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The Seaforth News, 1957-07-04, Page 6AN1s).f_TTJ HE'S 11 YEAR,S,OLDIyR SHOULD THEY MARRi ? "Dear Anne Hirst: T, a man X've laved, for_' live yeairs is 29, Fld I am 40. Almost from the st he has begged me to marry m, but I have hesitated be- ause of our ages. He declares that oesn't matter,and if I didn't now his age I would think it Was my own because we are se inthome together, But I have to e fair, and perhaps he should d someone younger. "You should know that I am B widow with two teen-age uldren;.lie loves them, and they think he's wonderful. (He Was married at 19 andlost his wife.) l have stopped seeing 3hltn several times, but we found Ourselves completely miserable gpart. Now he ispleading once time that he needs a• wife and that it is me he wants. But if don't make up my mind soon, be will leave town for good; $he suspense is -telling on him. "I have read your column for iears, and now he is reading it, oo, and thinks it makes sense. e are putting it up to you. Slim and Smart: 36-50 PRINTED PATTERN Our new PRINTED Pattern— in a dress that's wonderfully becoming to the larger figure! ,An insert of contrast fabric points up with smart diagonal bodice; slimming side -pleated sikirt. Printed Pattern 4621: Wom- en's Sizes 36, 38, 40, 42, 44, 46, 48, 50. Size 36 takes 3% yards $0 -inch fabric; +'s yard contrast. Printed directions on each pattern part. Easier, faster, ac- curate. Send FORTY CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted; use postal note for safety) for this pattern. Please print plainly your SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS and STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. From your long experience, is 1I years too great' a span to con- quer when we are both so much in love? I'm not getting young- er, and I never thought of mar- rying again until I met. him. We ask your most thoughtful coun- sel, IN DOUBT".. IIOUR OF DECISION * Isn't five years long enough to test this man's devotion and * faithfulness? He is respon- * sib e, single -hearted, impa- * tient to marry. If you waited * another year woul you know * him any better? * You both have been mar- * ried before. You are rich in * experience, familiar with the * complications of family life. * He is eager to share your res- * ponsibilty for the children. If * you had the faintest doubt * that h`e would make his own * place with you all, I would - * not suggest marriage. But you * say he and the children get * along as though he were al - '4' ready their father, * The man is obviously older. * than his years, Your heart is * young; and you two enjoy the * same things, have similar * ideals of marriage. The trust * you have in each other has * been unswerving almost since * the beginning. ' * I agree that the man you * love has waited long enough. * For once I can enjoy the * pleasure of recommending the * marriage a reader desires. Go * ahead. * * * YOUNG LOVE "Dear Anne Hirst: I am 17 and all mixed up. I am in love with a boy a year older, but there is another one who thinks he is in love with me, although he knows I don't return it. "My sweetheart thinks 1 should stop seeing this young man because if he gets to care more for me he would be hurt worse when I must send him away. "What do you think? Isn't it all right to date him so long as I don't lead hint on? WONDERING" * If you are engaged to the * boy you love it is not const- * dente to date anyone else, If * you and he are not pledged * to marry, however, you are * free to see anyone you wish. * At your age it is smart to * accept the fact that the boy * you are in love with may not * become your hsuband; either * one of you can change your mind in the next year or so. * H this happens and you have * given up other friends, you'll * have to start finding new * beaux all over again. Mean- * time you'll have no dates at * all. That isn't practical, is it? * If this other boy wants to * date you, knowing you are in. * love with someone else, that is * up to him. * .* * When doubts assail you, turn to Anne Hirst. Her opinions are sound as well as honest, and she will disagree with you if she must. Write her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. "Do you think you can make a good portrait of my wife?" said a prospective client to an artist. "My dear sir, I can make :t so life -like that you'll jump every time you see it," was the reply. FOUR FEET ABOVE SEA LEVEL -Foot -loose and fancy-free here's a' vacation scene from a vacationer's eye -view. The cool drinks and lower extremeties belong to a pair of contented visitors in Daytona Beach. BARBECUE -Bandleader Spike Jones demonstrates that he's serious about reforming his band — and his wardrobe. Spike and his wife, Helen, "barbecue" his loud plaids in the backyard of his Beverly 'Hills home. It's navy blue cashmere from now on for Spike, who's determined to get rid of his "musical clown" title. He says his television audience "likes the old favorites." ..,.. - "Y• 1 t HRONICLES 1NGERFARM' Gwerdoli .e P. Cta„t1 e Here is an item of news that should be of interest to anyone living in an area where a new hospital is under construction. Last Saturday I went to the cornerstone ceremony of the South -Peel Hospital just two miles from our new home. I went because up to that time I hadn't been able to get any factual information about the hospital at all, Now I' at least know a few of the details. For instance I discovered it is to be a 125 -bed hospital with possible expansion to 250 beds if and when