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The Brussels Post, 1955-01-05, Page 6"Dear AnDe Hirst. What Can I 40• With a TriOthenirnlaw who- tries to ruzr the whole family? She loves her grandchildren, but must have her Own way despite their ordered routine, She delib, erately wakes my baby up when it is obvious she wants to sleep. She tells me what to feed her .(thought she is under our doe- tor's guidance) and dictates what she must wear. "She complained lately to my husband that I was stingy with our baby, I let her have the baby for an afterneon — with the result that she had an accident. "She insists we spend every holiday with the whole family, regardless of what we have planned. If I want to enjoy the day quietly at home, she accuses me of trying to take her, son away! Yet when I am sick she comes over and helps out, even takes me to the doctor. "The situation is especially in- volved because my husband owns a business with his father and brothers. Their home is near- by, and he lunches there every day, , • . I don't know what to do about all this. Do you? MRS. T. R. * Your mother-in-law is the • true matriarch, loving, kind,. - possessive, domineering. She * considers herself the rightful * head of the family, entirely * competent (and chosen) to # run their private affairs. Hay- * ing raised a family herself, Easy! Use Scraps! Dom moms EACH CUT FROM ONE PIECE 4576 14"-22" 4-Ats4 1444 Just ONE main pattern part for each garment! Quickly sew a complete wardrobe for daugh- ter's favorite doll! Picture her happy face when she sees the blous e, jerkins, suspenders, skirt, beanie, sack-dress, elastic cinch-belt end nightgown, peig- noir, petticoat, panties, Pattern 4576 fits dolls from 14. to 22 inches! Be thrifty, use scraps! Send now! This pattern easy to use, sim- ple to sew, is tested for fit. Has complet illustrated instructions. Send THIRTY - FIVE CENTS (35e) in coins (stamps cannot be accepted) for this pattern. /Print plainly SIZE, NAME, AD- DRESS, STYLE NUMBER, Send order to Box 1, 123 Eigh- teenth St., New Toronto, Ont. • 4 , , 41,5:64 „ Army Takes WACS Frifin "Wivois"--The Women's Arriiy ddrpe ty believes theme' aDahl Fish Around for a Future; Jain Choif WAC." Heat,• Recruiter Oefty J. Clayton signs Up' Theida Waticti Un- ease *eater Springs, Fla: Gem-Totin Lady Any week-end during hunting season is likely to find an auto- mobile piloted by a woman streaking north from St. Cathar- ines, Ontario, toward the wood- lands where game abounds. There is nothing strange in this -- Many Canadian women hunt and shoot for recreation. But this particular hunter is unusual. At sportsmen's shows all across the country she is introduced as "the woman who knows all about guns." She is. June Pinder, propri- etress of Finder's Sportmarns Centre in St. Catharines, Miss Pinder literally does know everything about guns and ammunition. She can discuss the ballistics of a shot-gun shell or rifle cartridge with authority. The ,people of the Niagara pen- insula have come to know that if they have a gun problem, the " thing to do is take it to June. Time was, though, when this Was not the case. The store was established by June's grand-. father 'and carried on by her father. When he died a num- ber of years ago, June decided to stay in the business. She knew, of course, that she might have an up-hill battle because Man doesn't usually want to talk guns, rifles or fishing tackle with a woman- A Worrier), it was reasonable to suppose, could not possibly kilo* as much about such matters as a man. For a while bualness wasn't too brisk', But it didn't take the sportsmen of the district long to find that She was a woman welt. could talk their language and at the same time add a little to their knowledge, June's"knowledge cieeSn't come uterely front books,, thdtigh she is an Avid student and has read widely on outdoor SUbjetts:, 'She ., brought With Otitia an fiShink. rod' and ' , fin& it ,difficult to rein-ember a time when She Was het using"one or the other. • she laughts et Modern practie- * es of diet and. training, and hp, • poses her old.fashioned ideas upon her grandchildren in such 'a high-handed manner # that it is almost impossible * for their parents to •interfere, * She considers this her duty, * born of love for them ell, • Her * deliberate planning of your * personal life is' annoying * enough. But when she inter, • feres with the raising of your * baby, you must protest: Whose * baby is it, after all? If a moth- er has any rights, the first one * is to bring up her child in the • .