The Seaforth News, 1957-06-06, Page 10RazsTi
"Dear Anne Hirst I ant'elmoSt
beside myself ! My mpther 4,was
brought up under the rigid coli.-
trol of her parents, and now they
are trying to run my life for
me. They don't like my boy
friend because I met him in
camp and his people live across
the country. (He is .stationed
nearby until he sails for ser-
vice abroad.)
"They insist my mother make
me follow the silliest rules ! I'm
nearly 18, but I've got no say in
the hours I keep. Mother says I
must be in by 11:30, even on
week -ends, and if I'm not she
!throws a scene right in front
of him; you know no nice boy
is going to stand that long.
Why can't I be as free as other
girls my age?
"I could handle my mother
all right, for we get along fine
until her family steps in. But
this time I'm standing on my
rights. We want to get married
before he leaves, and though
I'd be willing to wait, I'm afraid
I'll lose him if I say so. He is
a decent chap who is liked by
all my friends and their par-
ents, and I'm wild about him.
"Besides, if we get married,
my grandparents would have
to stop their interference.
BARBARA"
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* fluence your mother on this
* matter. She has not met your
* friend's family (which every
* parent wants to do) and even
* you do not know whether he
* has written them he' is en-
* gaged. They could very rea-
* sonably object to his marry-
* ing anybody before he has
* begun the career he plans
* after his service ends.
* What is chiefly bothering
* you, I'm afraid, is that you
* are being made to obey. You
' seek marriage as the one
* escape from discipline, I ex-
* pect. There you are wrong.
* Discipline is one of the essen-
* tial planks in the marriage
* platform, and when it has to
* be self-administered it pre-
* sents a hazard which you have
* not realized. When a girl mar-
* ries
ar-*ries she pledges to try to ad-
* just herself to her husband's
way of thinking and living;
* in your present emotional
* state you are rebelling against
making any adjustments to
* anybody.
* Perhaps you do not know
* that in your province you can-
* not marry without your .mo-
* ther's consent until you are 21.
* It will promote your cause if
* you relax now, and cheerfully
* wait until your soldier comes
* home. If you keep on rebelling
* and breaking rules, your mo-
* ther and your grandparents
*' will only put on more pres-
* sure; they could make it im-
* possible for you to see him
* again, you know.
* Tell your soldier that if he
* helps you to do as your mo-
* ther asks (instead of encour
*• aging you to disobey her
* rules), he will double his
• chances for her approval to
* marry you later. Such an ap-
* peal will test his character; if
* he is all you think, he will
* co-operate — which will end
* this futile controversy and
• make everyone happier. Think
*, it over.
* * *
WORRY IS DESTRUCTIVE
"Dear Anne Hirst: I am con-
stantly on edge. I am one of a
large family, all .of whom are
very close and dea .';to one an-
other, but there always';.seems
to be trouble sornewhete ! A
brother's daughter has an acci-
dent, or a niece is taken ill.
Every time the telephone rings
I expect bad news. It is getting
me down.
"Is there any cure for this?
AFRAID."
* One of the most devastating
* habits is worrying. As we look
• back, though, we see how
* much energy we have ex-
* pended in anticipating troll-
' bles that n ever occurred.
* There is always something to
* get us down if we let it.
* Every time misfortune has
* attacked your family you have
* met it ably and given what aid
* you could. You always will.
* Why drain strength by fear-
* ing anything? We can meet
* whatever comes, so isn't it
* foolish to get all upset before-
* hand?
* Faith in yourself is essential,
* and strength comes as it is
* required. Cultivate serenity
* a n d you will achieve it.
* Knowledge is power; you know
* yourself to be able to step in
* when help is needed so face
* each day with confidence. It
* is all a matter of thinking,
* and as you practice you will
* succeed in staying tranquil
* * *
If your opinions clash with
your mother's, tell Anne Hirst
about it. She can explain why
parents feel as they do, and
help you maintain harmony in
the family. Address her at Box
1, 123 Eighteenth St, New Tor-
onto, Ont.
BLITHE AND LOVELY — Beauty like this doesn't grow on trees,
but this shady oak in a park makes a perfect setting for
beautiful Susan Harrison, who's on her way to . Hollywood
stardom. A native of the Bronx, the former waitress has a costar
role in movie "Sweet Smell of Success."
ANOTHER CONQUEST — Princess Margaret, whose name has
been linked romantically with a number of,men since the end
of her romance with Capt. Peter Townsend, adds another ad-
mirer in this Cub Scout rubbing his nose in bashful admiration.
