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The Seaforth News, 1958-12-18, Page 6ANN -f Rani' Fainigy Couirsaelat "Dear Anne Hirst: After being a widow for five years I am thinking of marrying at man I've known a long while= but my three children, all mar- ried, are so angered by the idea they will not even meet him. They declare if I insist I shall never be welcome in their homes! I am financially inde- pendent, thank heaven, and though I am 54 I hold a good position. "My husband was hospitalized for three years before he died. 1 paid the bills somehow, raised the children alone;I never ac- cepted relief nor help from any- body. I had a time finding worst that would let me cook their mealsand be with them nights; I kept them in church, and sent them through high school where they were all honor students. A favorite aunt died, leaving mo quite a bit of • money, so things grew easier with the years. "The man I am fond of is my own age and well-educated; he ' has a pleasant home, a car, a good business; and money saved. Most important, he can give me the companionship I', need so much; he is kindness itself, utterly unselfish, and eager to know and like my family. "What do you think? Shall I keep on working, and live alone? I shouldn't need to ask anybody at all, but my mother always said we are never so wise that we can't question ourselves. WHICH WAY" TOO YOUNG TO KNOW * Many a woman your age is * as vigorous and emotionally * alert as when she was 40 -yet * to her children she is all For Starlet Doll PRINTED P-1,'; :RN411:4 3301/ Wairceb/ .v• 4835 FOR DOLL 12;17,'19" TALI. Glamor wardrobe for the doll that's the newest rage - the golden haired, dimpled child star now on TV! Easy -sew pattern includes dress, coat, hat, middy outfit, pedal pushers, shirt, night- gown, petticoat and panties. Printed Pattern 4835: For dolls 12, 17 and 19 inches. See pattern for yardages. Printed directions on each pat- tern part. Easier, accurate. Send FORTY CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted; use postal note for safety) for this pattern. Please print plainly SIZE, your NAME, ADDRESS, and STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS. Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St.. New Toronto, Ont. f mother, they see her as an old "' woman. They are shocked that * she feels affection for any ti man, and longs to grow old * with a contemporary beside * her. Frankly, they feel a bit * ,ashamed; they think her in- * clination to marry is little * short of indecent. * When they wanted to get * married they went merrily * ahead, never considering that * you would be left holding a 4' job and living out your years e a 1 o n e, unprotected against * loneliness or illness or mis- * fortune. They do not mean to " be selfish now, they just have. * not the understanding that * later years will bring. * The least your children can 4 do is to get acquainted with * this man, and learn to know it him. He would never deprive 4' them of your .affection and * concern even if he .could; he * has no desire to interfere, no * wish . but to . make their * mother's life richer and enjoy * with" her the companionship * each can give the other.• * I suggest you invite them all * over to dinner to meet' him. * They can hardly refuse. Have * you a woman friend they like * who can explain your need for * a more complete life? Or whe * not show them this comment? * You• have sacrificed every- * thing for your family. Now * that you can live a life of your * own, you are entitled to it. 4 Only you can decide, of course. * If after all your efforts the * children are still adamant, * marriage might not be worth * that to you; but certainly in * your place I should not turn * down this chance to marry * without using all my per- * suasion. * If they still refuse their e goodwill, they are storing up * dark remorse for themselves * that could spoil their mature e years. * * * NO-GOOD MAN "Dear Anne Hirst: We married at 18 and 20, and for five years my husband was real good and sweet to me. But when we started a family he forgot about me and the baby end began running around. Now we have three children, and he is still at it. "Shall I believe all the tales 1 hear about him, or put my trust in the good Lord? I've been the best wife I know how, always thinking first of his com- fort, but lie keeps right on drinking, while I do some work in the church. He fusses con- tinually, and I can't take much more. He just throws his whole check away, buys very little for us to eat and gives me no money for the children's other needs. "Indeed we haven't proper clothes - no money, no husband, ro father - just a drunken, no- good man. DESPERATE" • If you nave proof that your * Husband spends too much * money on other women, the * Legal Aid Society in your * neighborhood can advise you * as to divorcing him. However, ithis assumption is not easy to * prove, * There seems no doubt that • your husband is not supporting * his family