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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Huron Expositor, 1989-05-03, Page 1212A — THE HURON EXPOSITOR, MAY 3, 1989 Seaforth Legion bowlers wind up season on weekend, now plan fam LEGION N:L,JvvS :by Gordon Scott This weekend saw the conclusion of the Legion 13owiing for this season. The annual banquet, with the Ladies Auxiliary serving andthepresentation of trophies, was held on Saturday evening. The winning team over the season was Dave Watson, Bill Eisler, Don Wood, Thelma Coombs, Patti Gridzak, and Gwen Harburn. The individual winners were men's high average, Al Smale and Don Eaton (tied); the lathes' high average, Helen Nicholson; men's high triple, Dave Watson; ladies' high triple, Barbara Wat- son; men's high single, Gordon Scott; and ladies' high single, Joan Eaton and Marg Ungarian (tied). The team receiving the lowest point count was the Steroids, con- sisting of Marlyn Gray, Doris Hugill, Jean Carins, Gordon Scott, Jack Eisler and Don Eaton. Low triples were Ernie Harburn, and Marlyn Gray. Low games were Art Strong and Doris Hugill. The play-off champs were Jim Watson, Helen Nicholson, Barbara Wat- son, Randy Gridzak, Ernie Harburn and An- nie Malcolm. Officers for the coming year are: President John Cairns, Treasurer Marg Ungarian and Secretary Don Eaton. For those who did all the work, the rest of us would like to say thank you. The Entertainment committee has a 50s and 60s dance coming up on Saturday, May 13. There are no advance tickets for this event but John would like to see a good number of members and guests attend. Lunch will be provided. The Legion would also wish the Lawn bowling club all the success of this year on their 60th anniversary of the club's foun- ding. The club is planning a banquet for their members on May 10 at the Legion. Call Heather or Neil with your news tips. 527-0240. Other dates to remember this month are: mixed golf scramble on May 27 and the Legion Family Car Rally May 28. These events are all part of the Legion's 60th an- niversary year. On June 17 there will be a steak barbecue hosted by the affiliate members plus the men's golf tournament. Meeting dates are: Legion Executive - Thursday, May 11 and the general meeting May 18. ily car rally At the going down of the sun and in the morning we will remember them. Bar Roster - May 3, T. Craig; May 4, D. McAuley; May 9, B. Finlayson; and May 10, D. Medd. `uckersrn'th township home trashed by thief CRIME STOPPERS On April 17, 1988 a residence at Lot 12 Con- cession 2 of Tuckersmith was entered when a thief broke a door window. The thief then stole one fishing pole and reel, (the pole is brownish green in colour with the tip broken off), one fishing tackle box, beige in colour with a blue carrying handle and locking clasp and one pair of pruning shears with wooden handles. While in the house the thief smashed several windows and window frames, broke the bathroom sink and ripped some panell- ing off the walls. The thief was seen in the area and is described as being 15-17 years of age, 5'8" to 1800-265--1777 5'10" and wearing a light blue long winter coat. Don't let your home be an easy target for thieves! Crirne Stoppers and the Police Forces in Huron County are seeking assistance in helping reduce crimein the county. One way to begin is to Criineproof your home! ! A secure home could help prevent you or your family from becoming a victim of a crime. For more information on Crimeproofing contact your local Police Force. Remember a criminal will spend very little time at- tempting to break into a home that has been Advertisement Parents train child for a dry night's sleep Psychological considerations hen the Smiths first real- ized he had a problem Bill was 8 years old. Now he is 15. "Don't worry, he'll outgrow it," the doctors kept telling them. The last time had been four years ago. But Bill was still a bedwetter. He would wake up in a dry bed just two days a week. Five doc- tors had tried their, best. They put Bill through many tests, wrote numerous prescriptions, ordered hospital stays and even !performed surgery. Nothing seemed to work. "Over the last 15 years, we felt fortunate if the bed was dry two nights in a row," says the boy's father, who asked that their real names not be used. Bill could go to visit someone and spend the night. But he might stay awake the whole time, because he was embarrassed and did not want to wet the bed. Then, several weeks ago, the Smiths heard of the Canadian Children's Centre. They sent away for free literature ,and saw their own son's story being played out. What had hit them hardest was an earlier story that linked bedwetting to arson. "My son tried to burn down our shed," says the father. That's when I said I am tired of hearing 'don't worry he will out- grow it' - also I found out bedwetting is harmful physical- ly and emotionally. If bedwet- ting can be stopped, why should we allow our child to sleep in this condition. If my son needed braces, I wouldn't hesitate." Many don't outgrow bedwetting Crirneproofed! ! If you can help a victim of a crime by solv- ing it call Crime