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The Seaforth News, 1959-07-30, Page 6e AN NE1411 R ST vow:. -Fok cowoutiegot "Dear Anne Hirst; I am afraid I shall go to pieces if I have to live like this much longer. tlXy husband and I are still in our teens and have a young baby, and since we married two years ago we have lived with his parents. I didn't mind at :first, I thought it was only temporary; but though he and his. people don't get along very well, he seems contented here, I believe it is because he doesn't want any responsibilities. "He is the only child and runs true to form; he has a terrific temper, and thinks he should have everything he wants and at anybody's ex- pense. We quarrel now almost every day — abotit his family (they both drink .and fight so much) and about money. He spends most of it on himself and gives me just enough or necessities, not including clothes. He tells me to go out and buy them but he doesn't say what 1 should use for money. Frankly, I am almost threadbare. "Not only that, he goes where and when he pleases with sin- gle men Vs known or years. I am le;, at home. He won't let me have any of my friends' in, and will have nothing to do with my family. I have to slip out to see my mother when he isn't home. He says she should 'take care of the baby, and often r take her with me and leave her for a while. He just doesn't want my mother around. He hasn't any sense I "I believe if we moved out to ourselves he would change. Mom doesn't agree; she thinks he will keep on hurting or ig- Budget-Bright Idea 61i ratetalnzag. Area rugs — decorators' love! Put color underfoot — ideal for summer and all year. Thrifty to make — use odds 'n' ends. Nine rugs to crochet, braid, weave, hook! Some of squares — pickup work. Pattern 765; dia- grams; charts; pattern pieces. Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern to LAURA WHEELER, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto Ont. Print plainly NAME and ADDRESS. Send for a copy of 1959 Laura Wheeler Needlecraft Book. It has lovely designs to order: embroid- ery, crochet, knitting, weaving, quilting, toys. In the book, a spe- cial surprise to make a little girl happy — a cut-out doll, clothes to color. Send 25 cents for this book, poring me because he has got- ten away with it. She insists I leave him, But Anne Hirst, in spite of all this, we do love each other, and our baby is very dear to us both . . What shell I do? TERRIBLY UNHAPPY" * I suggest you and the baby * go to your mother's for a * while, Nothing but your ab- * sence can make your husband see the fact s of life — now * that he . has a family, and if * he wants to keep them he will * have to stop being a playboy )Y * and grow up. * Marriage means more than * possessing a wife and a child, * It means taking on responsi- * bilities that normally change a young man's whole purpose * in living. No longer is he a * free agent; he is the head of * a family who depend on him * not only for security, but for * love and kindness and loyalty. * The freedom and adventure of * his bachelor daysare gone; * he must substitute a hus- * band's protective concern for * his wife's contentment, and * a parent's guidance for his * child's future. • All this will be news to * this young man of yours. He * has some hard and painful * thinking to do (a habit new * to him) and it is not going to * be easy. Whether he can * char so completely depends * upoi his realizing that his * marriage is at stake. Perhaps * beneath , his adolescent ap- * proach to life there lies the * moral strength he needs to- * day. * T1 lime for argument is * past. :lion is the only course * that will impress him. I think * you should leave him, at least * temporarily, and let him find * out how much his marriage * means to him. After all, he * does love you and the baby. * How much, this is his chance * to prove. * DISCRETION PAYS "Dear Anne Hirst: Six months ago I met an interesting man from another town, and we have had a dozen or so dates together. I like him, but I am puzzled. I know people in his home town, and asked which iiart he lived in. He replied that he only gives his address to a girl if he is seri- ous! "Before I met him I cared for another man who married somebody else a few months ago. People say she made him marry her so I couldtet have him. I have known his family for a long time, and somehow feel he will come back. "What do you think? WORRIED GIRL" * Don't count on this out -of - 4' town friend Who refuses his * address. He is a poor bet even * as an escort. * As for the one you cared for, * it isn't likely that a girl could * force a man to marry her un- * less her family threatened him * with disgrace. However, he is * married now and out of your * reach. Think of him as some- * body else's husband, and close * the door. * How on earth do you get in- * volved with such characters? * I hope that hereafter you will * be more discreet, and encour- * age only those whose character * and reputation you can admire. * * When a young girl is not cer- tain her love is enough for mar- riage, she should give herself all the time she needs. Dating other young men too is a protec- tion against any hasty decision. In any problem, write Anne Hirst at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. "How far is it to the nearest town?" asked the motorist. "Five miles, as the crow flies." "And how far if the crow has to walk, carrying a tin of gasoline?" IIOEEPS a UNDER HER HAT — Natural straw and grosgrain !how tomcat!! head -fitting filling of this big -brimmed beach hat, VAVAlle,i,At4VPI044.4',44,-;i� W 44,k'j:nVa,A; , .