The Lucknow Sentinel, 1966-01-12, Page 12SUGAR
AND SPICE
by Bill Smiley
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Dad, we , should be glad, you they can't manage a budget. Ap.
and I, Glad that we got a mate parently the answer to this Js
, when we did, 20 or 30 years ago. for the girl to complete her edt
We'd never measure up to what : cation. and *ork for a few years.
the, girls demand today. This prepares her for marriage.
i. discovered:. this. the; .other
day, . during a panel 'discussion
in one of my Grade 12 classes
Topic was "Early Marriages,"
Participantswere four bright,
• attractive .girl's: of 37 or 18.
Well, they reallyopened my
eyes; In. fact, I..was shocked and
:lismayed . by the hard-boiled,
materialistic . attitude of these
ioung ladies. Generally, they
had the right idea — that teen-.
rge marriages are a mistake -
but for all the wrong. reasons.
1 used to think that marriage
was_ based on mutual. respect, ,,
physical attraction, shred in-
,. :erests, love: That shows you
.how. old-fashioned I 'am. ' •
• It seems that these days . a
successful marriage is a'tombi
nation of ` economic ' essentials' .
and psychological clap -trap:
First of all, you have to have
Security:, This rules out early
marriages', "It means the; couple
must have enough .money for at..
least down • payments . on the
house, furniture, appliances. It
follows that the girl must finish
school: and take a joband save.
The boy must: get through law
school or medicine. (no- plumb-
'ers for these kids). Again, it
follows .that;he's about30; she's.
at. least 25, . before they. ' can
think of marriage.
I )could have reminded them,
but., didnt that most of them '
•; would • :never have. been born if
their.parents had waited.for se-
curity, before . marrying.
•
Second they said, ' teen-agers
are .'not '"emotionally -mature"
enough for marriage I don't
quite know whatthat means..'.
Eight out of 10 -of the married.
adults I know have .tantrums or
drink too much, flare with Jeal-
ousy, fight ' over trifles, fall- in
rove, hate bitterly. In short, they -''
are, normal human ,beings. But
. they're not emotionally." mature. •
Another °point. the . kids
brought up • was that 'teen-age
girls are not prepared .toface up
tothe complexities of married,
life, they can't -cook; they 'know,
nothing about raising. children
•
Thus, if she has studied . typ-
. ing or philosophy( or • hairdress-
,ing or embalming d 'made. a
living • for a Year
fart
; she's all
l g y t
• b
0
•set for kid" child-bearing
coa g, �:. •
and' budget -balancing. • a •don't
• follow the : logic, but I always . '
was a little dense about femi-
nine thinking.
• Girls,. I canshow, you women
'of 30, career. girls, • who can't, ..
cook a TV dinner, 'don't know
one end of a baby from the 'oth-
erunless it's . crying,. ` -and
couldn't handle the budget of .a ,,
Sunday School, classwithout
putting it' on the rocks. '
Another` serious suggestion
was that marriage should be de-,
•'layed' until 'both parties have
had a chance to travel and see
the world; The implication was
that after : you're married ,and.
had kids, you never do more
than take•. a Sunday drive.
Hell, 1 have a nephew. of 17
who was born in Yellowknife,
North West Territories, and has
grown up in South America,.` the
West, Indies, Holland and New-
foundland. I have a niece, 19,
who has lived . in England
France : and Germany., Those
kids didn't slow • their parents
'own: .
•
One of ,the .girls said boys of •
19 or. 20 are not ready to assume
the responsibilities of marriage.
Some aren't. But some men of •
30 aren't and never do. I've seen t,:
boys •of 19 or 20 in charge of <a
million dollars worth of aircraft,
and a hundreyd, lives..
I' could scarcely refrain . from
telling these. complacent pro.
trons that _ their grandmot.
were married 'at 16 or 17, t1.cir.
grandfathers. at 20, 'coping with
a life they couldn't evenima-
Not that I'm in favor of teen-
ge marriages: Heaven forbid,
Our society has all -the ; cards
;tacked against the young lov
rs. But there's something sad
bout their attitude.
MRS, 'ROBERT SCOTT
Mrs, Robert. Scott of Ashfield
Townships passed away at Wingham
Hospital on .Wednesday January
5th after being hospitalized just a
few days. I1eatii was due to •a
heart attack,. • .
Mrs, Scott was the former' Am-
anda MacDonald , daughter of .Mrs.
