girl could have. Then for no reason I ever understood, we broke up. I see him uptown and at dances, and he always brings me home and tells me how much he loves me .. . "But he has never asked me for another date! "I hear that once another girl jilted him. Could he still be in love with her though she's mar- ried now? I keep praying we will get back together, and though I have other dates sometimes I just break down and cry! SICK WITH LOVE" * Wherever this young man left * his heart, it is not with you. * If he really cared, he would * not allow an earlier disappoint- * ment to keep him away. * See him as the weak and * selfish person he is, and keep * busy with other friends, When * you see him be casual, and * don't let him bring you home * again; that only keeps you * emotionally upset. He enjoys * making flattering speeches, but * why suffer such frustrating * grief. And for what? * * * A woman can spoil her hus- band by taking too much res- ponsibility and working beyond her strength. If this is your pro- blem, write Anne Hirst about it and receive her sympathy and practical ideas. Address her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. New Method Of Striking OH Belgian peasant Auguste Mans thought he had struck oil. Har- vesting potatoes recently on his farm at Gozee, 35 miles south of Brussels, he noticed a strong smell of fuel—and it wasn't coming from his tractor, Where the smell was strongest, Mans started digging. And there, buried 2?i feet down, he found a small iron spigot—leaking high-test aviation gasoline. Al- ready it had seeped out into 2 acres of Mans' pasture. • Called in to investigate, Belgi- an authorities gave a shamefaced explanation: The spigot had been hooked onto an under- ground NATO pipeline which carries vital jet fuel from the port of Antwerp to Belgium's Florennes air base. All told, some 25,000 gallons had been. lost before Mans stumbled onto the leak. Was it sabotage? NATO offi- cials thought not. The best bet: Some enterprising Belgian had tapped the pipeline to try to get . free fuel for his car. JUST PLAIN MULISH — "Rosebud XIV," two•week-old official mascot of the Las Vegas Jaycees Community Fair, seems to be turning a cold shoulder to the attention of two lovely ad- mirers. They're fair queen candidates Mary Strasser and Kinah Kissam, With them is cowpoke Tex Gates. PONCHO BUILT FOR TWO — "Togetherness" has invaded the fashion world. Making its debut is a Siamese poncho, just about the first garment designed to be worn by two people at the same time. Aimed at the college set, Soncho is the thing to take along to a football game on a yiindy Saturday afternoon, its maker says. HRONICLE 1NGERFARH Gwendoli.n.e P. Clo,rke From tropical heat to killing frost — that was quite a record for the first week of September, wasn't it? Inside of twenty-four hours people were saying — "My, isn't it cold?" But not I no sir, I had no complaints at all, except that I didn't like to see the garden and market produce nipped by the 'frost. It was quite a blow to those hav- ing garden stuff to sell. It didn't make much difference to us because we had very little of anything left in the garden any- way, and what was there the frost wouldn't hurt — like beets and turnips. Remember the meeting I mentioned last week? Well, we won out against the Planning Board, Against them, or with them — we are not sure which way they really wanted the vote to go. Anyway, all the property owners in this imme- diate district rose up in a body to protest the construction and operation of a store or stores in this locality. So we remain as we were — R.1 Residential. So that little worry is over. It stirred up quite a lot of interest in the district, only about two families were without represen- tation at the meeting. The de- cision restored our confidence in the power of the people. We pro- tested and our protests were given courteous consideration. Incidentally this meeting coin- cided with the first public ap- pearance in the United States of Nikita Khrushchev. In fact I rather think his visit had some influence at our meeting, The Planning Board were anxious to prove our rights as citizens of a free Democracy so we were. given every opportunity to ex- press our views, individually and collectviely. Next. day I took a friend al- ong with me and we went to a very different meeting — our first W.I. get-together since early summer. It was a large meeting — maybe partly because it was held in a very lovely country home. Actually it was a farm but several years ago the own- ers found it impractical to op- erate as a farm, it being almost impossible to get reliable hired help. So they turned all the acre- age into forage crops, tore down the rambling old farm house, cleared out enough bush to make a scenic setting and built them- selves a beautiful ranch house overlooking a ravine That is what I call country living at its best — for those who can afford to do it. And sometimes it is not so much a :natter of money as of wise planning; of being alive to the potentialities of farm property without the burden of. farming, A certain amount of revenue can usually be obtain- ed from grazing, renting pas- ture or selling hay, In this case I imagine the man of the family had some means of livelihood other than farming, Sunday we visited farm friends in Duftiferin County — getting on in years, only them- selves to keep and yet working far beyond their strength, al- though they only have a fifty - acre farm. They have even stopped taking a daily paper be- cause half the time they don't have time to read it. It is an- other case of most of the work and cash returns going back to the farm to support the ani- mals that, properly speaking, should be supporting the peo- ple themselves. We think their main trouble is over -anxiety to make good. They have had big- ger "vet" bills' in their few years of operation than we had all the time we were farming Nearly every cow that freshens has milk fever, probably through over -feeding before calving. We feel sorry to see the poor' dears working so hard, especially as they seem t othink it unavoid- able. It is another case of not seeing the woods for the