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Clinton News-Record, 1984-10-24, Page 3ria fi..'l;i, Epilepsy Awareness Evening s TF.,,W ' BD.,. WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 24,1984 --''ACE 3 communication for epileptics, families By James Friel CLINTON - While much of the attention of society is focused on the physical effects .of epilepsy, equally important are the psychological effects on the affected in- dividual and family and friends. The Huron County Chapter of Epilepsy Ontario invited Dr. Robert Glueckauf, Ph.D., Clinical Health Psychologist of University Hospital in London to discuss the psychological impact of epilepsy and methods to maintain constructive com- munication between those involved. Dr., Glueckauf spoke during the chapter's Epilepsy Awareness Evening on October 17. Following his introduction by Marjorie Vere, Co-ordinator of Services of the Huron Chapter, Dr. Glueckauf tried to assess ma- jor concerns of those attending the evening, then attempted to answer them during his presentation and the following discussion. Dr. Glueckauf said three areas influence the way people feel about those with epilep- sy and noted that many of these ideas operate because of the "spread effect." • "When a person has a seizure, those see- ing it automatically make a number of assumptions about that person," said the doctor. Among the assumptions are the fallacies that epileptics should not have families because the condition spreads, epileptics have a lack of sexuality and they need a lot of care. Another assumption, made by some of those in the health care profession, is that there are personality traits that indicate an epileptic person. Closely connected with the first area is that in which people believe that disabled people should be grouped together "and marry their own kind." Again, in this area there is the idea that disability breeds disability, but, although not much time has passed since epileptics were sterilized in institutions, it has been established that the condition is not genetically based. "It is more effective to suggest involve- ment in groups sharing the same interests than to shunt them off into epilepsy self help groups," said the doctor. ' The third area influencing attitudes is the fear of what it would be like having seizures. "My god, 'I'd fall apart if that 'happened to me. They must be just miserable," was Dr. Glueckauf's example of typical reactions. "This is the kind of ineffective thinking the public has about epilepsy." A difficult situation can developif seizures affect a family member later in life and the 'above attitudes have previously been developed. "This can help set people up for failure," said the psychologist, because the epileptic family member will often be treated as though he or she cannot properly function. "If you think of that person as a cripple, and treat that person like a cripple, that per- son could react like a cripple." If family and friends don't have expectations, the epilep- tic may realize there are no conditions on him or her. The best way to combat misconceptions is to become a positive communicator and develop into a good observer and an active listener. An'effective observer will carefully watch the other person and will include the gestures in an assessment of the conversa- tion. Eye contact, tone of voice and voice level'are other clues. There are three levels of active listening, said Dr. Glueckauf. The most basic is the head nod and words such as "right" and "yeah" to encourage the speaker. The second level is to paraphrase what the person is saying in your own words to ensure the speaker knows you understand. Also, it is, "better to listen than to jump to conclu- sions." Dr. Glueckauf says the third area is a combination of paraphrasing and feelings: "Tell the person what you heard them say, then talk about the feeling behind it." The hardest observations to make are of the self but the doctor said, as an example, that if an individual notices tension in his or her self it should be revealed and discussion is better left until later to avoid an argu- ment. These . communications skills are a necessary element, especially in dealing with the frustration which cat' get quite in- tense for the epileptic with "doctors, teachers, parents and so on telling them what to do, said the doctor. Dr. Glueckauf's presentation was follow- ed by a dicussion involving those attending the meeting centering primarily on medica- tion. Day Care Ventre to hold fall CLINTON - The Huron Day Care Centre Nancy Wise, has been creating a variety of for the Homebound is readying for their big- crafts and needlework for the bazaar. Along gest event of the year, the Second Annual with Christmas crafts, draws and a bake Day Centre