Isabelle MacDonald of Lucknow
and the late James MacDonald. •
She was 55 years of age., For•the;
past few: rears, she°had practiced
her a profession
p fe ssion as a nurse and wa .
employed at Wingharn and: District
Hospital at the time of her'death,.
She leaves to mourn her husband,
Robert Scott, one daughter, Mrs,
Harvey (Isabel),McQuillin..of St.
Catharines, .five sons, Marvin of
Ashfield. Frank of Lucknow, Don
aid Rae of Mossbank, ' Saskatche-
wan, James of Goderich and Doug-
las at home; seven grandchildren;
her mother, Mrs: Isabelle MacDon-
ald of Lucknow; ' four sisters, Mrs
Robert (Sadie) Hamilton, Lucknow
Mrs'. M . L. (Anne), Sanderson of
Lucknow; Mrs..' Mike (Phyllis)'
Kosmyno -of 'Toledo, Ohio;: Mrs; •
Frank (Rachel) King of Don Mills;;
• She was, predeceased by two
.brothers;' Harold and Alvin MacDon-
'ald and by two sisters, Mrs, Lorne
(Margaret) M1cLennan and .Mrs.
Wm. (Helen) Kempton.
A memorial service was con ---,,,J•
ducted at Hackett's United 'Church
in Ashfield Township on•Friday .at
:2.30 p.m. with the .m3nister, , Rev.
G`. W. Kaiser, in'charge:of the
'service. ''
SILVER LAKE W.I.
Mrs:. Albert'Colwell was hostess
for. the Silver Lake W , I, which
was conducted by the president;
Mrs Ronald Thacker. Following
All •my `life. I have admired or-
ganized /people: This ;doesn't
mean that: 1 like them. "In fact,
• my tual response to this type
is instanthatred, because . they
make me look so.. confused in
exomparison.
You know the• sort of person.)
mean.. The chap leering at you
from • the ; .life insurance ' .ads,
Mortgage on house paid up, pen=',
sion all figured out, and a • big,
;fat 'annuity when he retires at
60. And dies at sixty-one from
• sheer , boredom 'because there's'
nothing left to organize.
Then there's the -Wife . who
nine her. house like• clockwork.
Everything `on time. Not a dirty
ash -tray.: Not ak half-hour in the
day 'of pure bumming for any-
body in the family: Surely it
isn't her fault that her ,kids be..
' come greasy beatniks the min-
ute they leave home, and her,
husband goes the : normal
course, from ulcer to coronary
to stroke. '
Much as I detest org • ;anzaton,
I've got to let admiration over-
rule distaste.' It's not easy, 'after
a lifetime of comfortable chaos,
but ' I've been driven to it. By
my daughter. In a fit of teenage
blues . the other day, she was
M. - sounding . off, on the futility ' of
life. 'Naturally, 1 told her she.
was crazy, ghat• life was . a glor
ouS adventure.
. "Huh' Some adventure! Same
old .thing; day after day, . week,
after week, year after year: Tell
me, Dad, what do you and Mom
have to look : forward to?".
Well, that struck home It
didn't seem quite the moment to'.
talk. about the. resurrection • and
the life :: ever after.. Or even
about growing old gracefully. Or
even about the sheer joy of hav-
ing the living -room papered,
It was;: right :there , and then I
decided she was right.: I don't
plunge ahead toward a goal. I
merely go • around in• ever -de-
creasing circles. I • don't seize
life .by the scruff of the neck
and shake it. I merely beg it to
leggo and stop shaking me..
And this is the reason I, who,
has never niade a serious New .
Year's "resolution in ,'my life,
have a list of them drawn up.
No more of this from
',crisis to .crisis. No more of this
'being late and lazy, inconsistent
acid inefficient, unhealthy, ,and
unwealthy. ,
Resolved: that
stop fighting with
years, I haven't
battle. Why spoil
this?
Resolved i that
stop smoking,
ogling. I think my lungs and liv-
er
iver areshot by . now, `.so the first.
two don't amount to much. But
the third one is liable ;to give
ine a heart 'attack from sheer
indignation that these shameless
hussies . are allowed to go
around likethat on the. beach. It.
says. here.
Resolved: that I'm • going to
stoppampering my° kids. The
next time Hugh suggests he
needs another ten bucks, :I'll
punch him right 'in ' the .nose.