trees. Less work and more planning would help considerably. And what do you think they had to show us — nothing more or less than an "imbecile calf". SALLY'S SALLIES 'What manners! your shoes. off and we're only engaged!!" Should A Doctor 'fell The Truth? Of all the diffreult deelsions a physician must face, none it more tormenting than this; Should a hopelessly 111 patient .be told that he is going to die? The problem is as old as medi- cine itself; and now, with the number of deaths from cancer and other chronic ailments ris- ing ,as the life span inereases, the issue has become even more acu,. inteBritain recently, Dr, Harley Williams, editor of The Chest and Heart Bulletin, determined "to bring this matter into the open forum of serious public discussion." He invited several eminent British physicians and clergymen to write a series of signed articles entitled " Should the Dying Be Told?" So far, three issues of the bulletin have carried the articles — and by last week Dr. Williams' project had aroused .considerable dis- cussion all over Britain. "On the whole," Dr, Williams explained, "physicians have fought shy of telling patients that they are suffering from an incurable disease like cancer be- cause in nine cases out o'f ten the patients will lose the great- est tranquilizer of all—hope." Yet of the six authors who have pi•esented their views so far, only one — Dr. John C. Roberts, a consultant at Harefield Hos- pital in Middlesex — argued that the truth can kill. The other authors all main- tain that a patient who asks a doctor for the facts should be told the truth — if only to give him time to put into -order his affairs, his will, and his soul. Among the arguments: "When a patient asks for e statement of the exact state of affairs," said Dr. Maurice Da- vidson, a retired consulting phy- sician, "the doctor .must at all costs answer. To e v a d -e this rbligation ... is, in my submis- sion, a breach of medical ethics Of course, there are no hard and fast rules as to how the truth should be told. A doctor's fundamental knowledge of human nature and his voca- tional training should have edu- cated him to this end.'° "I scarcely think it is possible to conceal from a patient for any length of time the serious- ness of his condition," the Rev. Alphonsus Bonner, a Catholic priest of East Bergholt in Essex, suggested. "He soon begins to suspect, and the suspicion with its accompanying worry can have quite as deleterious an effect as a definite pronounce- ment of the fatal character of the disease." "Many of my. patients are We had never heard of such an animal so I asked to ' see it. It was a queer creature without a doubt. About three months old — undersized, pot-bellied, running eyes, ears back and showing little activity. Laat week the vet was there to see a sick cow so they asked him to look at the calf — which, by the way, was two weeks premature at birth and denied normal care' by its mother. And that was what the vet told them — it was an imbecile calf. Has any other farmer had a similar experience? We had a lovely cross-country drive — with Bob, Joy and the two little fellows. And Bob had e surprising bit of news for us. Apparently a reader of this col- umn — from the Sarnia district. — was trying to locate us. Couldn't find us but tracked down Bob instead. According to this reader he and his family had followed the doings at Gin- ger Farm for years and practi- cally watched our family grow up. Bob didn't write down his name and has somehow forgot- ten it. So this is to say "thank you" to "Sarnia Reader" for your interest and we hope we shall be seeing you soon, children," Dr, IV!, 0, Wilkinson, orthopedic surgeon .at Black Notley Hospital in Hssex re- marked. "1 have found that they do not look to us for infalli- bIlity, but they da expect co,tn- piete integrity . , . If they sus- pect that they are being de- ceived, they become miserable., I think that sick and frightened adults have fundamentally the same sort of feelings! ,Materna Etiquette by Roberta lee Q. Is It really considered prop- er for a woman to use scented stationery, and 1f so, how, may she best produce this scent? A, This is quite all right, and the best way to do this is to put a sachet bag in :the drawer or box in which the stationery is kept. Q. I have recently noticed some women wearing rings over their gloved fingers. Is this cor- rect? • A. No, it isn't, It's all right to wear bracelets over the gloves, but not rings, Q. My husband and I are the godparents of a friend's child. Now that we are expecting a child of our own, is it necessary that we ask these friends to be godparents of our baby? A. This is not at all necessary. Q. Would it be proper to In- vite both men and women to a bridal shower? . A, Usually, when me,: are in- cluded, they are asked to come in later after the bride has open- ed her gifts. However, if the affair is. to be a "household shower," instead of a personal one, the men could be asked, Modern Wall Drama �t<Y� Slim, long, elegant panels — newest approach to decorative drama. Use narrow frames. Nature- inspired accents f o r wall, door. Easy cross-stitch, choose true-to-life colors. Pat- tern 526: transfer of two 8 x 21 - inch sprays, color chart, key. Send THIRTY -FIVE, CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal. note for safety) for this pattern to Laura Wheeler, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Tor- onto, Ont. Print plainly PAT- TERN NUMBER, your NAME; and ADDRESS. Send for a copy of 1959 Laura Wheeler Needlecraft Book. It has lovely designs to order: em- broidery, crochet, knitting, weav- ing, quilting, toys. In the book, a special surprise to make a lit- tle girl happy — a cut-out doll, clothes to color. Send 25 centi for this book. ISSUE 41 — 1959 PRIVATE LINE — Whenever the wanderlust hits him, all Charley Marr has to do is go into his back yard and hop a train on the "Wellington Line," Marr, a Westinghouse Copper cm- ployee, turned a lifelong interest in trains into a 100 -foot -long m:nialurs railroad he con- structed himself at a cost of $900. And while some lines ure having difficult times, Charley is planning to add more cars and trackage.