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The Seaforth News, 1958-06-19, Page 6ANNE HIRST o PanteLey "Dear Anne Hirst: AU nay life Ihave tried to live as a good woman should, but now, at 30, 1 am frustrated. Why can't I'hold the friends I make, especially thea men? Pm not a beauty, but I've been called very attractive and several men have paid me solicitous at- tention for quite a period. But I feel I have failed them all. They show they care for me, and some made promises that sound- ed sincere but turned out to be vague; they cool off, and I have to admit they have simply be- come bored. Then naturally 1 grow more self-conscious, and cannot be at my own best. "There are so many women whose horizons end with their own four walls and idle gossip, yet they land husbands While I (a successful woman in my profession) with varied interests, a true sympathy for others' prob- lems, and a better -than -saving humor, I go on and on from friend to friend making no pro- gress toward my goal. "Am I to sit back and give up? Never know marriage. never have a home and children? Or what can I do to interest a man and hold him for the rest of my life? "Can you blame me for co•i- eluding that men are out f -what they Call get, some decent girl to practice their lovenlakinl talents on until they find the right girl for themselves? FRUSTRATED" Ss Sit down today in your quiet z' room, and examine yourself as o though you were somebody 'r else; you may ferret out the Young Play -Set PRINTED PATTERN Printed Pattern that's EASY sewing for you, mother — makes a darling play -outfit for daugh- ter. See the "grownup" styling of the shirt -top ('plenty of room for active wear); shorts and pedal pushers to match or con- trast. Printed Pattern 4863: Chil- dren's Sizes 2. 4, 6, 8. Size 8 shirt I IS yards 35 -inch; shorts, 1 yard. Printed directions on each pat- tern part. Easier, accurate. Send FIFTY CENTS (500 ) (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern. Please print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1. 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. * fault in your approach to these * men. you knew and lost.. * Nearly . a year ago another * reader wrote me with the * same problem; she was several * years older 'than you, and as * hopeless. I remember that I denied being a fatalist, and 1` * persuaded her to relinquish•the * idea that one's destiny is fixed. * The great element of chance,' * added to a woman's imagine- * tion and common sense, has * been known to bring the tut- * fillnlent you seek. . ' * A successful professional * career can develop in a woman * an arrogance that stifles any * romantic impulse; positive per- * sonalities emerge that main- * tentionally reflect superiority. * They defy one truth: That a * male is still conquered by * sheer . womanliness, a little * flattery and honest com- * panionship. A girl can make * him believe that SHE is the * girl he'd like to come home to, * an individual, who fits. his * varying moods like a pair of * gloves, asks no embarrassing * questions, and is inspiring,. * sympathetic or tender as the • moment demands. * A girl with marriage on her * mind who has 'suffered more * than one disappointment sone- * times errs by yielding too soon * to a man's lovemaking; he con- * eludes she has been as free * with others. Again, eager * young women snub a man * with such hostility that he be- * lieves her incapable of any * emotional response. It is well * to realize that most men can * be repulsed graciously so that he believes he appeals to her * but she has too much self- * respect to yield to his bland- * ishments, * Miracles do happen, you * know. At just the time a * woman like you gives up all * hope, the right man suddenly * turns her corner, Then how * glad she is that all those other * males passed her by! Tomer- * row may bring your fate to * you., Never give up hope. * * * "Dear Anne Hirst: I should be happy, because I've toped a boy I really love. But -one day he says he loves me, and the next day he acts so funny that I am afraid I am losing him. I know that I fe:l too hard for him when we first met. "When we are alone we are al- ways fighting, but when we're with another couple, or with my parents, he is a lot of fun. What shall I do? "Do you know any way I can fall out of love? WORRIED" * Stop giving this boy every * date he asks. That will mean * that you will include your * parents, or another couple, * nearly every time you see him. * This is the simplest way le * fall out of love. * When you' go out with other * friends you will soon find out * how much fun they can be, a how much more considerate of * you they are and you will have * to admit that they are superior • in character and thoughtful- • ness. • If you will be honest with * yourself, this boy will soon • find himself at the bottom of. * your list instead of