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The Seaforth News, 1959-10-08, Page 6"Dear Anne Hirst: I am on the verge of doing something dreadful, and I am terribly afraid. A boy I met three months ago is the most fasein- a t 1 n g, bewildering person I ever knew; and he says he is crazy about me. I know I am about him. But he tries to make me do things I know are not right, yet the way he explains them seems to make them right, He even urges me to take more than one drink, although I know I shouldn't, "Something is egging me on, something else holds hie back, I cannot imagine going on .with- out him, although I suppose I could. I don't trust him, and now 1 am afraid to trust my- self, "Maybe I've not kept up with modern times, but I am one of the very few girls that doesn't pet, and I wouldn't think of kissing a boy I did not Love. But then I've never had to make such a decision as this one! Can you help me do what I know is right? TEMPTED" * Times do -not change in the sense you use the term, Your. * grandmother captured your * grandfather by living up to * the standards of her clay. Stan- * dards of today are the same, * for right is always right and * wrong is as wrong as it was. * By living up to your own * standards you may capture * this heart -breaker, if you. * really want to marry a boy * who demands liberties in the * name of love. For Half -Sixes PRINTED PATTERN 4838 SIZES 141/2-2414 tty.+yL3 Smart warm -to -cool weather companion a suitdress with trim, slim lines to make you look taller and narrower. Choose tweedy rayon, cotton faille, wool. Printed Pattern 4838: Half Sizes 141/2, 16/, 181/2, 20%, 22%, 241/. Size 16% jacket and skirt 3% yards 39 -inch fabric. Printed directions on each pat- tern part. Easier, accurate. Send FIFTY CCENTS (500 (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern, Please print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. He demands them of you * because most g i r Is he has known have permitted them. • Your one chance to impress • him is to refuse. Show him * that you are too precious to * be cheap, that you come at a * price so high that he must * discipline himself to win you. * If you weaken, do you think * he would marry you? Even a * boy so low would hesitate in * choosing such a girl as the * mother of his children, Fie * will only take a girl seriously * who is stronger than he Is, * He is trying you out, as the * boys say, and you can prove * to him there are still fine * young women in thin world * who keep their standards fit * to live by. * You can live in his memory * by being the girl who would * not yield. Stop seeing him, * and tell him why. He is not * good for you; no matter how * good a man is to you, if he * is not good for you, he is not * for you. The finest marriages. * like the finest friendships, are * between people who bring * out the best in each other, * who give each other sone- * thing fine to live up to. ' * You will stay the way you * are, a wonderful person in * your own right. * * * PARENTS FROWN "Dear Anne Hirst: I am only 15, but I ant desperately in love with a marl 25. He is very good to me, and declares he is in love. But he hasn't much edu- cation, although he makes quite a bit of money. But my parents won't let us be engaged. "They object because he is divorced, and they say he is too old for me . . I simply can't get along without him, and I won't. Don't you think my people are unfair? DISTRESSED" * That you feel you cannot get along without this man proves how dangerous his friendship is. For a man with his drawbacks to try to win an inexperienced young girl does not reflect credit .upon him. And how can you, at 15, know whether you are really in love? You could be dazzled by his sophistication, you know. Your parents are trying to protect you from making a * mistake which could lead you * into disillusion and possible * disaster. You are, to my mind, * in love with love, and unable * to distinguish between a tem- * porary and a lasting affection. * If your parents consented to * your being -engaged now, they * would be negligent indeed. * It is useless to try to ouL- * wit your parents. (At your * age you cannot marry with- * out their consent). To test the * quality of your feelings, I • urge you to stop seeing the * man altogether and go with * boys and girls your own age. * That way, you will really * find yourself. Nothing would * so impress your parents with your willingness to cooperate * and m such a crisis this is im- * portant, IT PAYS TO ADVERTISE On release from a prison farm in Burnaby, B.C., it