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"Annie's Boy" ami
A short story by Mary MacKinnon
If Tom had only been a few
years younger, the night he came
to us, shivering from the
January cold and clinging to hii.
black dog, I could have put my
- arms around him and said, "Go
ahead and cry, child. Let every-
thing within you, come out." Of
course, it would have been easier
that way. But Instead, he was
fourteen,. and dry-eyed, and his
grief was tightly locked up some-
where inside of him; so I petted
the dog he held so -close and led
them both into the warm kitchen.
As I watched my husband,
Brian, carry in the few be-
longings that were all Tom had
, left of his mother and father, the
mothering instinct within me,
• grieved for the part of him, that
was still a child. The Christmas
eve car accident that had taken
the lives of Tom's parents, had
also left a deep hole in my hus-
band's life. Tom's Mother was
Brian's oldest sister — the one
who had taken over the family
when their own mother had died.
Now, it was our turn to take care
of Annie's boy. -
I had been so sure that this was
the right decision, but as I
showed Tom the tiny, yet neatly
arranged room I had fixed for
him, and went back into the
kitchen to make popcorn for the
family, the awesome responsi-
bility I had assumed suddenly
began to close hi on me. Our
small house was already crowded
with out own family of six, plus
two dogs, and our seven-month
old baby demanded so much of
my time. How was I ever going to
work one more person into my
crowded household and busy
schedulel Yet, even more impor-
tant, ho* could I reach the
sorrowfully wounded spirit of this
quiet, shy teen-ager, who I knew,
would be embarrassed by any
physical expression of our love?'
As we sat at the kitchen table,
eating our popcorn, the children
were all quite intent on gaining
Tom's attention. As usual, the
IMO bowl was soon emptiedoind
I think he was glad when I sald it
was time for Alio prepariahr
bed. I hoped that Tom wouldn't
notice the tensionin my voice as I
said "good night" to hini.
• Within thefirst small period of
time, I noticed -that there was
More Washing, more ironing,
more mess,' becausewe were so
crowded. And I was spending
more time doing the never
finished tasks — cooking, dishes,
grocerY shoPPing-
• Meanwhile, Tom was facing his
devastating loss with courage
arid manliness. For the first two
weeks he was a guest, in an
atmosphere of Strained polite-
ness and MET concern, but it was
not tong before he was laughing,
joking with the baby, and yes,
fighting with the older children.
As far as the new school was con-
cerned, he seemed to adjust
quite well.
But still, I knew there were
many times when Tom's
wounded spirit ached within
himself. When one of our children
brought out an old family picture,
In which Arnie was holding Tom
on her lap, at family reunions,
Where reminiscing was always
most prominently displayed,
when he was elected to the stu-
dent council at school, and some-
one said, "Oh 'Tom, your mother
would have been so proud of
you." At these times especially, I
wanted so desperately to put my
arms around Annie's boy, and
say, "I widerstandhow you feel.
But somehow, I just couldn't.
There seemed to be what one
might call, an impenetrable wall,
surrounding his hurt. And though
I sensed that the boy on the other
side of the wall, was trying to get
through it too, we simply could
not reach each other,
„ In spite of worries and added
work, we managed to make it
through the winter; and almost
before I realized it, spring was
here. I was not surprised that
Tom seemed depressed and edgy
after the trip to visit his parents'
waves, and to make matters
Worse, the next day was gray and
gloomy, and the children
bickered the entire day. So I
didn't think much about it when
Tom stomped out the door with
his dog on a leash, after a fight
with our ten year old, over
nothing at all. But our daughter
followed him and in twenty
minutes, she returned, breathless
and on the -verge of tears. "Mom
Tom's running away. He's
heading towards the boundary
road." •
Quickly, I put down the Potato I
was peeling, phoned my husband.,
and left the older children to
watch the baby. I drove down our
concession. to the boundary, then
up the boundary and back, but
Tom had disappeared. My eyes,
uncontrollably, began to fill with
tears. "Oh God, please bring him
home."
By this time, Brian was also
searching in his car, so I started
home. to check on the children.
Now, tears were stinging my
cheeks, as I realized how deeply I
loved this tall, quiet boy. Not
because I felt sorry for hiin. I
simply loved him. Not even
because he was Amte's boy. I
lovedhim because he was Tom,
and because somewhere deep in-
side of me, there was a place
especially for him. He too, was
my child, and if 1 loft him now; I
knew that there would always be
DONALD McCURDY
Mr. McCurdy's, future plans
are to teach Frenchin a high
school. He is originally from Hen-
sall. He attended the Exeter High
School and later, the Wilhid
Laurier 'University.
Mr. McCurdy likes our school
very much and he enjoys the nice
French atmosphere ereated here.
