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HomeMy WebLinkAboutThe Huron Expositor, 1982-07-07, Page 10A10 — THE HURON EXPOS1TOR,, JULY 7, 1982 Toughlove: parent support Seaforth's newly formed Toughlove parent community support group is meeting weekly and there's a lot of interest, according to Peg De Jong, who orgatfized the local group. "There were 11 at the first meeting. 16 at the 'second. and more people phoned and said they wanted to come but couldn't make it," Mrs. De Jong says. • Interested parents are meeting on Monday evenings at Seaforth Public School.' Recently a speaker came from the London organization and in the fall the Seaforth group hopes to have a local lawyer discuss parents' and children's rights. The following description of the Tough - love philosophy is reprinted with the permission of the Greensboro (North Carolina) Self -Help Parent Group: AN INTRODUCTION Toughlove is a gathering of parents troubled by their teenager's behavior. We give support to each other during periods of family crisis and we use the period of non -crisis to learn. We draw from each other's experiences and look at our own situation in new lights. WHAT WE ARE AND WAAT WE ARE NOT: We are a support group not a therapy group. We are a gathering of parents; our children are not a dirqct part of this grOup. We,deal in behavior: not emotions even though emotions are quite evident and must be considered and respected. We do not act as professional counselors, but we can recommend some good ones. We have no affiliation with any religious group. We cannot give you a list of things to do to make your kid into something' he or she is not. What we can do is show that you are not alone, that you have rights and worth. and deserve to be treated with respect. We can eiye no guarantees. We can give suggestions, hope, and sharing. There are no dues or fees, but we must pay the rent. A small contribution from you would be appreciated. The only thing we ask of newcomers is that you buy a manual. Not that we are trying to sell manuals, but if you are -here because of stress caused by your teenager you need the manual whether you realize that now or not. The cost is six dollars and worth far more. We feel this is a must because aside from being the best on the subject, the manual helps us all to speak the same language. As you take part in Toughlove sessions, please keep in mind these points: 11' If a group member offers a suggest. ion that is wrong for your situation keep in mind it is just that, a suggestion. There are no set rules. You must choose what is right for you and your family. 2) Our problems, names. and privacy, as well as those of our children, .must be protected outside of this group. Please respect this. 3) You will hear ideas from Toughlove that are probably different front any others you may have heard. Please don't reject them outright. The ideas are different, and some are tough, but they do reflect love toward your child. 4) There are..•some parents here with major problems, aryl some with not -so -ma- jor problems. Bra serious problem is used as an illustration, it is not meant to belittle someone else's minor problem. All are here to learn and grow, and all have valid input to the group. We welcome that input. 5) If you decide, at some point in the future, that this group has helped you to be more Comfortable in what is now an uncomfortable situation, and you feel you have no further need for this group, please consider staying on awhile Icriager as a group member, to return to others the help you have received. That is the true value of a support group such as Toughlove. McCLURE—WARD Sharlene Ward. daughter of Victor and Terry Ward of R.R.