Stoppers toll free at 1-800-265-1777. You will never be asked to identify yourself nor testify in court. If an arrest is made you will earn a cash reward between $50 and $1000. Call 8 a.m. to 12 p.m. Remember CRIME STOPPERS PAYS CASH FOR CLUES! GRADUATES Staff psychologist Arnold Keller says the worst so-called solution - without question - is for parents to wait until children outgrow the problem. This is because toilet training teaches children the dif- ference between right and wrong, success and failure, clean and dirty. So bedwetting only rein- forces negative feelings and can lead to a poor self image. "It's not that they outgrow it, it's that they stop talking about it," he says. Most bedwetters hide their feelings in shame. They try to hide from the parents any ink- ling that it matters. So parents of- ten don't think it affects the child. If a child does not show signs of the bedwetting bothering them, this can be serious. Children don't always stop bedwetting says Canadian Chil- dren's Centre director Vincent Fowler. in 14 years the Centre has successfully treated thousands of bedwettere, and receives a large number of inquiries from adults who still have the problem. "But quite often a doctor will say 'Don't worry, your child will out- grow it.' That's because most doc- tors don't want the parents to wor- ry. A history of bedwetting in the family can reduce the chances a child will outgrow it." Psychologist Dr. Warren Bailer of the University of California at Los Angeles writes "Evidence ac- cumulated casts doubt that chil- dren outgrow bedwetting. Most bedwetters hide their feelings and shame, and embarrassment are their constant companion. Correct- ing bedwetting often produces re- markable results in family rela- tionships, behavior, school work and peer contact." Bill was dry nine weeks after the Smiths sent for the Centre litera- ture ,and eight weeks without a wet bed, they have started to no- tice other changes. "My son has always been very quiet, very withdrawn. He seldom talks to us. I guess that's because he .was teased a lot when someone who°d let him stay at his home let the cat out of the bag," says the father. Today Bill reaches out for affection from his family in a way they've never known. He also ap- pears much calmer. Bill ,follows the patterns of many "nocturnal enuretics" as the con- dition is medically known. For them, the •problem is more than juste wet sheet ,nuisance. Unfor- tunately, it's still a closely closet ed:problem few :people are willing to ,seek help for or even .diacusa with their family ,:physicians or friends. Harmful pbysie ly andemoti ni lly "To offer a child a reward to acco ;i,plish something when they're sleeping, they can't win It sets them up for failure." go to camp, or spend the night with a friend. They live in con- stant fear of ridicule - that some- body will uncover their problem. Bedwetting is not an accepted thing to do. He noted that the resulting shame from bedwetting during the sensi- tive age of a child, can be devastat- ing. Often hostility, resentment and feelings of rejection or antiso- cial traits that can carry over into adulthood. "Our success goes beyond just stopping bedwetting," Fowler says. "Most parents tell us that their children are happier with themselves. The children like themselves more and so do •their parents, A child who likes and re- spects himself is more capable of liking and respecting others. "A tremendous amount of stress is removed from the whole family. Often they weren't even aware it was related to bedwetting. Parents often find a great behaviour and attitude change in the child." "Schoolwork often improves and so does the child's attention span and concentration. There are some real, positive benefits from stop- ping bedwetting." But bedwetting, he explains, can leave emotional scars both on chil- dren and parents if the problem isn't treated quickly. And as a gen- eral rule, he says, children should be able to make it through the night within six months of being toilet trained during daytime hours. The concerned "These children can ,become ao- ciaLoutcaate," Fowleraays 'their bedwetting;problem:makes,itsdifli- cultifor them ,to join'the-croWd, parent the aproblem, he adds....Eepeated bedwetting episodes, at night, and the frequency of day time voiding may tend to keep the bladder un- derdeveloped and the sphincter or lock muscle weak. Most bedwet- tings are very sensitive. The child may also, become overly sensitive about being a bedwetter, This anx- iety connected with bedwetting can make the problem worse. After children are toilet trained, he says,' waking in the morning wearing a diaper or sleeping in a wet bed can't help but affect them emotionally. They know they are a disappointment to themselves and their parents. Folk remedies There are plenty of folk and trad- itional remedies, but they often do more harm than good because they delay proper therapy. Improper methods of treating bedwetting can include: waking or lifting a cmild at night, restricting or reducikg liquids during the day or before bed, rewards, scolding, drugs, waiting to outgrow it, and treating