The Seaforth News, 1952-07-10, Page 6`eDDear Anne Hirst: My husband
A,&ft me two years ago. C can get
divorce whenever Is can afford
... I've been in love with a good
man for over
a year, and he
wants to marry
ole its soon as
I'm free.
"The trouble
lies with my
father; my three
young sous and
1 have lived
with him since
qtly husband left, All my life my
rather has dominated me. NOW he
aiorblds this man to conte to the
Mouse .. I stood it for a long
while, but lately 1 slip out to see
hint. (I ant 30).
"He is crazy about the boys, and
they love hint dearly. He is anx-
ious to marry me and take rare of
us all.
"Would I be doing right to take
aome rooms for the boys and my-
self? Then at least I could see hind
MARIE"
SOCIETY IS STERN .. .. '..
* You find yourself in that anon-
* alous position which distresses
* so many women today: Married,
* but without a husband. In love
with another man, but risking
* your reputation if you receive
* him.
* Your father lives by the so-
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* dial rules of hiX generation. So
* as you are in his home, he ex-
* peets you to observe them.
* Your only release lids in a di-
* vorcr.
* Can't you reconcile yourself
* to waiting a little longer? Hay-
* ing the protection of your father's
* presence? Saving the motley you
* would spend on renting a place?
* Besides, how could your young-
* sters be contented, cooped up in
e a couple of rooms when they're
* had the run of their grandfatlter''a
* house? You must think of them,
* you know.
* These questions deserve your
* most tl ughfal consideration,
* You know how harsh are the
* social rules of „civilized living.
* As a mother, you would not
* choose to expose yourself to the
* gossip that would follow your
* moving. However innocent your
* friendship with this man, who
* would believe it?
* You do not tell me whether
* you have a position or not. If
* you (and the man) save every
* dollar you cart, you will bring
* the day of your freedom so
* much nearer. And having played
* the game of waiting so bravely,
'how much sweeter will that day
* he!
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READER REBUKES
"Dear Anne Hirst: You have a
very great imagination! Have all
these things you write about hap-
pened to you? Or how do you
know them?
"About that wife's letter con-
cerning her domineering husband
--why don't you get HIS view-
point? He may have a good rea-
son for the things he does, Some
wives imagine a lot when they
want their own way. But thanks
for your article about her husband.
"You talk like a woman that
gets off work at 10 or 11 at night
and goes to a floor show till three
or four in the morning ... I feel
1 'have the right to tell you this.
LONG-TIME READER"
* Every letter that appears in
* column comes through the mail
* from readers who ask for my
* advice.
* In many cases I could be twice
* as helpful if both people eon-
* cerned wrote me their individual
* viewpoints. Occasionally they
* do, but not nearly as often as 1
* should like.
* I have no 'doubt that some of
* the complaints are exaggerated.
* 1 have to accept the situation it-
* self as a true one, however, and
* described with honest intent, at
* least.
When you are tempted to break
any social law, remember the cost
is high and you'll pay it for a
long, long time ... Anne Hirst's
sympathy, and wisdom, are yours
for the asking. Write her at Box
1, 123 Eighteenth St. Nees. Toronto,
Ont. '
DOWN SOUTH
During the train's ten minutes
stopover at a small southern town
ti woman and man walked over to a
snack bar. Inside they saw steam-
ing pots of creamed chicken, spoon
bread, pork chops, creole, and other
tempting dishes, 'slay we have two
creamed chickens in a hurry?" the
man asked the motherly old lady
behind the counter.
"Are you from the train:"
The nun nodded.
"No creamed chicken."
"flow about pork chefs:"
"Not when you're on the train."
Whets asked what they could
have she replied seriously, "cheese
sandw' •lies, People with only ten
minutes ain't settiu' here to gobble
down food f spent all the after-
noon prepariu'. 1 like folks to daw-
dle twee my food and appreciate
it."
Grandfather, Whitt A Big Car You Had --Appropriately shy, De-
oorah Collier, left, 31/z, and Grace 'Lyons, 4, pose beside the
overturned car which gave them a wild downhill ride when they
accidentally loosened the hand brake. The car, owned by De-
borah's grandfother, went over a curb, sideswiped a tree,
knocked down a fence and came to a final holt with its rear end
high and its front wheels hanging over a 15 -foot drop.
