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WEDNESDAY, MAY 24, 1972
Serving Brussels and the surrounding community
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It's clean-up time in Brussels
This is the time of year when
the conscientious householder gives
thought to tidying up his house and
his garden ready for the growth of
another season.
Brussels saw mill ,
Sugar and Spice
by Bill Smiley
This natural tendancy towards
orderliness in some, but unfortun-
ately not all, of us has been en-
couraged this year by the Brussels
Council and merchants by drawing
attention to the need of painting-
up and cleaning-up the community.
Such a campaign is particularly
appropriate this year as the village
prepares to welcome Centennial Cele-
bration visitors.
It is remarkable how an other-
wise favorable impression of a
community can be spoiled by unsight-
ly goods and dilapidated buildings.
It is true there may be good
reasons for such a condition to
exist. But a visitor to town can-
not be expected to know this. All
the visitor can do is form his
impression of the community as a
whole. Unfortunately, the good
things he has seen - the streets,
the parks, the public buildings are
weighed against the unsightly
things he has seen. The net result
may be unfavorable and too often
this is the case. Thus the work,
the planning and care of the many
is spoiled by the don't-care
attitude of a few.
Well, you can stop holding your breath.
The biggest thing since the building of the
pyramids, in the opinion of some people
is accomplished. Our daughter is married.
And off our hands after 21gruelling years.
It says here.
I hope there's some ancient saying like:
"Stormy wedding day, sunny marriage."
Not that there was anything stormy
about the wedding itself. It was positively
seraphic, and some people were smiling
with sheer delight for the first time in
years.
But the weather was something else.
The day before was sunny and still. The
day after was the same. The wedding
day was the worst rotten day of a long,
rotten spring. Driving rain and bone-
chilling wind.
I know. I was there. Out in it, doing
all the last minute chores: ice cubes,
cream for the coffee, smokes, mix, dry-
cleaners, etc. I have neither a hat nor a
raincoat and I couldn't find my wife's
umbrella, so I was soaked to the skin
from the navel both ways.
However, I mustn't complain, even
though I have my first bad cold for
three years. It was KIM'S DAY, as
everyone kept telling me for about a
month, and what matter if her dear
old Dad has double pneumonia.
Somehow, as it so often happens,
everything fell into place. Her old lady
talked her way out of the hospital, then
went three solid days and nights without
one wink of sleep. She was so nervous
and exhausted she was positive she'd
have to take to her bed before the
ceremony. But from that subterranean
depth which most of us don't possess,
she not only made it, but came through
with flying colours.
The rug-cleaning man had been here
and everything was spotless. This was
bad, because everybody would have muddy
feet. But it was good, because every-
body wiped their feet or took off their
boots.
A gang of boys had arrived the day
before to rake up the lawn. This was
good. But it was bad because everybody
was too wet to notice.
First arrival was Shelby, an itiner-
ant young actor, one of the men Kim
had shared her apartment with all year.
No, he was not the bridegroom. This
was bad, because Kim was still talking
and laughing with him, in jeans and T-
shirt, with one hour to go before the
ceremony. But this was good, because
Shelby is a great mixer, and later on,
when we ran out of mix, he went out
and got some.
Next guests were 2 drenched urchins
who had hitch-hiked through the torrent
some 65 miles. Soaked right through. I
didn't know what to do with them. Son
Hugh, all the way from Montreal for the
day, provided a solution that no middle-
aged square would have thought of. He
took them downstairs, had them take off
their jeans and threw them, (the jeans,
not the kids), in the dryer.
Then both front and back doorbells
started to ring like a five-alarm fire,
and yours truly, the only one dressed,
sprinted back and forth, accepting gift-
wrapped parcels from little boys and
delivery men, hanging up dripping coats,
and trying to introduce perfect strangers
to each other. Chaos.
But chaos often works better than
logistics. This was to be a Baha'i cere-
mony. The bride and groom, with their
typical acumen, had not even decided
on the order of the ceremony, and were -
well, not squabbling, but arguing - until
the moment of truth.
Kim hissed at me, "Dad, you say
our prayer after Marlene. That's all
you have to remember." And that's
about all I did remember.
There is an old cliche: "The bride
was beautiful in a . . . " well, I'm here
to tell you that the bride was beautiful,
in a long, svelte, borrowed dress that
looked as though she had stepped out of
a Botticelli painting, long auburn hair,
huge brown eyes and infinite youth. The
groom looked pretty good, too, but his
father can write his own column about
that.
Most weddings are like funerals. This
wasn't. There were prayers, short.Mine,
perhaps subconsciously, was a General
Thanksgiving from the Book of Common .
Prayer. Chopin's mazurkas rippled
quietly in, the background. Brother Hugh
sang a launting song in French and
English.
Then came the most dramatic and
poignant part of the ceremony. Tapers
were lighted, without one ember drop-
ping on the rug. A single candle was
lit from them. The bride and groom
faced each other, eye to eye, and,made
their personal oaths (not repeating some-
thing after a minister). They had kept
secrdt from each other what they were
going to say.
Shelby kissed the rings, put them on
the appropriate fingers. The couple
kissed. Four beautiful nieces each brought
one white rose to the bride. And it was
over.
I think it was simple, spiritual and
joyous. If I ever get married again,
God forbid, I'm going to have a Ba.ha'i
ceremony.
I think my daughter said goodbye. I
remember a kiss on the cheek, a deft
hand extracting from my pocket the
promised cheque, and my son-in-law going
down to the basement to pick up the double
sleeping-bag I'd bought in case nobody
else did.
Now, how about some grandchildren.