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The Wingham Advance-Times, 1984-11-21, Page 32r Page 18—Crossroads—Nov. 21. 1984 1 Shirley Whftington /f you read Sartre, y u7Uook s • rter If yo4 live in a small com- some darting transparent mnunity, your life is an open fish and a noisy bubble book. machine. This is supposed to This is why the Mafia relax me but it doesn't. This seldom sets up in places like is my interview for the after - Overbite, Saskatchewan or life and I'm edgy. - Hospital Corners, N.B. Their The door opens and a most covert operations snappy young woman in a would, in tiny towns, be dis- Harry Rosen suit calls my cussed to death at the Bon name. "The Chief Executive Beaute Beauty Salon before Officer will see you now," noon on any given Friday. she says. "Please come in". Around here we all know The CEO has a brass plate who was left at the altar, on his desk which reads, whose great-uncle used to "Saint Peter D.D., L.L.D., shoot dice down behind the M.B.A." (Alec Guiness .grain elevators, who is a usually plays this role). He Crook through the Bushes looks at me over half-moon and who is simply a Crook. ,glasses and says, "Thank "Yer folks away on a You for applying to Heaven. trip?" says the mailman as We have your resume here, he hands us a postcard from and we find it ... interesting. Fort Lauderdale. Before we go into details like "Going on a cruise, are fringe benefits and pension you?" says the saleslady as plans, I have asked my she wraps up the new bath- assistant Miss Sharpe to ing suit with its coy match- read her report. She has ing cover-up. collected a great deal of data Once in my favourite small on you." town a visitor came looking I ask, respectfully where for our family and sought she conducted her research. directions at the local gas "In the public library, of station.. "They live in the course," replies the C.E.O. grey house over the bridge Miss Sharpe opens a fat yonder," said the,elderly gas file and begins. to read in a jockey. "But •you won't find flat voice: "These titles were anybody home because he's borrowed b e applicant at a safety council meeting over a tw ont riod in and she's gone to the W.I. 1983. French Cooking Made and the girl, she's away to Easy, Creative Pastries, The school in the city. But the Chocolate Lovers Cookbook missus'Il be back at five and The Fondue Book. They because he likes his dinner are followed by Flatten Your on the table at six." Stomach in Thirty Days, The The butcher, the baker, the Complete Scarsdale Medical body -perm maker — they Diet, The . Pri'tkin Diet, know your darkest (and Calories Don't Count and brightest) secrets. Fitness for Everyone. And don't discount the I can feel my face getting local librarian, who could if hot. The relentless' Miss pressed provide an accurate Sharpe continues. Character assessment in less. "A later spate of borrow - time than it takes to say ing included How to Write a "Your card, please". You are Best Seller, So You Want to what you read, and they Write a Novel?, A Writer's check out all your books, Manual, Fiction Made Easy don't they? ' and How to Prepare Your I hold a layered and Manuscript for the Publish - simplistic view of life and er. After a brief hiatus, the death.. This literal -minded- applicant borrowed Dealing ness reveals itself in with Rejection, Fighting De - frequent daydreamswhich pression, Optimism, I'm find mein the panelled wait- OK; You're OK; and Teach ing room of Eternity, sur- Yourself to Play the Guitar. rounded by Thank You For By now I am wearing a Not Smoking ,signs. The silly, ingratiating smile and reading lights are inade- longing to tell them I have quate and the tables are also read Jean Paul Sartre in stacked with old copies of the original, all of Robertson Parents Magazine . and Davies, and the total output Punch, with all the good of William .Shakespeare. But cartoons ripped out. An this is simply not true, so I aquarium accommodates blush and burn while Miss At wit's end by Erma Bombeck I have a choice. I can either do a funny column today on the couple in Dallas who ended a six- month divorce battle by granting visitation rights to the wife to more than $4,000 worth of toy trains... Or I can do a report on the deluge of mail I got from grandmothers across the country on a column I did on the pain. of divorce where they are left with "nothing but memories and longing" for their grandchildren. Maybe the stories belong together. Under the terms of the settlement in Dallas, the woman will get the right to visit the trains her husband 'received twice a year as long as she gives 24 hours' notice by telephone and the time is convenient. A grandmother in Iowa wrote, "I am enduring the divorce of my twin sons. One daughter-in-law moved to Florida and I get to see my grandchildren two hours at Christmas and take them to lunch in the summer for a total of an hour and a half." The train enthusiast said the first train set was a Christmas gift to her son, who is now 22. However, their collection got more so- phisticated as the years went on and they even owned a Z gauge that was, so small you could 4ay it out in a brief- case. She would miss it. A grandmother from Ohio wrote, "As a child growing up, I never had the warmth and comfort of grand- parents. I always said that when the time for grandchil- dren came along, I would