tops. * * When clouds of frustration darken your view, remember that happiness may be just around the corner. Theres al- ways tomorrow, and it may be bringing your greatest joy . . . Write your problem to Anne Dint., Box 4, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ontario. The salesgirl was describing the new four -piece outfit a model was wearing: "If you remove the bodice you will have a play- suit. If you remove the skirt you will have a sunsuit. If you re- move anything else you will have a lawsuit" FASHION HINT 7e HitONICLES INGERFARM even -dolt -me D. Ctack¢ Hospitals are not what they used to be. Gone are the austere white walls and furnishings: the white crinkled spreads and high sickroom beds. Modern hospi- tals now are cheerful and attrac- tive—most of then similar to the one I visited yesterday. It was "Open House" at the new South -Peel General Hospital. Small, as compared with city hospitals, but lacking few of the essential facilities. The location is ideal — a stone's throw from No. 10 Highway, about a mile from Cooksville but actually on what is known as the "Upper Middle Road," with a back- ground of fine hardwood trees. The present accommodation at the hospital is 125 beds and 55 baby cots. But there is plenty of room for future expansion which undoubtedly will be needed. SENTIMENTAL JOURNEY — Seagoing "newsboy", William "Pat" Reid above, makes a six - mile voyage every week from .Cohaseet, Moss:, to Boston Lightship to deliver Sunday editions of Boston newspapers: Delivery is made under terms of the willof the late James Dean, Boston stock exchange executive. Dean, who made the run himself until his death. in 1942, ,placed $10,000 in the Permanent Charity Fund of Boston on condition that the delivery to. the lonely lightship be perpetuated. • There are only a few private rooms — at the present high rate few people can afford the luxury of a private room. Nor is it always advisable. Semi- private rooms are favoured by most of the general public. Or even ward -rooms — ward -rooms being a lot different from what they used to be. At South -Peel a ward consists of two beds to a room separated by a curtain or panel the length of the bed. At one side of the room there is an open connecting doorway leading to the other half of the ward — again with only two beds and the usual furnishings — a chest of drawers, bedside table, an easy chair and a straight chair and an adjustable bed -table for meals or reading,. all in attractive steel walnut finish; The walls are ill pastel colours with' pretty drapes and spreads completing the colour scheme. The beds are adjusted by hydraulic control = low for • convenience of patients able to get in and out of bed; high for nurses making beds or caring for the patients. But all the emphasis has not been given to attractive sur- roundings—to what some call the "frills." Vital and essential equipment was given top prior- ity. There are fully equipped X-ray rooms, laboratories, dis- pensaries, surgeries and labour rooms --plus a comfortable wait- ing -room for expectant fathers! And of course there is a mar- vellous kitchen with stainless steel sinks, tables and working areas. The laundry and steriliz- ing rooms are equally modern. All in all it looks like a hospital where one might expect the ul- timate in care to promote speedy recovery to normal health—pro- viding the Board is able to main- tain a comnetent sl ell' of physi- ci•tns, surn'ron•; aril ntlrs^s. 'As alwDys ice i tun a to 1l'e human Modern Etiquette i,y 'Roberta Lee Q. Dees the receipt of a birth announcement obligate one to send a gift to 'the new' baby? A. There is no obligation, but t is a nice gesture. If, however, oone'feels one cannot afford a gift, or is not on intimate terns with the new {parents, then a congra- tulatory card or handwritten note -would be in order. Q. Is it considered .proper for a girl who is not engaged to wear a diamond ring on Use third finger of her left hand? A. There is nothing improper about this—that is, if the girl does not care about the impres- sion she is giving other persons., Q. When a family is in the habit of saying grace beforea meal, is it proper to adhere to this custom when there are guests for dinner? A. This most certainly is the proper thing to do. Q. If a great many wed- ding gifts have been received, wouldn't it be all right for the bride to mail out engraved cards of thanks? A. Never! If a bride does not consider the gifts w,orth her time and effort to write personal notes of thanks, then it seems a shame that the donors devoted any time and money to her. Q. We have just moved Into a .new. community. Would it be all right if we were to give a buffet dinner for our new neigh- bors? A. This might be all right in a very informal community. Us- ually, however, it is more ad- visable to wait until your neigh- bors make such overtures of friendship. Q. I