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A wedding can be a wonderful and
memorable experience for all of
those involved. That's why you ask
friends or relatives to share in the
event and serve in your wedding
party. Your offer is a wonderful hon-
our, one that goes with it varying
degrees of responsibility depending
on the role each person will be play-
ing.
To help you decide who to ask to
be in your wedding party, here is a
list of titles and responsibilities for
each participant's role.
MAID OF HONOUR
The maid of honour is a role typi-
cally filled by a sister or a very close
friend. It is the equivalent of the
groom's best man. The maid of hon-
our's role, therefore, is typically very
involved. Among her many responsi-
bilities, the maid of honour accompa-
nies the bride on shopping trips for
her wedding dress while also plan-
ning the bridal shower, bachelorette
party and co-ordinating the bridal
party gift for the bride.
Also, the maid of honour helps the
bride get dressed on her wedding day,
holds the groom's wedding ring dur-
ing the wedding and may also help in
the writing of invitations.
The maid of honour will also typi-
Laura could not stop thinking
about the very first dress she tried on
when she began searching for her
dream gown shortly after her
engagement last year. It was simple
and strapless with a dropped waist.
But she says she couldn't believe
finding the perfect wedding dress
could be that easy, so she trekked to
four more shops and tried on 25 oth-
ers, only to finally settle on her first
love.
cally act as a witness to the wedding
and dance with the best man at the
reception.
If the woman you're asking is mar-
ried, her title will be matron of hon-
our.
BEST MAN
Perhaps the most well-known
responsibilities of the best man are
organizing the bachelor party and
giving the toast at the reception.
But the best man, who is typically
a brother or best friend of the groom,
also has a slew of other responsibili-
ties. In addition to helping the groom
choose his tuxedo and get dressed
before the wedding, the best man
coordinates the couple's gift from the
groomsmen and takes care of the
newlyweds' transportation to the air-
port after the reception or the next
morning.
The best man may also hold onto
any payment that's due to the recep-•
tion site or the donation for the house
of worship, and take care of any final
financial details.
He also holds the bride's wedding
ring during the ceremony.
BRIDESMAIDS
Along with walking in the wedding
procession, bridesmaids attend the
shower and contribute to the bridal
the choice is yours. Consider your
religious affiliations, personalities,
finances and family customs, and
plan accordingly. Whether you
choose a small service or a lavish
affair, all is acceptdble.
• Wardrobes can be as varied as the
ceremony and party. In the past,
white gowns signified purity and vir-
ginity - not anymore. If you want to
wear white, go for it. However, many
encore brides choose to wear
coloured gowns or even a pantsuit in
lieu of a gown. Guys can .be formal
in a tuxedo or casual in a dinner jack-
et and slacks.
• A second-time bride may choose
to be "given away" by a father,
brother of friend. It is perfectly
acceptable for her to walk down the
aisle solo.
• The bride and groom can host
their own affair, but parents on either
side may choose to financially con-
tribute.
The best part? It was under her
budget, she says.
The truth is that finding a wedding
gown that makes you feel like a
princess does not have to be stress-
ful. In fact, it can be a whole lot of
fun - if you know the secrets of nav-
igating the sea of bridal salons,
designers and outlets.
Even better, your dream wedding
gown does not even have to cost
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gifts. bridesmaids, who are typically
sisters or friends of the bride or
groom, also dance with the grooms-
men during the reception.
To be further involved, each can be
given specific roles, like reading a
religious passage at the ceremony,
providing assistance with choosing
wedding vendors, or helping to
address wedding invitations.
GROOMSMEN
Groomsmen are the male equiva-
lent of the bridesmaids, typically
having nearly identical responsibili-
ties. Sometimes, groomsmen can act
as ushers for guests arriving at the
ceremony. Groomsmen walk in the
wedding processional and attend and
• help organize the bachelor party as
well.
FLOWERGIRL
If the bride has a sister who is espe-
cially young, that sister typically fills
the role of flowergirl.
Since most flowergirls are very
young, their responsibilities are gen-
erally limited to carrying a basket of
flowers during the processional and,
depending on the bride's preference,
tossing flower petals on the ground to
mark the bride's entrance.
RINGBEARER
Like the flowergirl, the ringbearer
is a very young member of the fami-
ly, only the ringbearer is a male.
The ringbearer's role is to carry a
pillow with the rings sewn on it dur-
ing the processional.
Some couples choose to have the
ringbearer and the flowergirl walk
next to one another during the pro-
cessional.
PARENTS OF THE BRIDE
The bride's parents may be respon-
sible for hosting the wedding, if they
will be completely financially
responsible for the event.
In some cases, the father of the
bride escorts his daughter down the
aisle alone, but in other instances or
in religious ceremonies, both parents
may accompany the bride. In all
cases, it's her preference.
The mother of the bride may help
fund or contribute to the planning of
the bridal shower if the maid of hon-
our needs assistance. These parents
may also foot the cost of an engage-
ment party or dinner to meet the
groom's family.
PARENTS OF THE GROOM
The groom's parents should host a
rehearsal dinner prior to the wedding.
They may also choose to contribute
to the wedding if they desire.
In most cases, the groom's parents
have limited responsibilities, but can
be involved as much as the wedding
couple would like.
Traditionally, the groom's mother
confers with the bride's mother on
what colour gown she is wearing, so
as not to go with the same shade. The
groom's parents may walk down the
aisle in advance of the rest of the
wedding processional and take their
seats.
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Many couples thinking of mar-
riage may have previously taken a
trip down the aisle. Second and third
weddings are more common these
days than ever before.
According to
gettingremarried.com, nearly 50 per
cent of all marriages in 2003 were
second weddings for at least one
partner - if not both. Therefore, many
wonder what is proper wedding eti-
quette for an encore marriage.
Actually, no rules are set in stone.
It is up to the couple to plan a 'cere-
mony and reception that fits their
needs and comfort levels. While
some couples choose to elope or
have a very intimate affair, others
treat themselves to an elaborate
affair, even inviting their children to
participate in the ceremony.
Here are some tips to guide you if
you are having difficulty deciding on
the wedding that is right for you:
• When it comes to the ceremony,
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