always be there if they Sharpe drones on. "The Jane Fonda Shape- up Book, The Art of Make- up, Henny Youngman's Joke Book, How to Write an Ef- fective Resume, Sex for the ... " The C.E.O. interrupts the dreary recital with a wave of his hand. "Thank you Miss Sharpe." He gives me back my resume and with a smile, indicates the waiting room door. "Would you be so kind ...?" And there. I sit, with the tropical fish — a woman un- masked and scorned. I recently met with a group of professional librarians needed me. My grandson is three years old. I had him for the first time on Grandpar- ents' Day. His parents are divorced." • The wife from Dallas was awarded custody of a tin- plated 1935 Comet aqua -and- • silver engine, three pass- enger cars, a . three-piece green bridge, a standard gauge tunnel, two street- lights, toy baggage men and baggage worth $500 to $1,000. A grandmother from Georgia wrote, "We were given custody of our grand- son for four years after the mother left and our son tried to "find himself". The new wife moved 2,000 miles away where our grandson could "break the child's de- pendency on us." The laws are very explicit about the custody and visita- tion rights of inanimate things like trains. When it comes to human beings, we're not so clear-cut. That's why groups of grandparents throughout the country are addressing the problem through Grandparents' Rights°groups. A letter from a grandchild sums this piece up pretty well. "After 35 years, when I found my grandparents, only my grandmother was alive. She welcomed me with love and kisses. Who else but a grandmother would wel- come me on sight:.. no ques- tions asked? Unfortunately, a few months later she passed on, but I choose to think God meant for me to know her, if only for a short time. For it was she who bathed me, fed me and loved me when everyone else had other things to do." who with one voice con- demned censorship in the public library system. And so they should. But would a little lying and deception be so bad? What's wrong with fake covers? Who's going to know that An Outline of Renaissance Drama is covering up Come in and Take Your Clothes off? How to Find a Man and Keep Him might well lurk behind The Legal Status of Collective Agreements in the United States, Great Britain and Canada. You can't judge a book by its cover. And you can't judge a kook by her book. I hope. An expl-enation By Gene Gary Q. What is "pH" as it refers to swimming pools? We've heard that term used among friends who have swimming pools, but never understood what it means. We are now considering the possibility of having a pool installed, but haven't quite made up our minds. But, we'd at least like to know what pH means. —Nancy H.O. A. Expressed on a scale of 0 to 14, pH measures the balance between the chemical additives and the pool water. This balance must be carefully controlled in order to assure swimming of pH comfort. A pH higher than 7 is alkaline; lower, acidic. The National Swimming pool Institute has recom- mended that a pH between 7.4 and 7.8 is ideal for disin- fecting the pool water,' but is not so strong as to cause dis- comfort to swimmers. Q. Four months ago I washed the walls in my bed- room with a solution of Spic and Span that may have been too strong. After going over the walls three tines to rinse the surface of the Spic and Span, I find every night the odor of the solution is still present and strong. This condition is present after I painted the walls with two coats of paint. What do you advise me to do to get rid of the odor?—Arthur C. A. This is a common problem where plastered walls are not permitted to thoroughly dry before any covering, including paint, is applied. In time, the moisture in the plaster should dissipate, but m the meantime, there is not much you can do about the .condition except to see that the room is aired out and gets plenty of ventilation. Q. We recently acquired a lot of old books. A number of them are quite moldy and have a dank odor. Is there any way to treat them to make them more pleasant,to handle?—C.C.W. A. Wipe the mold off the books with a clean, soft cloth, slightly dampened with denatured alcohol. Pages can be cleaned the same way sometimes. If any of the bindings are of leather, to remove mil- dew, wipe with cloth dam- pened with a solution of equal parts of denatured alcohol and water, then dry outdoors. Stained book pages can be, dusted with French chalk or cornstarch allowing the pow- der to remain in the closed book for several days, then brush off. Q. We have a canvas -cov- ered sun deck floor that needs repainting very badly. What kind of paint is best to use? —T.W. A. Use a top quality deck paint, applying two coats. Be sure all loose and flaking paint is removed, as well as all dust, soot and other dirt, prior to applying the new coats. Before you send it,seal ife 7711: t LONG ASSOCIATION Get a jump on '85 prices during the FORD and MERCURY... Ford and Mercury dealers special -purchase means... Best Deals *Best Quality, Best Selection and the Best great quality built cars and trucks! Time to Buy on these q ty uraguard Warranty no. extra cost on all 5 model cars '.'k:•,:`5:+::r:in�'ii<}`;:ii?n: ii:vi }:•.�$} {:? �`.?li' with purchase of special value package on these quality built front -wheel drive cars. 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