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The Seaforth News, 1959-02-05, Page 6ANNf I4IPST Y,. . -,�.ter a.i,..:,t AN IMPATIENT GIRD MUST ;LEARNT TO PLAY NEW ROLE "Dear Anne Hirst: I have gone steady with a wonderful young man for nearly two years; we graduated together; and now he is working away from home. Be- fore he' left, he said we'd get married as soon as he could save some money. ... That was two months ago, and when he was home last week he didn't say anything about our future, nor do his letters tell me more, Meantime I got a job and by saving everything except food and transportation expenses I have a nice little sum in the bank. "I am awfully puzzled as to whether to wait for him ,or for- get him. We are both 19, and I really want to get married and. start our new life together. Do you think I should tell him so? He is making a pretty good sal- ary now and sends some to his family; they really don't need it, his father has a good position and I undrestand his mother has her own income, too. . "I am so awfully in love— and when we're together he is as good as gold! WORILIED" REALITY VS. ROMANCE * Don't you realize that it is * the woman's part to wait, * quietly and steadfastly, until * her man feels he can support * a wife and family? To stand * loyaly by, inspiring him with * her faith and enthusiasm, • * never voicing any impatience * with his progress? * No boy 19 can afford to mar- * ry soon unless he has some in- * come apart from his salary to * set aside as a nest -egg. In ad- * dition to supporting himself, * your fiance is sending money ' home, a filial gesture that you * have no right to question, He * knows his family's circum- * stances better than you do, o and your critical attitude does * you no credit; it would be * considered presumptuous, I am * sure he would be shocked if * he realized how you feel, * Knowing he is eager to mar- * ry you should be enough for * the present. It is unlikely he * will disclose his plans regu- • larly, for they depend upon * his success in his present po- * sition. He takes it for grantee * that you trust him you know. * To express any dissatisfaction * would destroy the idealistic * picture he holds of you, Ins * loyal sweetheart standing * valiantly by as a real help- * mate will. If he knew how * feverishly you desire an early ° marriage he would wonder €mpire - Inspired 'PRINTED PATTERN 4894 SIZES 12-20 £T-1 -(44ms Cut the prettiest figure at work or parties in this Empire inspired . fashion .,that makes your Waist.„ look so'tiny above "a flared skirt. . Choose check .or plain . . cot- ton, faille, wool. , - " Printed Pattern 4694: ,.Misses' Sizes 12, 14, 46,416 and 20.sSize 16 takes 4/ yards 35 -inch. • - Printed directions on each pat- tern part, Easier, accurate. Send . FIFTY CENTS (50¢) (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern. Please print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St„ New Toronto, Ont. ISSUF 5 - 1959 • whether he has mistaken. your A understanding of his cireum- *"stahaes, or lack the charaoter * to fill your expected role, or * both. * •A "woman often waits years * to, -marry the man she loves, * finding his constancy and de- * votion well worth it. Quiet * your impatience, and be * thankful that this honest, de- * serving young man, "as good as gold," wants you for his * wife. • If you cannot eontprehend * the realtities of the situation, * or accept this period of wait- * ing graciously, you had bet- * ter tell him so and stop wad- * ing his time. Your suggestion * that youcould forget him pre- * supposes your determination to * get married as quickly as you * can, and makes one wonder * how deeply you care for him * , . , . Thinkit over. * * * NO HOPE HERE "Dear Anne Hirst: .ror four months I've been going with a boy that I'ln in love with now. Right away he told me he never intends to get married, but I have fallen so hard that I be- lieve I can change that crazy idea. My parents like him a lot, but of course I haven't told them how he feels. "What can I do, Anne Hirst? Other boys ask me regularly to date them, but that is just so much wasted time, Isn't there any chance for me with the one I love? ALL CONFUSED" * The smartest thing you can * do for yourself is to stop see- " ing ,phis boy right away, be- * fore he means more to you * than he does now. * Why invite heartbreak? The * more often you date him, the * dearer he will become, the * more tragic will be his leaving * you — for of course he will O leave when he finds out you * care so much. He will not * mean to hurt you, but he is * in no mood to let any girl en- * tice him to the altar. * "Wasting time"' with other * friends will help you forget, * or at least fill your leisure so * you do not miss him so much; * cultivate them fast, and don't * leave yourself time to brood. * This is what hundreds of other * girls do to heal a lovelorn * heart, and you can, too. * * * The engagement period is a time of test, and should be one of the most beautiful and ro- mantic experiences in a girl's life. Be careful