Times-Advocate, 1983-03-30, Page 2Page 2
Times -Advocate, March 30, 1983
Area ministers sponsorcour�e for developing happy relationships
Marriages may be made in
heaven, but they have to be
lived on earth. Mundane mat-
ters like family finances, sex-
ual compatibility and failures
in communication usually
soon intrude, dimming the
afterglow of the starry-eyed
trip to the altar.
Young people are unaware
of and unprepared for the im-
plications of such an intimate
relationship, according to
Dashwood -Zurich United
Church minister Barbara
Laing.
Early last year at a
meeting of the South Huron
ministerial, Ms. Laing
broached the idea of a
seminar for engaged and
newly married couples .to
discuss some marital pitfalls
with experts in various rele-
Crash, theft
investigated
One minor collision and a
theft were investigated by the
Exeter police department this
week.
The collision occurred on
Tuesday, invoking vehicles
operated by Beverly Anstett.
Exeter and Jan Morden, RR
1 Dashwood. They collided nn
Main Street and damage was
listed at $250 by Constable
:George Robertson.
The theft of a - 1976
Kawasaki KZ400 motorcycle
was reported on Sunday by
Craig Paton, 465 Main St. The
machine was taken from its
parking spot' sometime bet-
ween 2:30 a.m. and 8:30 a . m :
.The motorcycle was
recovered early this week.
The incident is being in-
ve•;tigated by Sgt. Kevin
Short.
In the monthly report for
February. the police reported
the following statistics:
Eleven 'collisions with
damage nf $12.075 and one
minor injury, three parking
tickets, 13 people warned and
five charged under the
Highway Traffic Act, six
I r the Liquor
charges once 1
Control Act• two break and
enter investigations with S200
being stolen and one juvenile
charged. nine thefts with the
-mine of stolen property tx.ing
$1,775, two fraud investiga-
tions, nine animal com-
plaints. one place of business
found insecure. three medical
emergencies.
During the month the of-
ficers recorded L:; hours of
overtime with four being for
court duty. A total Of 3.089 kin.
was recorded by the Iwo
cruisers.
vent professions. Her fellow
pastors, representing most
denominations in Exeter,
Crediton, Centralia, Mt.
Carmel, Dashwood, Hensall,
Zurich, Brand Bend, Thames
Road and Elimville, agreed.
Ms. Laing, Zurich Men-
nonite minister Clayton
Kuepfer and Abram Blaak
from Exeter Bethel Reform-
ed Church were appointed a
committee of three to explore
the possibilities. Blaak knew
the experiment had been tried
elsewhere, sometimes using
only ministers to speak on
pertinent topics.
He felt nonclerical experts
would have more impact.
Kuepfer agreed that pastors
are not skilled in all fields in
MAPLE SYRUP PRODUCER -- Ivan McClymont, Varna,
fills a customer's jug with delicious maple syrup.
Winter weather
helps syrup run
Oscar Tuckey agrees with
the old adage that even an ill
wind blows somebody some
good.
The return to wintry
temperatures last week pro-
dded " the sap into flowing
in
g
again in the Tuckey sugar
hush northwest of Exeter.
Tuckey is confident of getting
a good run after the freeze-up.
He expects to maintain his,
average annual production of
110 -lo 120 gallons of sweet,
dark amber syrup this year.
and- is already -more than
halfv r,y to that goal.
"The only noticeable effect
1983's unusual weather pat-
terns have had on this year's
production. Tuckey observed,
is a more than usual amount
of sugar sand lefton the
filters after the syrup is boil-
ed.and strained.
Ivan McClymont, Varna, is
also happy about the return of
winter- ther,thoughhe
t wea
concedes a good frost wouldld
have done just as well to get
the sap running again. The
weather for the next two
weeks will determine this
year's crop, as the season is
usually over by mid-April.
At the two-thirds mark, he
belives this year's output will
be about average.
McClymont figures on one
pint of syrup from each of his
1,200 taps, and sells to his
customers by the gallon if
they bring their own jug, or
by the litre when he supplies
the container.
which young couples need
instruction.
• A series of five weekly
evening sessions was plann-
ed. The first was a get-
together, where the eleven
couples enrolled were in-
troduced to each other, and to
the people who would be their
leaders. For the next two
evenings Arch Andrews, a
highly qualified counsellor,
now in private practice at
Bayfield led a discussion on
adjustments, conflicts and
roles in marriage, the vital
importance of a husband and
wife hearing what each other
is saying, and the effects
children have on the
marriage:
The husband -wife team of
Dr. Peter Englert and Rev.