"• Louise Stamper IM
Cornelia Stangen 1111
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DIOR ORENCHUK
Mr. Orenchuk's future plans
are to teach data processing and
physical education. He is from
Exeter. He attended the South
Huren High School and Western
University. He says we have • a
good school and compared to a
school in the city, we have a lot of
advantages. For example, he
says the teachers get along better
with the students who have plenty
of interest and enthusiasm.
Mr. Orenchrik stated that he
enjoyed being here and that he
enjoyed the good food served in
the cafeteria. He says he gets
along great with the students be-
cause he was raised in a country
school.
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WeAvish the best of luck in the
future for Mr. Orenchuk as well
as Mr. McCurdy.
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a place in my heart that no one
else could ever fill.
Then suddenly, I was aware of
something strong and solid —
something that had aided me, in
cophig with the added responsi-
bility — that had made this boy's
locked heart a challenge, instead
of a defeat — that had made me
continue in faith and hope. It was
a' feeling — warm and secure,
like the feeling you have when
your child draws pictures all over
your nicely papered walls, yet
upon your .approach, he runs
across the room to give you a big
hug and a kiss. So humanely
Ironic, you suddenly feel happy,
realizing how lucky you are, to
have people needing your love.
This extra work and responsibi-
lity, then all became worthwhile
— because there is love.
As I pulled into the driveway,
the children came running out to
meet me. Tom had come back
while we were out searching.
I found him lying on his bed
scratching his dog's ears. As I sat
on the edge of the bed, with one
hand on his shoulder, and the
other petting his dog, I heard my-
self say, "1 understand how you
feel, Tom."
The wall had crtunbled and I
had at last entered the place
where his grief was so deeply en-
gulfed. Then Annie's boy said,
"I'm glad to be home, Aunt
Norma." And with a sudden'tstab
of joy, I realized that he meant
right here, in our very own home.
Caveat Emptor.
(Complied by the students of
Consumer Education 300.
TOYS
It won't be long imtil Christmas ,
and everybody will be out buying
gifts. We are concerned mostly ,
with the toy shopper.
'rhe purpose of a toy is to give
the child something that will pro-
vide amusement, occupy, his at-
tention," and .stimulate imagine-
Quotitie
durable. Parents should keep in
mind that a toy may be dropped,
stepped on, chewed, or rolled in
the mud. Each toy should be able -
to withstand such treatment for a
reasonable period of time.
2. Toys should be well designed
and of good quality. They should
fit together properly, appeal to a
child's iniagination, and help him
learn without breaking. Remem-
ber, quality is more important
• than quantity.
3. The price should also be
reasonable. It it isn't it is a good
idea to comparison shop.
Comparison shopping is a good
idea.'The price of an article will
likely differ from one store to an-
other. The quality of articles of
the same price will more than
likely differ too.
It is important to match the toy
with the child's age and ability.
Toys that are too complicated
will frustrate a child while toys '
that are too simple will quickly
lose their fascination.
The Spring 1973 Canadian edi-
tion of Everybody's Money has
listed some toys and the age the
child should be before he receives
this certain toy.
Above all, toys should be safe.
There are regulations put out by
the federal government to pro-
hibit the sale of toys which are in
themselves dangerous — such as
those which 'contain poisonous
substances or which have small
pieces which can be torn off and
swallowed.
A Guide
for Toy Shoppers
Toys recommended according
to age as follows:
Birth to 18 months: Soft cloth
dolls, pull and push toys, cradle
gyms, rattles and bells, floating
or squeaking toys, rubber or
plastic blocks.
18 months to 3 years: blocks
(simple), wheelbarrows and
wagons, small cars and trucks,
dolls with furniture, rocking
horse, take -apart -and -put -togeth-
er toys, simple puzzles, tricycles,
toys to sit on and in, simple muci-
cal instrtunents.
3 years to 6 years: dolls and
equipment, housekeeping appli-
ances that work, doctor and
nurse kith, roller skates, more
complicated blocks, sled, simple
construction sets.
6 years to 9 years: board and
team games, more difficult con-
struction sets, interlocking build-
ing blocks, scientific toys, ice
skates, kites, electric trains,
digging tools.
9 years to 12 years: projects
that have end products, musical
instruments, blocks, scientific
equipment, handicraft equip-
ment, hobby equipment.
Give your opinion of the change
of the first set of exams from
December to November.
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Heather Currie 10B: "I like it
better in November becaulre
there is less to 'study for."
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Alice Beecroft and Cindy
Thornton 13: "We think it 1141000
because now we can get into the
Christmas spirit."
