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The Seaforth News, 1957-03-28, Page 6r "Dear Anne Hirst: For over 16 years I've been married to a man I practically worshipped, 'un- til his ridiculous jealousy almost destroyed my love. We have teen-age twins and everything else to make our lives worth- while, except this one obsession of his. The past year he has sown worse; I cannot chat with any man I know, in any circum- stances, without hearing his snide remarks and seeing his real anger. It ' disgusting. "I am a decent woman, an un- derstanding mother, and his sus- picions are so insulting that I actually burn with resentment. I cannot respect him any more because his mind is so occupied with this doubt of me that I feel .,s if I am living with a stranger. I even have thought of leaving him, but I've not had the heart to take the girls away. He war- ships them. "A few months ago I met a man who seems the exact oppo- site — high-minded, respectful, with dignity and integrity that make everybody honor him. He's been to dinner with us fre- quently, but I've been alone with him only once. I have felt a Blouse Wardrobe 4660 to -20 y-144,-14. 444 Add to your wardrobe with these blouses—a thrifty way to have many smart fashions for spring! Three classic styles, with clever little variations in collars and pockets. Sew them to mix and match with your favorite skirts! Pattern 4660: Misses' Sizes 10, 12, 14, 16, 18, 20. Size 16 upper version, 23le y a r ds 39 -inch; middle Ise yards; lower 1% yards. This pattern easy to use, sim- ple to sew, is tested for fit. Has complete illustrated instructions. Send FORTY CENTS (stamps cannot be --accepted use postal not for safety) for this pattern. Print plainly SIZE, NAME, AD- DRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. ISSUE 12 — 1951 growing sympathy between us that 1 have fought but cannot; overcome.... Last week we met accidentally and stopped for tea. It was then he; told zeehehad loved me since we met — and Anne Hirst, I could not help res i.,,nding. "He will' do anything I say, and leaves the decisions to me. Whatever shal I do? I feel ter- ribly sorry er-ribly.sorry for my husband, but after all, ft is his own fault. MARGARET."' BE HONEST * To break up a home is a * solemn undertaking. It might * prove disastrous for yot._ chil • dren, and that would destroy * any happiness you hope for. * You would be more distraught * and alone than you ever have * been. * I think you owe your hus- * band the truth about why you * think of leaving. Once he real- * izes thaat his years of con- * tinuous suspicions have driven * you from him, he may be * shocked into a fighting effort * to overcome this jealousy — * and he might win. Discovering * that you think of leaving, he * may beg for another chance; if he succeeds in driving away * his jealousy instead of you, * you will be happier at home * with him, keeping your fern- * ily together. He has not been * contented, either, you know; * a man torn by' jealousy is a * pitable object and suffers more * than anyone else can imagine.` * The other man will respect * your decision, seeing its just- * ice, and you will have the con- " solation of giving your hus- * band the chance to win you * all over again. i urge you to * think this over before you * dash into court with the in- * tent to join your life with that • of a man you hardly know. * * * "DOES HE LOVE?" "Dear Anne Hirst: I am 16 and in love with a soldier a year older. He wants me to marry him in April, when he comes home for three months. But he has never told me that he loves me, though he has told his friends. Also, he's always talk- ing about other girls? "What do you advise me to do? V.A.W." • * I advise you to wait for a • year or two before you con- sent to marry anybody. * A boy of 14 is not mature * enough to get married, and • this lad is especially adores- * cent when he has the poor * taste to mention other girls * to the one he has asked to be * his wife, He is showing off, * of course, but that does not * excuse him. As he is today; I. doubt whether you could stay * married to him for a single * year. " Don't censure him, though, he has not said in so many * words, "I love you." A pro- * posal assumes that he is in * love; of course, you miss hear- * ing him say so, but don't nets- * judge him for his thoughtless- * ness. It is just that he doesn't * understand girls; he is think- * ing far more of his own emo- * tions than of yours. • What does your family say? • You should discuss the situa- * tion with your parents, who * know the lad and can advise * you better than anyone else. * a * Whatever your problem, writ- ing Anne Hirst about it will clear it in your mind and bring her comforting sympathy and kind counsel. Addressher at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. MOPE HE PUT FILM IN—Shooting the same picture In both color and black and white is possible with this unusual setup,. Two 38 -millimeter cameras were mounted on top" of one an- other by this enserprising photographer for snapping