Times-Advocate, 1984-04-18, Page 7Page 6
Times -Advocate, April 18. 1984
Setting up roadblocks for good communication
A little boy, showing his
friend the doormat in front of
his house with the words
'Welcome' on it, said, "That's
the first thing 1 learned to
read. It says, 'Wipe your
feet."
It reminds me of the times
we say one thing to a person
and mean something else. We
may tell our child, "For
goodness sakes, pick up your
part best, and about the only
time someone else gets a
chance to speak is when we
run out of breath.
St. James says the tongue
can be like a wild horse out of
control, or a spark that can
start a mighty fire leaving on-
ly carnage in its wake. We
can build people up, or tear
them down with our tongues.
We can wound or soothe.
It seems
to me...
by Gwyn Whilsmith
MR. AND MRS. GEORGE McCORMICK
Mary Anne, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Clem Regier, RR
2, Zurich, and George McCormick, son of Mr. and Mrs.
Bob McCormick, RR 1, Ilderton, were married October
15, 1983 at St. Peter's R.C: Church, St. Joseph by Father
Gary Ducharme. Matron of honour was Cheryl Gelinas,
friend of the bride, and bridesmaids were Bonnie, Pati
and Lisa, sisters of the bride, and Diana Luczynski,
friend of the bride. Best man was Dale Donaldson,
friend of the groom, and ushers were Jim and Dove
McCormick, brothers of the groom, Dave Regier,
brother of the bride and Scott McCormick, nephew of
the groom. Following a honeymoon to the Poconos
Mountains, the couple took up residence in London.
Showing compassion
A film on how to besuppor-
tive and compassionate is be-
ing shown this month in the
cafeteria of South Huron
District High School. The title
of the film is People of
Refuge, featuring Charles
Swindoll. In the film Swindoll
describes how to provide
those who are lonely with
friendship, and how to offer
comfort to those in distress.
Charles Swindoll is a pastor
in the first Evangelical Free
Church Fulferton California.
He is nationally known
through a growing ministry in
literature and radio called In-
sight for Living. He has writ-
ten many books which include
"Strike the Original Match,"
You and your child", "Second
Wind a Fresh Run at Life"
and many others.
People of Refuge will be
shown Thursday April 26 at 8.
p.m. in the South Huron
District High School
cafeteria. It is sponsored by
Exeter District Ladies Com-
munity Fellowship.
To Compliment Your Spring Fashions...
It's In The Bag!
clothes, your room is a
mess," but what we actually
communicate to that child is
"You're so hopeless, you
can't do anything without me
telling you."
We greet a friend with,
"Hello, how are you?" but our
hurried tone communicates,
"I really haven't time to
listen..' We can say, "I'll
stiow you how to do it," but
our actions and voice implies,
"You're reallystupid."' Ex-
perts claim only 7 percent of
what we communicate is ver-
bal. The rest lies in such
things as vocal pitch, inflec-
tions and facial expressions.
To be a good communicator
takes a lot of practice and has
three different areas: talking,
listening and understanding.
Most of us like the 'talking'
The listening part is just as
important as talking, but
harder. Believe it or not, we
only hear about 20 percent of
what is said to us. That's
because we don't really
listen; so we need to learn to
talk less and listen more. So-
meone has pointed out that
God gave us two ears and on-
ly one mouth!
Sensitive listening is active-
ly caring about what the other
person is saying, which brings
about the third part of com-
municating: understanding.
We need to train ourselves
to look behind the thought ex-
pressed in the words people
speak to us. We must stop be-
ing prickly, and instead of
becoming defensive about
something someone has said,
look beyond at what the
speaker is really saying, and
why.
AU of us want to com-
municate with the people
around us, yet we constantly
set up road blocks. We're
afraid to give others room to
share their feelings because
TO MARRY — Malcolm and Mary Ellen Kirkland of Kit-
chener announce the engagement of their daughter,
Martha Elizabeth, to Anthony James Weir, son of Jim
and Teresa Weir of Owen Sound. The marriage will take
place Moy 12 at 3 p.m. at Forest Hill United Church,
Kitchener.
we can't risk having them ex-
pose themselves to us. We
provoke guilt in people and
break down communication
by saying such things as, "It's
all your fault.... ". We can
make communication dif-
ficult by trying to keep the
peace at any cost and thus
build up resentments. And,
some of us are great at second
guessing our children and
spouses so that we finish their
sentences the way we think
they should be finished.
We need to try very hard to
be honest in all parts of our
communications....to say
what we mean, to actively
listen, to be sensitive to the
speaker. It seems to me it
would probably be a lot better
if our doormats said, "Wipe
Your Feet" if that's what we
mean, instead of saying
"Welcome" and resenting the
dirt that gets tracked in. You
really can't beat loving hones-
ty for good 'communications.
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TO MARRY - Mr. and Mrs. Harold Dietrich, Zurich ore
pleased to announce the forthcoming marriage of their
daughter Theresa Jean to Stephen Daniel Finkbeiner,
son of Mr. and Mrs. Allan Finkbeiner, Crediton. The
wedding will take place Saturday, April 28, 1984 of 3:00
p.m. in St. Boniface Church, Zurich, Ont. Open recep-
tion to follow in Exeter. Everyone welcome.
Sorority chapter
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An interesting report on the
history of the Mardi Gras was
given by Maude Connon.
Court Whist was played and
enjoyed by all for the rest of
the evening. Prizes were
awarded for high and low
scores as well as one for the
lucky chair.
In keeping with Shrove
Tuesday pancakes were serv-
ed for lunch by Elsie and
Maude.
March 20, the meeting was
held at the home of Mary
Ellison. Sally Lou Raymond
Elsie Tuckey was hostess to
Beta Theta Chapter's
meeting, March 6, The Ways
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stated all the arrangements
had been made for Daffodil
Day. March 30.
Mary Ellison opened ,the
program by telling everyone
about the life of St: Patrick.
Sne introduced Mary Jane
MacDougall who showed
slides about the year that her
family spent in Ireland.
Dessert was served by the
hostess and Eileen Ross.
April 4 the chapter went to
the play "Anything Goes'; in
St. Marys. The evening end-
ed with lunch at Elsie Witte-
veen's and she was assisted
by Donna Jones.
The April 10 meeting was
held at the home of Bev
Delbridge. Election of officers
was held: president Elsie
Tuckey, vice president -Donna
Jones, secretary Mary
Ellison. corres. secretary
Diane Jeffery and treasurer
Donna Webster.
Lunch was served by the
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