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The Seaforth News, 1958-11-27, Page 6[2,1,k14 414,4E "Dear Anne Hirst: I am be- ing made frantic by my hus- band's treatment of aur daugh- ter. She is 18, and deeply in love with a young man who is. everything a girl could want — and her father will not let him In the house. Our daughter is pretty, quiet, and has always been responsible. She holds a good position, and has always had many friends. But she never cared for any boy until she met this one. "My husband will give no reason for his opposition, but he is increasingly concerned about her, If she is out of the house he seems uneasy, wanting to know where she is and when she's expected back. She is, I do believe, far more patient than I am; she never talks back, "She has told me outright that she will not give up the boy, and of he can't come to the house she fully intends to meet him elsewhere. I cannot blame her... "Her father and I married young, I am only 39. He and. I have always been so close to each other until now. I know he thinks the world of our girl, but he is driving her awiaj;,from him. 3 am araid he is' losing all her Join in the Fun lio a bright early -bird -- whip up this gay apron now to greet Christmas guests. Fun to make. Happy touch for a joyous day. Santa's jolly face and tinkling bells trim this apron. Pattern 559: Santa head transfer 81/4x12 inches; 5 holly sprays, directions. Send THIRTY -FI'F'E CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal nate for safety) for this pattern to Laura Wheeler, Box 1, 123 Eie,htcenth St., New Ta- ranto Ont. Print plainly PATTERN NUM- BER, your NAME and AD- DRESS. A NEW 1959 Laura Wheeler Needlecraft Book, JUST OUT, has lovely designs to order: embroidery, crochet, knitting, weaving, quilting, toys. In the book, a special surprise to make a little girl happy — a cut-out doll, clothes to color. Send 25 cents for this book, ISSUE 47 — 1958 u-11,4 dot trust and affection. . , . Can you help me? FRANTIC It1OTHERR" * Many fathers are devoted to * their daughters, but so jealous • that they cannot bear the * thought of her taking any * man seriously. They want all • her affection, and often go to. • stupid lengths to hold it. This * daughter of yours loves the • young man, so be comes un- * der the ban. * A father must naturally ex- * pect that some day his daugh- * ter will get married; if this * one is reasonable now, he can • be consoled by the kowledge * that he has been a good fa- * ther to her. But what will she * think of him as a parent if * he denies her now? If she * forced to meet the boy away * from home, or if the two * should elope, how shocked her * parent would be — yet it is • he who .will be to blame. * Parents should expect and en- * courage love and marriage; * your husband married the girl * he loved — how can lie justi- • fy snatching the same right * from his daughter? • If your husband is close to * his minister, or trusts the opin- * ion of one of his married * friends, perhaps their argil- * ments would open his eyes to * such injustice. If the young * man is all you think, her fa- * they should be eternally * grateful that the two are in * love and planning their future * together. * Your girl is young enough ' to wait a while, Cheer her on * with hope. Ask her to be pa- • tient until father of her (now * so distraught) sees the light. * If he doesn't, and soon, he is • only destroying himself. He • will lose her love and respect * if he hasn't already, and the * rift between them could last * for years. * But if he is rational now, * she will feel a gratitude that * will repay him a hundred- * fold. (Perhaps you can leave • this page where he will find * it today?) * * • '7 MARRIED ONE:" "Dear Anne Hirst: The wives and children of alcoholics merit my sympathy. Such men refuse to do anything about their de- grading habits until they see that they themselves must suf- fer. Other peoples' suffering leaves them unmoved; it only leads them to drinking more. "Alcoholics bring deaths on the highways; they fill our jails, they increase the financial bur- den of the taxpayer. They con- tribute to the human agony of the world. I think they should be COMPELLED to accept aid, both medical and psychiatric. "Naw there is no curb on these prospective ,killers who turn their castles into hell -holes. Any wife who sticks her neck out be- fore a court is not going to get any redress. "I know. My husband is en alcoholic. VICTIM" About two years ago a letter came to me very much like yours. The writer, however, talked it over with her pastor, who discussed it with her hus- band. It helped. Have you tried that? You, and all wives who suffer so, have my sympathy. * F Y The wise parent realizes that children must live their own lives, and provides against that day. Anne Hirst understands the problems of both generations, and explains them to each other. Write her at Box 1, 123 Eigh- teenth St., New Toronto, Ont. 81G FACTOR in Russia's agriculturalboom Is increasing mechanization. But