that becomes necessary. The first meeting called to con- sider the building of a hospital was held as far back as March, 1953. Committees were set up and the work of planning and development begun. As a re- sult structural progress is now underway and completion of the hospital is expected in January 1958. In addition to the Board 'of Directors there is also a Women's Auxiliary with a paid- up membership of 1900! The membership fee is $1 per year per person. The chairman for the official ceremony on Saturday was Gor- don Jackson, Q.C., chairman of the Board of Directors. Thomas L. I{ennedy introduced Lieuten• ant -Governor Louis O. Breith- aupt, who was presented with a silver trowel by the architect, Chester C. Wood, with which the cornerstone was formally laid. A copper box inset in the corner- stone contained a number of items — a set of 1957 Canadian coins; copies of the Toronto Star, the Port Credit Weekly and the Streetsville Review, all contain- ing news reports relating to the hospital — names of directors, and minutes of the first meeting. I mention this as it.tnay be an idea for other districts .under similar circumstances. And do you know, according to the chair- man the Board had no financial worries! However he admitted there might be some at a later date "when the time came to equip the hospital," "But that," said Mr, . Jackson, "is a worry that we shall pass on to you, the people!" It was a very nice little cere- mony, although held under threatening skies. The Lieuten- ant -Governor and Mrs. Breith- aupt were attended by Lieut -Col- onel J. G. McInnes and drove up in . a beautiful black Cadillac. Mrs: Breithaupt and Mrs. Jack- son were presented with gorgeous. bouquets of red roses. Thera were quite a number of platform guests but I noticed there was only a mere sprinkling of peo- ple among the general public. Perhaps the weather had some- thing omething to do with it but I doubt it. If -people really want to go anywhere they just go, re- gardless. It is 'hard to under - Canadian Woman Saves Babies From Living Death Heroism is a diamond with many facets. And`.I have known many "diamonds" — people who, at one time or another in their lives, have performed heroic acts. In: the Bolivian Andes I saw a white man face up to a drug- crazed crowd of Aymara Indians with nothing more than a riding crop in his hand. In the Gulf of Mexico I watched a chap dive, overboard to rescue his pet pup that was being circled by a. tiger shark. .The clog was saved, the man lived but lost a leg. And during a South American revolution, from an upstairs window I once watched a cour- ageous young army lieutenant hold the presidential palace for .three hours, his machine-gun burn}ng his hands, while the president and his family escaped through a back door. These are just a few of the acts of heroism that I have wit- nessed. But there is, I am con- vinced, a truer type of, bravery; the kind that makes a.man or a woman face up to danger and horror, not once in a while, but every day for years on end. That "particular kind of cour- age is personified in a frail Canadian woman called Helen Mackenzie. When she was a young girl in Western Canada, Helen dreamed of the day when she would marry and raise a family. The neigh- bours knew they could always count on her for a stint of baby- sitting. The girl's love for little ones, her natural ability to pacify and handle them, was well known, and if Helen had fewer dates than most of her girl friends, it was only because most evenings found her busily en- gaged in child care. In the passing of years Helen's urge to befriend babies and chil- dren did not lessen, and after she graduated as a nurse she joined a world wide evangelical organization and asked to be sent where she could apply her talent to child welfare. "Would you consider," she was asked, "West Africa, Portuguese Guinea, where fifteen per cent. el the Negro population suffers from leprosyand where the summers are long, horribly hot and humid?" .Her answer was:. "Where is my ticket and when do I leave?" On arrival at Bissau, Helen was informed t ha t the Colonial Portuguese Government had just given its consent for the mission to care for the babies of leprous parents. Would she take over? Helen did so. Children of leprous parents are born healthy and do not catch the disease unless they live in close proximity to the sufferers. But the Negro lepers, both through the influence of their witch -doctors and because of their reluctance to believe in white men, were loath to part with their babies, and couldn't understand that mothers who kept their little ones at their sides were passing the "living death" on to them. Helen had the dual task of visiting remote jungle villages and trying to convince sullen, antagonistic parents that they should give up their new-born children, and caring for those babies that were handed over to her. Often she was threatened,Ire- "quently she was refused admis- sion to a village, and the price stand the apathetic attitude so many people take in regard to the building of a hospital in their own district. You would think it didn't affect them at all. And yet there is hardly a person who hasn't been, or probably will be, a patient in a local hospital. Small towns and districts are rapidly becoming bigger towns and bigger districts and the faster they grow the more ur- gently hospital facilities are likely to be needed. South -Peel, for instance, serves a populated area of 65,000 peo- ple. On the basis of population one wonders how a 125 -bed hos- pital could