* way she thinks he should go, * If yeti are ever to escape from * your mother-in-law's dornina- * tion, you will have to have * your husband's cooperation, * Explain to him that you and * he are responsible for the wel- * fare of the baby,. You have *. enlisted the best medical • ad- vice,. and it is your duty to fol... low it, Tell him that from now * on you intend to, and you de- * pend upon him to back you up. Also, remind him that you * and he must have greater pri- * vary. Husband and wife can- 4' not enjoy a full life together * and grow closer with the years * if they share all their leisure * hours with either family, You * will join the reunions occa- * sionally, but you and he need * times alone with. your baby; * this is your. right and his. * Once he realizes -how essential * it is, he will discover how r. much happier he, and • you, * can be. To convince him may * require all your courage, de-. * termination and tact: he is * accustomed to his mother's e management and has accepted. * it without question. But he * must be fair to you and his child. I hope be will realize *• that.. • • • When you two talk this over * with his mother, be calm and * kind. Emphasize your appre- * elation t of her helpful kind- * tresses, but remind her that it * it you and your husband who * must decide what is best for 4 your baby, and for yourselves. * Good luck! „ Your mother-in-law sir o u 1 d have your respect and, if pos- sible, your affection. But when she interferes with your chil- dren's training, you have to take a stand. Anne Hirst can advise you how to handle the situation tactfully. Write her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., Neiv Toronto, Ont. Talking Color "If you like the name of a color, you're half sold on the color itself! claims Wilffed H. Sin clai r, color conditioning supervisor of the paint and var- nish division of Canadian Indus- tries (1954) Limited. He is one man who doesn't believe that "a rose by any other name would smell as sweet." Mr. Sinclair should know. For many years he has been dream- ing up tantalizing color names like "taffy tan" and "pink mist" and waching the response of people who buy the paint. "Whether she realizes it or not, a woman choosing a color for a room picks a name which suggests the atmosphere she wants to create," Mr, Sinclair said, If she wants a lively room for a bustling family, names like "sprite green" "colleen" or "gaiety red" attract her. On the other hand, if she is dec- orating a room for more formal use, she will lean toward such designations as "dignity blue," "castle grey", "cameo ivory" or "court chartreuse". Names with happy associa- tions always have appeal, accord- ing to this color consultant. In One Song Caused Twenty Suicides From , the _songs of, Francois Vilion, King of the Vagabonds, to the "Ballad of Reading' Gaol," song "and ballad -have continual- ly appeared in connection with law , breakers. Italy has- a .whole • .collection of traditional criminal songs in.. praise of prison, and there is one British ballad on the same sub- ject which describes all KM. prisons with feeling and pre- cision. It ends: " — "Portland is woret of the lot to joke in. For fetching a'lagging there's no place like Woking!" But what eerie effect is it which is exerted by certain types of music? A Hungaripn government official wrote a piece of music and then shot , himself. By some morbid attrac- tion the composition became popular and the police attribu- ted twenty suicides to its influ- ence. The tune was banned in Hun- gary. But some little time later a man was found hanged in America with the name of the tune mentioned on a note in his pocket. In 1937 a woman was found dead in London, apparent- ly her own hand, In the room was a gramaphone which had run down and appeared to have been playing as she died, On -the turntable was record of the ill- omened Hungarian tune. Seyeral murderers have been . fond of Music. Eugene de Vere, who killed a girl in 1926, was a competent performer on the ac- cordion. Thurtell, who murder- ed Weare at Elstree in 1822, came home from the deed and insisted on a sing-song. "Brides in the Bath" Smith insured a woman he had "mar- ried" and on the day that she made her will in his favour he decreed that she must take a• bath. That evening there was heard a splashing in the bath- room followed by a long sigh. A • few minutes later there was the sound of the harmonium down., stairs. Smith was playing a hymn, He was not the only one who liked hymns. Peace used to play them on a one-stringed fiddle and Robert Butler, whose crimes . shocked Australia and New Zealand, played hymns on the prison organ on the day before he was executed. Two other men who took their Jove of music to the gallows were John Stewart, who mur- dered an Ediriburgh merchant, and sang on the scaffold, and that engaging' rogue who asked as a last request that at his Pass- ing would play "The Wearing Of the Green," WERE' _FIRST The first railway poet Office, car was introduced hi North Anierida'On the Grand Think itoW part of the diali National RailWayS, in 1654. The ekperinientai car' ran be- tWeeft Niagara ra116,.atittiohtt:ott, brit:, seven years before Sinallat Unit was introduced' the United :States, slid Wet. deg sighed to speed their delivery-'. `serViCei We Were Teert;Agere Once Ourselves Recent newspaper headlines attributing