The Brussels Post, 1957-07-31, Page 27•1ErAliff
4570
SIZES
4A4a.: 1 0-1 8
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Send order to ANNE ADAMS,
Pox 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New
Toronto, Ont.
INSOMNIA --, WHAT'S THAT .1 lei the problem' to relax when
yon re ri the late twos or early threes: Holly Stafford makes
a sleeping bag of a suitecied while Waiting fee her plane he
isliescirt from Idlewild Airport..
ONE OF LUCKY TEN—Mrs. liana Fainschtein, 77, one of the 10
persons who has been given a permit to leave Russia in the
past 10 years, is reunited with her son, Joseph, 55, 'after a
37-year separation. It took fl years and 500 pieces of corres-
pondence were exchanged between Los Angeles and Soviet
authorities, Through an interpreter she said, "Now I want for
nothing, I feel around me the love a mother needs, I ask no
more."
ewzn.d.ottme P. Ctaxike
RETURN FROM' EUROPE — Elizabeth Taylor and her buslacinil
Mike toad hold hands as they arrive' in New York from
Europe aboard the liner Liberte, They laughed when reportsi
suggested their five-month marriage. Miss 'Coyle)", is expecting
a baby babber.
"Dear Anne Hirst: Over a
Aar ago when I was a widow
with two small children, I mar-
ried a, man who I thought was
meant for me, Now we have a
yeting baby and I'm still in love,
but I am worried sick beeause
I don't see how I can keep on
this way. My husband has
changed into a jealous, vindic-
tive character; and he is so mean
to us all %that I fear the worst
will happen, .
"When we were dating he was
always pleasant to my family
and my friends, but since we
married he says they are all `no
good.' I am not allowed to visit
rny mother nor his, nor see my
friends at all, I cannot go to
card parties or other little af-
fairs, for he declares, 'You don't
need other people, you have me!'
And what use is he? He never
takes me anywhere, he won't
pay a baby-sitter, and I miss my
family so much that some days
have to restrain yself physi-
cally from going to see them.
"Our baby does not interest
him except to show off; if he
cries his father loses his temper.
To my own children (whom he
promised to cherish) he is impa-
tient and mean; he hollers and
Often slaps them. I never had
any trouble with them before,
but now they cringe before him
and fly to me, which makes him
furious.
"I admit he is a good provider,
but material things aren't all
there is in life; we all must have
love and understanding, and
these he withholds, He nags me
all the time; I can't do anything
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to please him, and lusieven ealls
lea lazy! With two lively ;I:ouegs
titers and a baby I can't snap
into it every time he calls. I
don't enjuy anything any more,
:en o ,sick and tired of house-
eork, and heaven help me, tired
of my children — which isn't
fair because they are se good
and sweet,
"I think I am the loneliest
wife in the world, I don't know
where to turn. I still love my
husband, but he is destroying
that love, , . How can I restore
peace between us and between
him and the children? I don't
want my marriage to fail, but
I can't go on like this.
DISCOURAGED"
I wish I could have printed
* all your letter... , It does seem
* that you married a man that
* you did not know. Before
* that day he was loving and
* thoughtful, kind to you and
* your children, How could you
* foresee that his kindness would,
* not last? Perhaps, it is jeal-
* ousy alone that causes his
4' selfish prohibitions, and he
* feels he must put you in the
* wrong to justify himself, Your
* life now has become unbear-
* able, and physically and spir-
* itually you are at the end of
* your endurance.. Since he is
* growing more intolerant, you
* had better announce your ul-
* timatum.
* If your husband wants to
*keep your love, he must be
* kind and fair to you all. He
* has separated you from your
* family and your friends; these
* he must restore. He must re-
* alize you are overworked and,
* without the incentive of ap-
* predation -or affection, you
* cannot go on. If he will not
* (or cannot) accord you the
* respect, the freedom and the.
* faith you deserve, then he' is
* not the man he seemed to be,
* and you cannot keep on living
* with a stranger.
* You have tried valiantly to
live up (or down) to his auto-
* cratic demands, and you find
* it increasingly impossible. It
* is your husband who can save
* Your marriage, if he will.
* Otherwise, and for the chit-
* dren's sake too, you will have
* to take steps to end it. . . . I
* am sorry! *
'MOTHER FAILS HER
"Dear Anne Hirst: Instead of
having trouble with a mother-
in-law, it is my own mother who
has let me down. She never
liked my hhusband and once she
separated us, but I have vowed
that shall never happen again.
Now I see her for what she is.
"When my brother and sister
refused to have her live with
them and she had nowhere to
go, we took her in. She has been
terribly hard to live with, and.
I have lost all respect for her.
