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The Seaforth News, 1955-11-03, Page 6Come to the FRI. NOV.11th TO SAT, NOV. HO se Champion Livestock! • Queen's Guineas Competition! • Cattle Auctions! • Colourful Flower Show! • Cooking Demonstration! a Dozens of other features! ROYAL HORSE SHOW Evenings $3,00—$2,00 Matinees, Wade, and Fria., $1,00 Saturdays $1.50 Send cheque or money order, with { ROYAL AGRICULTURAL WINTER FAIR, seltaddressed envelope to: 1 Teepe OLISEUM, 70RONT0, General Admission: 50g ROYAL COLI EU toronto ANNE /MST I *wt. Ficuniely cou.vi4t,eat_J "Dear Anne Hirst: Over a year ago I married a widower whose first wife died a tragic death, and 1 am bewildered as well as shocked by his apparent determination to live his life with her over again, I honestly feel the whole house is haunted by her ghost, and I seem to be regarded as an interloper by his relatives. I am sure my husband loves me, but I am also sure he has no idea how I am hurt by his daily references to her. It is almost more than I can stand. "Everything in the house re- minds him of her, of course, and I understand that. But why must he describe why and where they bought an antique chair, and how much she loved it? Is it fair that clothes she wore hang in my closets and pieces of jewelry are still in her box on my dressing -table? Our eyenings usually are spent in reminiscences of trips they took and wonderful people they visited including her close friends, to whom he still writes. "I seem to resent this more as time passes, perhaps because I took it for granted we were to have a normal married life. How can we, when he persists in recounting the past? Why can't he keep it to himself? Or am I being narrow-minded and jealous? "SECOND WIFE." INDULGES HIS GRIEF * I wonder with you how an • intelligent man can be so cal- * ous as to force his preterit * wife to share memories of his * first marriage. His lack of * imagination and sensitive feel- * ing is appalling, his confi- * dentes are mentally cruel — * and no one would be more * amazed to hear that than the * man himself. *In his thought * and acts he is keeping the * dead woman alive, never * dreaming how he is torturing * you. If you had been married * before, how would he enjoy * incessant talk about your first * husband? * The kindest thought to hold * is that your husband does not * realize what he is doing to * you. If he is aroused to it, he * will be careful to keep 'his * memories to himself; in sheer * decency he can do no less. A * man of finer feeling would * have distributed his wife's * possessions among her Tela- * lives and friends and taken * care that nna+' to * the house, especially in your s room — but I expect he did * not think that far ahead, * Try to plan leisure hours * so you will spend some of * them in emotion -relaxing con- * Certs, plays, visiting friends * (including your own). Too * many evenings at home will * naturally remind him of the * past; when you are alone * there, guide the conversation K' to other topics — holiday * plans and other events inter- ** esting to you both. Entertain * his friends as often as con- * venient, so he will see how * much they admire you and how well you fit into their * group. * It may be that your hus e band married too soon after * his wife's death; if he had * waited longer he would be * comparing his life today with the dark loneliness he experi- * enced living by himself. Per- * haps if he reads this opinion, * he will better understand how you feel. Explain that * only because you loved him * you did not protest earlier; 'k you love him still, but now * you want a life with him * alone, unhaunted. (When he * comprehends how you feel, I * think you can trust him to * handle his relatives, too.) * * * "NOW 1 KNOW!" "Dear Anne Hirst: I'd like to give my idea on married men who seek companionship away from home , About a year ago I met a lonely, discarded hus- band. I sympathized with him, we went out often together. and (of course) I fell in love. Our friendship wasn't cheap, it was wholesome and dignified. We planned our future. "All my time, all my love, were wasted . , . he went back to that wife who tossed him out of his home whenever she pleased , , , "Hence my idea: Let us girls who are attracted to married men send them back home where they belong. If they have any problems with their "ter- rible wives" let them seek ad- vice from higher authorities. ONCE BURNT." * * * Fur a husband or wife to dwell on memories of a first marriage is sheer cruelty. Lock the door on the past and shield your present mate from what has been. Anne Hirst's counsel will comfort you. Write her et Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. SEPARATED — Movie comic Dean Martin was helping out in the high links at the Hollywood premiere of "The Desperate Hours" when he got q phone call from Palm Springs. It was his wife, former cover girl Jeanne Biggers, with word that their legal separation had gone-thr"ough. Martin says "neither of us has any plans for a divorce." They are shown here during less desperate hours, `,"-- 'Ii a'y,.