have been invited to spend two weeks with a good friend and her husband who live in an- other town. Would it be proper for me to offer them sonde money to cover any extra expenses my visit might entail? A. It'would be much better if you did not offer them any money. A nice useful gift of sone kind would be much more in order. factor—the skill of doctors and the cooperation of patients—and their families. All play a part; all help or retard a patient's re- covery. If only more people would realize it — especially -those who, in the kindness of their hearts, visit friends who are ill, A few days ago I called to in- quire for an acquaintance con- fined to bed in her own home with a heart condition. The fore part of the week she had been improving nicely; then on Thursday came three visitors in succession. One of them, a good hearted soul butunfortunately very talkative and having a loud voice. Towards evening, follow- ing' these visits, the patient took another attack and the doctor had to be sent for If only sym- pathetic friends would confine their visits to about five min- utes. A sick person loves to know that friends are thinking of her but the effort of taking part in a conversation, or even listening for too long a time is often snore than she can. stand. Weakness and the extra exertion involved often :leaves her in a bath of perspiration.. In hospitals the hours for visiting are fortunate- ly limited. It is in a patient's own home where the greatest harm is done; the patient and her fam- ily are afraid of appearing un- grateful to those who come to call. May I suggest that in such cases you askthe advice of your doctor. 1 -Ie will probably limit the number of visits and the length of time the visitors should stay. His authority will let you out of an awkward situation. To the next visitor you may truth- fully say—"Yes, Annie will love to see you but the doctor says visitors should stay no longer than five minutes." If the visit is prolonged, break it up! We had visitors yesterday, but for more than five minutes. Daughter and family arrived for their first visit since the boys recovered from the measles. Full of fun and energy they made a bee -line for the swings directly. They were happy so Daughter. t'he baby and' I -left the big men and little men together and took off for Milton on a short, visit to Bob and Joy in their new home. We did not stay for sup- per as ,they are not yet ready for a house-warming! Incidentally we are.' wondering how .long i1 takes anyone to get settled. Last week we .were held up three days over the installa- tion of a screen door. It was partly finished and then left for 'three days. A general mix-up all round. We waited expecting I,he men to return; the, men tneanwhile. lacked the proper tools and waited ,•for them to come in. The girl in the office did not understand the situation and gave us incorrect informa- tion. Now we are wondering if it takes .three days to install a door how long would 11 take to build a house? SPARKS. LAUGHS — See any- thing to laugh about? Neither do we, but every time Red' Skelton looks at long -limbed big -eyed, perky -nosed Shari Stennette, he laughs. Bui sha doesn't mind. She's in bit parts on his show', but he's grooming her as a: future comedienne„ She says: "Mr. Skelton sees a clown quality in my face," Laugh, clown, laugh. DIRTY DOG The character and his hound came into the billiard parlor and sat down, "This dog talks," the character announced. proudly. "I don't believe it,' snapped the proprietor. "All right, I'll show ,you," Turning to the dog, "What's on top of a house?" "R -r -r -roof!" "And how's business these days?" "R -r -rough*" "And who's the longest hitter in baseball?" "R-r-ruth." "Waugh!" snarled the pro. prietor. "It's a fake." And he tossed both the character and his dog out of the place. "Shame on you," said the character to his dog, as he stag- gered to his feet. "Yeah," apologized the dog. "Maybe I should have said Willie Mays." Cute And Cool • 866 Gy feavLq Wt ttQ4 Daughter looks so pretty in this whirl -skirted pinafore. Col- orful embroidery trims neck. Button front — she can dress all by herself! Pattern 866: em- broidery transfer, pattern chil- dren's sizes 2, 4, 6, 8 included; directions for sewing. Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted; use postal note for safety) for this . pattern- to. LAURA WHEELER, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto. Print plainly PATTERN NUMBER, your NAME and M3 - DRESS. As a bonus, TWO complete patterns are printed right in our LAURA WHEELER Needlecraft Book. Dozens of other designs • you'll want to order—easy fas- cinating handwork for yourself,' your home, gifts, bazaar items. Send 25 cents for your copy of this book today! "Why did the little shoe run away from home?" "Because his mother was a sneaker and his father was a loafer. ISSUE 24 — 1958 t: t f