The princess, as president of the Church of England Youth Coun-
cil, visited the group of Girl Guides and Wolf Cub Scouts at the
Harcliffe Housing Estate in Bristol, England.
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HRONICLES
1NGERFARM
c,�naol.� o ctoeuz
For the past week Partner
and. I have been making daily
trips from Halfway House to
Ginger Farm, gathering up more
of our belongings each day, still
sorting, discarding and burning.
Even at that I know we are
keeping far more stuff than we
srould. I know, too, that it
won't be -very long before we
shall want something or other
that has been destroyed. It al-
ways happens that way, doesn't
it?
To our sorrow the -poor old
farm is beginning to .lobk ne-
glected already. The grass needs
cutting and sweet rocket has
practically taken over the flow-
er beds. Sweet rocket, a favor-
ite with humming -birds, is a
lovely sweet -scented perennial
but I suppose it should be clas-
sed as a weed because of the
way it spreads. Cutting it down
doesn't do any good. The only
way to keep it under control
is pull it up by the roots—and
if there is no one around to
pull it, what then?
Every day Partner and I have •
taken the electric kettle and a
lunch along with us when we go
to the farm and then about four
o'clock we sit down to a most
incongruous afternoon tea. Tea
made in an old silver teapot,
cups without handles and our
table is a small homemade af-
fair that was formerly used, first
as a stand to wash the cream
separator and later the milking
machine. We little thought its
final purpose would be to act
as a table for afternoon tea dur-
ing the last days of our occu-
pancy of the farm. Tea over, we
work until after five and then
we head for home. But all is
not well at home either. The
television has gone tempera-
mental. Sometimes a picture
comes on the screen and some-
times it doesn't. My watch is
also protesting against the even
tenure of its life being disturb-
ed and so refuses to function.
But our major problem has
been Rusty. We thought . we
could keep him but that doesn't
seem possible, There seems to
be a dog on every lot. Dogs
that have been well trained from
puppyhood to stay within
bounds. On the • farm Rusty
stayed within bounds too—but
his boundary was a hundred
acres. Here if we let him loose
he runs like a deer, so he is tied
up more than he should be. Our
neighbour tells us that he howls
most of the time when we are
away at the farm. Under such
conditions to keep Rusty would
be a pleasure neither to us nor
to him. And so this afternoon
we are taking Rusty to a new
home — a very lovely home
where he will have not one but
two hundred acres to run around
in and a Dalmatian puppy to.
play with.
Well, I suppose most people
have been worrying about the
cool weather. For several days
it looked as if we were going
to have an early spring. Frosty
nights soon dispelled that idea..
I hope no one had geraniums
or summer annuals planted out.
Apparently the old adage still
holds good—wait until after the
24th of May. That can be done
with boxed plants but what
about fruit blossoms over which
we have no control. The warm
sun encouraged buds to swell
and now if Jack Frost has done
any permanent damage we can
expect a light fruit crop — and
that will be just too bad for
growers and consumers alike.
But at the moment I am more
concerned about the low price•
of eggs. For about ten weeks the
price has remained static — 35
cents to shippers for grade A.
Large. This time last year the
price was 43 cents—and that is
as low as it should be if there
is to be any margin of profit
for the poultry farmer. Since
we shall soon be buying eggs -I
suppose we should be glad. But
we are not. Leaving the farm
doesn't mean losing sight of the
farmer's viewpoint. We raised
chickens, sold eggs, kept cows
and shipped milk for too many
years for •us ever to forget.
Probably it is a case of once a
farmer always a farmer. Per-
haps that is why I find it hard
to remember to put the milk
bottles out at night. And if I
forget I can't say to Partner —
"You might bring me a can of
milk from the barn tonight."
And I wouldn't have to put
tokens in the can either!
Ah well, this transition per-
iod is bound to be a little diffi-
cult, We can't expect anything
else. No doubt as the weeks go
by we shall probably get a bet-
ter perspective of the advan-
tages and disadvantages result-
ing from he move we have made.
Already we have found out that
we have very nice neighbours.
On one side of us a young Scot-
tish couple who are expecting
their first baby in three weeks.
On the other side a Polish ex -
farmer, his wife and little girl.
They spend every spare minute
in their garden. They are very
friendly and helpful. Right op-
posite there is a doctor and his
family. He has an office at the
house. Quite a comforting
thought to know there is a doc-
tor so handy. Back of us is an
amateur gardener so we shall
have the joy of seeing beautiful
flowers without looking after
them. Which is just as well for
this year as Our garden land
doesn't look too promising. But
there are plenty of young ash'
trees plus plum and blackthorn
along the fence so we shall at
least have; a little shade and
greenery, especially as just be-
yond the trees there is a golf
course with the greenest grass
I ever saw.
