The Brussels Post, 1958-05-07, Page 2Modern
Etiquette
by Roberta Lee
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I.ro correspondence
In ,good taste?
A, Yes; they .are very poplam
and in good: taste for the short,
Informal kind of note, It is he,
coming more and more custom,
ery Ter men and women to use
these cards. .liowever, they
should be used for strictly in
formal correspondence.
Q. Should all the women be
served first at the dining table,
where men' and women are
seated alternately?
A, This would be a foolish
waste of time. The guests should.
be served in regular sequence,
whether man or woman.
Q. If someone begins a jolce,
yog leave already heard, should
you step him?
A. If you are a member of a
group, it would be discourteous
to others who may riot have
previously heard the story. If,,
however, you are the sole lie-
tener, it is quite all right to say
yoti have already heard the joke.
Q. De. you think it necessary
• to have the approved ."salad
forks," or do the medium-sized
regular forks serve the same.
purpose?
A. One may provide any shape
or size of fork one wishes. The
medium-sized is quite in goof!.
taste.
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ISSUE 18 - 1958
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1NGERFARM
Gv.ien,ctol,in.e. P. Cletzke
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SALLY'S SALLIES
1_ ANNE .41RST
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NEW NOTE IN CHIVALRY-Sir Walter Raleigh had his cape and
Warren Prince, a 17-year-old gentleman, has his tuba, which
also proves to be very handy in the rain. Shirley Sandusky, 14,
the champion baton twirler, found the tuba a pretty good
umbrella after a band competition.
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''ever since l was a little girl "
have dreamed of a home and
.tildrett,7-And now that I am in.
love I find I Abell have to wait
Another whole: year!" A eon,
fused young woman wonders.
how she, can live through such
An eternity. "The man has ap,
plied for his divorce, but it
won't be granted until. then. An,
other, a more reoeat friend., fell
in love almost at once and begs
Me to marry him. I admire and
respect him, and he's lots of
fun, but that is
:She asks me what to do.
"For two years I've loved the
first men," she continues. "He
never cared for his wife, and
since the first year lie has beg-
ged her for a divorce, I cannot
question his devotion. We have
observed all the amenities, of
course, but I don't see how I
can. be patient for so long!.
"My parents are very much
opposed to a divorce, and if I
wait for the one I love there
is bound to be a struggle..
"I am rather Sure I can make
the ,other man happy. My fam-
ily like him, too. Do you think
if I marry him I can forget my
love?"
IMPATIENT YOUTH,
.* If • this girl marries the man
* she is not in loye with, she
* will not be able to forget the
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* one who has won her heart,
* Year after year .she will be
* comparing, her husband with
* him, and all her pretenses of
* love will be futile. One day
*he will sense the truth, and it
* could destroy their marriage.
* Besides, he is too fine a per-
* son to have to take eecend-
* beWstaiting a year need not be
* the tragedy she pictures it.
* The worst is over; the man's
* freedom is assured, and her
* dreams are to be realized.
* How can she even think of
* marrying anyone else? Her
* family's objections can be met
* when they are made. Once her
* parents are convinced her
* happiness is bound up in this
* marriage, it is not likely they
* will oppose it.
• Love is always worth wait-
* ing for, and sometimes it is
.0 all the sweeter for delay. * *
PARENTS WORRY HER
"Dear Anne 'Hirst: I am 15,
and my parents worry me. They
never seem to be affectionate' to
each other; I've never seen them
kiss except when father comes
home. This seems strange to me,
though of course they get along
all right. Does it mean they
don't love each other?
"I am not allowed to date yet.
They tell me to stick to my
studies; this is hard, when all
my girl friends go with boys.
My mother has never talked
about sex to me, and all I know
is what I read.
"It is good to tell somebody
about these things. How can I
understand my ,family better?
MARY"
Fathers and mothers do not
have to prove their love by
outward signs in the presence
of their children. They show
it in their glances, their
voices, and in other ways a
girl your age would not recog-
nize. Above all, they prove it
by getting along pleasantly,
treating each other kindly,
and keeping the family at-
mosphere serene for their chil-
dren.
