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As anyone who has gotten married can tell
you, the months leading up to a wedding can
be a time of stress as well as happiness.
There's just so much to think about and do!
You need to find ceremony and reception
sites, to choose just the right clothes, to
make sometimes touchy decisions about
who will be your wedding, to furnish a com-
plete
ornplete home for your life after the wedding —
and all this while you're having the in-
evitable doubts about getting married in the
first place.
While wedding jitters are about as com-
mon as weddings, there are ways to make
sure the anxiety doesn't get out of hand.
BRIDE'S Magazine has these common-
sense suggestions:
• Don't be afraid to admit you're upset.
Reception at home
Receptions at home following weddings
are making a comeback, adding that special
personal touch often lacking in hotel salons,
country clubs or legion halls.
Expenses are reduced from thousands of
dollars to hundreds at a home reception and
the parents have a chance to serve well-
prepared, specialty foods made for the occa-
sion.
For most hosts, catering is the answer to
headache -free bridal receptions. Costs
range from $7.50 to $11 a guest, depending
on food served, with service and china in-
cluded.
Wines and liquor are extra. With a little
help from friends and relativesi a few tips
from wine experts at the local liquor store,
it's possible to organize the food and drink
yourself.
But if you decide to have a home recep-
tion, be sure to hire professionals to set out
and serve the food. Such professional help is
worth the cost, leaving you more time to
spend with guests.
Over -the -shoulder
corsage is new
for mother of bride
Most brides ask for a traditional cascade
style bridal bouquet and round colonial bou-
quets for their bridesmaids because that's
all they have ever seen.
Most are afraid to try something exotic or.
unusual, and that's a shame, because there
are so many alternatives.
However, the increased .demand for
brilliant orange tier lilies and waxy white
calla lilies suggests that. brides' tastes are
becoming a little more exotic.
These exotic flowers are more suited to
being hand held = a look that is .gaining
popularity. But brides can also choose to
carry a crescent shaped bouquet, a single
flower or even a Bible or prayer book
decorated with a cluster of flowers and rib-
bons.
Your florist needs' to know hair length and
texture when designing flowers for hair, so
she can make a corsage light enough in
weight that it doesn't fall out.
A bouquet should be designed in direct
proportion to the weight and height of the
women who will carry it. If the bride is tall,
she should have a longer cascade; vice ver-
sa, if she is short.
Silk flowers are another alternative since
they are lightweight and won't stain.
If she is daring, the mother or mother-in-
law of the bride might wear an over the
shoulder corsage. But, if she is wearing a
material such as silk, which might be stain-
ed from a fresh flower, or a lightweight
dress such as chiffon which might sag from
the weight of a corsage, she may prefer
flowers she can wear in her hair, pin or tie
on her purse, or hold in her hand.
Tell your partner what's bothering you,
whether it's a serious question about your
relationship or a relatively trivial worry
that you'll go blank when it comes to say
your vows.
If you try to keep the stressful feelings to
yourself, you'll only transfer them to
something else, such as getting overly ir-
ritated at a late train, or a run-in your stock-
ings.
Take positive action whenever possible:
Sign up for a pre -marital workshop. Prac-
tice reciting your vows in front of a willing
friend.
• Share the wedding responsibilities. if
you're the bride, don't assume you have to
do everything yourself. This idea is old-
fashioned, as well as exhausting.
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Ask your fiance to join you inick ing out a
catering hall and registering for gifts. He
can write a share of the thank -you notes,
handle all the honeymoon arrangements.
• Keep a calendar of everything you have
to do. This kind of master plan gives you the
secure feeling that you're not forgetting
something crucial.
Also gather any business cards, fabric
swatches or magazine clippings you ac-
cumulate all together in. one place — either
a wedding planner made for this purpose or
a simple manila envelope. Organization has
the magical effect of reducing anxiety to a
manageable level.
• Have a system for each task. Say you're
doing your invitations. First, see if the task
can be broken down into steps. (You have to
address the envelopes, stuff them, seal
them, and stamp them.) Then, decide how
you'll tackle each step; How long it should
take and who Million,
Next, set a completion date (invitations
should be mailed six weeks before the wed-
ding). Finally, take action by setting a time
anda place to begin.
• Pace yourself — don't plan to scout for
reception sites the same day you have a
report due at work. You'll make it through
those pre -wedding months if you promise
yourself you won't tackle more than one ma-
jor job a day.
• Guard your health. Don't let a hectic
schedule keep you from eating right, or
often enough. You'll feel even more jittery
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