your fiance is not disappointed in you, but stand loyally by and leave de- cisions to. him ... Anne Hirst can help you, if you write her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. Dog In The Mirror Might Be You Do dogs grow to look and be- have like their owners — or is it the other way around? Dr. Guy Daynes, a 41 -year-old family doctor of Hove, Sussex, thinks it's the other way around, "Like dog, like owner — ;o far as temperament and even appearance go," he .observed re- cently in the British journal Medical Press. Whatever the reasons which prompt a person to select a certainbreed, the longer a dog fancier lives with his pet, the more certain he is to resemble the animal, the phy- sician said. Dr. Daynes' theory, which he claims can be proved by a casual visit to any dog show, originated in. his own home. "My mother's nature, generally friendly, but occasionally fierce, is a good example. She used to breed Airedales," Dr. Daynes also contends that dog owners have little effect upon the personality of their pets. His view on this matter was scoffed at by a sample of well-known London dog fanciers. "I think dogs grow quite a bit like their owners," said Pamela Chandler, who has photographed hundreds of dogs. "I have a Peke," said Barbara Cartland, author. "He is proud and independent, You might say he'is like me." "I have ,,,four `dachshunds and„a Labrador • retriever'"' •said *Lord -Northesk, .. chairman of, Cruft's, the famous •London -dog show.."According to <,. Daynes, ) :should 'have a•;;spiit - personality, but 'in„fast, 2 feel quite, happy _with both,” ' ' FALLING FROM GRACE A licensinglaw in force in Ontario, states that 'it is illegal to serve beer in licensed pre- mises unless the customer is seated. This 'being so, the licensing Board imposed a four-week sus• pension on the Vendome Hotel in Port Arthur after inspectors had observed waiters serving beer to customers who had fallen off their chairs, LIFE AND LIMB — Nineteen-year-oid Dinna Anderson takes a bough In Hollywood, Where she's on her way to movie stardom. She had planned a dancing career before she was "discovered". You folies who read this col- umn are now looking back to Christmasland the New Year season as a thing of the past. Children will be back to school and all your days will be nicely. back to normal. Or will they? Maybe you have measles in the family — cheerful thought— but there is a lot of it around. Or it could be you have a cow at the barn with twin calves, or a sow ready to farrow, or per- haps your water supply has given out and you are still wor- ried about that fox you saw last week. All these things can hap- pen — and sometimes do — in what we should regard as per- fectly normal times. But that, of course, depends on one's • defini- tion of what is normal. I suppose we like to think of it as a time when everything runs along smooth as silk. But how often does that happen? Life, to be normal, is• bound to have its ups and downs, which we gradually learn to accept and take in our stride. We haven't reached that stage yet in the present season. With us although the Christmas ex- citement is behind us New . Year's is' just ahead, with Bob's birthday thrown in for good measure. Of course we had a wonderful Christmas as we all congregated at Dee's place in Toronto, The four grandsons were specially good and man- aged to get into very little mis- chief. On our way home that night Bob drove us through Ex- hibition Park to see the decora- tions along Santa Claus Lane. They were really marvellous, far better than other years — so we were told. So, too, were the ones on University Avenue — at the Hydro office, Sick Children's Hospital and the Parliament Buildings. There was plenty of traffic but having to crawl only meant that we had more time to see the decorations. At home our decorations were getting me down. Illuminated evergreens over the front win- dows were shedding their needles so fast the branches were just about half bare, Finally I decided they had served their purpose . , . Christmas was over and they might just as well come down, leaving the greeting cards and table centrepiece to prolong the festive season. So now we have a reasonably tidy room. Two lovely presents from our children I must tell you about. SAM'S SALLIES "I brought title gentleman In to above you how well off yon because they are going to give me something to write about for months to come. Something I have wanted for years and now actually possess., What is it? I :say "it" because the two things belong together. Nothing more or less than a bird -bath and, a bird . feeding station. Bob made the station himself and it is real- ly something. There was also money in an enyelope to buy flower, urns to match the bird- bath. The feeding station will go up as soon as Partner can fix up a pipe on which to mount it. The bath and urns will stay in the house until spring. We had wonderful weather over the holidays — just grand for people driving here and there visiting friends and rela- tives — or going longer dis- tances. We have