#4 Walton, and Bryan McClure. son of Nelson and Ferne McClure. of Settforth, were married at the Monk -ton Presbyterian Church on Friday. May 28 with Rev. Ross Thomson officiating. The matron of honour was Kathy Pehlke of Stratford, and bridesmaids were Joanne McClure of Seaforth. Annette Ward of Brodhagen and the flower girl was Jennifer Hodgins of Vanastra. The 'best man was clayton McClure of Seaforth and ushers were Ron Ward of Staffa. Keith Pehlke of Stratford and the *ringbearer was David Ward of Brodhagen. The organist was Jim McCallum of Monkton. and soloist was 011y Ward. Monkton. Following a wedding reception at Monkton Community Centre. the couple went on their honeymoon to Thousand Islands and Niagara Falls. SMITH—VAN DIEPEN Candelabra and white mums decorated St. Joseph's Church, Kingsbridge on Saturday. May 29 at 4 p.m. for the wedding ceremony of Divera Martha Van Diepen and Terry James Smith. The bride is the .daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Arie Van Diepen of Goderich and the groom is the son of Mr. and Mrs. Mlervin Smith of RR#1 Walton. Rev. Pr. Ed Dentinger'officated. Marianne Hogan provided the music for the ceremony. Maid of honour was Anne Van Diepen of Goderich, sister of the bride. Bridesmaids were Mary Mole of R1101 Dungannon, Nellie tegris of Goderich. both sisters of the bride and Cherry! Anne Smith of RR#1 Walton, sister of the groom. Flower girl was Tammy Legris ofGoderich, niece of the bride. Groomsman was Ronald Smith of Houston,- British Columbia. brother of the groom. Ushers were Doug Van Veen of RR#2 Brussels, Scott Robinson of RR#4 Walton, both friends of the groom. and Andy Van Diepen of Goderich. brother of the bride. Following the ceremony, a dinner and reception were held at Saltford Valley Hall where Aubrey Wilson of Orillia. uncle of the groom acted as Master of Ceremonies. Following their return from a wedding trip to the north. the happy couple have taken up residence at RR#1 Walton, Prior to her marriage. the bride was feted to a shower in Dungannon hosted by Nancy Brindley and to a shower hosted by Nellie Legris at her home. The bride and groom were also honoured at a stag and doe. I ndesboro tip n fishes in Quebec Correspondent MRS. BERT SHOBBROOK 523-4250 Greeting at the United Church on Sunday were Ron Gross and Dave Overboe. Ushers were Lori Bromley, Lisa Bosman, Deanna Lyon ,and Janet Wilts. Organist lind choir director Barbara Bosman. Rev. Scott welcomed all and gave announcements. The children's story and prayer were given by Shirley Scott oit what a friend we haVe in Jesus. Junior teacher was Cathy McDougall. The sermon was "Praise the Lord" on John's vision from Revelations Chapter 19. The choir's anthem was a double duet by Barbara Bos- man. Irene Bromley. Marjor- ie Duizer and Brenda Radford with Gail Lear accompanying on the organ. PERSONALS Sympathy is extended to Mr. and Mrs. Russell Good on the death of her brother Fred Youngblut of Wood- stock on Friday. July 2. age 67. Notice: Any young person aged 12-26 years wishing to join 4-H Club "More Outdoor Living" please phone-Marjor: ie Duizer or Helen Kolkman. Must be 12 by May 1st, Boys and girls welcome. Visiting on Wednesday with Mr. and Mrs. Bob Burns were Millie Chambers and Maurice Shewchnk of Rex - dale. Margaret Good, Helen Lyons, Stella Adams. Norma Glousher and Sylvia Tuck from here attended a shower on Monday 28th for Brenda Ball at Fern McClure's in Seaforth for Dector relatives. Mr. and Mrs. H. Burch of Brampton visited on the weekend with Mr. and Mrs. Bill Sottiaux and attended Blyth Summer Festival "Down North". Dr. and Mrs. Lester Allen of Watford accompanied Mr. and Mrs. Tom Allen on a week's fishing at Matachwan area. Harry and Gail Lear attend- ed the clerk -treasurer's con- vention in Toronto, July 4 to 7th. Tom Allen and grandsons Don and Drew Allen. John Scruton and Ken Jackson are spending Sunday to Thursdo this week fishing at Watch Lake. Quebec. Beth Knox and, Gordon Sprung visited on Sunday With Myrtle Swan and family • in London: Berean Unit meeting will be held July 13 at the home of Margaret Whyte at 2 p.m. Bring a guest. Roll call: when did you last visit a shut-in or hospital. Londesboro Leos bike A Leo's bike-a-thon was held Saturday, July 3rd. Twenty participated and biked around the 20 km course starting at Londesboro ball diamond. Winners of prizes were Theresa Over- boe, Mike Mason, Michael Radford, Larry Honking and Gary Elliott. Free hot dogs and pop were served. The Leos Wish to- thank all who helped with the bike-a-thon. PECK APPLIANCES "IN THE HEART