The Lucknow Sentinel, 1961-08-09, Page 8E EIGHT
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a word of it; "You've • been: ;a;''
Wonderful husband!', while• the
kids stand by bawling piteously
and, for once,. not. wanting me to
take them swunming.
The other type of Indirect
R'eaetion;..is.' •Rationalization,, and:
it fits too.' This. consists ;of con-
vincing yourself of something
that is not •necessarily true. But
this, I'v > been doing for about
35 • years, so I might as
well relax and enjoy it.
',However, these: are mild and
harmless reactions, so you can
see that it's not Me, but My Wife`
about;whom I'm concerned. It's
difficult to understand how a
person' can live all these years
with someone as normal as I
and still be 'so psychological:.
Anotherof her trpubies is that.
she's obviously a passive peri-
phrastic.' Weeps.:Just a minute:
I'•ve wandered over into :my Latin.
notes. No, here it is. She's a
straightforward case of anxiety.
This is typified by worry, fore-
boding, dread, inner distress.
That is, •something is goings to
happen, , or you :think it is. For'
example, shealways thinks: we're
going to have another baby;. and •
then when we don't,' she's kind
of sore4 about it. "•..
• Some of the• anxiety • symptoms'
are: depression 'for no . apparent
reason;upset by little things;
snaps at, attempts at kindness;
angry : at nothing' at all; ,nervous,
edgy; 'streak of cruelty.; This is,
our. place,practically any Sunday
morning. •
It's, fascinating, even if' a little,
disturbing, .to see someone .' yofl
know so well unfolding right be-
fore your eYes, like a drunk.
'who .has been ; sleeping on _ the
lid . of, • the, toilet 'bowl all night,
in the, :foetal position.
' But 'we're only . scratching ,the
,surface. We haven't come to •it
in the course yet,...but I'm •look-
ing forward to learning the'. psy=
chologica,I • motives ;behindher:
taking • up playing the organ, • and
herc-7`throwing `a ; perfectly good
gin -and -tonic all overme last
Saturday night: .I'll 'fill you in
as we get :to them.• "
e
After nearly fifteen years. of
complete bewilderrnent, .I think
I'm beginning .to understand the
Old; • Battleaxe at last.' This sum-
mer, I'm 'taking a course' in psy-
thology, and it`fits• her like a
suitof wet long underwear..
_I used to think she acted the
'Way she_ ,•did because she was "a
woman: Orbecause she had a
large dollop of pure: Irish:. in her
Or• because I wasn't making
:enough, Money, or lwasn't a good
enough father, Or didn't do the
chores 'around the • house. But ' it
• wasn',t any • of these things. It
:. was • because she's just about as
psychological, as they • come.
It's . all beginning. to •fall into
a pattern. .When -."I. began . taking.
these. lectures, ' there • seemed
something familiar about them—
as. though I'd maker • the course
before., :Then I. realized that -my
wife was a• walking case history,.
and ititat she'd had. practically
•every, one of. the ,neuroses• we
were discussing, at least once. ..
Only last week, 1 realized. that
all 'these years,` .she's been ''suf-
fering from an •inferiority com-
pier. As the fellas•say, ya coulda
"• .
fooled. nie. But • . now I'm train;--.
• ed , in psychology, 1', can see the.
Signs,' at 'says 'in my notes that'
the person who is over -compen-
sating for • ,failure. to achieve his
goal - a typical' .inferiority
• complex case- may become
-Pugnacious' and :belligerent. " That's
my' girl. . ' " •
Of course, soznetrneYes the per
son who; cannot solve a.problem,.
> or reach a goal, •succumbs •to
•;another way out, it says; °'This
rsults in the Emotional 'Explo
sign, or,. as you old-fashioned lay
people might term ' it, the temp-
.' er tantrurri: :This"is: •usually pro-
•duced in babies by: a` restriction
of some .sort, such as holding
their :arms. It • is 'produced in
exactly' the, same way in ladies
who aretrying to clobber you.
They become even more 'violent.
when you wrap your leggy around
theirs, so they .can't;` kick you on
the shins. This. •requires: • a good
deal of facility in standar g; on one
leg. Just call me ;`Stork."
Another little .eI've culled
from • the course/is:.
s:- "iReason and
emotion don't mix. Apply reason
and it will cut down on emotion."
Well,. 'I've tried that with the
Old Girl. When she gets emotion:
al, I 'get: reasonable. • I'm. ' afraid
they're going to have to remove
that maxim from' the books.
Maybe• there's something wrong
with the • reason , I apply, but
every time. I • do it, . its like ap-
plying'a torch. to the •the •drapes., 1.
Strangely enough'; I'm 'scarcely
psychological at . all, myself.'
However, in all • fairness, I must
admit . I've found a couple Of,
labels. that . apply, to me.' When
,I . am;'frustrated, .'I have what is
known as ,• the indirect. -Reaction,
instead of :the 'Emotional Explo-
sion. In .this• bit,' you can do one
of several •things to compensate
for .'your failure. One is having
Delusions of Grandeur. This one
have never managed. ,it's im-
possible, for a father :and husband
in '.these 'time's.
A 'second reaction is' the. Suf-'
fern)* Hero..•This is one 'of my
favorites, and I Ease it often , I
See ' myself lying there; after the
accident, •.covered with blood, cold,
stiff, amazingly, handsome • all of
'a sudden, and my wife •hurling.
herd lf, weeping bitterly on my,
'chest.:. She shrieks, "Darling,.
comeback • to Me! 1 didn't mean'
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and Mrs.:Ross MacMillan acted as
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'MacDonald ' who was away. Roll
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containing .the word "Strong" St
the .Bible Study was chapter 2 of
led ; the -sanctuary of alI •Paul's
writings ' unfolding the 'counsels;
of :God: -and the. standing • of the
Christian; every verse revealing'
some • precious : truth:, It ' has been
`said that' if the teaching of, Ephe-
sians : had been: grasped and made;
the foundation' of 'European civil•
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would be required, Mrs. , P: 'Steer
contributed a',solo and readings;
Were, given by Mrs.' R.' MacMillan
and • Mrs. 'Sandy : MacLeod. The ,
life.. of the' Deaconess . "Pheobe
was 'reviewed by -• .Mrs. H. Levis •
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chapter from:.' the ,Study Book •
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circle, Mrs.; I3ouglas Graham; read
a'letter 'received from Miss Agnes
Gol'ian of Nigeria. Miss. Annie
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