0-0-0
Kathy Fines 13A: "I like it be-
cause my 18th birthday would
have been during the exams in
December, but now I can cele-
brate."
0-0-0
loorrie Parker 11F: "I think
that it is a good idea because
when it is near Christmas you
don't have to worry about study-
ing for exams."
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Nancy Demerling 9C: "More
time off for Christmas."
0-0-0
Dale Van Stempvoort 12K: "I'd
rather not have any exams. I'd
rather have one set at the end of
the year that you can be exempt-,
ed from."
• 0 — 0 0
Paul Simpson 12N: "I like it be-
cause now I can get my Ouist-
mas shopping done."
0 — 0 0
Tom Barger 12A: "It doesn't
matter. All exams are a pain."
0-0-0
Dave Stapleton 12K: "It gets
them over with sooner so I like it
better."
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Keith Metzger ION: "I like it
better this year5 because each
term will be the same length of
time."
4.11 0,1 stimbers
eutartalu miethirs
all WI exitothre
WIIITEalURCH---Nlonday af-
ternoon et three o'clock, the
members of the Swett.* 441
Club entertained their mothers
and the Women's Insilttite execu-
tive at a rwe,Christmaa WO in
the prettily.decorated hall.
The preaidrait, lonl liurdon,
opened the mooting with tho 441
pledge awl minutes were read by
Anne de Rruyn. Lori then Wel-
comed all the ladies on behalf Of
the cliuh s.. told the NOW of
each nieeting-
The meeting was then in
charge of the entertainment
committee, Jallene Pardon, Lori
Jainieson, Faye Irwin and Karen
Purdon. They conducted several
humorous contests as well all
team contests. Several received
prizes for their efforts lnthe **-
tests.
Kathy Purdon gave a dation,
stration on the right and Wrong
ways of doing many things. The -
members were to comdient when
she was in error. Mrs. Emerson
gave a reading, "Afterwards in
Flanders".
The meeting closed with, "0
Canada" and the singing of
grace. Dinner was served to 12
club meMbers, ten mothers and
the leaders of the club.
Lakelet
. and Mrs. Warren Zurbrigg
spent the weekend with Mr. and
Mrs. Morley Zurbrigg in Willow -
dale.
Mr. arid Mrs. Elmer Greenley
and Barry visited Sunday with
Mr. and Mrs. Eugene Metzger
and family in Palmerston.
Mrs. Leslie Edwards of London
visited Saturday with Mr. and
Mrs. Ken Dettman and family.
Mr. and Mrs, Harvey Dauer -
ling spent last week with Mr. and
Mrs. Robert Harkness in Hunts-
ville.
, Mr. and Mrs. Kurt ICrumkuid
and family of Toronto spent the
weekend with Mr, and Mrs. Har-
vey Demerling.
early 300
. (Continued from front page)
Miss Doris McIvor; Ruth.
Eckenswilter, Grade 12 Level 5,,
Office Practicec4z,7,praticienck
award, donjited,+g
Davis; Brn&k hetiMittat
Grade 12 Office Practice. Pro-
ficiency Level 4 award, delisted
by Lloyd -Truax Ltd.
Harry Schiestal was awarded
the .Western Foundry Award for
Technical Training and the W. E.
LeVan Award for Proficiency in
Mechanical Drafting, both
donated by Western Foundry Ltd.
Glenn Warwick was the re-
cipient of the Hodgins -McDonald
(Wingham) Ltd: award for Pro-
ficiency in Woodworking.
' dy Thornton, James Forten
andj Gail Renwick were all
gra ted Dr. A. J. Irwin Scholar-
ships, donated by the late Mrs. A.
J. Irwin. Betty Maize was pre-
sented with the Doris MacKenzie
Scholarship, donated by the Doris
MacKenzie Scholarship Fund and
Joanne Thompson. received the
Wingham and District Hospital
Graduate Nurses Association
Bursary, donated by the
Graduate Nurses' Association.
James Fairies was named the
winner of the Grade 13 pro-
ficiency awards in Biology,
Chemistry, and Mathematics as
well as the W. S. Hall Memorial
Scholarship in Science and the
Paul V. Tiffin Memorial Scholar-
ship. The awards were donated
by John Gnay, W. H. French, J.
H. Crawford, Dr. J. S. Hall, MD.,
and the Tiffin family.
Susan Underwood received
Proficiency in Grade 13 French,
donated by R. Campeau;
Katherine Pattison, the French
Embassy Award for Grade 13
French, donated by the French
Embassy; arade 13 Proficiency
in History award, Mark Van
Stempvoort, donated by E. S.
Copeland; Proficiency in Grade
13 Latin, Mardi Adams, donated
In memory of Dr. A. W. Mc-
Kibbon ; Proficiency in Grade 13
,Physics, Robert Loree, donated
by John W. Pattison.