Modern Etiquette
by Roberta Lee
Q. When should one tip the
porter on a train—at the begin-
ning, during, or at the end of
the journey?
A. At the end .of the journey.
Q. Is it all right, when enter-
taining dinner guests, to use a
folded napkin to brush crumbs
off the table?
A. This is quite, all right.
Q. When the first course at a
dinner party is crabmeat, served
either in 'a'tomato or on a let-
tuce leaf, is the correct imple-
ment to use a salad fork or an
oyster fork?
A. An oyster fork is used. if
the crabmeat is served in a
cocktail glass, and a salad fork
is used if it is served on a plate,
!Marilyn Mo roe's
Half -Sister.
Nat long ago a little boy of
seven took home some photo-
graphs of Marilyn Monroe. His
mother looked at them with
more thanordinary interest,
then s a i d, ; emphatically,. "I
should so much like to meet
herr,
A natural enough desire, for
38 -year-old Mrs;' Olava Marlene
Nielson is Marilyn's half-sister.
Although so closely related, the
lives of the two women could
hardly be more different.
Marilyn Monroe, glamorous,.
rich, famous, talented, is the
most feted, admired and publi-
cized actress in the world today.
Mrs. Nielson, the wife of a
Danish baker, mother of four
fine sons, is a quietly -spoken
woman who shuns publicity of
any kind, lives in a pleasant
farmhouse near. Copenhagen, and
has never even seen her glamor-
ous sister on or off the screen.
At this, one of -the very few
interviews she has ever granted,
Marlene Nielson showed the only
photographs she possessed of
Marilyn, and explained that only
recently had she realized the
success Marilyn had achieved.
Talking through an interpreter
for she speaks no English, Mar-
lene Nielson said how distressed
she had been by Marilyn's pre-
vious unhappy life a n d mar-
riages. She had never doubted,
though, that Marilyn was trying
very hard to find a happy hose
and shewas delighted to hear
of her idyllic marriage to Arthur
Miller.
Marlene remembers her father
quite clearly, though he died
tragically and while still quite
young in a car crash when visit-
ing the United States to study
the possibilities of emigrating.
Hans Mortensen was a Nor-
wegian garner of high standing
and a leading citizen of Hauge-
sand. Marlene describes him as
"a God-fearing, forthright man,"
who was devoted to her mother.
Marilyn Monroe, his little
daughter born in America, was
only a baby when he died. And
for her his death meant the be-
ginning
of a series of foster
homes, with a spell in an orphan-
age that taught her to be self--
sufficient
elf-sufficient and to make the best
of her environment, but gave
her very little happiness.
The death of Mortensen also
changed things entirely for his
family in Norway. Their financial
position deteriorated and, in the
spring of 1936, the children were
moved to Denmark.
There Marlene met and, in the
following year, married Hans
Christian Nielson.
"My husband and I are farm-
ing people," she explained. "We
work hard,but we have a good,
full life, a comfortable income,
and are very happy."
Marlene's friends and neigh-
bours in the small military town
of Holbaek, . thirty miles from
Copenhagen, pay little attention
to the fact that she is the sister
of the glamorous Marilyn Mon-.
roe. They like this neatly dress-
ed, friendly woman who lives in
•a charming, comfortable, mo-
dern home, which the runs with
model efficiency.
Marlene Nielson says very
firmly that she has never wanted
t0 go to the United States, even
to visit her famous sister, be-
cause she feels that Denmark
"is a more stable and rational
place to live in." Her only bro-
ther is happily settled in Tor-
onto, Canada.
Perhaps one day Mr. and Mrs.
Arthur Miller will succeed in
disguising themselves as just
ordinary tourists and will man-
age to pay a private visit to the
Nielsons. They'd enjoy it, for ft
would seem, from Marlene's
experience, that Denmark is a
country where even Marilyn'
Monroe could walk around with-
out being besieged by gaping
sightseers - and yet be wel-
come with friendliness.—From
"Tit -Bits."
WHAT A JURY!
The judge was disgruntled -at
the jury's decision and asked
the foreman; "What- possible ex- -
Buse did you have for acquit-
ting this man accused of mur-
der?"
"Insanity," the foreman re=
plied.
"What!" exploded the judge.
"All twelve of you?"
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CITED FOR GOLDEN DEEDS - Eight-year-old Charles Neil Gibbs,
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has traveled thousands of miles to aid the 600,000, victims of
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