'Calamity Sal'
' Makes Trouble
Her Career
Sally Richards, 4, has spent
most of her short fife flirting
with disaster. Police rescue
squads never know when they'll
be called to the Richard's home,
and Sally's mother exists in a
perpetual state of anxiety. Re-
cently, Sally caught her head
between the porch steps. Six
months ago, she imbibed rub-
bing alcohol; a year ago, tur-
pentine was the beverage. Be-
fore that, disinfectant was the
drink of the day. To vary the
program, she has even tried to
manicure her nails with a meat
cleaver. Everyone is afraid to
Sally's latest flirtation with disaster occurred when she caught think of what may come next
her head between risers of the porch stairs,
Sally seems properly penitent, at left, as mother lectures her on the dangers of meat cleavers,
At right, the would-be manicurist is patched up for the umpteenth time.
! l RONICLES
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lSas r dnline D Clarke
The great need of the moment is
for rain—rain and still more rain.
Rain for the berries and gardens;
rain for the wheat and spring
crops; rain for the pastures—yes,
rain for everything is needed—
except the hay. And that is where
we lose out. Our first field of hay
was cut and most of it raked, ready
for the coming of the haler next
day. During the night it rained—
not enough to do goad to the
thirsty fields and gardens but
enough to toughen the hay so that
it could not be baled. That was on
the 21st. of Juste—and the wind
was in the east. Old-timers tell us
that the weather on the official
opening day of summer determines
the weather for the next three
months. East winds and rain mean
unsettled weather for that length
of time. That is not a very en-
couraging forecast for the haying
and harvest season. On the other
hand who wants it to be hot and
dry? However, I suppose it is
foolish to waste tune worrying
about it—wet or dry, we have to
take what conies and make the
best of it. Right now, drought is
more to be feared than excess
moisture. In Australia drought has
already killed marc cattle than wc,
in Canada, lost by foot and mouth
disease, One hates to think of the
poor animals literally dying from
thirst—and the ranchers powerless
to dope with the situation.
Well, we are losing more neigh-
bours -- comparatively new ones
this little. The roan went back to a
government job sone months ago,
now his wife is joining him in
Ottawa. 'l'lie farm land has been
rented to one man and the house
to another, And again Ihave fallen
heir to an oversize house plant—
this time an asparagus fern. And
books I Enough hooks to keep me
busy all summer if 1 wanted to
spend ]tale of every day reading --
which 1 am not likely 10 do, We
can find roost for tl.e fern; we
are only too happy to look after the
hooks; we don't mind adopting
"Alice" but we arc thankfal we
were not asked to take over the
seven dogs --registered Irish setters
at that, with cups and ribbons
galore to their credit, Fortunately
the dogs are also moving to Ottawa
to the cottage their owners leave
rented, If the accomodation is not
sufficient for then that is, for
humans and dogs—then the dogs
will be sent to a boarding kennel.
Truly a canine family can become
a problem -»and an expensive tine
at that.
Actually the same applies to
hooks. Many of these books are
Book -o -the -Mouth eelectiou,s tar
the past live years, However, they
are more easily taken care of than
dogs --some have already gone to
convalescents. --the books, I mean
—others are destined for the public
library, so there will only remain a
few that I am keeping for myself—
all of which are non-fiction. One
that I hare already started reading
i5' "Saints and Strangers" by
George T. Wilson—a history of
the Pilgrim Fathers and their
families. Another good book is --
"A Thousand Things to Know" a
collection of odd and interesting
items. For instance, this will be
news to most of us—next year is
the Sparrow Centennial—my own
description. That is to say it was in
1853 that the first successful libera-
tion of emigrant sparrows took
place. (Successful, is right 1) It was
Nicholas Pike, a director of the
Brooklyn Institute, who had spar-
rows—about one hundred to start
with—imported from England for
the purpose of destroying leaf -
eating caterpillars. Altogether there
were fifteen Importations of spar -
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rows between 1852 and 1881. Of
course it wasn't long before people
realized that the sparrows' insect -
destroying qualities had been over-
rated and that the sparrow was fast
becoming a public nuisance—
multiplying and spreading to other
districts, including Canada, in
great numbers. But the item ends
on a hopeful note, It says nature
has taken the problem of the spar-
row population in hand and that
their number is said to de on the
decrease in both urban and rural
areas. Can't say that I have notic-
ed it, have you?