pictures at the National Photographic Show. DOGHOUSE DE LUXE — "Mitzie°, the spaniel makes: you think of the old, lady who lived in a shoe as she contemplates her "doghouse" of open -toed design, with insulated walls and an attached welcome mat. Actually, Mitzie's modernistic abode is an insulating blanket, made. at General Electric's plant, for an Air Force instrument used in tracking gunnery _targets. t zp fir... HRONICLES 1NGERFARM e�.wou..e o ciant‘e For a few days last week the air had a really springish feel- ing. The birds thought so too. Bluejays left the shelter of the woods and took to the highways. What they hoped to find on the roads I don't know but they were certainly exploring. Spar- rows swarmed around the bush- es, happily chirping in bird language, defying the juncos and chickadees. Squirrels were in a playful mood; cottontails out looking for food. This morning Rusty was terribly noisy. I said to Paftner, "What in the world is Rusty barking at?" Partner laughed — "Probablya rabbit. He saw one yesterday and didn't know what to make of it. Fin- ally took after it but kept his distance in case the rabbit might bite!" Yes, that's our Rusty — the best watch -dog, and the best dog with children we have ever had, but hasn't the slightest idea about hunting. Mitchie-White has forgotten the art too, probably too well fed to bother. Be watched a mouse run across the kitchen floor today and wasn't even interested. The other day when a little mouse practically crossed his path he did manage to catch it. Then he let it go again and looked surprised when the mouse disappeared down a hole. And yet when I catch a mouse in a trap he is quite ready to eat it. Would anyone like a good mouser? Maybe our Mitchie gets as confused over mice as we do over weather forecasts. A monthly farm magazine came out with a long-range weather forecast which said "below nor- mal temperatures are expected for all Ontario." A few days later a thirty -day forecast ap- peared in the daily press which said "average to above normal temperatures may be expected." But the road reports are what gets me down. "All highways. bare and driving conditions good." So what happens? You start out on a goodhighway en route to visit a friend in a near- by city. Except for places where melting snowbanks make the road slushy you get along fine.' You forget your friend lives in a sub -division on a gravelled road. But you are not likely to forget after, you've been there! The clean car you started out with is covered in slush. Gravelly deposits hit your mudguards and under -car- riage. Salt riddles a• hole in your muffler. And then after you reach home, miraculously safe and sound, you hear again that repetitious road report— "highways bare, driving condi- tions good — at least on roads you are .likely to travel," adds the news reporter. Now I ask you, how does any reporter know what roads you are likely to travel? What of the' thou- sands of commuters in and out of surburban districts? What of the friends .who set out to visit them? What of the farm lanes before you hit the highway? What• of the county and town- ship roads? So, don't be misled by radio road reports. All roads are not highways. Better . be smart and stay home if you can until gravel roads have had a chance to improve. After all the Frost government has given us every •encouragement to 'give the car a rest by boosting gas- oline two cents a gallon. The trouble is what we would like to do isn't always possible. You may cutout pleasure jaunts but you can't cut out business trips. Anyway, this is the beginning of March so we can expect un- pleasant weather. But while it is admittedly bad underfoot, that springish feeling in the air should be encouraging. And the days are getting longer — that always helps. Farmers have more daylight to get extra jobs done and the women -folk turn their thoughts to housecleaning. You can't resist the urge 00 matter how bard you try. It "could be you don't accomplish too much by starting early and you may be glad to settle down to knitting again. Speaking of knitting ... there was a little item in a newspaper last week that intrigued me. A minister in a church in England is encouraging women to bring their knitting? He says it helps them to concentrate. Well now, ;sn't that something? Maybe the cleric preaches extra long ser- mons. Even so .. I was interested because I like to knit at meetings — but I have never tried taking it to church. The question arises — is it or is it not bad manners to knit while listening to a speaker? I would say it depends on the knitter. The English cleric claims it helps concentration, That again depends onthe knitting and the knitter. A fancy pattern calls for practically, undivided atten- tion. And you can't concentrate on both the, knitting and what the speaker is saying. On the other hand easy knitting really helps. If the speaker is good you - probably forget to knit anyway. If the speaker is boring having something to do with your hands keeps ,you from getting fidgetty and noticing