even this modern combine in the Ukraine wastes manpower. Three men are visible here running' a machine one man would operate on a Canadian form. BIG CONTRAST to Russian farm picture is this scene in Red China, where human muscles instead of motors till the fields and even horse-drawn plows ore a rarity. She was woman nearing sev- enty. Over a cup of tea our con- versation turned to houses, trees, farm homes and sub- divisions. I' was airing my pet peeve - the lack of greenery in most new developments. "Yes," agreed Mrs. H., "they tell you trees can be planted and the grounds landscaped but at our age we can't wait for trees to growl" That was a sage re- mark if I ever heard one. And X believe she was voicing a thought that had been in my subconscious ever since we left the farm. Actually, we have quite a number of trees on this property but not close enough to the house to provide shade. So we continue to plant trees and more trees. But as I look at them 1 am conscious of an urgency ... I want trees now. Growth is so slow' — what I want is a "Jack -and -the -Bean- stalk" variety. However, slow growth, doesn't stop us planting — someone, if not us, will reap the benefit in the distant future. We visited friends on their Hespeler farm last week and brought back five junipers for foundation planting. Also three roots of trumpet vine. That, at least, will grow fast and be a protection from the afternoon sun on the patio, during the hot summer days. In the meantime our nearest neighbour has plant- ed lilacs all along the fence. That also grows quickly and will provide a shelter belt plus privacy. While we were at Hespeler my friend and I paid a visit to two of the woollen and textile factories in that district. The cotton mill wasn't open that day. At one mill I bought knit- ting wool at 12d and 280 an ounce. At another plaid shirting, wool and rayon, 54 inches wide, $1.65 cents a yard. There was also a table stacked high with remnants at very reasonable prices. For anyone handy with needle and knitting a mil] of that type is the place to go. Especially if there are children in the family. As everyone knows the price for children's clothing is appalling. Joy bought a little pair of jeans for Ross and believe me the denim was little more than muslin. She generally makes his little out- fits but that was one time she wanted something in a hurry. When our children were small it was very rarely they ever wore "ready-mades" except when they were given as pres- ents. My coats always ended up as windbreaker( for Bob. Skirts and dresses were cut down to size for Dee. And they were as nicely dressed as any of thoir playmates. Mittens were knitted with old wool as I found it didn't matt and shrink' as did new wool. That was in the days before rayon and nylon mix- tures and shrink resistant Wool. If you ask me farm mothers and working men's wives can stretch the dollars more by making their children's clothes than in any other way I can think of. Some people even buy good used clothing for making over from rummage sales. Quite a good idea, too. Well, the countryside is look- ing somewhat bleak these days, Only the hardy poplar and a few sheltered oaks and maples are retaining their leaves. Even they are shivering on the branches as if disliking the chilly winds. Partner has been raking up the leaves almost as fast as they fall and digging them into the garden ready for spring. On many gardens all over the country, in spite of ad- vice to the contrary, leaves are raked up and burnt. What a crime against nature. I suppose in the spring those same garden- ers will go out and buy fertili- zer. So much is wasted. Any- thing that grows can be cut up, spread on the garden and will provide humus for next year's growth. Last Saturday was our oldest grandson's fifth birthday and he had his first birthday party com- plete with all the trimmings. There were nine children in- vited from 3-5. I though Daugh- ter was wise to limit the time. Long enough for fun and party treats. Short enough to elimin- ate over -tiredness. At the end of the day it was Daughter who tlired. The grandparents were not present. It was a pleas- ure we thought it better to fote- go. But of course, by phone next day, we got an excited commen- tary of the whole proceedings. And now we are back to standard time — no more con- fusion for at least six months. We turned our clocks back but Taffy didn't. He was yapping to be let out at his usual time. Joy and Bob had the same experi- ence with Ross. His tummy, not the clock, is his time table. They were all here yesterday. Ross is the smallest of our grandsons but what he lacks in size he makes up for in agility. He has extra -ordinary balance. Flis an- tics in his high chair give me the jitters. Is it my fancy or are children more advanced these days? Certainly rickets is a thing of the past — thanks to medical' science and improved standards in childcare. Famous Quipster Takes A Rest Give or take a few, Arthur (Bugs) Baer; one of the greatest one -line quipsters