it medically. All of the above methods can produce harm- ful side effects. Scolding only makes the prob- lem worse, because the child ends up denying how badly he or she feels to the parents. Bedwetting is known to cause emotional problems if not correct- ed before school. So the majority of inquiries come from parents of four year olds looking for a solu- tion prior to their children start- ing school. Many other parents get upset at the child because they know friends and relatives can some- times smell the odor, and the cost can average over $800 a year, just for laundry. Some parents will reward their children for a dry night or scold when bedwetting occurs. •but Fowler says "To offer a child reward to accomplish something when they're sleeping, is a no-win situation. It seta them up for fail- ure." He notes that a 81 year study at McGill University concludes that deep sleep, not the child, is to blame as the No. 1 cause of bedwetting. Causes and, effects "Bedwetting • ran ,cause a tiny Madder ,and ao . oea.w ng or-re- ucing !liquids," he, says. "You •ac- tually .encourage :bedwetting by ,waking•them. After ,a while, the child :develops .some strongly ingeained habits Land ,negative self expectations, =,which anake;it,jiarder;tar,overcome Medical attempts Kenneth Whetham, the son of Ken and Joyce Whetham, graduated from the Aylmer Police College on December 16, 1988. He is present working with the Woodstock City Poli "The majority don't work to their full potential," he says. Since they are active during the day they are deep sleepers with a short attention span. Keller says they often have difficulty communicat- ing with their parents because of the guilt associated with bedwet- ting. One study showed three of every four institutionalizeduve- nile delinquents were or had been bedwetters. Unfortunately, too, says Keller, there is a higher inci- dence of suicide in children who are bedwetters. The older personality type is that of the over -achievers, who try to prove they're OK. Keller says they knock themselves out to be successful. All of this can cause parents to suffer guilt when family or friends start blaming them for their children's problem. And as a last straw, parents sometimes have resorted to rather cruel methods of stopping their children from bedwetting. Keller says one family :admitted beating their child, and making him sleep in a wet bed - admitted- ly the first time they'd been abu- sive and contrary to their love and desire for their eon to atop wetting the bed. ADDINGS Medical intervention isn't as prevalent as it once was, it also can worsen a condition. Both the U.S. Food and Drug Ad- ministration and the American Medical Association say drugs are not the treatment choice. Fowler notes that the Ainerican Academy of Pediatrics established that bedwetting is not a medical medical tests orblem,. and drugs. against eexam- ple X-rays close to a child's geni- tale poses unnecessary risk of radi- ation. • He notes that a surgical proce- dure where the urethra or urinary passage is enlarged has been popu- lar. But Fowler says the healing and a scarring process can cause the urethra to become smaller. The Smith's son Bill underwent the operation and it didn't work - VINCE FOWLER, For additional information, and to find out why your child wete the bed, send for our free brochure. All inquir- ies are confidential. Call or write Canadian Children's Centre, 880 Ouellette Avenue, Suite 802 Windsor, Ontario, N9A 1C7, Canada. Telephone: 1.800-285-0802 or (51.9) 254- 2511. Send for free information on WHY .YOUR CHILD WETS THE BED and HOW TO STOP IT. NAME ADDRESS CITY VAN DYK-HAMMING Wilma Mary Van Dyk and Richard Allan Hamming were married Saturday, April 29, 1989 at St. James Roman Catholic Church, Seaforth by the Reverend C.G. Caruana. • The bride is the daughter of Margaret Van Dyk and the late Ted Van Dyk of Seaforth and the groom is the son of Kornelis and Grace Harmning of Kitchener. Maid of Honor was Sandra Coleman of London and bridesmaids were Rosie Flanagan of Lon- don, Linda Van Dyk of Stratford and Anitta Atkinson of Toronto. Flower girl was Emily Ann DeJong of Troy. Best man was Wayne Datema of Blyth and guests were ushered by Steve Van Dyk of Seaforth, Steve Hamm- ing of Kitchener and Larry Otten of London. Ringbearer was Joshua Van Dyk of Woodstock. Following a reception at the Seaforth and District Community Centres the couple took a wedding trip to Puerto Plata, Dominican Republic. They will reside at 58 Highland Crescent, Kitchener. Frank Philips photograph. PHONJE A -CODE POSTAL CODE CHILD'S AGE Mall ,to: CANADIAN CHILDREN'S .CENTDE,1180 auellorteAAvenue, Sulte<800; Windsor, -Ontario NSA 1C7. Telephone 1.000.2660802• ALL INQUIRIES CONFIRENTIAL PROV WHEELCHAIR DONATION - The family of Gilbert and Rose Murray recently made the donation of a wheelchair to the doctors and staff of the Seaforth Medical Clinic, , In memory of their -parents. The wheelchair will be used to assist patients who-flnd the distance from the parking lot to the doe - torso office •difficult. Making the presenta- tion to Or. Edmund Malkus Is Pat Murray. Submitted photo.