how hard the seats are. ,,,So whether you can listen and knit is r `quite a grtestin., Some cam some can't. Personally I am happier in ;my mind if my hands are occupied. But at one convention I received quite a jolt when .a W.I. execu- tive said "it was an affront 10 a speaker for women to knit.. during ah address". And there was I caught in the act! But with no intention of being dis- courteous. It might be a .good debate for your local W.I. Modern Etiquette . By Anne Ashley, Q. When an invitation writ- ten on an informal card is re- ceived, and a reply is requested, is it all right to make this re- ply over the telephone? A. It is quite all right, to reply to an informal invitation by phone. Q. If a man is accompanying a girl who is driving her own car, should he make an offer to do the driving? A. It would be better not. Some women are sensitive about their driving and might think such an " offer reflects on their ability , at the wheel. Of course, if the woman suggests that he drive, then it is all right. Q. Should asparagus be eaten with the fingers? A. No. It is - ill-bred to take up this dripping vegetable with, the fingers. It is properly eaten with the fork, Q. Should Bridge prizes be wrapped or Left, open? A. It is much better to wrap them attractively. Q. If someone tells a joke that you have already heard, should you stop him? ,A. Only if you are his sole listener. Q. At a party recently, some of the guests brought, presents. Wasn't it polite to put these gifts aside and open them later, rather than to open them and embarrass those who brought none? A. This would show a com- plete lack of appreciation of the thoughtfulness of the givers, just to coddle the chagrin of the empty-handed. Always open any gifts you receive imme- diately. Q. If lettuce, parsley or water- cress Is placed around an item of food to garnish it, may this properly bo eaten? A. Yes,' if you wish to eat it and it is a part ,of your individ- ual serving. But you should not mar the appearance of a serv- ing dish by plucking out some of its garnish. Q. Does a woman introduce her husband to another woman as "Mr. Robinson"? A. No. The proper form would be: 'Mrs. Tanner, may 1 intro- duce my husband?" A woman does not use "Mr." when refer- ring to or introducing her hus- band. Q. Is one obligated to send a wedding gift to a friend who is marrying for the second time, if one sent gift for the first mar- riage? ' A. If the friend is a widow who is marrying again, I think it would be nice to send her an- other gift. If, however, she is a divorcee, it's up to you. There is no obligation. Q. Should the first page of a social letter be numbered? A. No; this is neither neces- sary nor proper. You may num- ber the succeeding pages, if you wish. Odds and Ends The scramble for galoshes has harassed many a hostess. But here is one who solved the prob- lem. As a guest arrives he or ,she is hand a polythene bag. The galoshes are put in the bag which keeps them •intact and avoids the search through a pile of dirty rubbers when the party is over. The polythene bags can be washed and used again and there are, no dirty floors to be polished. a * • Most people are familiar with ammonia as a cleaner not something to he taken internal- ly. But here is a cookie -recipe from L'Ecoh. des Sciences Men- ageres of Montreal that contains ammonia and is guaranteed not to dissolve the intestines: 2 or 3 eggs' (depending on size) i/s cup of butter and 3 cup of shortening 1 cup of milk 2 tablespoons of ammonium carbonate, (available in drug stores or in country grocery stores) Pinch of salt Flour Beat the eggs with the sugar, add melted butter and shorten ing. Dissolve ammonia in the milk. Alternate milk and flour until it is a good consistency. Roll on floured board until dough is firm. Roll thin, cut in desired shape and cook in a' 400 degree oven, Cookies should be almost white and if stored in a tin box, will keep for months. For Boys & Girls ,.0 4W Embroidery adds the gay fash• - ion touch to these young sum- mer playsuits. Easy ,sewing for you! Kittens and ruffles for girls; doggie trim for little boys! Pat- tern 883: Pattern, embroidery transfers, directions for child- ren's sizes 1, 2, 3, 4 included. Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted use postal note for safety) for this pattern to LAURA WHEELER, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont: Print plainly PAT- TERN NUMBER, your NAME and ADDRESS. • Our gift to you—two Wonder- ful patterns for yourself, your home—printed in our Laura Wheeler Needlecrarft Book .. Plus dozens of other new de- signs to order—crochet, knit- ting, nitting, embroidery, iron -ons, nov- elties.' Send 25 cents for your copy of this book NOW=with gift patterns printed in int BEING BAPTIZED—Monsignor Gilles, Barthe,:'bishop of Monaco, is baptizing Princess' Caroline, the five -week-old daughter of Princess Grace and Prince Rainier of Monaco, in Monaco's cathedral. The baby is being held by her Swiss nurse, Margaret Stahl. The ceremony was attended by a ;,thousand - guests.