Now when I need her more than
ever, she has taken a stand, I am
expecting my third baby and
have no one to take care of the
others. My mother refuses to.
"My mother-in-law is dead,
but if she were here it would be'
wonderful. She was so good to
all her children and their fami-
lies. Whatever shall I do?
-"A THE END."
* It is true that the more
• cconsiderate one is of some
* people the more they take ad-
* vantage of it . . . I hope by
* now you have found some re-
* sponsible woman to take care
* of your children. If not, won't
* your sisters step in and take
* charge? * * e
When your 'life becomes im-
possible to bear, ask Anne Hirst's
opinion. She is neither an op-
portunist nor an egotist, and she
will sympathize with your situ-
ation and have some consolation
for the future. Write her at Box
1, 123 Eighteenth St., New To-
ronto, Ont.
A soap-box orator was warm-
ing up to his subject. 'Comrades,"
he cried, passionately, "make me
your leader and in all you do
I'll be behind you!"
Guidance Fo..
orriedLpVers.
In a little 'Weathered ;01r.pel
on thJ banks. of tlo Adige River,
in the ieestheast Italian town 'e(
leen•ea. tit es is n marble box
with the Flinplo. ineeripeent;
"Mail for Juliet." Every day,
letters -in many languages are
delivered there, and• collected
by kindly, grey-haired Ettore
Solimani, For hundreds of star-
crossed lovers, .Solimenes. heart,
felt replies are read es authen-
tic guidance from Juliet Capulet,
daughter of the powerful four-
teenth-century Verona family,.
and heroine of the world's most
farneue love story, •
When •Solimani became cus-
todian of. Juliet's tomb in 1931,,
he found it in ruins. Weeds chok.
ed the garden, and souvenir
hunters had, chipped 2 inches of
stone from the crypt, Solimani
repaired the damage.; cultivated
the garden, kept fresh flowers
inside the open tomb. When
young lovers came to the shrine,.
Solimani would tell them; "Make
your wish of love: If your love
is true, your wish will come
true," And he always spoke of
.Juliet as though she were alive.
The letters began arriving
about 1940, Solimani opened
them and was so touched that
he had to reply. He signed him-
self "Juliet's Secretary," and
paid the postage out of his own
pocket. From then on, mail ad-
dressed to "Juliet Capulet, Ver-
ona, Italy," or just "Juliet; Italy,"
began to pour in from all over
the world.
Solimani had no trouble with
the letters in French or Spanish,
but lovelorn messages from Eng-
lish, German, and Japanese cor-
respondents required the help of
Verona translators. As the flood
of letters ,mounted in recent
years, he was able to . answer
only those "Which. seemed to me
the most urgent." Some samples:
A Chicago typist, age 23,, con-
fesses .She• is in love with. her
boss (age 58), and writes: "Dear
Juliet—Does not love leap over
such matters as the years?" from
Rio :de Janeiro, "Dolores" pleads:
00000KLAHOMA! — One of
the nicest "oh's" in Oklahoma
is Rose -Mary Rabb, the state's
entry in the Miss Universe con-
test. She's beating the tomfom
for Oklahoma's 50th year of
statehood.
"For the love of God, Juliet,
help me make Abel love me with
his soul as well as his body."
Rapping Romeo: Solimani is
collecting the most touching ex-
amples, which he plans to pub-
lish in a volume that will be the
"true book on Juliet's life." In-
cidentally, the book will set
straight certain misconceptions,
spread by William Shapespeare
and others, concerning the char-
acter of Romeo, Solimani says:
Romeo was a good-for-nothing
drunkard . , I doubt he com-
mitted suicide . . . when he
found Juliet in a temporary
trance. He was killed in a moon-
light duel against Paris (Juliet's
family-chosen suitor)."
Thousands of people visit Jul-
iet's chapel each year, and not
all of them are lovers. Solimani's
wry impressions of tourists:
"Germans come becatise it's in
their Baedceker. Americans come
out of plain curiosity, British
come because Shakespeare im-
mortalized Juliet. The French
and other Latins come in true
worship of the world's most
beautiful love story."
This week, Ettore Solimani
reached retirement age '(66), ane
prepared to move from his cus-
todian's bungalow near the tomb
to a Verona apartment, tut there
was no question of retirement
for "Juliet's Secretary." Solim-
ani intends to visit the tomb
every day, to gather the malt
and answer the eternal prob-
lems of far-off lovers.
