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War is not a game
A proposal to locate National Survival Games ( war games) has become
an issue of public concern in Turnberry Township.
The establishment of this so-called recreational sport is gaining
momentum in a number of our rural municipalities. Goderich Township,
for one, flatly turned down a proposal for the establishment of war games
in their community. Other townships should be prepared to follow this
lead, if and when, survival games are proposed in their municipality.
The Wingham Advance Times noted, this so-called sport, in which
grown men and women run around the woods with guns trying to shoot
their opponents with pain pellets while avoiding .being shot themselves, is
scarcely a game and has nothing to do with national survival.
At a time when hundreds of people in Nicaragua, Lebanon, Afghanistan
and elsewhere are being killed and mutilated in real shooting wars, with
no choice in the matter, this sort of "bang, bang, you're dead play war is
'an obscenity and a blot in our society, the sort of thing which could appeal
only to a thrill -seeker with little conscience and no knowledge of the hor-
rors of true battle.
Undoubtedly it is popular in some quarters and there is money to be
made from it, but so much the worse: The same could be said of por-
nography and the drug trade, two of the great cancers of our, age. With
family and social violence increasingalarmingly and the chilling threat
of superpower conflict posing real questions of survival, we .can 'well do
without such desensitizing " games ". .
For those who must have thrills, we would suggest volunteering 'for a
tour of duty with Canadian peacekeeping forces in some corner of the
world where real bullets are flying, or offering their services to some of
the millions of people, dying in countries where survival is much more
than a cheap catch -word. A short dose should be sufficient for most.
Doucette family are ideal
representatives of Ontario
Dear Editor:
This is being sent to your• newspaper in
hopes you will consider publishleg same.
We are permanent residents of Winter
Haven,' Florida and wish to make known to
you in Clinton, what ideal representatives
you province has in the Cale Doucette Fami-.
ly.
We would appreciate your conveying to
Marion Doucette our gratitude for .her so
aleid
sco R e
Any man or woman who undermines
"motherhood" as second class status has no
real understanding or appreciation for the
essential role that mothers play.
Mothers are the heart of the family, the
backbone of society. Their inner strength,
their care, compassion and boundless sup-
port have shaped our lives and the country
we live in.
Motherhood has faced drastic changes
over the years. It has been . criticized,
challenged and has undergone remarkable
transformations. And yet, the spirit of
motherhood remains indomitable.
The greatest changes in motherhood have
come in our times. Economists and
sociologists say that the roots of change
were planted during World War II, .when the
economy shifted from a farming base to a
system that relied heavily on manufactur-
ing and services.
During the war years the economy
demanded intensified support of women,
Men, who had been the primary income
earners in the work force, were called for
war duty. The economic stability of North
America relied on women and their will-
ingness to accept the responsibility. Great
strides in liberation and women's in-
dependence developed in this decade.
The trend continued. Statistics Canada
reported that in the decade between 1971
and 1981, the number of working women
soared 64 per cent to 4.85 million and is now
approaching 5.1 million.
Some 60 per cent of these working women
are in the 24 to 55 age bracket, the "child
bearing years," a time in the past when
women traditionally stayed in the home and
raised children.
The working mother decades brought its
share of positive and negative results. A
mother's career benefited her family with
extra income and gave her greater feelings
of self esteem.
The increased independence outside the.
home also brqught its Share of troubles.
Discrimination in the work force, inequality
in wages, provisions for pregnancy leave,
and inadequate day care services are some
of the problems that surfaced. Despite the
changes that have been made today,
discrimination against working women con-
tinues to be an important issue.
In the home the working mother faced
another dilemma - the Superwoman Syn-
drome. Books and magazines told women
- how to manage their time, at their work, in
generously sharing her seemingly unlimited
talents with our daughters' elementary
school while vacationing here. Your area is
surely aware of her exceptional presenta-
tions in puppetry. Thank you, Marion.
We have heard so much about you, our
northern most neighbors, that we plan to
spend our family vacation touring Canada
in July.
Prime Minister : sits on fence
Dear Editor:
I hope that Keith Roulston sent a carbon
copy of his letter to'I'resident Reagan of last
week to our Prime Minister. who seems to
be' sitting On the fence with regard to Star
Wars.
We are fortunate to have in Huron ('aunty
a writer with the temerity to Point out the
implication of Star Wass as far as we are
concerned, namely, that nuclear warheads
intended for targets in the United States will
be diverted to fall on our heads instead.
Could it be that media people in. Toronto,
Ottawa and -other places have, not publicly
pointed out this obvious eventuality because
they do not wish to be denied access to the
U.S. next time they try to cross'the border?
As for Mr. Roulston, could it be that he, like
Earley Mowatt, doesnit give a damn if he
never crosses the border?
Sincerely,
Alexander McAlister
• Bayfield
By Shelley McPhee
their homes, with children and husbands.
Supermoms were expected to do it all - have
brilliant careers, change diapers, be
fashionable, cook gourmet meals, be an
understanding wife, fix the plumbing, play
tennis - be strong, resourceful and flexible.
Her intentions were admirable, but soon
Superwoman ran out of steam. Canadian
Columnist Michele Landsberg put it simply,
"Superwoman can't fly."