„..„ ..... ... STAR BOARDER — Shreve Huggins need do no .half gainer to attract attention on a diving board. RONICLES INGEREAIRM This is the mpst unsatisfactory season we have had in the gar- den for many years, Not enough ram and too many bugs,. flies and grubs. Also cutworms, rab- bits and domestic animals. The insect doing the most damage looks like a cross between a flying ant and a small housefly. It sticks to the leaves of trees with a fine, gummy string and in less than twenty-four hours the young tender leaves curl in- wards and look ready to die. That is when I go around with a special kind of spray that spells death for insects either in- side the house or out. At least it stops any further damage by leaf -eating parasites, Of course one has to be careful not to use it too freely otherwise the rem- edy is worse than the disease. In the vegetable garden a lot of seed has either not germin- ated or has been blown dear knows where by days and days of high winds. It doesn't look as if we shall have any carrots and not too many beets. Tomatoes are doing fine except here and there where the cutworms have been busy. Pea's and beans look fairly good — if the pea -pods ever fill out. The flower borders have been equally disappointing. Petun- ias, usually the easiest annuals to. grow, are spindley and slow to grow. Pansies wilt before the wind. However, there is one patch of colour; the crimson rambler we put in last year i3 just a mass of bloom. Another treasure is a sweet scented honeysuckle vine — this year's planting. It, too, is in bloom. Cosmos, nicotines, cornflowers, wallflowers and burning bush look quite healthy. Unfortu- nately they are thick enough to make a good place 'for Ditto to hide, and there she lies in wait until Taffy finds her. Then there, is a wild scramble be- tween cat and dog and if a plant pr two isn't lost in the sham battle it's a miracle. But Ditto has her troubles too. Some weeks ago we put a bird -bath in the garden and last week we installed a bird -feeding station on top of an 8 -foot iron pole. The birds seem to know they are safe and perch on top of the feeding station with Ditto look- ing at them from below. Poor Ditto — she is as quick as a flash but I have never yet seen her catch a single bird. For which I am very thankful. So that's the garten story — except that last night we had a fairly heavy shower which we hope will perk things tip a bit and maybe wash away a few of the bugs. In the outside world, there was plenty of excitement last week. The arrival of our Queen and Prince Phillip amid all the hullabaloo about Joyce David- son arid her unfortunate ,re- marks on a 11.S, television pro- gram. Until recently I admired Joyce very much, She seemed' to have what it takes and had developed poise and understafid- ing to a remarkable degree. She was fast becoming a favourite on the television screen — per- haps too much so for her own good. More than likely she had become over -confident which caused her to make indiscreet blunders that a more experienc- ed person would have avoided. Certainly her remarks about the Royal visit were inexcusable and in very good taste. But yet ISSUE 29 — 1951) I feel sorry for Joyce. When everything was going so well she must be feeling terrible to think she spoilt it, herself — probably for some time to come. One daily paper raised the question — Who is Joyce Davidson?" And so I feel sorry her, and also for her two little girls. Children can be so thoughtlessly cruel to each other and. I have no doubt the two girls will be the butt of many an unkind childish remark. As for the Queen and her Consort, the welcome they are receiving wherever they go is sufficient refutation of any publicized criticism. Anyway, among some sections of society it has become more or less of a pose to flaunt so-called indif- ference to the Royal Family. It is meant as an assertion of in- dependence and the theory that all men are equal. On the other hand British -born people take an attitude that is hard to ex- plain. They respect, and have affection for the Royal Family as a whole, yet few go out of their way to watch for their pub- lic appearance. It is not indif- ference. They are satisfied to know the Queen is there, sym- bol of a still great Empire. So the common folk go their own way, quietly and unobstrusive- ly, content to let the Royal Family lead their own lives, in- sofar as that is possible. If they are in the vicinity of Bucking- ham Palace when the Queen rides by, no