Bazaar. It will be held on Satur- .table, the bazaar will feature 'Hallowe'en day, October 27 from 10 a.m. to 1.p.m. items and goodies. The bazaar will beheld on Main Street Last year's bowling awards were Clinton, and thanks to the generosity of Mr., presented on October 4. Winners included:`' and Mrs: John Alilovik, the previous "tem- Bob Groves of Goderich, high average; • porary library" location; has been donated . George Bernard of Clinton, high double; Pat for the bazaar. Watson of Brussels, high' single; Les For several months the. clients and McKenzie of Seaforth, most improved volunteers, working under the guidance of bowler. Honorable mentions went to activity directors Sandra Davidson and Frances Dunn of Zurich, Shirley Haggerty JOIN TIff CROWD Sterling WATER SOFTENER SALT makes life softer for the entire family SOlAR SAL T ISA NATURAL CRYSTAL Resists caking Channeling and and Mashing Available to you in 20 Kae and 40 4 bags LAN g NUT e\74111MllijliPrj 4"401 Sart01*. 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Dr. Robert Glueckauf of University Hospital in London believes that with "feed- back" the psychological impact between epileptics, and in fact any disabled person, and others can be considerably lessened. "Feedback is a way of helping another person to consider changing his behavior. It is communication to a person {or group) which gives that person information about how he affects others. As in a guided missile system, feedback helps an individual keep his behavior "on target" and thus achieve his goals." 1. Useful feedback is descriptive rather than evaluative. This reduces the need for a person to act defensively. 2. Useful feedback is specific rather than general. 3. Useful feedback takes into account the needs of both the receiver and the feedback giver. It can be destructive if the feedback only serves our own needs and fails to con- sider the needs of the person on the receiv- ing end. 4. Useful feedback is directed toward behavior the receiver can change. Frustra- tion is increased when a person is reminded of shortcomings over which he has no con- trol. 5. Feedback should be solicited rather than imposed. It is more useful when the receiver has formulated the kind of question the observer can answer. Don't force your opinions on the other person. 6. Timing is crucial. Feedback is most useful at the earliest opportunity after the given behavior. It depends on the person's readiness to hear the feedback and the sup- port available from others. Timing is also important when giving compliments. 7. Feedback should be checked to ensure clear communication (paraphrasing.) Have the receiver rephrase the feedback he has received to see if it corresponds with what the sender had in mind. The above advice when correctly used, can help an individual give negative criticism skillfully, without engaging the receiver's d f' e antes. bazaars • of Clinton, Clayton . Steel of Huronview, , Sharon Warwick of Brussels, Elaine Leddy of Goderich, Vera Thiel of Zurich, and Alex McMichael of Goderich. Volunteers who helped at the bowling alley were June McCowan of Clinton, Bob' Thompson of Londesboro,x Edwin =Zeale of Summerhill, and Marion Hill of Brucefield: Don McWhinnie was also thanked for welcoming the Huron Day Care bowlers.. Other activities included countryside tours to view the fall colors. Scruton Fuels Ltd. donated the bus. and Marion Peck of Clinton was the driver. • Placing the final -piece of Plexiglas at the Clinton Arena are Kinsmen Steve Carter I left', Harvey Carter and Rick Somerville. Also present mere Arena Chairman Bill Craig, Recreation Director Kevin Duguay 'and Facilities Manager Butch Fleet. Over the past year, the Clinton Kinsmen held fund raising events in order to buy the glass which cost over $10.000. They also installed the glass themselves. 1 Anne Narejko photo i Piexiglass now at arena CLINTON - "The Kinsmen organization should be applauded for their donation of money and time towards the project," stated Recreation Director Kevin Duguay. Mr. Duguay was referring to the Plexiglas the Clinton Kinsmen not only bought for the Clinton Arena, but also installed. Now spec- tators can feel safe when the puck comes flying in their direction. Over the past year, they have been holding fund raising events'in order to raise the money required for the project. Acca; -- ding to Past President Harvey Carter, the glass cost over 310,000 and required between 100-110 man hours to install. Mr. Carter and Dave Dalzell chaired the project while the rest of the Kinsmen members assisted with the installation. "Their contribution is one of lasting 'value both for the participants and the patrons of the arena," concluded Mr. Duguay. TURN. 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