Today a new, more realistic, ideal of
motherhood is being promoted. It doesn't
ask women to sacrifice their lives for their
children or for their work outside the home.
The "new" motherhood talks about balance
and positive development. It promotes the
best of both worlds, allowing mothers the
opportunity to make the choice between a
modified version of the traditional role of
motherhood and the liberated working
mother ideal.
Best of all, the new motherhood doesn't
force one choice over another. It suggests
that a woman make their own decision, bas-
ed on establishing a delicate balance
between her life in and out of the home.
There no longer exists a perfect image of
what a mother is supposed to be. She is no
longer demanded to devote her entire life to
raising her children. Motherhood today em-
phasizes "quality, not quantity," the impor-
tance of maintaining a sense of self, of set-
ting personal goals for the future to help
avoid thie "emntv nest" syndrome when the
children have grown and left home.
• Today a mother may choose to return to
work, fulltime of part time, for the extra in-
come, or for the sense of importance and
satisfaction that working gives her. She
may choose to stay in the home and find
strength, joy, and heightened self-esteem in
her role as "fulltime mother."
Many young mothers today develop out-
side interests in community clubs and
organizations. More emphasis is being plac-
ed on freelance, creative work opportunities
in the home, allowing women to combine
their skills as mothers and professional
workers, on their own terms.
The Superwoman image has been
modified. The magazine -perfect woman
that was featured in the late 1970s and early
'80s has been replaced by a more realistic
version. Women need no longer compare
themselves to an impossible ideal, or feel
belittled for not being able to achieve the
successes of this role model.
Motherhood has survived decades of
radical change and upheaval. Undoubtedly
the evolution will continue.
What makes motherhood infalliable is its
Spirit. The miracle of creation, the nuturing,
the awesome responsibility to shape the life
and expectations of a human being, the
lifelong bond between a child and mother
are mystifying emotions and deeply rooted
images that can never be replaced by a test
tube or a child care centre. Motherhood re-
mains the heart of the family.
Once a year - all year
May is Family Unity Month in Ontario,
continuing a tradition started in 1975 when
Family Unity Month was first officially pro-
claimed by the Ontario Government. This
celebration recognizes the many contribu-
tion made by the family to the quality of life
in•the province.
The 1985 theme, Once A Year - All Year! ;
encourages appreciation of the family year
round, not just for one month.
"'Phis special month presents an oppor-
tunity for us all to strengthen family ties and
reaffirm our belief in the family as the cor-
nerstone of soci-ty," said Gordon H. Dean,
Provincial Secr.aary for Social Develop-
ment.
"It has been particularly gratifying to
note the manner in which the community -
has nartici,pal40 in this eelPhration over the
past ten years", said Dean.
"Across the province,, schools, churches
and community organizations en-
thusiastically join in activities that foster
the spirit of family unity. In addition, many
municipalities officially proclaim Family
Unity Month in their communities."
Artwork for this year's Family Unity
Month promotional materials was commis-
sioned from Ontario artist Lynn Johnston
creator of the family-oriented syndicated
cartoon, "For Better Or For Worse". •
A pamphlet containing suggested Family
Unity Month activities has been circulated
to community organizations throughout the
province. It is designed to encourage events
and activities which recognize the impor-
tant role played by the family. '
Setting Sail
Behind The Sear�es � Sugar and Spice
By Kith Roulston
One -tel) at a time
Most of •our "heroes" today are artificial
heroes so that it's something of a shock to
meet a real hero and find just how outwardl-
ly ordinary heroes are.
'rhe, publicized heroes of the day are the
baseball players and hockey stars and' the
rock singers and soap opera actors. They do
things none of us can do and are rewarded in
ways none of us can ever hope to be.
Then there are the real heroes. I recently
had the privilege to meet. one of them and
the surprising part was to find out that he
was just an ordinary man, a man with
charm and a delightful sense of humor to be
sure, but so much like the rest of us.
But Father Murray Abraham is not like
the rest of us in what he has done with his
life. While many of us look at the situation in
the third world and shake our hearts and ask
what's to be done, father Abraham has been
doing something. A Canadian .Jesuit priest,
he went to India more than 30 years ago and
one little corner of that vast country at least,
has -never been the same.
Father Abraham was appointed principal
of a school near the Nepal border, a run -
Gown, even dangerous school. • He didn't
have any grand plan but small step by small
step he has revolutionized the lives of
several hundred people, setting an example
for aiding the poor that should be spread
around the world.
Father Abraham decided he wanted his
school to serve the truly poor people of his
area ( many mission schools end up ui^qtly
serving the wealthy of third world coun-
tries l and found nut that he had to go otit and
really search for the poor. Ile found that tor
children to learn they had to have full
stomachs so he started a feeding program to
make sure they had one good meal a day. He
found out that for the children to have an in-
centive to learn, their parents had to be lear-
ning toe). He found out that they needed a
feeling of self-worth and so once a year the
children get new uniforms. He hires poor
parents to.help make the uniforms.