crimes to teen-agerS have carried an unfortunate implication that "teen age" and "outrage" are almost synony- ruolg terms. Many boys .and girls, especially those in what are considered underprivileged Sections, feel almost suspect be- cause they happen to have ,reached their teens, Yet what adult today has not been a teen-ager? And most adults never have been crim-. MA's. Countless teen-agers will Pe tomorrow's upright, substan- tial citizens. And why didn't the two teen- age boys who rescued a man from drowning near poston the other day get front-page head- lines instead of those who had committed violence? It is not merely because they are in their teens that some toys and girls of that age group have been a serious problem. It . is because parents and com- munity have somehow fail&I in their guardianship, How are the oldsters spending their time in the neighborhoods where the youngsters are out• of hand? Adults of the community who are scrutinizing the teen-age problem will Bed one solution in dealing vigorously with the influences which lead teen- agers astray — • in scrutinizing adult-age, shortcomings for an- swers to teen-age delinquency. —From The Christian Science Monitor. BABOON` WAS HITCH-HIKER Bob Weston, a Cape Town motorist, was driving through Bains Kloof one evening recent- ly 'when he saw a lone figure standing by the roadside. Feel- ing sorry for the 'hitcli`-hiker, he stopped and opend his car door to offer him a lift. In a moment ,e .five-foot ba- boon yanked him 'frOm the car! After a furious struggle he Man- aged to free himself Surly in the car and' slam the doors. In Cape Town Mr. Weston said, "I've been cured' of picking up hitch- , ' hikers at night!" Plarha Bag! 11116124 He's e doll! He's a PAJAMA BAG! Youngster' 'pope hit paja- ' Inas into slit' in back! Happy clown sits .on 'the bed all day — 'till slumber time comes! Use gay scraps to make this clown Pajama. Bag. Pattern" 809 has easy-to-follow directions, Send TWENTY-FIVE CENTS in coins (stamps cannot be ac- cepted) for this pattern to Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Tor- onto, Ont. Print plainly PAT- TERN NUMBER, your NAME and. ADDRESS. Don't miss our Laura Wheeler Needlecraft Catalog! An excit- ing variety of crochet, embroi- dery, and iron-on color transfer patterns to send for, Plus four complete patterns printed in book. Send 25 cents for your, copy today! Gifts and bazaar best sellers! Stik.CONIttetit A howling baby sat in his Peranibillators whie. his father pushed him along, "NOW, lanieti control Yeitr, self," the -father Said in quiet tenet, "Keep debt:" A woman who had 'been Watchingsaid, "I''.'Corigrattilati you, young than. YOU know just he* to 'Speak to babies, calmly.. arid gently. So betteit than, -Shouting. at then& Then, `lean: frig-over,, she said to the child iri the pram, ,"$o you ai:e•itArkidtl.)! ".1%To;„" corrected the ,fathef: nernei 'Peter;- Jainetic . sort of programmes, -they .have; .1";!"7'44\i774;-' how they raise money,. and. what te de- whop nO nne WTI* to take office. .And .then there is, RONICLES .that little problem of. when, and to whom, should life-member- ships be given, At our .lest INGER FARM Ct.(>...:r1.CO, meeting, being still in the mood for giving, we presented two of, our senior members with a life-- membership pin, They were both telten completely by sup,. prise, We were all very happy to see how pleased they were with Our token of appreciation. for the years of •feithfol service they had given. Our .branch. Really, I am constantly am- azed at the amount .of good work that is done all over Ontario by W,I members, . But maybe. you wonder sometimes why I don't mention Farm Forums, Agricultural Societies, Feder- ation Of Agriculture and other farm groups, all of whom do good work. That I realize but. I limit my social activities to the W.I. I find that is all I have time for and it happens to in- terest me the most, .1 often won., der how.. people who belong to so many Organizations keep up. the pace. Life must be one con Urinal. round of meetings . . and lunches! And lunches and gsleitmhmer. - ing. never yet went to- . Well, friends, there is another thought in my mind, While the year is in its. infancy how about Income Tax returns? You know it really isn't much of a lob when you get down to business. And with declining farm prices plenty of farmers will have very little to pay, The point is you have to prove it. And the only way you can prove it to the satisfaction of the Finance Department is by filing your re- turns. The receipt you. get is your protection against future inquiries. So . . . a word to the wise — get it done and off your mind. And • again — Best Wishes for A Happy. New Year. "Twister" Of Fate—Prudent own- ers of this house in West London, England, have kept their port- able air-raid water pump (cir. cled) ready for use all these years, but they never dreamed a freak, windstorm .would slice off the side of their dwelling. No one was injured by the strange "twister" of fate, ' Huriu Md.:Pet IC".6A4 it S. P. C. Wfingi .deauly conniiiiionee Okeiltietii-- . , ,,. . ' lion in .p.mi disci; Watfliei .a. 