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Home My WebLink AboutThe Times Advocate, 2008-08-20, Page 2928 TIMES -ADVOCATE Wednesday, August 20, 2008 FneLpuper Announcements/Community Fft! Bullying must be seen as unacceptable 320 Garage & Yard Sales Children who are bullied need to know they are not the problem. Bullying is about the bully needing to feel powerful. They believe their wants are more important than any- one else's. They have learned to be abusers. Bullying always involves * Intimidation through specific tac- tics meant to instill fear * Threats of emotional, physical and psychological harm * Discrimination by accusing the victim of being inferior or wrong * Isolation of the victim from others who may give support. We must help the victims. This can be done by; * Listening to their stories of life at school * Watching for changes in behav- iour, especially from happy to fearful * Observing their play and listening to how they interact with others * Asking about any indications that hint at being afraid or avoiding peo- ple or places. You are looking for fear of the school yard, anxiety about who will be in their class, talk of having no friends, worry about their teacher's treatment of them and in general a focus on feeling safe rather than excited to be able to learn and grow. We can identify bullies by; * Watching the way they talk to and about other children * Observing the way their parents speak to them * Look at who their friends are and the interaction between them * Paying attention to the types of games they play and TV programs they prefer. Signs include belittling and name calling, talk of "getting" other people, a superior attitude with lack of care and empathy for others and forming groups where the group acts aggres- sively against siblings, younger chil- dren or members of a race, religion or sexual orientation. Bullies often present as confident and popular so people believe they are not the cause of the problem. Parents must hold school officials accountable to stop abusive behav- iour on the school yard and in the class- room. The first place to look is at the principals and teachers who bully students. Every school year parents work to keep their children out of certain teacher's classes because those teachers are bullies. It is often the parents who are least involved in their children's lives whose children get the abusive teachers. Too often children are seen as the problem, their aches and pains and reluctance to go to school are looked at but not the classroom environ- ment. * Parents can work together. * Get supportive people to work as a group to hold bullies accountable. * Avoid TV programs that show bullies in action. * Be self aware of tactics you may use to get your way * Watch the way others speak to your child and confront abuse. People who bully are usually going about their lives confident that the victim's physical and emotional reac- tions were because they are too sen- sitive, not mentally well and author of their own misfortune. Bullies have usually been bullied. They are afraid of appearing weak or fearful. They need to tell their story of who has bullied them and how that behaviour has influenced their life to break the chain. It may be a parent, sibling, grandparent, friend, neighbour, role model on television, religious leader or teacher. Legal tac- tics include bullying as do many other forms of business interaction. Many workplaces are filled with bul- lies. War is bullying to the extreme. There are lifelong repercussions of bullying that effect the way a person functions in their home and in soci- ety. Bullying causes a loss in self con- fidence, hinders achievement, dis- rupts routines, brings fear into the lives of parents and children, pre- vents parents from protecting their children out of their own fear and leads to Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome. Accountability involves forgiveness. Bullies need to, * Hear the impact of their behav- iour on their victim * Be willing to accept responsibility for the harm they have done * Compensate the victim * Apologize Society must evolve to a point where bullies are held accountable and their behaviour is seen as unac- ceptable if we are to ever live in peace as people, nations and global- ly. 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