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The Seaforth News, 1957-06-27, Page 6► ► r ►. AE 141Ias-rJ Ow& ir--aoszty coum4eArt "I, STAY AWAY FROM MY'lIUSBAND'S FAM3L �r "'Dear Anne Hirst Wiix.rtit that so many families deiibdr ately reuse trouble betweedn ,,a. man and his wife? My hus- band's people made so many' in- sinuations against me that we elsnost didn't get married at all. For two years afterward, they still came snooping around trying to cause dissension. Fin- ally I grew so nervous that I discouraged their dropping in — ftnd I know how rude that Sounds. "His mother laughed at my housekeeping, although my hus- hand never complained. I know I'm not perfect as she thinks ehe is, but I had a job down- town until I got pregnant and I did the best I could. She was always worrying that he didn't get the proper food; she should. ee how he enjoys my cooking! he says he is careless and un- idy. But if she raised him that way, why should I try to cor- rect his habits? I want him to relax at home, not be eternally nagged at. "She even tried to raise our baby, and he hadn't had such Filet Favorite !Ccut1LG V! W �1 Eeez. • A handsome chair -set for your dome — in easy filet crochet! ''he graceful mare -and -colt de- sign will win you compliments or your taste and handcraft Skill! Needle favorite! Pattern 549: thhart, directions for chair -set at's easy, enjoyable crochet. Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS . (Stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern to Laura Wheeler, - Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New - oronto, Ont. Print plainly PATTERN NUMBER, you r NAME and ADDRESS. Two FREE Patterns as a gift to our readers — printed right in our NEW Laura Wheeler Needlecraft Book for 1957! Doz- ens of other new designs you'll grant to order — easy, fascinat- ing handwork for yourself, your home. Be sure to send 25 cents for your copy of this book now — don't missi it! ISSUE 25 — 1957 a sweet disposition he would have been ruined. It was none; of her business, and bne day- my aymy husband told her so. "I can only guess she has been jealous all along, and dealing with. that is like inviting defeat. At first, I was as kind and thoughtful as I' knew how to be, but it didn't work; she told peo- ple I was 'making up' to her. Now .we visit them on anniver- saries,. „and alternate holidays. Isn't that 'enough? I don't like this under=current of hostility but maybe it will wear off in time "If in-laws would mind their own business, they would have their hands full, and: young peoples could stay on friendly terms with them. FED UP" * I have quoted only part of * your long letter, and I- real- * ize you feel that your hus- * band's family has committed * olmost every offense in the * book. I do not wonder you * feel bitter; so long as that * continues, it is best to stay * away from them. Your hus- * band sees them when he * wants to, so they have no * complaint on that score. * To release her son to mar- * ry is a great wrench for many * a mother. For so many years * she has watched over his * health and his problems that * to turn hint over to a young * bride is often painful. Some * mothers (indeed, most I've * known or heard of) are wise * enough to let the two live * their own lives, Others can- * not resist belittling the girl * for real or imaginary reasons, * hoping to hold their sons by * the celebrated silver cord, * Why shouldn't the young wife * resent such injustice? * All this conflict must be * trying to your husband, who * stands between the two wo- * men he loves best, In spite of * this, you and he are loyal to * each other and keep your pri- * vate life serene, a tribute to * you both. I am relieved that * you do not criticize his moth *to him; too many wives do * that for years before they * realize how unfair and futile * it is. * When such a strained situa- * tion exists between in-laws, * I am all for formality in their * relationship. On your visits * you should maintain a polite, * reserved accord that for the * present satisfies the amenities. * Let other families choose * other ways. Your present pro- * gram seams fain enough to * me. * * * Polite formality between in- laws is often the only way to maintain any semblance of har- mony. Anne Hirst has been able to smooth the path of many an irate bride. If this problem con- fronts you, write her at Box 1, 12 Eighteenth St., New Toron- to, Ont. SALLY'S SALLIES "He's so bashful he makes love by electrical transcrip- tion." SOLE SEARCHING—Oblivious to the serious ceremonies in pro- gress, little Catherine Keefer takes time out to do a little "sole searching" of her own,- inside one of her shoes. The curious cutie was among the graduates of the kindergarten class ai Our lady of Fatima School. DOING THE CHA -CNA Chimps Rowdy, left, and Zip of the San Diego Zoo, snuggle up cheek -to -cheek as they stomp to a Spanish beat. Appropriately costumed, they`re, practicing a routine for the annual celebration of the Fiesta Del Pacifico. tdRONICLES 1NGERFARM Gwet4ol1r.e P. C. ,t,k e In pioneer days the centre of community life could be found in the church, the school and the tavern. Its chief industry, the grist and sawmills. Its shop- ping centre a small general store. Times have changed con- siderably in little more than a hundred years. In most places water -wheel grist and sawmills have been replaced by indus- trial plants and high-powered feed and planing mills; the ta- vern where the stage -coach changed horses has disappeared and we now have motels and restaurants. The schools have gone modern — buses provide transportation for the pupils. But the centre of the commun- ity, especially where the histori- cal past is respected and treas- ured, remains in the church or churches of the neighbourhood, whatever their denomination. Each has its own congregation, its creed and doctrine but col- lectively the church remains the centre of the community. Ever since we came to Ontario I have loved the little Anglican. Church sitting high upon a hill overlooking the Valley of the Credit. 