As to dating, try not to be
impatient. Your parents know
you better than you know
yourself, and when you are
ready to have boy friends
they will help you to be pop-
ular. Meantime, perhaps they
will allow you to entertain
girls and boys together, Ask
them.
Many mothers are shy
about discussing sex with
their children. Why don't you
talk with your family doctor?
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If a girl is in love with
one man she should know
how futile it is to seek her
happiness with another. These
situations and other confus-
ing issues require the advice
of a sympathetic and experi-
enced counsellor. Write your
problem to Anne Hirst, Box 1,
123 Eighteenth St., New To-
ronto, Ont.
"Her voice has the range of an
organ, but fewer stops."
Last week the news highlights
- that is, locally - concerned
the Women's Institute. One day
there was a pot-luck luncheon
at the Community Hall near
here sponsored by a local branch.
Each member was allowed to
bring two guests. It was a won-
derful lunch-savoury scalloped
dishes of this and that brought
in piping hot, along with cold
meat, chicken and so on. And
of course there were plenty of
pies, tarts, trifle and a birthday
cake - all guaranteed to add
inches to one's waist-line. If we
had such luncheons too often we
might all be glad to take to
"chemise" fashions. Of course it
was all very friendly and in-
formal. After lunch we had as
guest speaker Mrs. E. L. Deigh-
ton, Hydro Economist, who
showed us "Haw To Live Better
Electrically". First she gave us
a very interesting and informa-
tive talk and then drove home
her points by means of a movie,
in colours, illustrating what can
be done electrically to improve
working and living conditions in
an older type home. How could
any woman fail to be interested
in such a topic? But just think
how impossible all the sugges-
tions would have been years ago
when the W.I. was in its in-
fancy! At that time housewives
were more interested in easy
ways to clean lamp chimineys
or home remedies to ease croup
or bronchitis when roads were
drifted so badly it was doubtful
if a doctor could get through.
Yes, times have c er tainl y
changed. And yet, it is rather
nice occasionally to go back to
some of the old-fashioned occu-
pations. Far instance there was
that W.A. quilting, bee I went to
just recently. I really enjoyed
the work, taking me back to the
time years ago when quilting
used to be a fascinating hobby
for many women. And how they
ever did such fine work by the
light of coal-oil lamps never
know.
Nowadays quilting is done un-
der good lights and maybe with
a television program going on
at the same time, disrupting the
friendly gossip usually associated
with a quilting bee. But dear
rife, We have to keep up with
the times.
The next VV,1, diversion took
place in our old Ginger Farm
district and was the occasion of
the' 25th Anniversary. We had
a turkey banquet - another
branch in the sante district doing
the catering for us. It was a
family affair - just for mem-
bers; their husbands arid chil-
dren. Of course We enjoyed be-
ing back 'ailiong our old neigh-
bours and associates, especially
as eve noticed how well and
tented those in our own age group
seemed to be. It was the middle-
aged group who appeared to be
showing signs of stress, Which
is understandable. They are the
Ones Who now have to cope with
problems incidental to raising
teen-age children, to say nothing
of the high cost of living and
its reaction on the family as a
whole. Yes, it was an evening
out that we wouldn't have miss-
ed for anything. In fact we were
so anxious to be among those
present that we turned up for
the banquet a day ahead of time!
I was so sure I had been. told
it was on a Thursday. After we
had started on our way I began
to have an uneasy feeling and
said to Partner - "I wonder if
it is tonight - usually they have
these, things on a Friday." Sure
enough it was to be on Friday
so we had two trips but only
one banquet! It didn't matter
anyway. Once we arrive in the
neighbourhood of Ginger Farm
there are always friends to visit.
Friday night it was wet and
snowy, miserable driving, but
we arrived home in time for
Partner to see the last ten min-
utes of the boxing bout oh TV.
Before we left we noticed quite
a few old-timers heading home
about 9,30 so I imagine Partner
was not the only one wanting of
see the fight.