The next time Kim tells me I'm
an old fud, I'll take a strap to
her. It's going to::be difficult, as .•
'he 'outweighs me by 10 pounds,
and I couldn't beat that sweet If
she committed murder. But or-
• ganization-will make it possible.
Resolved: that I'm. ,going to
take:,' regular exercises, some-
thing more, strenuous than bend -
Ing my elbow, Striking a match,
or taking a cap oMa jar of jam.'
Resolved: that this column
will be written atmy leisure,.
not to a deadline which 'means
springing through ,the snow to.
the ,mailbox at 9.59 p.m. In My
slippers.
Resolved: that I will make
lesson , plans like the other
teachers,and not arrive daily,
gaily, and ask, "Well, where.
were we?
y'�Y"
Resolved: thalt I will stop
being :nice to people just be-
cause I 'like them, and will as-
siduously court those whop can
do me some good. ,
Sorry, we've run out of space.*
There are 374 other resolutions,
and I feel • that I've • just
scratched the surface. But look
for a more`. dynamic, disgusting
Bill Smiley in '66. I'm organ- .,
DUTIES WILL •LARGELY CONSIST OF. MATCHING- IN-
VOICES, RECEIVING SLIPS AND ORDERS FOR PAYMENTS
Requlsites araC.,Grade 11 nor beetMr. education°and an 'aptitude
for figures.. Provious office exporiinco . would ° be an asset. At.
tractive -Salary, compr.hev��employe*ns insurance bengfits
'Cafeteria facilities are available.
. A,ppIlcants should contact° Plant Personnel Office
the usual opening Mrs. Melvin
Husk read 'the scripture.
Roll Call was answered with..
"One way I can show my'apprec
Cation of Canadian Citizenship" .
Leaders for the 4H club•were
chosen, Mrs. Al Hedley and Mrs.
;Frank Colwell for "Accent on'
:Accessories".: Mrs. Ronald Thack- •
er reported on, the last course whi-
ch was completed in December
"The'• Club girl entertains", for
which Eleanor Hodgins received
her Provincial Honours pin at • •
Achievement Day. She was the
first girl, from '.Silver. Lake W.1....
to receive this honour.
Mrs. Harold Bannerman, the
Citizenship convenor, gave the
Motto ";The -keynote of a •good ` .
citizen is service -to others", foll
owed,by the topic "The Canadian
Indian": which was a very fine
paper and brought forth quite an
interest ing discussion as to the •
treatment our first inhabitants of
our country received and their
living habits.:•
. Aro rain of several�readin g s,
P g .g . ,
rand contests followed which had
been prepared b '.Mrs. Ray Stanley.
P Y Y.
After the singing of the Queen.
and Institute.Grace, .lunch. was
served by Mrs, Frank Colwell and .'
Mrs'. Stanley Cooper.
Grace MacDougall.has returned
to Kemptville..'Congratulations
to Grace who
Obtained
obtaae
d honour,
standing on first ter'm
examinat-. .
ions•.' +' '
Mrs: Rowe of Exeter was a re-
cent visitor with her daughter,
Mrs. `Frank MacKenzie,. Mr. 'Mac-
Kenzie and family
SUFFERS HEART ATTACK.
Weare sorry to hear that Harold
Stanley suffered a heart` attack and
is confined to his home.,
South Kinloss Y.P.S. met' at•
the home of Mr, and Mrs. Evan
Keith on.'`Sunday evening. Pres-
ident, Eileen Burt, presided Re=- •
solutions for the New ?ear was `
the ;theme of'the meeting,. The.
Bible Study an Acts. 3 was taken
by Rev. Mr. MacLeod and Mrs.
Dickie, Piano instrumentals by
Brian Keith and `Rod MacKenzie
were much enjoyed A. New ,Years
reading was given by Walter Dick-
* and Ian MacKenzie conducted
a Bible quiz. The hostess was
thanked.Y
:b y M ac ' Macinnes. Rev
witMrh:,MpacLeodpraer. closed the meeting
: .y
Mr. .and Mrs. Dick Standish
and. Danny of Owen SOund Were..
Sunday' visitors •with Mr. and : Mrs,
Harvey Houston,
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1960, PONTIAC, 4 . Door, Automatic
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1963 CHEV, 4 -Door, Standard Transmission
• 1959 PONTIAC, 4. Door, 6 Cylinder stationwagon
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