neighbours eitl•er side of us who set out for Florida on Boxing Day. One ' family is staying ten days and the other three months. Good weather has also made it a lit- tle easier for water -shy farmers. And there are plenty of them. Dry wells are , becoming quite common, and one of the most difficult problems to deal with. Another is shipping milk. Bulk or tank shipping is sweeping the districts between Toronto, Hamilton and Guelph. When dairies decide to "go tank" far- mers must fall in line or else be out of a market for their fluid milk. It is a worry for a small farmer to know what to do for the best. Some have quit the milk business entirely and turned to beef rather than go to the expensenecessary for bulk shipping. Our only livestock problem right now is Taffy. For the first time since we got him he has been sick and just wouldn't eat, If he hadn't been inoculated we might be thinking -of rabies. Thank goodness we had him done. It could be I had been too busy over the holidays to give him the attention he took$ for playing ball,' taking him for walks and providing him with bones. Perhaps it's mostly the;, latter as he took to chewing wood and. the children's hard, rubber toys. However, he ate his b•eafast this morning and is now busy chasing Ditto around. 'the house. So I guess he will live. Now I must get . ready for , company again..Nephew Klemi, is coming for a day or two and I must meet him at Port Credit this afternoon. A year ago today he lost his mother my sister Kathleen — so no doubt he is living the past all over again. Ile and his mother were so much in sympathy, one with the other. Dee, Art and boys will likely drop in too so 1 .better see what the "frig" has to offer. Dave , and Eddie are anxious to see the barn Grandpa made, them — and the animals i have provided to live in the barn. Here's hop- ing it keeps them quiet for, an hour or two! Modern Etiquette by Roberta Lee Q. Is mourning stationery still in general use? A. Rarely, although it's still available for those who want it. The paper should be white with a narrow black border, ranging from a quarter of an inch to one - thirty -second of an inch in width. The wide, half-inch black bor- der, which used to proclaim deep mourning, is not used anymore. Q. When a double-decker sand- wich seems too big and unwieldy to handle with the fingers, isn't it all right to eat it with the knife and fork? A. No; this type of sandwich must be picked up. Only on the "open-faced” type of sandwich do you use knife and fork. ' Q. What Is the proper order of recession at the conclusion of a churchwedding ceremony? A. Just the reverse of how the party- enters. The bride and bridegroom should lead, followed by the bridesmaids and the ush- ' ers. Q. When a woman is paying her first call on a new neighbor, how long should she remain? A. From 15 to 20 minutes should be long enough. Usually, a woman who has just moved into a new home has loads of work on her hands, and she might resent a too lengthy visit. Q. Is it all right for a girl to • freshen her•makeup in public? A. Conventions have relaxed in this regard, so that nobody thinks twice about seeing a girl refresh her lipstick or the pow- der on her nose. But anything beyond that is absolutely taboo. Go. to the, ladies^ room if you must comb your hair, clean your nails,, or use rouge 01' mascara, Q. What is ,the generally- acceptable enerallyacceptable tip to leave a waiter - in a restaurant?„ A, Usually • )ib per cent of the bill, although a. higher percent- age on a low cheek (as 10 cents lora 50 -cent check) — down to 10 per cent when the cheek is over $15 or $20. Hot - Pot Helpers All different, gay — cost al- most nothing to make! Delight a hostess with a pair pile up - record sales at the next bazaar! Six potholders plus pair of oven mitts — easy to make of fabric leftovers. Pattern 643: transfers, directions, color ideas, Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted,, use postal note for safety) for this pattern to LAURA WHEELER, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto Ont. Print plainly PAT- TERN NUMBER, your NAME and ADDRESS. Send for a copy of 1959 Laura Wheeler Needlecraft Book. It has lovely designs to order: embroi- dery, crochet, knitting, weaving, quilting, toys. In the book, a spe- cial surprise to make a little girl happy — a cut-out doll,. clothes to color. Send -25 cents for this book. HAPPY TO BE HOME—Newspaper columnist Marie Torre happily holds her eight -month-old daughter, Roma, in her New York home after being released from jail. Miss Torre served a 10 -day contempt of court sentence for refusing to tell a judge the -source of .a disputed news item about singer Judy Garland. HELICOPTER RESCUES. SAILORS ON BROKEN TANKER—A helicopter (center) flies off with crew members from the bow section (right) of the tanker African Queen which' broke in two on a sandbar off the Isle of Wight off Maryland, At left is the stern and midships part of the vessel. Helicopters and surface craft joined in rescuing. the 47 men aboard the Liberian flog tanker.