Loading...
The Seaforth News, 1958-05-08, Page 6ANNEi4ust r "Dear Anne Hirst: Our family is facing the real crisis we have had in 25 years of marriage. Our daughter, 18, has fallen in love for the first time, and with a young man whose character and r0reputation seem to be without a flaw. But when her father learn- ed about it he refused to allow the bey in the house! Our girl is very pretty, quite smart in her job and was always socially popular, but she never cared for any lad but this one. "My husband will not reveal his objections, and I don't see ;stow he could reasonably have any: From a loving and indul- gent parent he has become in- ereasingly suspicious, • a 1 wa y s asking her where she has been; if she isn't home he walks the floor. She is more patient than I am, she never talks back. "She has told me, though, that she will not give up, and if she can't see the boy at home she will go out to meet him. I, for one, cannot blame her .. "I married her father when I was 17, and never have dis- agreed with him an any im- portant issue until now. I know he loves the girl next to me, but what sort`of love is it that refuses her the man she wants to marry? Can you help us? Worried Mother" ONE DAD'S WAY * Some fathers are so devoted * to their daughters that they *cannot accept the idea of her * taking any other male serious - Party Pretty let uthA l9kAt. Dainty as flowers in Spring. Serve elegantly in either of these filet -crochet aprons, or shower a bride with one. Crocheted in No, 30 cotton. Pattern 873: easy - to - follow charts, directions for bib and half -apron. Crochet it now! Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted; use postal note for safety) for this pattern to LAURA WHEELER, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto. Print plainly PATTERN NUMBER, your NAME and AD- DRESS. As a bonus. TWO complete patterns are printed right in our LAURA WHEELER Needle- craft Book, Dozens of other de- signs you'll want to order—easy fascinating handwork for your- self, your home, gifts, bazaar items. Send 25 cents for your copy of this book today! * ly. They demandall tier affec- * tion, -and often go to stupid * extremes to keep her to them- * selves rather than share her * with anyone : I wonder * whether" your husband feels * this way? He married the girl he loved. * How can he explain snatching * the same right from his • * daughter? He must have ex- * pected that one day she would * marry, or would he rather she * grow into a thwarted woman * denied of every woman's des- * tiny? What will she think of * him? If she is forced to meet * the lad outside (or if the two * should elope) the blame is on * her father's shoulders. Can you suggest that he talk * with his minister or with some e of his married friends? Per- * haps such a discussion would * awaken him to the danger of * his attitude. If the young man * is all you think, he should be * eternally grateful his girl has * found one so worthy. She can * afford to wait a while. Keep up her spirits with hope. Ask her. *' to be as patient as she can * until this father of hers, now • so distraught by the idea of * her belonging to anyone alae, ' .comes to his senses. * If he does not, and soon, he * is destroying himself. He will * lose all her love and her re- * spect which he cherished all * her life, and the rifts could * last for years. * But if he is rational, she * will feel a gratitude that wtil * repay him a hundredfold . * It might help, if you leave this 'r page where he will see it today. * * * WRITE FRANKLY "Dear Anne Hirst: In a few months my divorce will be final. My husband and I' have been separated 'aver a year, and ) have the baby with me. "Meantime, I have fallen in love with a young man who vows he feels the same way, but he declares be is not the marry- ing kind, "Shall I return to my husband for the baby's sake? Or go through with the action, and hope my young man will change his mind? Unha ppy Now" * Often.I can read between the * lines of letters I receive, but * you write such a sketchy de- * scription of your situation * that I would not dare reply. * Why did you leave your bus- * band? * Why do you think growing * up with parents who do not * get along would benefit a * child? * Why were you dating an- * other man while you are still * legally married? Why risk see- "' ing him at all, when he says * he has no intention of marry- * ing anybody? * If you wish to fill in these * questions, I will try to help. * But I assure you now that you * are endangering your divorce * when you are entertaining an- * other man, * * * Children are expected to love and respect their parents. But if those parents refuse a girl the happiness she wants and de- serves, how ran she feel anything but pity and scorn for their ignorance or selfishness? If such n problem worries your house- hold, write Anne Hirst about it at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. Q. Is it all right to mail wed- ding invitations to recently be- reaved friends? A. Even though these friends might not feel up to attending the wedding, most certainly they should be sent invitations. Other- wise, they could very well feel shut out. SPEAKING OF MODELS—Pretty Beverly Smith; who looks like she would do well in