The Citizen, 2006-02-09, Page 33SEAFORTH & DISTRICT
COMMUNITY CENTRES
Seaforth & District Community Centres is an excellent location
to hold your wedding reception. Our modern air-conditioned
facility with fully-equipped kitchen is ready to serve up to 480
people. Round tables are now available for your use. Book now
for your upcoming wedding. Call Dale Lamont, Tadd Smith or
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BRUSSELS, MORRIS & GREY
COMMUNITY CENTRE
Brussels, Morris and Grey Community Centre offers an air con-
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licensed for your convenience. Our kitchen has a dishwasher
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rental. We also offer a discount on your wedding rental if you
also book your Buck and Doe with us.
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We have a full-service kitchen.
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By Bonnie Gropp
Citizen editor
How do you keep the honeymoon
from ending?
Almost half of first marriages end
in divorce. In many of these cases
the problem! occurred because the
couple is not completely prepared
for married life. Generally more
time was spent in preparing for the
wedding than for the marriage.
Vicky Morrison, life mentor and
celebrant is the owner of Grassroots
Retreat Centre outside Lucknow.
She has studied in ceremonies and
rituals, psychotherapy, spiritual
direction and wholistic wellness and
personal care. In 2004 Morrison was
appointed by the municipality in
which she lives as a marriage com-
missioner.
Morrison who has worked as a
hairstylist for 25 years said the idea
for Grassroots and her own contin-
ued education and enlightenment
came about through a desire to share
her life. "This has been my dream, a
place where people could come and
be themselves. We all know our pur-
pose, our meaning, but sometimes
we're just sleeping. We need a place
to help us peel off the layers."
Unlike many clergy who insist
couples receive counselling before
marriage, Morrison will marry peo-
ple who opt to forego a ."couples
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By Heather Crawford
Citizen staff
Money matters tend to be the
number one reason for arguments
for many married couples.
That is why it is important to dis-
cuss each other's financial situations
and goals before walking down the
aisle. Knowing your partner's spend-
coaching program". However, she
does believe all could benefit from
it.
"Sometimes in the midst of the
hectic energy around a marriage,
people get bogged down in the
preparations, the cermony. I do real-
ly encourage them to counselling, so
they can come together in different
aspects of married life, such as
finances, spirituality, things that they
haven't really thought about, I just
want them to be on track."
Morrison said that during the time
up to the wedding, the honeymoon
stage, a couple may not be all that
connected. Infatuation, passion and
romance are at the forefront. "They
should find the energy that's more
their's than that of the environment
around them."
Marriage, said Morrison is a com-
mitment of a couple's love. But it
can also put pressure on a relation-
ship that wasn't there before.
"With the licence it also becomes
a commitment to community and
friends. You are speaking out loud
that my commitment is to this per-
son. There is something about that
ceremony that puts out to the world
that you're serious about this, which
can change things."
One of the biggest surprises for
many newlyweds is discovering the
differences between each other.
Should a couple opt for relation-
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ship counselling, Morrison first has
them fill out a questionaire. "It looks
at where the individual strengths
might lie and where those strengths
are empowering."
Morrison said that in a sense, peo-
ple choose a partner who is their
opposite because of those strengths.
In reaction to those differences,
however, it is important not to try to
change one's partner but to live and
grow with them.
"Counselling brings more an
awareness that if a couple respects
each other for their uniqueness the
relationship will be stronger."
-Another phase in a relationship
can arrive with talk of children or
with children. "This is when you
truly realize that each of you has
your own identity. Also, your atten-
tion is spread more to the larger fam-
ily."
With the arrival of children, it also
becomes difficult to keep the spark
alive. "Find the space to balance
everything with your partner."
If the many phases of a married
life are met and survived, a couple
will arrive att the new honeymoon
stage, when the children have moved
out, along with the earlier stresses
"You've gone through the transitions
that allowed all the feelings. It's a
time now of innocence and of being
a couple."
Regardless of which stage of mar-
riage, however, one thing is always
antamount to its success
`Communication is the biggest key.'
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dle a financial crisis beforehand
could prevent more troubles clown
the road.
Lawrence Beane, a financial advi-
sor in Clinton said the most impor-
tant thing for marrying couples to do
is keep the lines of communication
open.
Continued on page 9
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