People needed to learn ways of breaking
the poverty cycle so he started a chicken
operation on the roof of his school. Today the
school has thousands of chickens producing
eggs and meat which are sold to the resort
hotels ( eggs would be the equivalent of $2.80
each so they can't afford to eat their own
eggs) to raise money.
He has constructed a school for 1,400
students, a second school to give poor
children a chance to get an early start on
learning and has build an experimental
community that teaches people how to pro-
duce food for themselves and their com-
munity, carving all of these out of the moun-
tain side with his own hands and back and
those of the people he helps.
The difference between this hero and the
rest of us is that he doesn't throw up his
hands and say it's too big a problem. He
tackles the problem one small step at a
time. He has taught people that together
they can literally move .mountains. if they
work steadily toward a goal, no matter how
big the task, they can accomplish it.
It's something we can learn from
ourselves in Canada. Unfortunately we're
too impatient. We want instant results. We
('need a few Father Abrahams in our own
country to teach us that no task is too large
if we start at step one.
By Anne Narejko
Today "s society,
DON'T you get a little tired of the
touchiness of modern society in which, no
matter where you step, it's on somebody's
toes, no matter what you say or write, it's a
slur on someone's background, color, creed
or convictions?
About the only areas left in whibh one may
chance'a remark without fear of inflicting a
wound are politics and sex.
It's extremely difficult to inflict even a
bruise on a politician. He must have a fat
ego in the first place, and he quickly ac-
quires a brass hide to go with it. Add an
ability to talk out of both sides of the mouth
at once, and a certain skill in straddling
fences, and you have cabinet material.
In the field of sex, there don't seem to be
any limits any more to what can be said,
presented or simulated. Movies, magazines
and theatres, club us over the head with
raw, unembellished sex, or seek to titillate
the spook in each of us with highly -
embellished,• freaky sex until the whole
once -exciting subject has become a
crashing bore.
Aside from sex and politics then, there is
scarcely an aspect of the human scene
where even angels fear to tread, lest they
step on someone's sensibilities.
Ethnic jokes are out, black is beautiful,
gefilte fish is glorious, Rhodesia is rotten,
poor people are more noble than rich people,
gay is gorgeous, and the only real sin is to be
old.
Lord forbid that we should ever go back to
the days when a Catholic was a "mirk" or a
"dogan," a black person was a "nigger," an
Italian was a "wop," a Chinese was a
"chink," and so on.
By Bill Smiley
But I do get heartily sick of a society in
which you have to tippy -toe all the bine for
fear of offending some touchy minority, or
trespassing inadvertently on someone's
weird religious affiliations.
We are developing into a society with a
snobbish sort of reverse prejudice in which
cyerybody is leaning over backwards in
order to appear not even to be breathing orf
anyone elee.
As a result, we are losing much of that
good old ('anadian crustiness and turning in-
to a nation of nice nellies in whose mouths
margarine wouldn't melrti..
Even our media reflect this trend in our
society. With few exceptions, our
newspapers art' as bland as blanc mange.
The letters to the editor have more bite, and
are often better written, than the editorials.
Our magazines are either tiresomely
"liberal" or narrowly nationalistic, or both.
Tied in tight bundles, they make better
firewood than they do reading matter.
Television and radio news reporting, most
of it culled from the late editions of
newspapers, is incredibly unimaginative
and repetitious. TV programs, on the whole,
are pure pap, offensive by being so inoffen-
sive.
Public figures are so frightened of offen-
ding somebody or losing a few votes, that
their public utterances, come out as mush
wrapped in marshmallow.
What this country, and this society, need
is a good dash of cold water from
somewhere, to wake us from our mind -
numbing, paralyzing "niceness."
We need a Bob Edwards or a Grattan
O'Leary to jolt us with some honest
V16LLpeLdUUr1, Duuie cuiurrul riante-caurng,
some hard facts, and some common sense.
We need some politicians with guts, who
don't give a diddle for the popularity polls,
and who would give us the facts of life
without any sugar coating.
We need some educators with backbone to
tell the people who claim that Huckleberry
Finn is racist and The Merchant of Venice is
anti-semitic and Catch-22 is dirty and The
Diviners is disgusting, to go fly a kite.
We need about 10,000 fewer smart -ass
commentators on what is wrong with this
country, and a few hundred honest men or
women to tell us what is right with it.
We need far fewer "reasonable" people
and a heck of a lot more "unreasonable"
people, who would refuse to accept
something just because it's always been
done that way, or someone might be upset if
things were changed.
We need some thundering editorials, some
pulpits pounded, some stiff jail sentences
for racism, some honesty in high places.
We certainly don't need a "good war" or a
"good depression" to make Canadians stop
whining and bitching and mealy -mouthing,.
but we certainly need a "good" something
to turn us back into the sturdy, in-
dividualistic people we used to be.
I haven't the answers. I'm no prophet. But
I'm sick to the ears of a society that thinks:
old people are a nuisance; young people are
never a nuisance; supermarkets are sexy;
social workers can make miracles; and
everybody is as good as everybody else.
Perhaps if you agree with me to some ex-
tent, you would enjoy reading The Golden
Age of B.S. by Fred C. Dobbs. It's rambling
and it's coarse in spots, but it's right on.