is customary for the prison officials to give each man a small supply of "comforts." With the issue of cigarettes goes a supply of book matches. The inscription on the card- board flap of a recent issue of boob matches reads: "Thank you — come again," In Sacramento, Calif., charged with passing forged checks, E1 - len Harris mused: "1 guess this ruins my plans to study cri- minology and become a police- woman." SAYS IT ISN'T SO — Opera diva Maria Callas, right, confirms that her 10 -year-old marriage to Italian millionaire Battista Meneghini is breaking up. She denies, however, that the rea- son is a romance with Greek shipping magnate Aristotle Onassis, left, who also denies the rumored romance. COMING ATTRACTION? — Chubby little charmer, 6 -month-old Amanda Blair Mayo just might grow up to become a sup - a star as her mother, actress Janet Blair. Mom has a sup- porting role in the swimming pool at their Hollywood home. i HKONICLES te' 1NGERFARM Mushroom time ... and we are eating them, gathered from our own ' acre lot. Whether we are braver or more foolhardy than our neightbours I don't know as most of them say they would be afraid to take a chance. The only ones who make' good use of the mushrooms are people who come to this country from Europe. In previous years we have found that Europeans definitely know their mushrooms. So, trusting in their knowledge, we are having mushrooms nearly everyday, fried in butter, spread over toast and topped with a poached egg. It makes a tasty dish. Some we give away. Well, you are now reading the words of a much annoyed wo- man. Trouble is I don't know whether to be annoyed at myself or the weather or both. Anyway all summer I have been promis- ing myself a week in Ottawa, visiting friends and attending a convention. So what happens? A week ago I came out with a beautiful rash which is either shingles or prickly heat. Which- ever it is it has been nearly driv- ing me crazy. Can't sleep at night or settle to anything for very long in the daytime. Apparently little can be done for it except keep the skin dry with talcum powder. Some years ago I had both prickly heat and shingles - not together, and never such a dose as I have now. So why wouldn't I be annoyed? My only consolation is that it is still hot and humid so the trip might not have been too enjoyable under those circumstances. I am telling myself that anyway. Might as well make the best of a bad job. In the meantime we have a little matter here that requires very special attention. We are living in an area that is strictly residential but as so often hap- pens there are two vacant lots, presumably house -building lots, waiting for buyers, Imagine our surprise then to get a letter from the local Planning Board saying that a request had been received from a certain party to have Lot — rezoned from residential to commercial in order that a gen- eral grocery store might be erected and operated on the site. Homeowners are up in arms. After all how much faith can one put in zoning regulations if they can be changed to suit the con- venience of anyone who wants to open a store, a gas station or a snaekbar? It just doesn't make sense, However the deal has not yet gone through, Maybe it never will as a deputation of irate rate- payers will be attending a meet- ing of the Planning Board to- morrow night. Adtnittedly every Planning board has its problems. Every suburb wants a shopping centre nice and handy but no one waists it near his own property. Let it go here, or go there, but not on. our road! Farmers, too, before they were out for big money on land .deals, did everything pos- sible to prevent buildings of any kind coming near them. Very rarely could a farmer be per- suaded to sell frontage off his property. Ola timers used to say hang on to your frontage or the value' of your farm will be re- duced by half. But then sub- dividers came along with attrac- tive propositions and it didn't take sime farmers long to realise they could make more money in one land deal than they could in years of farming. An so it goes, all over the coun- try, particularly in Ontario. Pret- ty soon even rabbits will have trouble in finding enough room to make a burrow. Suitable sites for summer cottages are hard to find too and the . problem of water pollution is getting worse every day. And yet, do you re- member, not so very many years ago, when you could swim in almost any lake or river, and any creek that was deep enough to make a swimming hole? We SALLY'S SALLIES INFORMATION Are. you sure there'll be no delays on that train?" Massacre M.n New