as well as he can * afford, and it is on these * grounds you should appeal for * advice. He needs a man to deal * with him, and an attorney for * the Society should be able to * convince him he must take • better care of you all, or else. * Be frank in your interview * with this group, for you can * trust them to be understanding • and kind. * * P Children do not mean to be selfish, they are just interested first in themselves. If your family has this problem, write Anne Hirst about it. She sees both sides and often can explain one to the other, Address her et Box 1, 123 Eighteenth Street., New Toronto, Ontario. BACK ON A VISIT - Princess Grace of Monaco looks an as her husband, Prince Rainier (left) shakes hands with her Father, Jahn Kelly, of Philadelphia. The royal couple had just arrived 1 at ldlewild Airport. They will visit with friends in the U.S. before returning to Monaco for Christmas. "HELLO, 'YOUNG' LOVERS .•" -'A new romantic team -has come 'over' the Hollywood horizon. They are Susan Kohner and John Saxon. Their tender romance is a. -theme in the forth - corning film, "The Big Fisherman." • HIiONICLES 1NGERFARM G+eMoline D. Ctosk¢ Skim milk, so necessary in fighting the Battle of the Bulge, has long been recognised as the best source of protein ford we can take. And I do mean "food" even though milk in its natural state is a liquid, But do you know there is a variation in skim milk depending upon the breed of cow from which it comes? The higher the butte: - eat content of the whole milk the higher the non-fat solids it con- tains. High testing milk contains approximately 16% more pro- tein rotein and 8% more calcium than a quart of milk of the low -Sat variety. My goodness, doesn't it almost throw you when you think of the difference there is in farm- ing now and yesterday. Years ego milk was milk and we were satisfied to let it go at that and asked no questions. We drank it raw, and sometimes warm, just as it came from the cow. Pas- teurization was little-known - and just a lot of fuss about noth- ing, so we thought. As for skim milk,, that Was something we fed to the pigs and poultry. Look- ing back I am sure most chil- dren built up a natural. im- munity to infection, otherwise how would they have survived? Here is a case in point. Among our herd cows was one Holstein -Katie. She was a good milker and appeared to be in particu- larly good condition, so it was always some of her milk that was saved for domestic use -and cur children had milk at every meal. Then came government inpsection of cows and the elim- ination of 'r B. infected animals. We had two re -actors on the first test. One of them was fifteen -year-old Katie! ft was quite a shock! A cow giving bacteria -infected milk and our children bad been drinkii.g it for years. If they had not built up their own immunization they must surely have contracted T.R. T might add, no one outs'de, the family drank the milk as we were separating and sellirig churning cream. That was the first and last time we had any re -actors in our herd, Later we sold fluid milk to a local dairy and never once had a sour can returned. And yet the only way we had i chilling the milk was by drop- ping the can into a tank of ice- cold water from the well. Then the local Health Unit came into being and before long tarmers were told they must build milk houses, install electric milk - coolers . or else. A year be- fore we left the farm we put in a $300 milk cooler. I doubt if we got our money's worth out of it. But we were thankful. - for small mercies. Rumours. were afloat that all dairy farm- ers would eventually be com- pelled to adopt the no -handling method of milking and ship by tank. That would mean an ex- penditure of about $3,000 for special equipment. To many small dairy farmers the cost was beyond their means. Some went but of dairy cattle and raised beef instead. We, as you j know, got out from under by 11 selling the farm. Yes, sve sold milk when the only requirements were for cleanliness and a healthy herd. But all we got for our milk at first was $1.25 for an B0 ib. can. Now the price "paid to farmers is, I believe, $4.80 a hundred. But with all the re- strictions, deductions, expediture PLAY SUIT Chinese beauty Chen Ling models a sack play suit in London. The oriental print suithas elastic bands at top and, bottom. and shut -offs it is actually much less, Far, far less than the 244 a quart the consumer pays at the door, So, tomorrow morn- ing when you pick up your milk don't take it all for granted. Re- member the work, and expense involved before the milk gets into the bottle -and then maybe you'll find that 240 easier to pay. Well, while we are on the subject of dairy products hoW about margarine? Do you know there is another campaign for colour in the offing? Many women's organizations are agi- tating for the removal of colour restrictions, claiming that 71 million hours during a six- month period are spent in On- tario homes just colouring