Cheryl Ashick were in charge
of another session. The doctor
explained the physiological
differences between the
sexes, and how men are
visually oriented while
women are more influenced
by their emotions. His wife
spoke of understanding and
accepting the death of a close
family member. .
Hensall bank manager Eric
Luther gave tips on
budgeting, who should control
the money, and other aspects
involved in handling a fami-
ly's finances. Exeter lawyer
Elmer Bell provided expert
advice:on legal matters such
as making a will and joint
ownership of property.
At the end of the course,
those who had taken part
were asked for their written
evaluation. The response was
very positive, encouraging
the ministerial to plan
another for this year.
The same committee (La-
ing, Blaak and Kuepfer) are
again in charge. The' course
has been expanded to six
evenings, with each of the trio
chairing two sessions. the
first hour of the first session,
on April 8 at 8 p.m. in Caven
Presbyterian Church will be
spent with couples and
leaders getting to know each -
other..ln the second hour,
Arch Andrews will begin his
Presentationwhich he will
continuefor
o the next three
weeks.
On May 6 George Godbolt,
former business administra-
tion teacher, now insurance
broker and financial advisor,
will deal with financial
stewardship within marriage.
At the final. session
Goderich lawyer Norm
Pickett will discuss family
law, wills, estates.'find'dtfler
legal matters pertaining to
marriage.
This year the organizers
hope to attract primarily
engaged and newly-wed
couples.
The cost is *20 per couples,
less than the tab for dinner for
two in some elegant little
bistro, and possibly much,
more beneficial.
Harry and Carol Stuart
were among the couples tak-
ing the course last year, and
were glad they did, even
though they've been•married
for 10 years. •
"Anything you can take that
puts you in touch with
3 ourself and your partner,
take it", is Carol's advice.
"You are doing yourself and
your partner a favour."
Carol said sometimes a
wife or husband thinks he or
she is the'only one in the
world with a specific pro-
blem. Discovering through
group sessions that your pro-
blem is "as common as rain,
you are not -alone, not strange,
not a freak," is very comfor-
ting, she said.
Harry Stuart said he was
very impressed with the
seminar. He considers mar-
riage a big commitment, and
over the years he and his wife
have taken many courses to
keep their relationship fresh
and strong.
"This course taught us how
to fight", he said with a grin.
"We used to clam up, seize up
and become defensive. Now
we deal with little irritations
before they become big
boils."
Both married co-chairmen
have definite views about how
to maintain a happy
marriage.
After 18 years of marriage,
Clayton Kuepfer can speak
from experience.
"You must be sensitive to
your partner's needs", he
said and gave a specific ex-
ample of what that means in
practice. A sportsman, he
would like to spend more time
hunting and fishing, but has
sacrificed his personal wishes
to the more important needs
of his wife and children.
Despite the fact Kuepfer
pastors in a traditionally
stable Mennonite community,
he has noticed an increase in
his counselling load in the
THIS SHOULD DDOI
IT — Mark a Burton
gets set
to bowl
his final ball at a morning bowling session arranged
by the Exeter rec centre for students on winter break.
past few years. He sees a
need for more post -marital
counselling. Before the wed-
ding, the young couples are
expending all their energies
on the marriage
preparations.
Abram and Linda Blaak
are expecting their first child
after ten years of marriage.
They agree on the necessity of
an honest relationship, and
not being afraid to talk about
anything.
"People have to know more
than the wedding ceremony.
That exotic, heart -thumping
feeling may not last," Linda
cautioned.
When counselling engaged
couples, the Blaaks invite
them to the manse six times
to talk informally of the many
aspects of married life. The
future bride and groom fill out
a questionnaire which in-
dicates how compatible they
are, if they are leaning from
each other, or if they are too
dependent. Abram will then
talk privately with one or both
if this is indicated, and then
meet again with both
Co -Op names
lumber head
The Exeter Co -Op ha a
-new lumber manager. Chuck
Mallette, formerly with the
Forest Co -Op where he pro-
gressed 'from salesman to
manager of the lumber divi-
sion. began his new job in Ex-
eter last week. He hopes to in-
crease the sales space in his
division in the Exeter store..
Mallette looks forward to
living and working in Exeter.
Ile has bought a house in the
area, and will'move in soon
with wife Pam and son Jay.
Mallette believes in getting
involved in the community.
He was president of the
Forest Rotary Club, trustee of
a medical centre owned by
the club, and trustee of a
group.home for the mentally
handicapped. Ile played
trumpet in the Forest Ex-
celsior Band, whic' •
h clai s t
m o
be the oldest civilian band in
Canada.
together. his church to take the
Blaak is advising all ministerial sponsored mar -
couples planning to marry in riage workshop.
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