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Home My WebLink AboutZurich Herald, 1953-12-10, Page 6"Dear Anne Hirst; Two and a half years ago I married a man 10 years older; I am 28, 1 am very disturbed. Until lately, my husband was everything 1 dream- ed of -- kind, understanding and very considerate. Ever since I married I have worked. Not long ago, he asked me to stop because he needed me at home, so I did. I am a good house- keeper, and do everything in my power to keep him happy. "Until now, whenever he went anywhere, he asked me to go with him; people are used to seeing us together. Now, be- cause he doesn't run around with the boys, so to speak (he hasn't the money to spend as he used to) some of them joke with him about having me al- ways along. So he wants me to stay home all the time, and us to stop going anywhere to- gether! He seems to feel they don't respect him, nor me either. "I don't understand this. When a wife is out with a magi, it should be her husband. What are people trying to do to our lives? "When he drinks (which he does sometimes), he tells me these things, and says he thinks his friends are right, because he seldom sees them out with their wives. "I am so unhappy that some- times I feel I am not wanted! WORRIED" IS HE A MAN? ° Your husband's behavior eekes Sew -Thrifty 4508 SIZES 12-20 1» Save dollars! Sew these smart separates. ONE YARD 54 -inch for weskit, ONE YARD for skirt. Pattern 4508 in Misses' Sizes 12, 14, 16, 18, 20 and that magic yard- age is for all these sizes! Sew TWO new wonderful separates to mix and match with each other and other separates. Slim lines of skirt, jewel -neck weskit are news! Be smart, sew several! This pattern easy to use, sim- ple to sew, is tested for fit. Has complete illustrated instructions. Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS (35e) in coins (stamps cannot be accepted for this pattern. Print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, • would be amusing if it had not * become tragic to you, He may be 10 years older, but he seems * as self-conscious as an ado!- * escent. He is experiencing (a * bit late) the embarrassment * which some grooms feel when * they appear in public with * their new brides. Most M them * take it for the good-natured * "kidding" it is, and laugh it * off. He should do the same. 4' If he has been taking you * with him, it is because he * wanted to. Why doesn't he * come out and say so? He isn't 4' being made fun of, but only * teased for being such an at- * tentive husband. His friends * miss the fun they had with * him in his bachelor days — * and, incidentally, your pre- * sence probably made Them * feel a bit guilty that they * didn't bring their own wives 4' along, So, like some callous * males, they make him thor- * oughly uncomfortable Now * that he goes alone, they're * laughing up their sleeves that * they accomplished their pur- * pose. * Is y o u r husband a man, * proud of the wife he married, * or a mouse that runs at the ,a first sight of a cat? I hope he * will charge straight back at * them; and his retort should * be, "Because I have more fun * with my wife 'along!" That * will silence them. * It will make things easier ! * all around if he will invite * some of these friends( with * their wives) home to dinner. * As they know you better, they * will understand why he thinks * you're such good company, * and envy him his choice. • I wish you would ask him * to read this opinion t oda y. * Then he may have the tour- * age to live his own life with * his own wife, and let lesser * men go their chosen way. * * * Men call women the sensi- tive sex -- but • h o w they shrink from criticism, even when meant in fun! If this problem vexes you, tell Anne Hirst about it; she can talk straight -from -the -shoulder to male readers. Write her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. Golfing Laughs The vast army of golfers may take themselves fairly seriously on the fairway — and even more so in the rough — strong " language is always excusable after a sliced drive — and life can be a grim business when one is faced, say with a two - foot putt — and the match de- pending on it. But it's a very different story at the popular Nineteenth Hole, where players get together with their cans of ale and laugh themselves silly over their "air shots," fluffed chips and forays into the long grass. For golfers enjoy nothing bet- ter than a good laugh at their own expense — and that's just what George Houghton and Hubert Simmons have given them in their delightfully amus- ing "Golfers' ABC." All the fa- miliar characters of every golf club are depicted -- from the rabbit to the scratch man, and back again via the typical "nine- teenth bore" and inevitable pot- hunter — ruthlessly caricatured by George Houghton's skilful drawings and Hubert Simmon's witty rhymes. Their riotous "Golphabet" — a sequel to "Confessions of a Golf Addict," -- would mare an ideal Christmas present foi any player. Even golf widows will get laughs galore from it. Poster Soya—Four-year-old Delbert "Debby" Doing of Gooding, !da„ a polio victim since Thanksgiving Day, 1949, will be seen on posters throughout the United States in January when the 1954 March of Dimes campaign is launched. Debby was recently chosen by the National Foundation for Infantile Paralysis to re- present its fund-raising campaign. Weigh Of All Mesh—A current: weight -losing craze has women of Europe—East and West alike-iwatching their pounds. While the women lose weight, they hope, there's a man who gains from the fad. He's the one with the scales who goes to the market and weighs all who want to reduce. Scene above is in Yugoslavia. NIC;}.,:ES _ wE Awy. e rr.d.oltrun D Cleerlee. At the moment of writing there is a three-day conference taking place in Ottawa between the powers -that -be and tarmer. delegates. We wonder what, if anything, will be. the result of that conference. Certainly it . s: past time for an inquiry ,to he made regarding rising prices to consumers at a time when` farm prices are steadily declining., It just doesn't make sense — and, yet I can't see that a price- sup' port program is the answer That seems too much like rob- bing Peter to pay Paul. How-;:, ever an open discussion should throw a little light on the sub ject and, we hope, bring worth t while: results. If only it could•.