//,i,/%,.ly/ HAONICLES 1NGERFA1M weMotinw. D. Ctaeke This is Thanksgiving Day A big day for Canadian families. I imagine we are just as thank- ful as most people for "the bounty of the earth" but yet it is one season that we have never made a point of celebrating— that is to the point of having Thanksgiving dinner and all the trimmings. Partner and I were' invited out to a turkey dinner but we preferred staying at home to travelling the high- ways, crowded with slap -happy motorists. Bob and Joy have gone to Cornwall for the week- end but Dee, Art, Dave and an- other little boy were here yes- terday. Also friends from the Guelph district and they all went home:, loaded down with apples —Greenings and Spys. I think between them they stripped the trees. The apple crop this year is wonderful. In fact, when you look back, it has been a good fruit year all round. I suppose most housewives, like myself, are finding it quite a job to lo- cate even one empty sealer. I am writing this column from a sunny south room upstairs. We have not yet started using the furnace because we find the south side of the house, with the sun streaming in, is warm enough, while the kitchen stove keeps the north and west sides of the house quite comfortable. After all why bother fussing around with a furnace until you have to. So long as the furnace is all ready to go at a minute's notice, that is all that is neces- sary. It will get plenty of use later on. Every time I go down cellar I look at the bulging bins , .. it doesn't seem possible we shall use all that coal before warm weather comes around again. In their new three-storey house (new to them, that is) SOME PUNKIN! — World's biggest "jack-o'-lontern" is this huge storage tank at Union Oil of California's plant, Each Halloween season, the company paints the ordinarily white tank a brilliant orange and gives it features. The mouth is 73 Feet long with teeth four feet square. Eyes are 18 feet long. The tank is so situated that it con be seen for miles across country, Flood- lighted at night, its great grin's enough to make a drinking driver swear off. Dee and Arthur have a stoker - furnace and they think they are going to like it better than the oil furnace they had in the other house — more economical too. So many ways to heat a house — and most people look- ing for a heating system that ensures the least possible. amount of work. A far cry from the days when the majority of .houses — country homes, anyway, were heated with only the kitchen range and a pot-bellied stove in the "parlor" — and perhaps a box -stove or Quebec heater in the dining -room. Those were the days when a pile of dry wood was our greatest treasure — preferab]y hickory, oak or ma- ple — remember the lovely smell that came from burning hickory bark? Occasionally the housewife would be faced with nothing but green elm or apple wood. And then the fire would smoke and smoulder and the oven wouldn't get hot, and there would, be frequent trips to the chipyard so as to. get •the potatoes boiled for dinner. Too many chips and sometimes the stovepipes would catch fire. Ah, yes, those were "the good old days"! Don't you sometimes look back and wonder how we ever survived? I do, But every age has its probe gems. At present we are faced with diminishing farm incomes, increased cost of production, high coat of labour and essen- tial services, speed on the high- ways, and increased fees for hospitalization. Apparently it is only a matter of time before some kind of Health Insurance will be inaugurated, whether at the national or provincial level remains to be seen. It, too, will have its drawbacks. But yet a uniforin scheme of some sort will eventually .have to be work- ed out. At present wage-earn- ers are pretty well looked after But what protection is there for the farmer and his fainily- True, they may subscribe to -an independent form of hospitali- zation but farm people seldom go to hospital if it can be avoided and hospital insurance doesn't cover the cost of illness in the home. And, as everyone knows, a person can run up big medical expenses without ever going near a hospital, Except on a farm, this creates a situa- tion whereby patients, instead 01 staying at home,. go, to hos- pital as the only, means of col letting insurance, It is one reason why our .hospitals are over -crowded. A national health scheme to assist with the fin- ancial home -treatment of pa- tients 'would a-tierts:<•would be a 'step in the right direction. Two years ago, when Partner broke his collar- bone there was naturally a big doctor's bill but not one cent could we get from insurance as Partner was not in the hospital. ' Steve' 4* _ I95 He telt he should stay home and keep an eye oil things. There must be hundreds of sim- ilar cases. 