the fashion world, does another kind of modeling. An Airlines stewardess, Beverly displays some of the airplanes she's built from kits, She has about 200 models and also collects photos and sketches of planes. MOUNTAIN PEEK—Brigitte Bardot, France's "sex kitten" of the films, takes the wheel of a jeep at Cortina D'Ampezzo, Italy. She, was in the Dolomite Alps on a short vacation. HRONICLLS 11116E14,11R aven4oLLr e P. C t ,t 1.e The ground is covered with a light fall of snow—and the De- partment of Highways has rolled up its snowfencesl I remember a few years ago we had the worst snowfall at the season after the fences were taken down. Yesterday, Easter Sunday, it was raining most of the day. We couldn't have had the family gathering we had been looking forward to anyway as David has the measles, Daughter the flu, Jerry croup, and Eddie and Ross and measle suspects. Quite a family, aren't we? And how did all you people fare? I hope you had a happy Taster even if it was somewhat wet and dismal. There is one consolation — we did need the rain. The land was getting frightfully dry -you must have realised it even it all you have is a small garden patch. I never saw the grass around here so brown and lifeless and the spring flowering bulbs haven't been making any headway at all. Just peeking through the ground and that is all. However our place isn't typical of this section of Ontario. We seem to have hit on a backward spot. Being on. high ground we get cold winds straight off the lake. At Bob's place at Oakville daffodils are almost in bloom. However, we would rather be where we are even if we do have to wait a little longer for our spring flowers. In summertime it is ten degrees cooler here most of the time. Bob and Joy won't be at Oak- ville much longer. They have bought a house in Milton and expect to move towards the end at the month. Joy and I were over to inspect the house again. last week. It is not quite finish- ed and the grounds are in an awful mess but I suppose in a week or two it will look quite different. The house is right at the edge of a subdivision so • they are almost in the country. Between the opposite houses they will have a good view of "the Mountain". There is one • thing to be said for subdivisions —they are much safer for small children. Truck and car -drivers are obviously child -conscious and drive with greater care than they do on main roads and older streets, Coming home from Milton 1 stopped at a poultry farm and got some good, fresh 'eggs—1 knew where to go because I had met the lady at the house at our W.I. meeting. See what con- tacts one makes at the W,1.! I -had :occasionally been getting eggs at another poultry farm but it was , quite a piece to go and the eggs were higher than store prices. I didn't go for that too well—not when we always used to sell our eggs a few cents below store price to people who were willing to pick them up at the 'farm. And our eggs were graded and candled too. My goodness, what an exciting time we had last week—over the.. Federal -election returns, I mean. Whoever could have anticipated such a landslide? And what a terrific responsibility the newly re-elected party has on its hands. Who would want to be in the Prime Minister's shoes? Even he seemed almost stunned when he first appeared on TV afterwards. As for Lester Pearson no one could say but what he was a good loser. Of one thing I am quite sure, everyone, irrespective of party polities, regretted the defeat of Mr. Coldwell, No one could see or listen to him with- out realising his fine qualities and his sincerity of purpose, But perhaps it is just as well—he will now be able to take life more easily and we hope enjoy his well-earned leisure. I :wonder if some folk go around with eyes half shut and cotton batting in their ears. In spite of warning by radio, TV and the printed word, that the polls would close atsix o'clock, we know of four people at least who turned up to vote at 6.30, and were quite annoyed at losing their votes. Well, the next excitement was the dynamite blast at Ripple Rock. That was really dramatic, even over TV. What must it have been like for the actual spectators? How wonderful to think that for once explosives were used to protect and save lives instead of destroy them. Especially after Bertrand Rus- sell's dire predictions for the future of mankind, Mr. Russell always ignores the possibility oP Divine intervention. The Easter message is just as true and forceful now es it ever was. Perhaps more se as In troubled times we are apt to pay more • attention to, and get greater comfort from, the story of the Resurrection. Yes, great events take place day by day — which we needs must leave to those in authority. Concern with our own little family affairs may sometimes seem small-minded. Actually it isn't. A chain Is no stronger Mile -Long Letters Told Of His Love High, in the 'sky above` the Swedish holiday resort a strange shape began' -to form., Countless thousands of pairs of eyes gazed wonderingly upwards as it was realized that an aircraftflying at about. 