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Pyjama Day
Adams - Poole
Victoria Poole, daughter of
Alana and Paul Warwick of
Meaford and Clark Adams,
son of Elizabeth and Donald
Adams of Dashwood ex-
changed wedding vows on No-
vember 4, 1995 in Stratford
with Rev. Robert Peebles of
Exeter officiating. Brides-
maids were Laura Bruce,
friend of the bride and Nancy
Poole, the bride's sister.
Groomsmen were Brock and
Mark Adams, brothers of the
groom. Festivities took place
at the Church Restaurant. Vic-
toria and Clark are now resid-
ing in Calgary.
Wearing pyjamas
doesn't stop the activi-
ties of children at the
Sunshine Kids Co-op
Nursery School Thurs-
day morning. Above, Mi-
chael Pond watches
Mat Bilcke take in pyja-
ma day in climbing
style. At right, Alex Hol-
lohan checks out some-
thing with tractor -rider
Jace Dougall:
Work together to stop child abuse
CLINTON - Child Abuse Preven-
tion is a topic of importance to all
people who work with children
both in a paid and volunteer capaci-
ty. We must work together to re-
duce child abuse in our community.
The goal of the Huron County
Community Child Abuse Coordi-
nating Committee is to raise under-
standing and knowledge in our
community about child abuse is-
sues. The committee is offering a
workshop for all volunteers who
work with children to provide a for-
um for information and discussion
about this important topic..
We know that touching is a very
important part of healthy human re-
lationships. From the first moment
of life, babies thrive when they feel
the warmth of being near their
mother's bodies. Little children like
to roll around on the ground in
playful rough-housing. Lonely and
hurting children often want to be
held with caring.
However, we are all aware that
some people take advantage of the
natural inclination of children to be
loving and physically affectionate
and abuse their position of trust in
relation to children by touching
children inappropriately or emo-
tionally or physically abusing them.
One well known Canadian case
took place in Kingston Ontario
where a choirmaster systematically
sexually abused young boys in his
charge. Although a number of boys
indicated in subtle ways to their
parents that the situation was abu-
sive, parents failed to pick up on
these clues as the abuser was a well
respected and well liked communi-
ty figure. The tragic aftermath for
these families and their children
has resulted in a legacy of suicide,
early school leaving, drug abuse
and in some cases prostitution. Sev-
eral years ago Clinton residents
will remember that our own youth
were preyed upon by a youth leader
who was subsequently charged and
found guilty of sexually molesting
children in his charge.
With the publicity that surrounds
such cases adults who work with
children both in paid and volunteer
positions have become confused
and worried about appropriate
touching and related behaviors to
use when they are with and around
children, particularly children who
have been sexually abused are es-
pecially sensitive about the way
they interact with children. All
adults who work with children need
to be alert to the appropriateness of
their behavior keeping in mind that
it is important to show caring and
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to encourage children by being
warm and affectionate.
So what are some
sensible ways for
adults who work
with children to con-
tinue to show
warmth while still
protecting their own
integrity and rr3peci-
ing the rights of the
child. Following are
some suggestions.
Make a point of
showing affection to
all the children in
open places where
others can see and
share in the warmth. If you are
comfortable with others watching
what you are doing with children,
you are probably O.K. If a child is
sad and needs to be comforted,
show affection by placing your
hand on the child's shoulder or
hold the child's hand and give it a
gentle squeeze. An extra effort by a
child deserves a friendly pat on the
back. Keep in mind that as children
grow and approach puberty and en-
ter adolescence they have an ex-
panded need for personal space. If
a child is hurting or feeling ill and
needs to be examined, ensure that
another person of the same sex as
the child is present in the room
while you are carrying out the ex-
amination. If possible, leave an ex-
amination of private places to
health professionals. Don't force
the child to remove clothing for an
examination. If the child needs to
have a private conversation with
you, remove yourselves the neces-
The com
of
worksh
volunte
woi
ch
provide
for info
and dis
ab
importa
sary distance from the others but
stay in view of the group or leave a
door slightly ajar. If a
child has been injured or
is particularly upset
about something you
may like to ask permis-
sion to give them a hug.
It will be important for
you to tell the parenk
about the injury or emo-
tional incident so they
can provide further sup-
port to the child. If an in-
jury has resulted in a
bruise or laceration tell-
ing the parent about how
it happened may prevent
confusion and ensure that the injury
is attended to.
Volunteers who work with chil-
dren often begin to be seen by the
mittee is
off' • a
op for all
ers who
rk with
ldren to
a forum
rmaton
cussion
out this
nt topic
child as special adult friends in
whom they can confide. Sometimes
as a result of this relationship chil-
dren may confide about past or on-
going abuse. Even if you have read
about many cases of child abuse, it
will probably be a shock if the
child confides in you about such a
matter. Whether the conversation is
about physical abuse, sexual abuse
or emotional abuse, you would be
wise to treat all disclosures in a
similar fashion. To be most helpful
it is important to follow these steps:
first believe in the child and ac-
knowledge their call for help; listen
openly and calmly; reassure the
child that you are glad that they
told you and that you are going to
ensure that they get help; write
down the facts; report immediately
to the Children's Aid Society.
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THAMES ROAD - Rev. Jim Allsop was in charge of the regular church
service at Thames Road Church on Sunday morning.
The congregation sang the Doxology, followed by the responsive read-
ing from the service book "To Behold Beauty" from Psalm 27.
The choir sang "He Set Me Free" accompanied by organist Agnes Bray.
Everyone sang the children's hymn "Put Your Hand in the Hand" and
Rev. Allsop told the children's story "Talents and Lights Can Be Shared."
Vanessa Bray and Erin Parker received the offering.
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On Sunday, February 4 at Thames Road Church, potluck dessert and the
annual meeting is planned for 7:30 p.rn. -
The February meeting of the U.C.W. will be held Monday evening, Feb-
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