Yesterday we had all the fami-
ly here and Partner and I were
the only ones not suffering from
a cough or cold. We love having
all our grandsons together at
one time. It is at such a time
we are glad we didn't settle
for a smaller house. Plenty of
room here for children to play
and the dining-area accommo-
dates eight or ten very nicely.
Lili, a little neighbour-girl came
over too - in fact she is here
almost every day, a quiet, well-
behaved girl whose birthplace
was somewhere in Yugoslavia.
Before we had supper I went
with Bob and Joy to loek at a
house they are thinking of buy-
ing in the Milton district. Part-
ner stayed home to await the
rest 'of the family, The house
Bob is thinking of buying is
quite handy to his work and
within sight of "the Mountain"
- the same Mountain that used
to give me sd much pleasure
when we were on the farm. If
they do buy this.house we shall
be able to take a short cut acruss
country and thus by-pass the
town - an advantage in these
days of congested travelling
through narrow streets. But Mil-
ton is growing fast, It is soon
to be the site of a twomiilliert
dollar building - a new home
for the Deaf and Duittb..
A lovely pot of hyacinths was
left on out doorstep while we
were away - arid We have not
yet discovered the donor, Part-
ner was downstairs and didn't
hear the hell ring.
MAWS Weetiati, In Springfield,
Ohio; Marjorie June Flax drew
many admiring Male glances in
a packed courtroom When she
drepped assault -And-battery
charges against her husbartd,
said: "It Wail my faint; if I'd
kept my big, mouth shut, it
wouldn't have happened."
Elegance AO
Economy!
Fee some reason the way
world wags, I had not gathered
my brows into an overcast and
thought much about the gar-
ment workers. Oh' I knew 'there
was such a craft, that it was a.
big group, and that historically
it had significance and PgrpOsQ.
But these labor movements are,
so far .afield from quiet farm
living back here in the country,
and when the garment workers
decided to strike recently I de,
voted a few moments to sympa-
thetic thoughts, and found I was
'really thinking about Mr. Gilli-
land - a character of such
ample talents that he, alone, was
able to drive the whole garment^
workers' cause from my mind.
I think this is significant, al-
though perhaps only to me. M.
Gilliland used to live up in our
Maine woods above Dryden, and
operated a small set of lakeside
vacation cabins. As far as I ever
knew he was an old bath, .but
he had so many abilities and in-
terests in so many 'different
directions that I never pondered
that particular point until now.
He rented canoes and did whitt-
ling, and opinionated freely, and
altogether led a reposeful life
suited to his make-up.
He was also the best-dressed.
guide in the Maine woods, for
be was always impeccably attir-
ed in a trim suit of utmost style.
This is not common .among those
of us who feel we must dress the
part to impress the rusticating.
summer people. We generally
affect faded flannel shirts sag-
ging and experienced trousers;
and ancient hats that have grown
up. with the country.
But Mr, Gilliland was the ex-
ception; when he went out to
feed his dog he might just as
well have been going.to a bank
presidents' convention on Fifth
Avenue.
He was a Nova Scotian, by
birth, had been to sea, and long
years of doing things had given
-his nimble hands a broad know-
how. He carpentered straight
work sturdily, but could sit by
the lamp at night and do dainty
scrimshaw. Whatever he did was
done beautifully, with a fine
sense of art - and he applied
the•same, touch to dinner parties
he staged with clean linen and
candlelight that 'he applied to
piling saw logs on a • brow.
Mr. Gilliland was not a:mem-
ber. of a, garment workers' local,
for there was none in his vicini-
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MAN OFiDESTINY?_The shadow
of Gen. Charles DeGaulle,
France's symbol of resistance,
in World War II, looms large
over the current crisis in French
politics. As ominous whispers
circulate through France that
the fall of the Fourth Republic
Is near at hand, some observ-
ers believe DeGaulle is ready
to break his three-year silence
and take a hand in government
affairs.
ty. He would not have belonged
it there had been, for lie didn't
believe ,in gregarious security
His philosophies were individu-
alistic and he practiced rather
than preached. He seldom de
fended laid own, thoughts, for
defense admitted frailty.