Stanley Door Systems Ltd.
Scholarship went to Robert
Loree, donated by Stanley Door
Systems; Joanne Thompson was
awarded the William F. Mac-
Donald Award, donated by the
family of Mr. and Mrs. W. F.
MacDonald and Jeannette Barr
won the Grade 13 Music Award,
donated by Mrs. Marie Douglas.
At this point several guests on
the platform presented students
with awards from community
organizations. Wingham Lions
Club President Russell Zurbrigg
presented Stanley Loree with a
Grade 10 Proficiencyaward from
the Wingham Lions; Mrs. Ethel
Holmes presented Janice Dunbar
and Muriel Taylor with Grade 10
Home Economics Proficiency
Award on behalf of the Wingham
Women's Institute; Ruth Ann
White was the recipient of the
CHRISTMAS CARDS, TAGS, AND SEAM
WRAPPING PAPER, RIBBONS AND BOWS
For Best Selection,
Proficiency in Girls' Occupations
award presented on behalf of the
Wingham Business and Pro-
i.fesaional Womenls Chubby Mrs.
A s toul; JaMos Ritter was
p ted with flieGrade 11 Pro-
; kency award by Don Brooks;
theGrade 12 Proficiency . Award
for 'Auto Mechanics was pre-
sented to Donald Miltenburg by
Ralph Harrison on behalf of Ideal
Supply. Ltd.; Sandra Currie was
given the Grade 12 Home
Economics Proficiency award by
Miss Dorothe Comber.
Frank E. Madill presented
Carol Adams with the Above and
Beyone the Call of Duty Award;
William Darling, ' Darlene
Stewart, Jim Ritter, Kenneth
Carter, Paul Metzger and Maicine
Procter were all presented with
F. E. Madill Secondary School
Staff Awards by MiSS J. Hancock
and J. Inwood; Catherine Bone,
John Elliott, Barbara Muilwyk,
Paul Mutter, Joyce Pearson and
Douglas Smith were granted
George Menzies Endowment
Fund Awards by Mrs. Robert
Raymond.
In other special awards Janice
Kieffer was presented with the
Hospital Auxiliary of Wingha
and District Hospital Aw
HA President Mrs. R. P. Ritter;
.Louise Procter received the
Order of the Eastern Star (Chap-
ter 89) Scholarship, presented hy
Mrs. Scott Reid; the John
Stewart MacNaughton Memorial
Award was presented to Harry
Schiestel by Mrs. D. S. Mac -
Naughton; Mardi Adams re-.
ceived the Ladies' Auxiliary,
Royal Canadian Legion Branch
180 award, presented by Mrs.
ThiVe Crothers.
James Welwood presented
Philip Caskanette, Tinie Jortits-
ma and Murray Craig with
Studer -it Council Awards; Donald
Miltenburg was given the Tees -
water Creamery Ltd. Award by
D. Thompson and Mrs. LeRoy
Jackson presented Karen Gal-
braith with the Wingham Kinette
Sch°In larshiP'
thelast of the academic
presentations Huron County
Board of Education representa-
tive W. D. Kenwell presented
Mardi Adams, Philip Caskanette,
James Fairies, Karen Galbraith
and Robert Loree with Ontario
Scholarship Certificates. One
other Ontario Scholar, Mark Van
Stempvoort was unable to attend
mowminengcethmepentr.
esentations
vjthalaeFm°1sto
Fairies, the 1973-74
edictorian, took the podium
speak to his fellow students on the
importance of responsibility.
Throughout his talk he noted that
as we go through life, we move
from one stage of awareness to
another, with each of those steps
conies the added responsibility
that ultimately we must bear to
take eur rightful place in tits
world.
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Morris Councii
amiroves grant
for committee
Members of the Morris Town-
ship Council approved a grant of
$300 to be given to the Brussels
Recreation Committee, when it
met in regular - session with
Reeve William Elston presiding.
On a motion by councillors
Ross Smith and Robert Grasby, a
bylaw was passed imposing
special annual drainage rates
under the Tile Drainage Act 1971.
A rebate ot$25.68 on the 1974 tax-
es on the south half of Lot 10, con-
cession 7, will be given and the
assessment will be lowered for
future taxes.
, Councillors Thomas Miller and
• Ross Smith made a -motion,
which was ultimately carried,
that a letter be sent to the Huron
County Board of Education re -
.questing that in 1975 there be two
dates for payment of rates,
namely June 30 and December
15. ,
A motion was passed that coun-
cil request a supplementary al-
location in that amount.
Road accounts of $4,432.02 and
general accounts of $8,374.57
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