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Clinton News-Record, 1983-02-16, Page 41Other duties: You'll sign the marriage certificate, stand in the reception line, and help the bride change into her going -away clothes. Drop off a garment '.:;.,g the night before the wedding so you can pack away her gown and veil ... it'll be one less job for her mother to :. ve to worry al. tut. e;ridesmaid? Volunteer to pick up out-of-town guests at the airport or train station, host a shower for the bride or a party for visitors. At the ceremony, lead off with your left foot for the processional. Walk naturally and leave space of four pews from the person in front. Coming back, don't race up the aisle. rehearse in the same shoes you'll wear to the wed - ng, especially if they're higher heeled than usual. 1 4 And no slacks in church or temple. A crisp pleated skirt and pretty blouse look neat and will carry you through the rehearsal dinner. Take turns standing on the recep- tion line after the wedding. Dance with the ushers, make small talk with the older rests — and if you want the next wedding to be yours, try to catch the bride's bouquet when she tosses it in the air BRODES EDBTBON '83 PAGE 19 MARRIAGE: THE ROMANCE IS BACK This one carat diamond engagement ring is set in a modern 14 carat two-tone gold mounting. The earrings are an unusual one -of -a -kind combination of round and marquise diamonds that every woman would love to wear on her special day. Diamonds sparkle brightly for bride It's a fact that women are now choosing to marry at an older age, especially those who have completed college and are pursuing career interests. The average age of first-time brides is 22.3 years, with one-fifth of all women marrying for the first time over 25. The for- mality and tradition associated with marriage from the diamond engagement ring to the reception, is just as imia- rtant to the older couples. The woman, however, is playing more of an active role in the decisions which are made at this time, in- ch' •, ig the selection of her engagement ring. Leslie and Stephen are an • • older, newly-eng;_ed couple living and working in Toronto. Stephen is 31 and Leslie is 28. Leslie went to a Toronto college and is ,,ursuing a career in executive recruiting. Stephen is an assistant controller with a major advertising company. They are typical of "con- temporary couples" who are older, more mature and independent and know what they want for their wed- dings. Stephen wanted Leslie to have a diamond engagement ring as a symbol of • love and commitment. She helped him ch ,'se the ring, a larger amond solitaire of ex Tura top elle • t us JP. cake yur weddL f g i tore perfect isti ,if7ctive wed 11''g it JL Photo raphs you w#01111 treasure for a ltf®ttea®o 1, Ptio 0 11'"' 1F0.*T1O 1 NG''TVVS •• •. 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But ask the clergy member, who might also suggest the organist, cantor, soloist or ensemble ac- customed scustomed to doing weddings in your church or temple. Sit down with your finance next and discuss the mood of the ceremony. There might be a soft prelude to last half an hour as the guests filter in, perhaps broken midway by the first solo; a reflective solo, choir or ensemble work performed just after your mother has been seated; a majestic processional to herald you and your wedding party down the aisle even if it's the staircase of your parents' house; maybe another meditative solo after your vows; for sure a joyous recessional to march you out as husband and wife; then a quick postlude for the parade of guests. 1f your ceremony will be the traditional one most couples favour, trust the organist and church soloist for suitable selections. There are many more classics besides "Oh, Promise Me," so do get the musicians to play or sing several for you, then you pick your favourites. If your wedding will be an expression of your deep faith, consider replacing the bridal march with your church choir and the whole congregation joining in on a few hymns. Are you planning a formal candlelight ceremony? How about a woodwind or string quintet from the local or - 1 touch to we in chestra society or perhaps your friend who plays the violin for the prelude. Or a trumpeter or brass choir from the school band for the processional. Do you want to include all the people you love in your wedding? Let Aunt Martha play preludes on the piano, have your roommate the folk guitarist strum out "your song". Decide with both families the kind of reception music you want. If it is a big recep- tion with dancing, decide what age groups will be dan- cing most - the fox-trotting aunts and uncles or your friends who need a solid disco beat? Phone the leader of the band or group to ask if they are available the day "and time of your reception, and if they routinely play the mix of music you need. Tell how long the reception will last, and get a cost estimate. Find out if they play continuous music or take time out (usually this is less expen- sive). Once you have picked your band and they are available, spell out your kinds of music: '`mostly old stan- dards, a quarter pop rock, about three country ballads" Name any special re- quests: "Fee+6:,gs" "You Light Up My Lite", .'Evergreen„ "You Look Beautiful Tonight". Specify the song for the "first dance". And do ask what they will wear, red jumpsuits may look terrific to your bridesmaids but risque to your grandmother. Finally get in writing the name of the leader who'll ap- pear, the number of musi- cians, their total hourly rate, the overtime rate, whether you'll be billed for partial hours as whole hours, whether you're getting con- tinuous music, when the leader is to be paid. Before you hire any group, check with your reception hall manager to find out if there are any union rules governing how many musi- cians must play in the recep- tion room and don't forget to order food and drinks for all. Don't rule out the possibili- ty of records or tapes for a small budget -wise wedding at home. Many couples are choosing a disc jockey to provide the music to records or tapes for the reception as well. A special guide for bridal attendants Feel honored! You've been chosen to be a bridesmaid or maid of honor because you are someone very special to the bride — perhaps a sister, future sister-in-law or good friend. And you're there to help in any way you can. So offer to address invitations, babysit young brothers or sisters of the bride while she and her mother shop for a gown, spread the word to friends and relatives where the bride is registered for wedding gifts. And keep things calms — don't insist on being paired with your hus- band in the recessionall, for instance, if the line-up looks better in another way — the bride will be so grateful. Figure your expenses. It's up to you to pay for your dress, even though .e bride selects it. Other costs? Your shoes, headpiece, shower gifts, wedding present, and per :.cps a collective atten- dants' gift to the bride. You're responsible for out- of-town transportation to and from the wedding. If the bride's family offers to put you up, you can accept. 1 herwise be ready to look for a local inn or hotel where you can stay and prepare to pay yourself. Maid or matron of honor? Offer to help shop for the maids' dresses. Before the shopping expe.i'tion, why not get together with the bride and maids to discuss wed- ding looks and colors? And do plan a shower for the bride if no one else already has. At the rehearsal, prac- tice bouquet -passing with three fake ones made from gift -rib le I bows. Hand yours to the maid on your left when the bride reaches the front of the church. Then take the bride's bouquet. Return it to her right . nd after the benediction, so her left arm is free to slip through her groom's. emember to straighten her train and veil before the recessional. Retrieve your bouquet as you exit with the .r.<. st man.