"Somebody has to take care
of them," he says. "Somebody
who loves an d understands
—Prom "Newsweek"
Two' boys spending a day in
the Country Caine Upon a Mari
fly-fishing. After watching him
east liis line several Hines, one
of them remarked to the ether:
"Oh, combo oti, Bill. He'll never
catch anything — he 'S trying to
lasso 'em:"
Partner is one of those lucky
men who has a very fair, very
slow beard. On the farm a shave
twice a week was his average—
and he looked quite respectable
at that. Here he conceded that
every other day might be neces-
sary, But' he reckoned without
our young neighbours. Yesterday,
little David, who lives next door,
came to visit us and almost at
once he said to Partner, "You
need a shave, don't you?" David
is a little fellow about five and
a half who lisps but loves to
use big words. One day he was
chattering away telling me a
big story and finished by saying,
"It is all very confuthing, isn't
it?" I quite agreed . . it was
very "confuthing". It will be
still more o-confuthing when our
grandson comes to stay and we
have two Davids to contend
with. Neighbour David and his
little friend Lily called one day
"selling" paper bank deposit
slips, one cent a piece. "If you
haven't got the money now you
can pay tomorrow!" said Lily.
How soon they learn, these
young ones.
Last night our Toronto family
was here so my sister could see
the boys before she left us.
Eddie was in great shape, very
proud of the fact that he can
now walk. In fact he is so taken
up with walking that, he almost
forgets to get into mischief. If
he does Big Brother is •generally
on hand to keep him from get-
ting hurt.
Normal, healthy children are
a great joy but I am afraid it
is only when we run across
handicapped or retarded child-
ren that we realize how thank-
ful we should be. Friends of
ours have an only child handi-
capped by being blind and dia-
betic. And now again I have
come across a similar case only
this time the child is obviously
retarded. 'On our first visit to
her home we found a girl in her
early twenties sitting in a rock-
ing chair hugging a big Teddy-
bear. And not far from Ginger
Farm there is another afflicted
child, a deaf-mute. However, we
have this much to be thankful
for—society at large is finally
waking up to the fact that these
children can often be helped to
live more normal lives if given
proper training—training that is
not always possible in the homes
of the parents. Neighbours, too,
can often help by offering to
take charge of such a child for
an hour or two, or erafrietimes a
day, so that parents may have
a little free time away from
their burden of responsibility.
It is little enough for a neigh-
bour to do' but it can mean a
great deal to the mother.
We had a lovely' rain again
last night. Lovely, that is, for
the lawns and gardens but riot
so lovely for haymaking farmers.
Last Thursday I was back to'
our old home district to an Ins
etittite meeting and saw plenty
of hay out in the fields, TWO
neighbours told me they weie
baling hay' last Sunday and, be-
Cause the weather had been so
"catchy" they did not feel the
least bit guilty, But, oh My, how
times have ehangedi A few
years ago field work on a Seth-
day was absolutely unthinkable,
It just Wasn't done. Mercy, What
would the neighbours think!
That, I believe, is the crux of
the whole situation .. . what the
neighbours think! The difference
between right and wrong is un-
changed; the difference lies in
our conception of what is right
and what is wrong,. and in- this
we are influenced by what other
people do or don't do. If the
neighbours bale on Sunday how
can it be right for them and
wrong for us? By this method
of arguing it is a simple matter
to ease our conscience. And far
be it from me to say who is
right or who is wrong. But I
well remember that many times
during our farming years Part-
ner would threaten to "finish
clearing that field tomorrow,
even though it is Sunday," But
,somehow he never did. The only
work we did on Sundays was
behind closed barn, doors —
straightening the mow or taking
a load off the wagon as it sat on
the barn floor. We never did
take the horses to the field—they
needed their rest. To any argu-
ment I put up against Partner
working I always got the ans-
wer—"In the War when I was
with the Raiway Troops in
Frpce we had to work on Sun-
days. The mule-teams had every
Sunday off but the men only one
in four." So, if a field must be
baled on a Sunday it rests be-
tween the farmer, the baler, and
the conscience of each. It applies
to other work too and boils down
to' the same thing—"everyone
does it so why shouldn't I?" But
yet most of us are conscious' of
a little nagging "voice within .
ourselves which says "that isn't
what you were taught as a
child". Possibly many of the
rising generation will never hear
that voice because they are' be-
ing brought up in a world that
believes in open Sundays. In
suburbia lawns are cut, gardens
weeded and watered and the
car washed. Again it is a case
of other people do why shoudn't
we? -I just hope that when we
pass through the Pearly Gates
we shall not be confounded by.
Peter asking us' sternly—"And
what did you do on Sundays'"
BANG-ON CURE !
When police of Blantyre, Ny-
asaland, arrested a native for
being in possession of a stick of
dynamite, he solemnly explained
that it was for his sore back.
There is nothing quite so good
as a stick of dynamite for curing
a sore back if you rub it in well,
the, native said.