mar- garine. And of all the messy jobs that's about the worst. Of course, there is an easy way to avoid it . .. buy butter. However, with the cost of living so high, and so many wives and mothers putting up lunches, a lot of them just can't afford butter.' So, if they are going to buy margarine anyway what's the sense of forcing them to take that unappetising white stuff? We prefer butter our- selves but I certainly don't criti- cise anyone for using margarine, nor do I object to eating it when I have to. This war against colour crops up repeatedly and so far as I can see it's a losing battle. I doubt if, the removal of the colour ban would increase the sales to any great extent. So I am all for the sale of yellow margarine and let people buy what they will,' After all, colour is not the only thing that counts. You can tell margarine by its texture and flat flavor. Mar- garine and toast, and buttered toast are entirely different. So I say away with the colour ban and the messy job of kneading dabs of yellow into soft gasses of goo. However, if and when we do pet coloured margarine I'll still buy butter anyway. Too Much Emphasis On Security? The Amish people, a Mennon- ite sect, have been here for ;h very long time. To most of us, the Amish are a quaint group whom we see now and then in the newsreels ar the National Geographic driving their horses and buggies slowly to and from farm and marketplace. The men age all bearded and the woman all bonneted. But to their neighbors, the Amish are a law-abiding, God- fearing, industrious farm people who raise their children to re- spect their elders and to assume a responsibility for their rela- tives too old to work. In many ways, their way of life might be a pattern the rest of us would do well to follow. But the 'Antish are now law- breakers, because America, in its emphasis on security, has transgressed a freedom they hold to be paramount. Recently an auctioneer in Canton, Ohio, sold off livestock seized from Amish farmers by the U.S. Government because the Amishmen refused to pay the Old Age and Sur- vivors Insurance System levies. The tax, they say, is against their religion. To pay tax is to admit that the Government has a responsibility for aged Amish, and to admit that is to deny their own responsibility and thus one of their strictest religious pre- cepts. The records in the two counties where the Government seized 28 head of livestock from 15 Amish farmers and cash assets of 50 others show that no Amish - man had ever sought public as- sistance of any kind. Has this emphasis on security touched only the Amish? No; farmers are fined for growing wheat without •a Government say-so because other farmers want it that way in their search for security. Congress has per- mitted the labor law to be sd written that men can be forced to join a labor union in order to hold a fab.% � The lash • that require these things art di it should be re- membered,'laws enacted to pre- vent evil' or wrongdoing. It is not wrong, we think, for a man to have the freedom to work without having to join any as- sociation of other men ;in order to do so. It is not wrong for a farmer to grow wheat on his own farm for his own use. It is not wrong for the Amish to reject the idea of Government responsibility for their own aged members. To the contrary. What is wrong is the growing emphasis in our society on security. The wrong comes about when, in the name of the alleged greater good' p3 all, collective security is per- mitted to disregard or destroy individual rights or beliefs or freedoms. Furthermore, it wrongs more than the individual. For as one man's freedom is lost, freedom for all men is diminished as well. And though security is one of man's highest aspirations, per- haps we had better remember that security without freedom ie history's bitterest jest. And there is a point where over- emphasis on one can slowly, but inexorably, destroy the other. -The Wall Street. rournah. Gift -Worthy Set Sit wheat. Make for yourself ar delight a friend with a charming pine- apple and shell stitch doily. Two sizes - iarger serves as centerpiece, smaller as place mat or doily. Pattern 877: crochet directions 13 and 22 inch doilies in No 30. Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS. (stamps cannot, be accepted; use postal note for safety) for this pattern to LAURA WHEELER, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. Print plainly the PATTERN NUMBER, and your NAME and ADDRESS. A NEW 1959 Laura Wheeler Needlecraft Book, JUST OUT, has lovely designs to order; em- broidery, crochet, lmitting, weav- ing, quilting, toys. in the book a special surprise to make • little girl happy -a cut-out doll, clothes to color. Send 25 cents for this book. ISSUE 50 - 1958 SANTA COMING BY TROLLEY? - Early Christmas greetings are offered by Son Francisco merchants by converting a 30 -foot -high city tun:eei entrance into a huge b ciliac., for St. Nick. Display features 10 -foot stockings and 10 -Foot candles,