The Goderich Signal-Star, 1981-03-04, Page 40cage 12
What's in a name anyway?
Remember those infatuated
days of girlhood when, pen in
hand, you would dreamily write
the name of your most recent
beau with a neatly -penned
"Mrs." •preceding it?
What little girl does not
dream of the day when she will
become, for example, Mrs.
Michael Evans? Well, it just
might be that little girls of the
'80s no longer think along these
lines. .
It is no longer the exceptional
woman $yho, once she's mar-
ried, decides to keep her maiden
name. This is a"trend which has
become increasingly common
among American women in re-
cent years.
Women ;are more assertive
these days. And, with more than
50 percent of American women
in the work force; it is fre-
quently More practical from a
professional point of view to
keep the maiden name.
This is not to say that all
women are retaining their maid-
en names. A married woman
has several options, as was
pointed out recently in Bride's
. magazine:
Taking the husband's name is
b,y far the most popular choice •
among married women. If you
are Janet Grayson, for exam-
• ple, you will probably become
Mrs. Michael Evans or,: -more..
commonly, Mrs. Janet;. Evans.
(Strict etiquette would have held
you t� Mrs. Michael Evans in
formertimes; today, however,
Mrs. Janet Evans is quite ac-
ceptable. )
If you like your maiden
name, and for whatever rea-
sons, decide you want to keep it,
by all means do so. Becoming
"Mrs. His -Name" is custom,
not law, Bride's points out, ex-
cept in'Hawaii, where a woman
is legally required to take her
husband's name.
You quay choose to lead a
dual existence: one as Ms. Janet
Grayson (most likely for profes-
sional purposes), the ether is
Mrs. Janet- Evans. Both names
are legally recognized, as long
as you carry dual identification.
A popular solution to the
identity dilemma is to hyphen-
ate both names, in this case be-
coming Mr. and Mrs.. Grayson.
Evans. This does not necessitate
a couple's going through legal
proceedings.
An important consideration
for the newly -married woman,
Bride's points out, is to estab-
lish credit in her own name. 1
Use one name—either Janet
Grayson or Janet Grayson
Evans—in all your financial
dealings. Have your own bank
and charge accounts, and expect
to be treated as an individual. If,
you do' open any kind of joint
account, insist that creditors
keep separate files on both you
and your -husband. •
For more information, write:
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Center for a Woman's Own
Name, 261 Kimberly, Bar,.
rington 1L 60010.
tiquette fir wedding toasts
At large weddings, a
master of ceremonies is
sometimes appointed to
introduce the toasts and to
read telegrams of
congratulations: He shbuid
be a close friend, and a
relaxed and assured
speaker. The honor of being
master of ceremonies often
falls to the lot of the best
man. The toast to the bride is
proposed by a close friend of
the bride's family. When
possible, somebdoy is chosen
who has known the bride
from childhood, so that he
can relate early years. The
minister is'sometimes asked
to propose the toast if the
Mildly attends his church
regularly and is well-known
to hint
The toast should be brief,
warm, sincere and not
overly serious. In wishing
happiness to the bride, the
speaker should include the
groom'.. and' express goad -
wishes on behalf of all the
assembled guests.
The groom expresses his
and his bride's thanks to the
guests for their kind wishes
.and beautiful gifts. He adds
appreciation to his new in-
laws -first for th gift of their
daughter, ._then .for .their
thoughtfulness to him and
.for the wonderful wedding
they have arranged. He
invites the guests to the new
home^ and this invitation .
must later be followed by one
stating date and time. The
groom then draws attention
to the loveliness of the bridal
attendants, thanks them for
their help to his bride and
proposes a toast to them.
The best man replies to the
groom's toast andproposes
the health of the mothers of -
the bride and groom. It is
appropriate and thoughtful
to include the fathers as well.
In some cases, the best
man proposes the toast to the
bride's attendants and the
head. usher then assumes
responsibility for .the best
man's reply and toast.
The father of the bride,
introduced by theiaOtperson
to propose a toast, ends the
speeches by thanking the
guests for helping to make
the occasion a success.
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