SALCY'S SALLIES
"He tied bed leeks stepped in
front of e tat to to/6a going
under a ladder"
Tragic •,•Elitcing
To .L01/0 Story
For month; romance had
beamed cm French. paratrooper
Claude Deeurmont and his Bel-
gian sweetheart, Renee Messitm„
When visiting his family in the
village of Leers, Claude could
see liesne's. house across e 20-
yard wide road, although that
side of the street was across the
border in the Belgian village of
Ndehin, But Renee IVIessien'ss
family refused to permit a 'mar-
riage between the young lovers.
—and so last wedk came the
tragic ending.
Standing in front of his house
on the. French side, Claude. in.
a frenzy of frustration, shot and
critically wounded Renee, who
appeared at her window on the
Belgian side, 'Renee 'was taken.
to a hospital,, Claude to a French
The next steps in the ease
were enough to discourage the •
most optimistic promoter of
European unity:
French police claimed Desur-
mont as their prisoner, because
the shot Was fired from French
territory; Belgian police dis-
agreed, saying the victim was
in Belgium when the bullet
struck her head.
French detectives could ques-
tion Desurmont and his family,
and the Belgians could interro-
gate the 1Viessi.en family—but
neither could cross the street
to complete the investigation.
The French examining magis-
trates in Lille are unable to
complete their case until they
obtain a copy of the Belgian,
magistrates' findings. And to get
a copy, they must send official
requests to (1) the French Min-
istry of Justice; (2) the French
Ministry of the Interior, and (3)
the French Ministry of Foreign
Affairs (because of the inter-
national aspect of the problem).
The papers will travel an equally
complicated red-tape route in
Belgium and return through the
same channels to France.
Only then will full hearings
start, with accused and victim
sitting at either end of a table •
set midway in the street that
divided Leers and Nechin.
Modern
Etiquette . •
by Roberta Lee
Q. How can a' divorced woman
who is using her maiden name
include "Miss" in front of her
name when sending out her
daughter's wedding announce-
ments?
A. Really a divorced woman
with a daughter should not be
using "Miss" in front of her
name, as it leads to social corn-
plicatiens such as this one. How-
ever, in this case, she can put
"Mrs." in front of her maiden
name, and give her daughter's
full 'name in the announcement.
Q. Is it proper for a man din-
ing in a restaurant with his wife
to rise when another couple
stops at their table for a few
words?
A. The man must always rise
when a woman stops at his table.
'Q. Should watermelon be eat-
en with the spoon or fork?
A. Either is acceptable, al-
though I 'should think the fork
is "more practical.
Q. I issued invitations recent-
ly to an informal affeir in my
home, and now, because of ill-
ness in my family, find it im-
possible to give this affair. How
can I recaall the invitations?
A, Etiher by telephone or brief
implalning • the eircum,
stancos and informing your in-
tended gnesti that you will get
in totwh wills them at a later.
date,
Q. I5'hen wrIting •tt verseani
letter, is the date correctly put
at the end of the message, or at
tint top righthand corner?
A. iJsually,in he top right-
hand corner of a long letter, WI(
at • the end of a short note.
Q. If a .close friend of a •be,
reeved family attends the fue
neral, is it necessary for him t(
wear black clothes?
A. No. lie should .however„
wear subdued clothes, and avoid
any gay colours.
(1, My husband and I recoil)
attended a party given by ith
niece and tier lansband. She in.
troduced tie to her friends in
Mr. and Mrs, Donald Gravee,
Shouldn't she have introduced um
as • her aunt and allele?'
A. Definitely, yes.
Q. To whom should a wedding
gift be addressed?
A, Gifts sent before the 'wed-
ding are addressed to the bride
in her maiden name, Gifts sent
after the wedding are, of course,
addressed to the, couple,
For Baby
Zwit.lnegt.
Baby faces — and oh, the dar-
ling exxpressions these young
charmers display! Fun-to-do
embroidery as a crib-cover; or
use just 2 faces for pretty pic-
tures in anursery!
Pattern 832: Transfer of nine
baby heads, about 6x6Ve inches:,
directions for crib-cover, pic-
tures,
Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS,
(stamps cannot be accepted, use
postal note for safety) for this
pattern to Laura Wheeler, Box
1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Tor-
onto, Ont. Print plainly PAT-
TERN NUMBER, your NAME
and ADDRESS.
Two FREE' Patterns as a gift
to our readers — printed right
in our NEW Laura Wheeler
Needlecraft Book for 1957! Doz-
ens of other new designs you'll
want to order — easy, fascinat-
ing handwork for yourself, your
home. Be sure to send 25 tenth:
for your copy of this book no*
don't miss it!
ISSUE 31 — 1957