1 remember one time, during the depression a doctor said this: "The rich ran afford to pay the poor are look- ed after, but the middle class person pays his account without 'assistance, often as a result of selling cattle he shotild keep or raising a mortgage on the farm." Well, llealth Insurance be. tongs to the future. Now sup- posing we ,look back a year. Just about this time "Hurrioane Hazel" hit Ontario. Remember Reamore Drive .. , and the in- ternational Ploughing Match and all the instances of major and minor damage in so many localities? By comparison we have every reason to make this a Happy Thanksgiving week- end. VAT STUFF The old comedy team of Moran and Mack had a cat routine that always won a solid laugh. Moran claimed that he owned fifteen cats, and therefore drilled fifteen holes in his dining room door so he could get rid of them when he desired, "But one hole would be enough," Mack pointed out. "The cats could exit one by one." "Nothing doing," concluded ¥o - ran' firmly. "When I say `scat' I mean 'scat.'" A pedigreed and very expen- sive cat was shipped from Phila- delphia: by overnight truck to a purchaser in New York. The driver later confessed to Michael Gross, the poster artist, that while he was bumping along the cobblestones on Eleventh Ave- nue, the jarring loosened the cage in which the cat was con- fined. With one mighty leap he was off, high -tailing it up the avenue. Shouts of onlookers alerted the driver, who instituted an intensive cat -hunt, but to .no avail. All he found was a scurvy - looking scavenger in an alley Figuring that all was lost any- how, he collared the unsavory specimen,^shoved him into the cage, and delivered him to the purchaser. here's the pay-off. To this day the purchaser, evi- dently highly satisfied with his alley et, has never registered a single word of protest! The late Al Jolson had a cat which he told his friends was worth $5000. Came the day when he decided to sell the animal, and the skeptical friends waited eagerly for him to return from the pet shop and disclose the selling price. "Did, you get the $5000?" they jeered. "Certainly," answered Al. "Did you think I was kidding you?" "Show us the dough," demanded the friends. "Well," admitted Al, "this pet shop fellow happened to be a little short of cash so he gave me these two $2500 dogs in- stead." Roses are red; Violets are blue. Orchids are 05:95. Will dandelions do? Old Style Delferd Clark, one of the direc- tors of the Ford Foundation, de- scribes the visit of a delegation to the home offices of one of the country's biggest manuts.cturera of business machinery, The head of the firm marched the visit- ing group from one meehanica3 marvel to another, and once the ground floor had been covered, led the way to the elevator. One of the other occupants of the elevator was a beautiful young blonde. Halfway to the second floor, the blonde suddenly jump- ed two feet in the air, and squealed, "Yipes!" The leader e the delegation nodded his head and said with great satisfaction, "I'm certainly glad to note that at least one thing In this build- ing is still done by hind " Roses in Color! II Cwt. lArtubtat. Crochet roses in color — to decorate this beautiful new doily. They stand up in lifelike form against ,their .lovely background. Pattern 603: Lifelike roses cro- cheted in color! Larger doily 21 inches in No. 30 Mercerized cot- ton; smaller one.to match, Send TWENTY -RIVE CENTS in coins (stamps cannot be ac- cepted) for this pattern to Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., Now Tor- onto, Ont. Print plainly .PAT- TERN NUMBER, your NAME and ADDRESS. LOOK FOR smartest ideas in Needlecraft in our Laura Wheeler Catalog fdr 1955. Crochet, knit- ting, embroidery and lovely things to wear.. Iron -ons, quilts, aprons, novelties — easy, fun to make! Send 25 cents for your copy of this book NOW! 'You will want to order every new design in it, STITCH NEW SHEATH, LOOK FOR FALL INTO' WINTER The sheath • is Fairs fashion darling for street as `well as evening, Wlien you can make your own of beige viscose blend for only $6.00 tram' Anne Adams Pattern 4683 you can lead the parade. This version featuring the new side button detail was stitched in a Sewing Centel to show'you how good-looking and inexpensive a dress you can have with the help of your sew:ing- .machine, Pattern 4683: Misses' ,sites 12, 14, 16, 1.3, 20. Size 18 taken 3 5/3 ,yards, 39 -inch fabric. Send thirty-five cents in coin or postal not.. with youti printed name and address, stating, number of pall •rn ET11,1 ; i :p Lo Dee 1, 123 Eighteenth St., tem To,oniio, Ont.