'Student' leatiii'n§..thk, r te: Of .4 Chi typewriter duringci .elieirrOrCiCit tiiiiit 'fif.thiiiiatUria Pilot Corn= . )fiiiiiity tChool iii: TaiWtiti,lhei::#06100: '601:divot, Administration has arovide4 r f iii a di the* .6.04 iitiC:0601146- tytieweliett for "thii -school. tr R. S▪ e, ▪ • 1, e , the dead of winter, -a wall paint with. a name like "holiday tan" seems to bring, the warmth of a sunny beach into a frostbound living room, Or a color • called "wine glow" might revive warm memories of- festive occasions. "Seashell" or' "Cabot smoke" or n'ocean green" stimulate the iniaginatiere with visions of far- away places; "honey gold" and "bud green' arouse nostalgic thoughts of- life on the farm. "The meaning of a name is important, but the sound must be satisfactory, too," Mr.' Sin= clair maintains. "People like words' they can roll . their tongues around — names like `parasol' and 'afterglow'." But all the tempting words in the English language will not sell colors unless they are the hues which people want. Color fashions in homes change. from year to year just as colors do in clothing. Today, for instance, the browns and orangy shades are high-style and pink is very popular, but blue is a color to watch for the -future, he pre- dicts. Every shift in decorating fashion means new colors must be designed. And every 'new color is a fresh_ challenge to the poet-psychologist who puts the names on the paint cans. Stop Right Here—As far es A,delle August, Lucy Marlow and Jand Mason are concerned, they have the solution to producer ,lonie Tops' search for the world's most beautiful legs. The trio demon- strate they are ready to match legs with any contenders as they walk down a Hollywood movie set, Can you believe It . , . the time has really come to wish you, one and all, a happy 1955, It just seems no sooner do we get used to one set of figures for a date-line than we have to change it again, Maybe I have a special affinity for some figures as I enjoyed writing 1954. It was a nice, even, adaptable date, easily divisible by two, But you take 1955 — nothing will divide into it until you get to What difference does that make? Actually, none at all except-that I like even numbers better than odd. They look tidier, if you know what I mean. However, odd or even, I suppose most, of us will welcome the New Year. It gives you .a sort of lift, doesn't it? Here is a new year; twelve whole months, fifty-two weeks, three hundred and sixty-five days — and each day, week and month a new beginning. Just think what we can do with all that time! But then maybe we remember — we had that Same thought last year. And now the old year has past we can look back and assess the value of what we did •and how we spent our time. Are you sat- isfied with your findings? I am not — far from it For that rea- son I am glad of another new year . - a' new startes another opportunity to get done the things I didn't accomplish in '54. Whether that is .possible re- mains to be seen. However, I would like to start the New Year by thanking all those who sent cards, letters and 'good wishes at Christmas time. I appreciate 'all your kind re- marks. And believe me your interest and understanding helps me to keep this • column going week after week, As you know, I write about anything -that has. interested me during the pre- ceding week, even though I , that what interests one person may riot interest an, other. You remember, one week I wrote about My Christmas cac- tus. That brought forth quite a few letters ,as eether folk were also having trouble with plants blooming too soon; buds drop- ping off and so on. There is only one thing -that will hold back the -bloom of a Christmas cac- tus and prevent the buds from dropping Off, and that is to keep the plant in a cool place. The best luck I ever had with a Christmas cactus was during the years when we didn't have a furnace. It was easy enough then to find a 001 room! In fact the cactus eventually got frozen so badly it never recov- ered. We got frozen too — more or less — but we managed to go on living, The plant I have now was given me by a friend who moved away and had no room for the plant in her new home. Each year ' after the cactus , has bloomed it is a good idea to encourage a little new growth, Don't worry if roots come . through the bottom of the pot, „ The cactus is one plant that likes to be pOt-boimd. It is also a good idea at this time to pot e a few slips for giving away to friends. Another' subject Often men- tioned in this column which I find is a sure-fire hit with my reader-friends is any little item in connection with the Women's Institute. I think about seventy- five percent of my readers, must be W.I. members. And you know how it is — every W.I. member likes to know what other branches are doing; what N .