20,000 feet was responsible. The pilot was drawing a huge vapor -trail heart over the resort. When he had finished, with -a' large arrow which ran through its centre, he wrote in mile -long letters the words: "Darling Jean- ette. I love you. Proposing to- night by telephone, eight o'clock." The aircraft, vanished but th message retrained visible for least a quarter of an hour afte •wards and everybody wondere about the identity of the pil and Jeanette. She was a blond 23-year-ol shop assistant on holiday wit her parents at the resort; The had forbidden her to meet th young airman, despite the fac thatthey were very much love, so he had chosen this novo way of telling her of his devotion He was well aware that all th letters and messages he had sen to the girl at the hotel had be intercepted by her parents. At eight p,m. sharp the tele phone rang in the girl's room a the hotel. She had made, some ex cuse to her unsuspecting parents who knew nothing of his novel love message, and was awaiting her lover's call. "I saw your sky message as I was sunbathing at the swim- ming pool, darling," she .whis- pered over the long-distance tele- phone, "Of course ' I'll marry you," And she fixed the date. When her parents got wind of what was afoot they tried to stop the wedding, but failed. The girl ran away andthe marriage took place. The parents have since relented and forgiven her, Love always finds a way. And it's as true today as it ever was that all the world loves a lover and is willing to help him or her When the occasion arises. It happened only a short time ago when 22 -year-old Shirley Holmes, a Hampshire girl, with a hole in her heart, longed and pined in England for her Italian fiance, Giulio Comparini, with whom she had fallen in love seven months earlier under blue Italian` skies while she was on holiday. He was a waiter at her hotel. She made up her mind to risk her life by returning to Italy to be with him and the whole world became interested in their romantic story. By this time Giulio was a conscript in the Italian army, And when they heard what the girl planned to do, the sympathetic Defence Ministry in Rome gave her lover • $100 and 30 days' leave so that he could fly to her, place a be- trothal ring on her finger and discuss their proposed wedding in 1969. Many a young man has shown that he will brave anything, even a terrible death to win the wo- man he laves, In New York they tell the story of a lovely young bathing beauty who apparently had a heart of stone. Many men tried to woo her. She spurned all of them—except two whom she lik- ed. Both proposed to her. She turned them down—and then made a strange propesal of her own. "Pll marry the one who will jump out at the window of an apartment on the sixth floor of a skyscraper," she said. They e at r- d of d y e t in 1 e n t than its weakest link. To oper- ate a farm, a business or an az- Lica successfully; or to have a happy home or to raise good, healthy intelligent children re- quires plenty of thought and at- tention to detail. Cows have to be milked, meals cooked and dishes washed. Yes, and even spring-cleaning must be .done! Men are hard to convince but too many cobwebs in evidence can clutter the mind as well as the walls and ceilings of our homes. could hardly believe their ears, but it was soon clear that she was in. earnest. One of the men, the younger, backed out, appalled at the pros- pect of killing himself just to please the whim of a heartless.'. woman. But the other man stood firm:'. "I'll jump," he said, "but if I don't. die, you may find yourself mar- ried to a cripple for life. I want to show you that I truly love' you." He jumped from the window early next morning—and escaped uninjured. He fell into a fire- man's safety net which the girl had thoughtfully provided! "I only wanted to test your - love," she explained, "Now I'll' certainly marry you, You're the bravest men I've ever known:" When two people are determ- ined to marry, anything may happen. In New Zealand a Maori m jail was not allowed to see the girl he loved when she visited him hoping to fix a date for their wedding. So he had a hacksaw blade smuggled into his cell by a friend who had recently been discharged from the jail. With it he cut through the window:bara and walked ten miles to the girl's home. They made their wedding Plans and he: spent a whole day with her before the police arriv- ed and took him back to prison. Q. What is the most useful marking to have printed on sta- tionery, both for personal and business correspondence? A. Your house address, Week's Sew -Thrifty PRINTED PATTERN 766 2 -Sl SITES 1 �4y M?.-44.4 Sew this adorable frock for daughter in a jiffy — with our Printed Pattern! See the dia- gram; it's the EASIEST! She'll love the style; cool scoop neck- line, bow of contrast binding. Printed Pattern 4766; Jiffy -cut entire dress at once! Children's Sizes 2, 4, 6, 8. Size 6 requires 2r/s yards 35 -inch fabric. Printed directions on each pat- tern part. Easier, accurate, Send FORTY CENTS (40#) (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for thin pattern. Please print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. ISSUE 18 — 1958 41.1 U4. HOW TO GET A DATE IN MOROCCO—Basket-laden donkeys are all but hidden' by theirburden of woven baskets near Dlork,,Morocco. Their driver, left, heads them toward a stand of cat;: pain)', reody for harvesting, where baskets will be packed with the fruit. a