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The Goderich Signal-Star, 1981-03-04, Page 32How to make up your guest list How .do you arrive at the number of wedding guests to be invited? First, the type of ceremony you'll • have. You've always.ydreamed._of_. getting married in the little church where you went to Sunday school. But if :that little church holds only 125 people and you have 230 potential. guests, you'll have to do some` compromising. How? Think of getting married in your groom's church. Next, the reception. Budgets plays a cruciatpart , in determining the numbers here. First discuss with your parents or whoever is paying the bills what money you have to work with. Then the hard part, deciding the style of reception. Sometimes you feel as if you're choosing between people and things, but you can work it all out. Figure what's really im- portant to you—a seated dinner, ' open bar and full band for 50 or cake and champagne for 200. If his parents suggest you serve something more nourishing than cake, they may have a point. If they offer to share the costs of a catered buffet, then you and your family can accept or politely decline; the choice is yours. Space is an important consideration when deciding on the number of guests to invite „ to your reception. Even when you're marrying out-of-doors, that pretty inn might have sweeping lawns but limit your guests to the number that will fit com- fortably inside the dining room in case of rain or bad weather, or plan on renting a big tent. .You have two dozen aunts and uncles. He has a small family but his mother wants to ask all those people she's played bridge with every Friday for 15 years...and they're not relative low do you keep what should be a joyous occasion from turning into a tug-of-war? Follow tradition and divide .the guest list in half. Or allocate a third to his parents, a third to yours and a third to you and your groom so your own friends can attend the wedding too. It's the fairest way. Once you decide on the number -of guests, Moe your Mohler call or write your groom's mother (or the parent who raised him if they're divorced). She might say, "We're limited to 200 guests, so each family is going to have the hard job of inviting 100 people. Perhaps . we can help each other to think of ways to cut it down." , If his family is from out of town, it's likely that only a small group of guests will be able to make the trip. There will probably be extra in- vitations for your side so ask his mother to give you a count as soon as possible. Then you can invite more friends or ' ;, y without fear of over i • g. Next, who gets invited? Naturally the bridal party and - . ruses, adult relatives, frien r. , your clergyman and spouse, fiances of invited guests and if there's room, children, business associates and parents of the at • WEDDING INVITATIONS should - be ordered three months. beforq the wedding. tendants. Both families are way over their guest limit. What to do? Except for brothers and sisters of the bride and groom, you could agree mot— to invite any children. Aunt Sylvia and Uncle George might welcome the chance to socialize without having the kids in tow anyway: If your lists are still too long, you might eliminate business associates on both sides of . the family. After all a wedding is a social oc- casion. And you both could try to delete guests who live more than two hours away, second cousins too. The count is finally pared down to 200 and you've decided to split the in-' vitations three ways. The next step is for your parents, his and you and your groom to type up your list in alphabetical order with guests' last names, then first names, addresses and area codes. Go over the three lists to make sure there are no duplications. If you live near each other, chances are your parents have friends. in canmon. Finally, compile all the names into a master list. You might investigate books at stationery and book stores which take the work out of getting organized. .Look for books with columns to note names, addresses, when an announcement or invitation to ceremony, reception or both were sent and a place to record the 'yes' or `no' responses. Planning the guest list will be the first joint venture for you, your fiance and your two families. It won't always be easy. But compromise, understanding and a good Drip nn your senm se of htmnr will help. Keep thinking of the end result, a wedding where you'll be surrounded by the people you love most. 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