* fully realized that the biggest" problem is not so much what the farmer gets as in what he has to pay. Ah me ... who can'. supply the answer! Well, we had high winds and.. a thunderstorm last night which resulted in the hydro -power be- ing oft for a few minutes. Then when we listened to the weather forecast we heard that snow= flurries were predicted for to- day. Variety is the spice of life, so we are told. In that case we should have no complaints for` the weather gives us variety with a vengeance. But let's go on to a more in- teresting subect. One day last week I was visiting at a house a few miles from here where I saw big red strawberries in the garden, but unfortunately the frost had spoiled them for eat- ing. The lady of the house told me that her last picking was on October 26 -- enough for her tea. But strawberries were not the only items of interest in and around that house. No indeed, for it was truly a dream -house. Or perhaps I should say it was the culmination of one woman's dreams. Cupboards, cupboards everywhere -- and carpentry all done by the woman herself — and a really professional job at that. Not a bit of furniture in the main bedroom except the bed and a boudoir bench everything else was built-in furniture. Dresser, wardrobes, cupboards, shelves behind the bed, complete with concealed lighting. And the floors . - . all alike, all laid with linoleum tile — kitchen, living -room and bedrooms. You could go over •all • the floors with a mop inside of twenty minutes. The kitchen, of course, was the last word in convenience. But added to convenience was charm and simplicity. From . a small snack table wedged '•iti • between two corner picture win- dows one looked out upon a, view of soul -satisfying beaded — beauty of space and promise. IT Y,BE YOUR ,IVR If life's not worth living it may he your llvrbtrl it's a nett It take, up to two pints of liver bile a day to hoop your digootive treat in top ahapot If po your livor bite, io not flowing £seely your food may not digest. gas bloats u your atomaab ... you feel oonstipated oud all the fun and sparkle go out of life. That • whop�you need mild gentle Carter's Little livor kilts. Thee, famous vegetable pills help stimulate the Cow of liver bila Soon your digestion starts funotiontng properly and Yrkll tool that happy days aro hem again!4 "t„'. 'roar stay sunk. Marotta troop Carter',, L1 Liver Palls on hand, 3U at rear drugglee, At this time of the year there is only rolling land and ' the bush beyond but looking at it one can easily imagine what it had been in the fall and what it will be in the spring. And then there was the garden . . flower beds, a terraced patio and a rock garden. The glory of the garden was faded but again imagination easily completed the picture. And all this the work of one woman. No doubt she had • some help from time to time but I know she did the greater part of the work her- self. I had a friend from the city with me that day and she also was enthralled with the house, t h e setting a n d the amount of work that had been accomplished. As for me I can appreciate what other folk do but I seem ''tohave neither the time nor the energy to accomplish much in the gardening line myself. As for carpentry — I do have a few ideas but when it comes to do- ;ing • anything' - v e11, I can't saw a straight line through a board to save my life. However, I should add that while this lady - carpenter -gardener lives in the country she does not live on a eeearm. Maybe that explains a lot. Speaking of things to do and places to see I wonder how many people go back and,forth to Tor- onto without visiting beautiful .High Park? It is so easy to get et - just a turning off Bloor Street and you're there, The first time we stayed in Toronto —thirty years ago -- my bro- ther-in-law t o o k us through High Park. We never forgot it and yet it was not until last week that we went there again •--on the way to see our grand- son. Dee and Arthur live quite close to the Park so I was able to learn some of the things I wanted to know and I'll pass them on to you. The Park covers 335 acres. Within its lovely grounds is Colborne Lodge, the residence of the late John How- ard who donated 120 acres of woodland to the city. The Lodge is open to the public. In it are furniture and vehicles just as they were in J o h n Howard's lifetime. Nearby is t h e burial place of Mr. and Mrs. J o h n Howard surrounded by an iron fence that for 160 years enclosed part of St. Paul's Cathedral in London. Part of the park is a zoological garden where a n '- mals, birds and waterfowl live ander conditions similar to their native haunts — a delight to children of course. There now, haven't I told you enough. to make you want to visit High Park next time you have an hour to spare? Although India , officially pro- hibited childmarriages in 1929, 1953 statistics reveal that 14,5 per cent of all Indian girls be- tween 5 and 14 years old are married. Start In pare time at bomb, Everyone uses smile . Print Xmas card' b heads, Churchandclub circulars, udvorti is nig. ftundrad• etfob* quickly end easily don With a Worl •famous ADANA press --vast rderd printers type. Follow simple (retrial.one—produce professional work Write for fret oturo and samples. Altitfttt PftIMIINS C�IffPtldt$Ni t ...j.tARlblglds $t. of Toronto TOY MANUFACTURE IS BIG BUSINESS , a , • Tuy manufacture is no longer a hit-or-miss affair. The Cana- dian toy industry with an an- nual output of $30,000,000 