in newspaper history, could count I5,000 columns of wisecracks — politi- cal, topical, or whatever — bled daily from his typewriter. That adds up to 40 years of national Hearst syndication for Bugs, who prepared last month to give his typewriter a rest. At his remodeled farmhouse in Stamford, Conn., Baer disclosed that he is giving up the attempt to be funny everyday. Now 72 and ailing, he will stop writing daily and do only "occasional colours," "I was told," Bugs ex- plained,' "that I was going into semiretirement." The news touched off a rash of recollections among Bug's old friends, who talked nostalgical- ly of some of his celebrated punch lines: Among the best: On the Grand Canyon; "What a great place for old razor blades!" On Prohibition: "Wine, wo- men, and song are now wood alcohol, trained nurses, and 'Nearer My God to Thee On the lorgnette: "An aquar- ium for one fish eye." Bugg became a by-liner as a sports columnist for the old New York World in 1915, and soon changed employers on the strength of a warmed-over gag. Writing in The World about a slow -footed baseball player (Ping Bodie of the New York Yankees) who had been thrown out trying to steal second base, Bugs cracked: "His head was full of larceny but his feet were honest." The gag brought a chuckle from William Ran- dolph Hearst Sr., who — un- aware that Bugs had used the line before - hired him for his New York American. A quiet, earnest craftsman with close -cropped white hair and a craggy face, Bugs con-. siders the search for Inspira- tion an around-the-clock job. When seized by an idea, he often writes pages to p o l i s h it. "Humor is like voices," he says. "You don't know how it's going to beuntil you try it" Some of Bugs' quips have lasted so long that he has had them played back at him, us- ually without attribution. Since the mid -1920's, for example, en- tertainers have been repeating his caustic query: "How much would you charge to haunt a house?" Bugs collects no royal- ties but he can take satisfaction from the fact that two genera- tions of humor tradesmen have publicly hailed him as a master of his craft. The late Fred Allen called Bugs his favbrite humot- 1st and once wrote; "If all the brilliant mots Mr. Baer has ad libbed were laid end to end, people who appreciate humor would have one crack bigger than the Grand Canyon and s thousand times as funny.' From NEWSWEEK. Q. If olives and celery are to be served at a dinner, when is the proper time to pass them around the table? A. During the soup course. x.l°dere Etiquene by Roberta Lee Q. Is it permissible to sip water while one has food in one'e mouth? A. The only time this is per- missible is when one has inad- vertently taken a morsel into the mouth that is "too hot to handle." Otherwise, it is con- sidered very bad mariners to make use of water as a "washer - downer," Q. Is it proper for a woman to use her maiden name as s middle name after she is mar- ried? A. Yes, this is the established custom. In other weeds, after Joyce Margaret Stewart marries William Henry Morgan, she then becomes Joyce Stewart Morgan. Q. When one is sending a gift to a newborn baby, is the pack- age addressed to the infant or to the mother? A. It is more often sent to. the mother—but you may do as you wish regarding this. Q. When a bride•elect is mak- ing up her guest list for the wedding and finds it too large for the room available; should she issue invitations anyway to the entire list and trust that many will not attend? A. She's taking a big chance if she does this! It would be much better if she cut down her list, and ask her fiance to do the same. Costume Marvels PRINTED PATTERN 4845 WAIST 24"-32"' 46.4 How to look smart every day out of the seven? Whip up two skirts — one slim, one flared to mix -match with all your toms. Beginner -easy to sew. choose glowing tweed or vibrant color. Printed Pattern 4845: Misses' Waist. Sizes 24, 25, 26, 28, 30, 32. Waist Size 28 slim skirt takes lrlsyards 54 -inch; flared. 2 yards. Printed directions on each pat- tern part. Easier, accurate. Send FORTY CENTS (40d) use postal note for safety, (stamps cannot be accepted) for this pat- tern. Please print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. Mediterranean Sea ((ti)NEWSMAP.la SINAI SUEZ CANAL ` -`�"'��• s ee..r�, -ww---mak *-- `� 1trig ated Strip ,,,,,�,,,e„�,,,,"„•.,®:... CAIRO To Be Enlarged NUe Rivet `+' 300 -Mile Lake Would Hold I Three Times as Much as Hoover Dam's Lake Mead •ASWX,N DAM MILES 0 10 0 RUSSIANS RENEW ASWAN OFFER — The Sovie t Union has again offered Egypt financial assistance to begin construction of the mammoth Aswan High Darn, Premier Nasser's answer to his growing population. The Russian offer of 100 million dollars would be one-fifth to one- sixth the entire cost of the dam which, when completed, would add two million acres tothe country's present 60 million acres of arable la nd (see Newsmop). Withdrawal of U.S. and British offers of dem aid in 1956 led to Nasser's sc•eure and nat'cnalization cf the Suez Canal. s';