York City It started as the week started, and when the chill rain ceased and the heat became fierce again, it spread like a dread contagion. At first, the Sports- men, mostly Negro, and the Forsyth Street Boys, mostly Puerto Rican, breached a three- year truce to launch a deadly rumble in Manhattan's Lower East Side. Next, violence flared in Brooklyn and in the Bronx, and in Jamaica, where the Chap- lains, Sinners, Bishops and Chey- ennes fight to the death for "ter- ritorial rights." At the weekend the West Side of midtown Man- hattan erupted. The week's toll in New York City's intermina- ble teen-age gang wars: Four dead. At least fifteen hospitalized with serious knife, gunshot, or bludgeon wounds, Two of those slain were 16; One, 15, and a girl; one 14, Among the gang 'arsenals seized by police in the aftermath were zip g u n•s, switch - blade knives, d a g g e r s, blackjacks, chains, lengths of iron pipe, meat cleavers, and a sword cane. Julio Rosairo, 14, was an ac- tive combatant when war broke out anew, between his Forsyth` Street Boys and the Sportsmen as the week began. Two days later he died in a hospital, of knife wounds in the back. Theresa Gee was simply getting some fresh air on a doorstep when one of a fusillade of .22 - caliber bullets killed her ins- tantly. Her 17 -year-old slayer, leader of the Forsyth Boys, was quickly apprehended and offer- ed only one appalling excuse. "I didn't know I was shooting a girl," he said. As the week ended, Robert Young and Anthony Kerenski, both 16, were sitting with friends on a bench in an unlighted Hell's Kitchen playground after a mo- vie, when the assailants struck, yelling, "No gringos in the park." Bleeding from stab wounds, Young and Kerenski staggered to the nearby apartments of friends. Both fell dead as they crossed the thresholds. An 18 - year -old companion, Ewald Ri- emer, stabbed in the abdomen, was rushed to a hospital where his condition was listed as r•tis- factory, Harold Luwen, 16, was treated at a hospital fur injuries suffered when he was struck on the head with a bottle during the melee. The survivors estimated that their knife - wielding, bottle - brandishing attackers had bare. ly reached their teens. The deaths of Julio Rosairo and Theresa Gee turned the Feast of St. Augustine, normally a gay and festive occasion for the members .of St. Augustine's Chapel of Trinity . (Episcopal) never thought of water pollution in those days. Even wading cows didn't cause pollution be- cause running water and the creek bottom itself provided a natural filter -bed to purify the water. I am glad our children were able to enjoy the little creek on our farm to their heart's 'content. They used to have a wonderful time. Incidentally, just recently Bob was wander- ing along the creek on our old farm and there was the biggest mud -turtle he had ever seen. Since the farm has been taken over by the Department of Highways the unused portion has gone back to nature. No cows or horses — or humans — to disturb the peace so the wild creatures from the near- by woods are having a field day. Better make the most of it, you breatures of the wild. Who knows, in a year or two, you may find your nature trails have been rezoned commercial! Parish on the Lower East Sid* of Manhattan, into a time of solemn prayer and mourning, Instead of dancing in the streets until well past midnight, more than 200 men„ women, and children, led by. the Rev. 0, K.:il- tner Myers, held' a solemn pro- cession, They walked through. block after block in double file, in slow, measured steps, bearing aloft a statue of St. Augustine and carrying lighted candles. And, wherever they went, they handed out leaflets in English and Spanish: "The people of St. Augustine's Chapel ask you to join them in public prayer that God will reconeil'e us, .one to an- other, and bring an end to fear and hatred." But even before Julio Rosairo was buried, the phone rang in the home of his grief-strioken parents and a threat was made that his brother would be "icnocked over next." And while the prayers of Trin- ity 'Parish still echoed in the East Side, Robert Young and Anthony Kerenski died 3 miles to the west, — From NEWS - WEEK. Q. If 1 happen to be in a group of persons, and someone I do not know joins us and no one in the group introduces us, should 1 introduce myself to him or should I ask someone else in the group to introduce us? A. Neither, If you happen to have something 'to say to the stranger, you would address him just as 11 he had been intro- duced to you. 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