one could be more thrilled or pay greater homage. The upbringing of Prince Charles and Princess Anne is sometimes criticized but always good-naturedly simply because the populace feels the Royal Family belongs to the people. Remember after the Coronation of the late King George, and during the Royal tour of Lon- don's East end, they were, con- fronted with huge banners that read "Lousy but Loyal". It wasn't disrespect — just one of those things that possibly only a Londoner could understand. The King was immensely am= used. Brtih Column Held To Ransom Birmingham -born Paul Lund, who now. runs a small bar in Tangier, tells a strange story of the Burnie campaign in which he served, His column approaoh- ed a tributary of the Salween, the Nam Ting. There was only cne ford for several hundred miles, and they heard that it was commanded by a fort held by a chieftain, Tuk Tin, who levied tribute. from everyone wanting to cross, Tho day before they reached it, Tuk Tin sent a messenger to' the C.O. saying they cooldn't cross it until they had paid 30,000 silver rupees. If they tried Lo he would open fire. The fort, on a hill; was big and solid enough to protect a whole population with their cat- tle and crops, overtopped by a turret. . The column's artillery could have blown it to blazes, hut our forces wanted to keep friendly with everyone, so in the end the C.O. settled for 20,000 rupees. When this was paid, and they'd crossed, Tuk Tin, who spoke pidgin -English, ' grew friendly and invited them into his fort— e whole village with orange trees and hibiscus and roses in full bloom, with • plenty of water brought down from higher up by aqueducts, He lived in a big stone house with the turret, where he had four old water- cooled Getting guns and enough ammunition, he said, to keep them firing continuously for twenty-four hours. This Chinese bossed several hundred people, mostly Shans. He'd arrived there ten years earlier and just "taken it over." And before that? "I was a ste- ward on the Orient Line," he said. "Right out there in untravel- , led country," Lund commented, 'a Chinese holds up a British column for 20,000 silver rupees. You wonder how he comes to be in that outlandish place, running an old fort with antiquated wea- pons. And it turns out he was the bloke who took cups of tea round to the passengers' cabins a few years ago!" Proceeding north to Lu Fang, the column. came, across an old silver minej,e.,endl.ill round it the ground was litOred with chil- dren's skelhloni. The children, bought up •in scores, were work- ed till they died, then dumped there. Rupert Croft -Cooke, who has known Lund for three years, tells of his previous exploits as law -breaker an d jailbird in "Smiling Damned Villain." Modern Etiquette by Roberta Lee Q. When It is necessary to remove a bone from the mouth while at the dinner table, should one use a fork, spoon, or the napkin? A. None of these "helps" are in. good taste. One should use the thumb and forefinger, and lay the particle on the plate. Q. Is It considered proper now for a bride to telephone her ''thanks for wedding gifts receiv- ed? A. Never, under any circum- stances, should she substitute telephone or verbal thanks for that handwritten note of thanks! Q. Is it proper for the mother of a newborn baby to mil printed card of thauke for io gift receiVed? A, No, The mother's thanks should be expressed in a sin. eere, personally -written note. Q. Is it really required that one look directly at another person all the time that person is talking with one? A. Of course, you imply 'closer attention to What the other person is saying if you look at him — but be sure this doesn't become a fixed and hypnotic stare. Q, Whore do I put my olives and radishes served et a formal dinner, when there is no bread- and-butter plate? A. Place them on the edge of the plate from which you are eating. Salt for the radishes goes there, too. Q. 3 have heard that post- scripts to letters are in poor taste, Is this so? A. There is nothing wrong with postscripts, when neces- sary. It is better, though, to take pains while composing your let- ter to include everything you wish to say. Postscripts tend to indicate haste and carelessnes0 in the original composition. Blouse Bonanza PRINTED PATTERN 4885 SIZES 12-20 ty-Ame.-414.4 Sew -Easy blouse wardrobe — smart with skirts or slacks! Take advantage of all the beautiful buys in cottons — scoop up the newest prints, checks, solids. Printed Pattern 4885: Misses° Sizes 12, 14, 16, 18, 20. Size 16 top style l% yards 35 -inch; mid- dle 1% yards; lower 1% yards. Printed directions on each pat- tern part. Easier, accurate. Send FIFTY CENTS (500) (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern. Please print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St, New Toronto, Ont. e;,•5 . • NEW TWIST FOR THE HULA HOOP — Remember the hula hoop? Well, here's what happened to ctbout three dozen discarded hoops in Vincennes, Indiana. Motron.Ponsy Summers strung them up as o trellis for vines she planted at the Knox County OrphancZge.