Yet Mr. Gilliland was one of
the finest garment workers ever
to ply a needle, and throughout
his mature life he made every
stitch lie wore. He kept himself
eupplied with handsome clothes,
and would milk his cows in a.
decorous double-breaster that
Brooks would hang in a front
windoW and fit only to Old and
trusted customers.
The most interesting thing
about his suits was the material.
Near him was a small woolen
mill that had contracts for up-
holstery cloth, and operated
mostly on automobile seat covers
for General Motors and similar
manufacturers, This was before
the age of plastics and synthe-
tice, and you may remember the
lavish plus fabrics that were so
much admired. No mill in the
world made so fine a seat cover
as this one, and Mr. Gilliland
would wander in by times and
pick up remnants. Sometimes he
paid a little, mostly they gave
him what he could use.
Thus he would cut and stitch,
and presently come forth with a
new suit that had the same lux-
urious quality as the back seat
of a Cadillac, Sometimes he
would be somber and sedate:
but again he might be all roses
and fleurs-de-lis and red dots.
It depended on what the mill
was making, for his sartorial ele-
gance was keyed to the local
economy.
But nobody ever turned a
neater cuff or made a more de-
licate buttonhole. I recall one
vest he had made from the green
plush peculiar to Pullman cars,
and with a heavy gold watch
chain across his bow he pre-
sented a spectacle no witness
would ever forget.
He told me once that his pre-
sent suit was from the 1937
Hudson de luxe, and it cost him
$1.37, although he had tailored
it after a style Rogers-Peet had
advertised at $450. It was not
the heavy English looming they
specified, but he said it would
outwear the other by ten years
in the sawmill. He had turned
out 375,000 feet of boards with
it already, and felt it had a good
many more board feet in it yet.
He pointed out that its style and
appearance was still good enough
to wear to church, although
lately he had been attending
services in a blue Ford sedan
single-breasted frock with a day-
bed off-gray slack.
Mr: Gilliland felt the great
public reliance on boughten gar-
ments was a needless drain on
the family purse. He deplored
ladies' circles which did fancy
work when they might better be
making pants for their husbands.
He knew how much woolen mill
scrap was being discarded, re-
woven, or sold to scavengers. He
said his whole town could be
clothed for $200 a year if other
people would do as he did. He
felt no sympathy for anybody
who objected to looking like an
automobile seat, declaring that
was frivolous reasoning and un-
worthy of thinking people. He
was always wadm and comfort-
able, and no king ever had a
finer tailor.
Well, when I read about the
garment workers' strike, I found
I had very quickly called Mr.
Galliland to mind, and wonder-
ed what he would say at the
news. The garment workers
would be out a long, long time
before they brought Mr. Gilli-
land to terms - By John Gould.
in The ChriStian Science Moni-
tor,
Dead Letters. In Caldwell,
Kans., six new refuse containers
were repainted to read "Trash"
instead of "Litter" after citizens
insisted, on posting mail In them.
KULDIP'S COMEBACK-eAfter making a big hit on the Groucho
Marx show "You Bet Your Life' in 1956, handset-de Indian singer
kuldip Singh fell viclirri to a series of Hollywood ups and downs.
calculated to grdy his thick, Mack hair. But now he thinks, his
troubles are over 66 he stars Ort Shirley Teretples "Storybook''"
series, Here heir dWs hie Sward to protect Princess Sue England
in "Wild of 'Orden Ginger"'.
aRiridg ACROSS CIE StA—A girt With a bridge all her own is bine-year-old Marisa leonzio, r f
Who made headlines recently when she Wrote a plea for a spah Over d Strewn elate fa- her
home hear Nibbiaia, Italy. She Wanted the bridge because the waters of the stream rise so
high the was often unable to Wade across and had to Make a fOur.rnile detour fa get to
school. Marisa got her bridge to school a 'ak nd a one to America,.When" Columbia. Pictures,
who paid for her bridge in Italy, invited her td a WeishingtOn premiere of its filth, The
Bridge on the River cis a guest of the A merican Field Service. She holds a Model of
the bridge rn the film ageing the locickgroUrid, appropriately enough, of New York's QUeetiV.
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