possibly be large enough to accommodate those in need of nursing and surgical care — especially when the av- erage life expectancy is being prolonged. In that regard last week I heard quite a lot about older people and their care as I sat in on some of the sessions at the "First Ontario Conference on Aging" held at the University of Toronto. The conference was well attended. Most people are becoming conscious of the fact that problems connected with aging citizens have to be faced. One of the speakers I heard was Dr. E. L. Bortz from Philadel- phia who got most of his points over in a humorous but convinc- ing manner. He said we need to change our way of thinking; that too many people allow their • minds to dwell too much on the subject of sickness; that people eat twice as much as they should, do not get enough exercise, be- come over -weight, and over- ' weight causes blood vessels to break down. By adequate exer- cise, correct diet, proper elimin- ation, nerves, muscles and circu- lation are kept in a healthy con- dition. If snore of us lived as diabetics live - that is, in re- gard to diet avoiding over- weight, then we might dodge many of the illnesses that so often besetpeople in their later years. With proper living life might be extended to 120 years. "However," said Dr. Bortz, "life isn't a matter of quantity but of quality." Dr,. Barbara Shenfield, Lon. don, England, stressed the im- portance of making older pee= pile feel wanted - a part of the community, with confidence and an interest in life. It was all' very, interesting — to the young with aging parents; to the old, comforted, by the fact that aging is getting some - attention; and to the middle-aged, because fore- warned is'fore_armed. How to meet; old age is more practical than trying to forestall it and not nearly so pathetic. ISSUE 26 — 1957. she paid for success, was poor food, sleeping on ?ice - infested straw mats or the 'bare, clamp ground, writes J. Mortimer Shep- pard in "Tit Bits." Usually she travelled, alone in a small ear, but this transporta- tion was only good for limited distances; the dirt roads, deep in summer dust or wintermud, did not extend far, although the vil- lage or isolated shack that shat was seeking rnight be scores of miles away in the interior brush country. Sometimes Helen rode a cycle; at others she walkedr and, the babies that she brought back to the mission with her were us- ually delivered by the valiant nurse as well. She had to use that skill of a diplomat together with the knowledge of an obstetrician and the courage of an explorer. Babies born of lepers, while free from leprosy if taken al o n c e, are almost invariably weaklings And require expert feeding and medical attention. Some of these babies died, des- pite every effort to save them, and village headmen and witch - doctors were quick to blame Nurse Mackenzie, and claim that the white woman hadmurdered the child. Cannibalism . is still practised in parts of the West African Guineas, although the Portu- guese have done all possible t0 eliminate this horrible -custom. And some of The natives were quick to claim that Nurse Mac- kenzie and her mission associates stole newly -born Negro; babies in order to eat them. It is almost impossible to be- lieve, much less understand, how this great - hearted Canadian woman could carry on against such odds. Yet she did, and still does. When I visited the mis- sion, there were fourteen little ones, some of them well into their third year, and more sche- duled to make their appearance in the coming weeks and months. Helen had to obtain, through her own private "grapevine," advance notice of a baby's com- ing, so that she could endea- vour to persuade the expectant mother to give up her child, ar- range to be on hand for the ar- rival, deliver it and remove it from the family danger zone within a matter of hours at the most. Some of the snore intelligent Negroes could be convinced with- out too much difficulty of the need to part from their chil- dren. Others would refuse flat- ly, and no amount of sound ar- gument could influence them Portuguese district officers would give Helen a hand when they could, and tried to make it clear to the natives that this woman was not to be harmed, But the fearless nurse has, often entered jungle regions where even the police hesitated to probe, or rare- ly did so. While Helen. Mackenzie's first concern is the saving of babies, she has also become very knowl- edgeable in the treatment of leprosy, When m a k i n g the rounds of Negro villages, she carries with her the latest drugs used to combat the disease and gives regular injections end treatment to a large number of sufferers. Many of her patients have shown marked improvement and these people have helped Helen in her ceaseless efforts to make other lepers believe in her prim- ary mission to save little ones. This woman's life is given over to self sacrifice; to a hardship that few would or could endure. Hers is a vocation that needs the utmost in steadfast courage. e MINIATURE MILLINERY—Jane Blank, a freshman at Our Lady of Cincinnati College, has a unique hobby. She makes miniature hats for hard-boiled eggs. It all began several Easters ago when Jane decided she had had enough of bareheaded hard- boiled eggs. As the hobby expanded soaid the models—her eggs are ..now the large plastic ones used to trick unsuspecting hens. Each egg stands on a paper collar, *rimmed with a neck bow or net to match the touches on the hat. It takes Jane abed threat hours to whip up one of her -.Dodi'--hike creations.