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For Teens, By Teens
Little green men
Do you know what love is?
BY ERIN ROULSTON
Okay, here's a teenager's
dilemma for you: what is love?
All the time I'm reading in
Seventeen and YM magazine about
love: how to tell if he really loves
you or if he just wants sex, how to
know if the two of you are destined
to spend your lives together, when
to say the L-word (and when to
shut up); these magazines have tons
of articles.
Unfortunately, most of it is
complete bull.
Now, Mr. Webster defines love
as: "to be delighted with, to admire
passionately," which, to me, doesn't
quite cut it.
Here's the question: is the love
between a mother and her daughter
the same love as between a guy and
a girl? What does sexual desire
have to do with any of it? Is love
forever? And, most importantly,
how do you know if you are in
love?
Well, the first one seems easy:
no. I love my mother in a very
unique way. I depend on her, and
always have, she is my teacher and
my mentor and I adore her. The
love between a man and a woman
(or whatever the case may be) is a
mutual respect and adoration, I
think. It's an appreciation for every
single aspect of a person's being,
including all their faults.
I also wonder: what part of love
is lust? Can a man and a woman
love each other without lust? How
can you tell the difference between
love and lust?
I think both aspects are very
important. I don't know how well a
relationship would go if the couple
had no sexual desire for each other.
Maybe quite well, maybe very
poorly.
Telling the difference between
love and lust, I think, takes time. If
time goes by and you are finding
more and more things about your
girlfriend or boyfriend that annoy
the heck out of you, maybe, just
maybe, your relationship is based
on lust. Time reveals all character
incompatabilities.
Is love forever? This is a very
difficult one. I've always liked to
believe that it is. I like to think that
if you love a person once, you will
always love them or who they
were, even if you never speak
again. And, if after the relationship
is over you look back and honestly
say you hate them, then it never
was love.
But that doesn't really answer the
question. Is love forever? If I fall in
love now, will I still love him 80
years from now, despite any
temptations that may arise?
With the growing number of
divorces each year, the answer to
that becomes more evident. I'm
sure most of those divorced couples
would tell you, yes, we fell out of
love.
Which makes me so sad. If I was
in love, if I was that close to a
person, I wouldn't ever want to lose
them. I would want it to be forever.
And how about that true love that
they always talk about in the fairy
tales. "Death cannot stop true
love." It's that love, they say, which
destines people to be together
lifetime after lifetime.
Is there such a thing? I don't
know.
And now, the most important of
the questions: How do you know if
you are in love?
Well, you tell me.
FEATURE
Teen images, unfair role models
BY MARK NONKES
The green men from outer space
come to earth and try to invade us.
Hollywood has tapped into the
extra terrestrial theme and is
making many movies dealing with
the aliens.
Hollywood has always toyed
with the idea of aliens coming to
earth like in ET, the friendly alien.
But since last year's biggest hit,
Independence Day, Hollywood has
gotten alien fever. Following
Independence Day there arose a
vast number of the green man
theme movies. It started with Mars
Attacks, last December, a spoof
about sophisticated life on Mars,
that, (guess what?) attacks Earth.
The movie starred Jack Nicholson
and Glenn Close and many other
big name actors made cameos.
During the winter they rested the
idea until this summer. Two
movies hit the big screen raking in
the money. The first being Men In
Black. Will Smith starred with
Tommy Lee Jones; Smith again in
another alien movie, only this time
it was more of a comedy than an
action film. The movie tells a story
about aliens already living among
us, Tommy and Will two
extraterrestrial cops monitoring the
little green men. It proved to be one
of the summer's biggest hits.
The other movie, Contact stars
Jodie Foster. This movie is a
drama. We don't see any of the
guys from outer space but it tells
the story of signs from the
"extraterrestrial and their superior
intelligence. This movie is one of
the summer's best. Foster does a
superb job as the astronomer
studying our cosmic neighbours. A
must-see for anyone who enjoys
viewing movies of this nature.
The rage continues this fall,
where a number of movies deal
with the out-of-this-world subject.
Starring in some of these films are:
Winonna Ryder, Ethan Hawke and
Uma Thurman.
It seems the green men are
making their money for
Hollywood. It should be interesting
to see how long this craving for the
extraterrestrial will last.
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BY ASHLEY GROPP
When you read a teen magazine,
how do their models make you
feel? This was the question I have
asked many teenage girls.
Over half those interviewed
expressed feelings of jealousy,
frustration, or depression. As "Lee"
age 15 put it, "You look at them
and it's bad enough that they are
absolutely gorgeous, but they have
the perfect bodies, too! Small
thighs, long legs..."
"It's not fair! How are the rest of
us supposed to compete with that?"
wonders Sara, also 15.
"Erin", who is 17, says she just
wants to crawl into a corner and
cry" when she sees those
magazines because "If that is what
is beautiful, then I could never even
begin to be beautiful."
"I’m always on fad diets. My
doctor says I'm at a good weight,
but she doesn't have to live with
(someone skinny) for a best
friend," announces Amanda, 14.
Jane, 17, asks, "If we are all
beautiful like the magazines try to
tell us, then why do they only
feature one look for their models?"
On the other side of things, Lisa,
who is 16, says that the magazines’
models aren't the problem. "The
problem is that too many girls
believe that is how we are supposed
to look, but most of those girls are
incapable of ever having that
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Becky, age 14, replied simply, "If
those magazines make you feel
bad, stop reading them. By buying
magazines that make you feel fat,
you're only telling companies that
since they are selling, they must be
right."
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