em- ploys top designers, eoliths en- gineers and consults psecholo- gists and educationalists. Scientific planning is the rou- tine in over 300 toy firms across the country. Manufacturers are alert to the fact that playthings must be functional for each stage of a child's development. Tele re- tailer, too, must know what is the right toy for the right age. The Canadian Welfare Coun- cil has studied the play needs of children from one month to ten years. To the proud father who would buy a $10 life-size panda bear for his infant son, the council warns that a two- year-old will be more impress- ed with a cigar box full of clothes pins. Psychologists point nut that toys play an important part in developing eye and finger co- ordination 'and in training baby to concentrate. They also help develop crawling a n d walking incentives, general inteiligence and a sense of confidence. To buy the right toy parents should keep in mind a few facts about general growth patterns according to these experts. At three months a baby is just be- ginning to focus his e v e s. A brightly -coloured rattle is just the thing at this age. At six months the child goes in for exploring with his lrngers and mouth. Gay coloured plastic, metal or wooden rings are what he will appreciate and you can't go wrong with a soft, washable animal or doll. From age one to two, baby is on his feet. He needs toys that will help him develop his muscles. A pegboard with large pegs, a small wagon to oull or a kiddie car will Ml the bill. From two to three is the age for music, picture books, stories, painting and push -and -pull toys. Children at this age will listen for hours to catchy nursery rhyme records and little Joan will love a doll's carriage At three a child is said to be entering the imitative stage, seeking to copy adult behaviour. This is the age for miniature cars, dolls, telephones, unbreak- able dishes and carpet sweepers. At five you have before you a real little person. The psychol- ogists claim it is a mistake to treat him as an inferior. Let him have realistic toys, cut-out ma- terials, clay a n d plastirine, a scooter or a workbench. At school' age, from six to eight, children have boundless energy and a passion for learn- ing new skills. This is the time for a bicycle, roller skates or skis, skipping ropes, paints be- ginner's kits for carpentryprint- ing, chemistry, dressmaking and other hobbies. New styles in toys are counties, but a survey of toy counters re- veals emphasis on "career” items. Such things as bulldozers and rock drills for future highway engineers, - and medical kits for future nurses and doctors are typical. The important thing in choosing from this array is to know your child's age leve] of - play and see the toys this way. Insurance company statistics tell us men die at an earlier age than women. Which proves chiv- alry is dead; otherwise the lad- ies would be going first. HeIpi +g to Make Your Christmas Merry Those tarnished Christmas de- corations need not be thrown away. Many items in the .collec- tion can be transformed into "conversation piece" ornaments. With the help of some ribbon, coloured paerer, shiny red cel- lophane, a 1 o t of imagination a n d, of course, sorne cellulose tape to hold it all together ori- ginal riginal decorations can be created. For instance, those perishable Christmas tree balls can be put to use even ,if they won't hang anymore. A fat candle placed in the centre of a cake plate and surrounded with a cluster of the coloured balls makes 'a glitter- ing centerpiece for the festive table. 'Another idea for a table cen- ter is to group and fix blue candles to a mirror. Therr fluff angel's hair around the base . of the candles and dot it with shin- ing silver and blue. stars. A fascinating little tree can be .made from an old broom handle and some coat hangers. Wind red cellulose tape around a two -foot length of the handle and mount it in a wooden base For branches, bend the ends os wire coat hangers until they curl up- wards. Fix them to alternate sides of the pole and decorate. A lot of those old decorations which have outlived their ori- ginal usefulness can also he util- ized in dressing up your front door or in creating originagift wrappings. A gay doorway seems to carry your cheerful greetings outside. First the door should be stu- died critically and the place for the decoration selected. The mo- tif may be anything, a star, a tree a candy cane, Santa Claus or a Christmas cracker. It is wise to keep it simple and make the decoration as large as possible. Materials which cart be used to good effect are cellulose film for enormous b o w s, coloured f o i I, plastic snow, cellulose sponge for Santa's beard, card- board cut-outs covered with glue and sprinkled with silver glitter and all sorts et odds and ends of other decorations. Even FOR EFFECTIVE RELIEF PIN EX pAfPgAF0, COUGH SYRUP r 910chc. Pleasant tasting Pinex gives prolong- ed relief—or your Money back. 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The plastic snow board cuts easily with a sharp knife and clear cellulose tape works won- ders in holding the decorations in place without being seen and without marring a painted sur- face. It is smart to repeat the motif of such a decoration inside your front hall or over the mantel- piece to give continuity. What- ever you do, remember it's all for good cheer. Strive to keep the whole effect merry. AI/ SPLITTI r� ttEuvs QuKCK COMFORT And the RELIEF IS LASTING Here's headache relief such as you never thought possible ... Instantinet Instantine is a prescription -type formula, that acts so fast, se thoroughly that your pain is relieved almost instantly. And this relief is prolonged . it lasts! Best of all Instantine tablets give you just the mild lift you need ... actually make you feel better. Get Instantine today! QUICK RELIEF FOR — . 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