Admittedly there are too many
sparrows, and they can be an awful
nuisance, but yet our farms and
buildings would seem kind of lone-
some without them, don't you
think? After all, "sparrow in a
tree -top" can be a cheerful ittle
biddy.
And now, to celebrate the begin-
ning of summer, I am going down
to put a few sticks of wood in the
furnace 1
Recovery From
Within
Excerpt from a SBC Talk by
The Very Reverend M. P. G,
Leonard, Provost of St. Mary's Ca-
thedral, Glasgow, Scotland.
Some years ago a certain board-
ing school bad fallen ad evil days.
The tone of the school was low,
and public opinion within its walls
was apathetic. At this school a
certain small boy arrived from a
decent Christian home. He was
shocked at the things boys talked
about and at the jokes they laugh-
ed at, and he determined in his
heart that he would have nothing
to do with it, As a small boy he
cut no ice, and of course he was
ragged and laughed at, but some-
how otltar small boys found life les%
sordid in Isis company.
As ice grew older and worked bis
way up in the school Ire began
to have more influence, and alt bs•.
creasing number of boys sheiks.; ell
gsathlly behind his *tardy .eltax-
atter. Ifo wasn't a great athlete,
but everybody respeete,l and ad-
mired him. In titre enutse he he.
carne Iletalboy, ;and when be left
the miracle had happened --the
whoa! was reformed, 1ts torte was
elects and fine and wholesome.
This wasn't due to any action
taken by the I.Ieadmantcr, or to any
new rules end regulations imposed
from above; it was solely clue to
ane small healthy -minded boy hold-
ing
olding steadfastly to his ideals, so that
his influence was like heaven that
ultimately leavened the w o 1 e
school,
It was a east: of reformation
from within, and that is the way le
which the bonisds of God's King-
dom are increased. That is our
Lord's own recipe. The Kingdom
of Heaven is like leaven, Ile said;
and if you want to know the joy
of a heart uplifted, try to be a bit
of leaven in the community its
which you live --and all the raising
power of God will be behind you.
Modern Etiquette
Q. Does a divorcee continue td
use her husband's name?
A. This depends. Sometimes she
has her maiden name restored.
However, it is customary now for
a divorced woman to tier her
maiden and her married name, If
her name was Elizabeth Preston
and her married 01110e. is Carlson,
site becomes Mrs, Elizabeth 'Prea-
ton Carlson,
Q. Is it good manners to usa
a toothpick at the table, Lately
I have seen this done by people
of apparent refinement?
A. The rules remain unchanged.
Toothpicks should never be seen
in use, at the table or anywhere
else. •
Q. When a young unmarried
woman introduces herself to some-
one, does she speak of herself as
Miss Jones or as Mary Jones?
A. Socially, site says, "I'm Mary
Jones." In business, she says, "I'na
Miss Jones."
Q. Isn't it all right for a man to
take the arm of a woman com-
panion when walking along tits -
street?
A, No. However, be should as-
sist an elderly woman by taking
her arm, and he may guide any
woman companion in crossing
streets or assist her in ascending
or descending stairways, by laying
his hand lightly on her arum.
Spotty Future — if your wife
breaks out in spots this sum-
mer don't cull a doctor. Chances
are she's just experimenting
with a new shampoo that light-
ens the hair without ammonia
and can be used for spot -dying.
The model, above, demonstrate%
the polka-dot version. Other
variations include sem!'=circular
stripes and light chignons with
dark hair.
Secretaries' Best Friend—Secretaries visiting the annual Inventors'
Fair in Paris have shown so much interest in this gadget that it
is to be put into production. A tin cos,, an auto hub cap, a note
pad and on alarm clock were used to fashion the original model.
A nimble secretary can light her desk, take notes, and limo
appointments uwlth the minimum of effort, by "sins/ the device.