1 always wanted to go inside the church but never did. Last Sunday I finally had that privilege and found the church and service lived up to all my hopeful expectations. The his- tory of the church goes back to 1825 when an Anglican congre- gation at the Credit was estab- lished by General Peter Adam- son and other prominent settlers who were instrumental in hav- ing a frame church built near the village of "Springfield". An Irish clergyman by the name of James Magrath was the first rector. He and the General worked together in perfect har- mony for a number of years and then a feud began over a divi- sion of property which resulted in the Genera] withdrawing from St. Peter's and buying Mac- Nabb's Mills at Norval. How- ever, at his death he was buried in the Anglican Churchyard at, Erindale, as was the Reverend Mr. Magrath. The present church was built in 1887 and is known for miles around. It is a very lovely little church with parti- cularly fine stained glass win- dows. There is an excellent choir and quite obviously a very ac- tive congregation. In fact there was a much bigger congregation last Sunday morning than I have seen in many larger churches. The service was mostly choral- which pleased me -and' there was a processional and reces- sional hymn,which I also liked. The sermon was well delivered and gave one food for thought. Strangely enough, although ' it was the first service I had at- tended at this church I felt very much at home. Why, I don't ex- actly know. Perhaps it was its familiar name, or, the order of. service, or maybe the friendly spirit of the congregation which, in .some inexplicable way, made itself felt. Be that as it may, I' felt at home. On the whole this village, seems a queer intermingling of my childhood days and the many years we later spent at Ginger Farm. We are in a different county but yet practically on the borders of Halton, and, as Halton and Peel have often shared various public services in the past we just feel we have only moved "around the cor- ner". That is, until it comes to politics, Right now we wonder if this district knows there is an election in the offing. We haven't been approached by any person or any party whatsoever and only one piece of political liter- ature has been left in our mail- box. Partner was getting wor- ried so we made a special trip to our old Ward in Halton to make sure our names were on the voter's list there. It wouldn't be Partner's fault if we lost our votes. On that trip we took a run up to the farm and found it completely boarded up. It was a sad looking place. We didn't mind coming away from it at all. On the way home we made a slight detour on a surprise visit to Bob and Joy—and Ross, of course. We had supper there but left for home before dark. Dur- ing the week I took the morning bus into Toronto to help cele- brate Eddie's first birthday. And when Eddie waded into his chocolate cake his face was a sight to behold! The whole fam- ily brought me home at night. I thought how nice it was being so much nearer to our children and grand -children. Every time Partner and I have occasion to go out with the car we explore different roads, find- ing ways to go places without travelling the highway al] the time. On one of these trips we found the new South -Peel hos- pital, still under construction, only two miles from where we are living—almost on our own road. On that same road we found what used to be the "Copeland Violet House". A lovely spot but the Copeiands went out of the violet business last September and bought a Motel. One of the cards left us. by the "Welcome Wagon" was from a nursery and florists in the same district so that gave me an excuse to go in and browse around. I. came away with the. gift of a potted geraniumand additional bedding plants that I bought. I shall make a return visit before long, so if it works that way with other people, I would say "Welcome Wagon" advertising pays off. Following a knock on the doorof a college room at a uni- versity, a voice asked: May I come in? This is the room T had when I was < at college." He was invited in. "Yes,"- he went on musingly. "Same old room. Same old furniture.' Same old view from the window. Same old cupboard." He opened the cupboard door. There stood a ' girl, looking scared. "That's my sister," said the room's present occupant. "Yes," replied the visitor, "same old story." Modern Etiquette by Roberta Lee Q. My sister died some time ago, and her husband has re- married. Bow should I refer to him when introducing him to other persons, as my "former brother -In-law?" A. No, it is much better not. Just introducehim by his name. Q. Is it all right to write "thank' you" notes on the type- writer? A. Although most typewritten personal letters are now gener- ally accepted, it is still better to write the "thank .you" type of note, by hand.. Q. Is it all right to dip the napkin into a glass of water, after eating, and wipe the mouth and fingers? A.If no finger bowl has been provided, it is proper to hold your napkin in one hand and tip the glass enough to wet it. This is better than "dunking" the napkin in the glass. Q. When introducing a person to a group of people, is It neces- sary to repeat his name to ev- eryone Inthe group? A. Usually once is enough. However, if the group is large and there is a chance someone did not catch the name, it may. be repeated. Q. Is it proper `for a girl to light a man's cigarette for him? A. Yes, if she has just lighted her own and her match is still burning or her lighter available. Otherwise, he should always light his own. Q. How can a hostess termi- nate an evening of bridge play- ing most gracefully, without giving her guests the impres- sion that she wishes them to leave? A. At the proper hour, and usually at the end of a game or rubber, she may begin her pre- parations for serving refresh- ments. The end of the refresh- ments is a good signal for the end of the evening. Q. I received a number of gifts at a -birthday party recent- ly, anil I thanked each donor personally. Is it also necessary that I write each one a thank- you note? A. No. Q. When celery, pickles or • olives are passed at the dinner table, where should the guest place them? A. On his bread - and - butter plate. Q. If you have sent a wedding gift and have reoeived no ac- knowledgement after a reason- able length of time, is it all right to ask the newlyweds if the gift was received? A. Yes, as the gift may pos- sibly have gone astray. And 'if it happens that the gift was re- ceived, maybe : your question will remind the , recipients of their extreme rudeness. Q. When ' eating a soft -fried egg, is it all right to put a small piece of bread - on the end of the fork and use this to dip up the yolk? A. This is quite all right. Q. What should one write on the card enclosed with flowers sent to a funeral? A "With Sympathy" or "With deepest sympathy" is sufficient, Q. Is a man ever privileged to remain seated while being intro- duced? A. No; he should always rise, regardless of whether the other person is a man or woman. SLIGHT DIFFERENCE — Actress Dallis Penn demonstrates the advantages of having some rather attractive flesh to cover her bones by pairing •up with an unidentified friend at the London, England, premiere of a movie entitled "The Curse of Frankenstein." Dallia's "part- ner" was placed in the lobby to add the proper atmosphere for the thriller. 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