SF DOWNTOWN t:YARNA" °FILTER QUEEN SALES & SERVICE "VACIUIUM CLEANERS - laidatets & Service to Most Makes) a FM NIMUNICATION SYSTEMS For Fares Si business °SPEE LIEEN APPLIANCES M�:FFAT APPLIANCES °INSECT LIGHTS Kt FLY KILLING UNITS *GIFTS °MANY THE -ITEMS VA NA, NT. 482-7103 11) I (I) F SEAF (1,) a , C$ RE AREA RENEWAL STEERING CoPMMITTEE BIA - PLANNING AP) LACAC Invites you t atte d a P LJ edit% Wednesday, ly 14th, 1982 Town Hall 7:30 p.m. To discuss general concepts and suggestions for the development of , a heritage conservation district plan for the downtown area if the Town of Seaforth. The purpose of the plan is to develop strategies for the future development of the downtown area, improve the street and building scapes, traffic and parking within the wider context of a heritage conservation district 'plan. If you cannot attend but would like to make a written submission,•or if you have any questions, please contact: Mr. Jim Crocker Clerk -Treasurer Box 610 Seaforth, Ont. NOK IWO Phone: [519} 527-0160 Your commants and ideas are essential to the successful completion and implementation of the study. FTFLORIST . Hildebrand Flowers 15 Main Si. Seaforth Office 527-0555 LRes. 527-1784 Complete Floral Service with a personal touch. "—IMPROVEMENTS MacLEAN HOME, IMPROVEMENTS Phone 527-0032 Free Estimates For Siding - Aluminum and Vinyl. Aluminum mndows, Doors. Awnings Railings Flanagan -m Carpentry • Aluminum Siding * Home Renovations ce,, Additions . • Framing • Roofing Peter Flahagan 527-1399 les not work to walk. So why not walk to work? "001 P3FMCIPa c—APPLIANCES—Th Appliance and Refrigeration REPAIR SERVICE Jim Broadfoot 482-7032 ,--CONTRACTINGTh W. 1. Feeney CONST. LTD. Business Directory CARPENTRY J&J Carpentry *Concrete Forming and Finishing •Framing °Drywall °Roofing *Cabinet Making John Ryan 527-1520' Mufflers guaranteed as long as vou own the car St %FORTH ‘10T(IRS 1T1). 52/.1010 & STEREO -N INSURANCE—.',, SEAFORTH INSURANCE 39 Main St S Senforth .Home .Business Farm ,Au -to .Life . Sickness & Accident . Investments 527-1610 j DECORATING F Exoen interior & „ Exterior Decorators WalicoverIngs Kem Pa,ras Window Shades ALDEBRAND PAINT AND PAPER' PHONE 527-1680 15 Mau-, St , Seaforth PIANO TUNING o Repo •••, • e o KeylRecoye,•ed 0.,01) Chose,s BRUCE PLR SIFE 348-9223 M,icriell FUNERAL HOME ,-CHIROPRACTOR Complete Line Forests touch the lives of all Canadians.... YOU DON'T NEED WORDS ...JUST CARE! CUSTOM BUILDERS Renovations, Additions, new homes. Replacement windows Phone 345-2405 Dublin ZENITH SALES TELEVISION & AND SERVICE STEREO Seaforth Electronics 17 Sparling S1 527 -1150 SEAFORTH CHIROPRACTIC CENTRE Thomas J. Devereaux 25 Goderich St. W. Seaforth, Ontario Phone Bus. 527-1242 Res. 527-1942 Mon • Fri 8-12 00, 1.6 00 Tues Thurs 8-12 00 1 30 - 8 30 Wed 8-1 Sat 9-1 f ---SHARPENING AB q pes of saws, knives and scissors sharpened Spcilaiiimg in Carhidc s and tools STAY SHARP SALES AND sEinqrp Gordon Blanchard RR4, Walton 527-1804 Ward Construction All types of Roofing and Siding Painting Insulating Eavestroughing FREE ESTIMATES Call 527-1411 e, Funeral Director KJ Cardno 47 High Street Seaforth Phone 527-0885 BE WISE DV RTIS The SUITUTher bleed doper is a rare Be orse.d. firieDds fey titte + SEWINGr SEWING .._ MACHINTM SUPER MARKET Corot 100 rAffilthilleS on display Service 10 011 makes Soloo-Vibils, Etna, Husqvarraa Iota of mod madras from 839.9S SEW AND SAVE CENTRE LTD. 149 Dow& St. [2 doors south of Hudsons) Stratford, 271-9860 ,) OPTICIAN David Lorigstaff Ltd. Optician 87 Main Si. Scalharth TRISTS AND OPHTHALMOLOGISTS Preserlptkaus Riled Fraught, SUMMER HOURS Mon., Tues., Thurs., Fri., 10:00 - 5:30p.m. CLOSED WEDNESDAYS & SATURDAYS COMPLEIE OPTICAL-. SERVICE 527-1303 (—FARM SUPPLIES - k04 -1:01!) Feed Seed Fertilizer Farm Supplies Petroleum Supplies Heating 00s Seaforth Co-op 527-0770 , _DECORATING Graves Wallpaper & Paint coloring ii\IN Is Canadian & Imported Wall Cm crirags Sr °SSD Sca;orlh USE EXPOSITOR WANT ADS Phone 527-0240 FUNERAL HOME Whitney Ribey Funeral Home CEMETERY MONUMENTS 'ROSS kiv RIBF Y DIRECTOR 87 GodertchSt h Ohmic 52.7 1 3% ur Sincereteouse SantdVICP e`'